A world of lonely.

We are living in a world of fake perceptions, of edited lives, of photoshoppped images.

I recently watched ‘Look up’ (You tube) ‘I have 422 friends, yet I am lonely, I speak to all of them every day, yet none of them really know me.’

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The hardest challenge is to be yourself in a world where everyone is trying to make you be somebody else.
~E. E. Cummings

These words resonated inside of me. How many people really know me, the person I am, the good and the bad, my greatest fears, dreams and secrets that are held close to my heart?

Thinking about this, I was saddened by the enormity of the pressures of the world in which we live. The radpily changing world driven by image and false senses of perception. After all, your social media life can be edited to show the person you want to be, just like that of a highlight reel.

We seek to be instagram famous, judge ourselves by the number of likes we get on our posts…

Do these things really matter? The answer is of course they dont. Yet we let them define us.

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I am guilty, I have removed a post or picture before from my pages after reviewing and seeing how unpopular they were (what would people think if I didnt get X number of likes?)

Do we have to post half naked pictures on the web, accessible to every person to be deemed popular? Successful? What is going on? Yet, we are promoting this by ‘liking’ these images and putting these people on a pedistal.

Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are. ~Malcolm S. Forbes

I know for a fact that even in my situation and I am incredibly  blessed to live a life I am loving every day, I am lonely, I suffer a fear of failure, of not being good enough.

Every single day, every moment actually, my mind is a cross between Rick Thomas, Tony Robbins and the positive self love affirmations I have to give myself to be able to face the world.  {Everything will be ok, I love you, I believe in you, Respond dont react}

Every time I look in the mirror it is a battle of the good and the negative, thinking I should be skinnier, leaner, prettier, taller, so that I can then post those pictures and get ‘likes’ and build my brand to be the success I desire it to be.

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But the truth is. Who are these people? What is social media success? In reality what does it translate to, and how many people actually know you?

She lacks confidence, she craves admiration insatiably. She lives on the reflections of herself in the eyes of others. She does not dare to be herself.”
- Anais Nin

I know for myself I am constantly trying to build my brand on integrity, about remembering the real things in life…like the people we care about, the small acts of kindness, of speaking your truth. Yet, every day I struggle. A mental battle in my mind of what to do be accepted, to get connection. Because at the end of the day I believe we are all looking for the unconditional love, the type that offers reassurance, a sense of security. Connection with others.

The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”
- William James

 

There are so many wonderful people in my world, in my life, yet after taking time to reflect…how many people truly know me? Ask yourself, how many people truly know you? Or do they just know the person you portray yourself to be?

I remember (vaguely) those nights when you first fall in love, and you spend all night just talking, about all things great and small, about the things like your favourite colour, about what makes you smile, about your childhood memories. These days the talk is all about who did what, who went where, wore what etc, and even worse…its all about the photo. Everytime (yes, I am guilty) we go somewhere its about getting the best photo to post, about ‘checking in’. It hurts my heart when (on the rare occasion) I do go out, and people are on their phones at dinner, in social situations where you should be enjoying the other persons time, and therfore showing respect (I have a rule not to use my phone when dating friends or family, show them you care and get off it).

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Perhaps it is just me, I do believe I live in my own dream reality. Perhaps I am to conscious or spend to much time evaluating human behaviour. But it seems to me we are living in a world of lonely. A world cultivated by ourselves, for our future, based on image, portrayed success and misguided beliefs.

Be the change you wish to see in the world. Honour the people who give you their time & you just might feel connected, you just might enjoy those silly conversations… you just might remember that its the little things that matter most. Moments.

Love & light, Charlie x.

As I learn to love myself, I am making commitments to the way in which I want to be treated, the way I want to treat others and my image that I want to be seen (the real me).

The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself –  Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

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Monday Motivation…Nicole Dargie

In my daily gratitude practise I give thanks for all the amazing people in my life. As I begin to love myself and be my true self, (and with that, happiness and self sense comes) Im finding that I am surrounded by talented, driven, beautiful (on the inside and out people). I am no longer in competition or in a place of judgement, instead I am able to accept and honour the essence of who these people are.

‘You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.’ Yogi Bhajan

Today for Monday Motivation, I am featuring the gorgeous Nicole Dargie, from Inside Out beauty. Nicole is a yoga teacher at In Yoga, a professional makeup artist, meditation and metaphysical teacher and healer.

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Charlie: You are a successful makeup artist and business owner– what do you attribute this success to?

I am very fortunate to have crossed paths with some extraordinary teachers who have given me some amazing tools and skills. From being trained by the global make-up director for Chanel who worked along side Karl Largerfeld, to being on many retreats over the last 10 years learning on an esoteric level about self awareness, meditation & how our beliefs and thoughts have a subtle yet powerful impact on our health and wellbeing. But ultimately I am a passionate advocate for helping others bring out their highest vision of themselves into the world, to help them see their own inner beauty and guiding them back home to their Feminine within. Success doesn’t have to be in the form of doing, its also a state of being, which is what the Feminine is all about.


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Charlie: When did you decide to you wanted to be involved in the wellness industry?

10 years ago when I started learning to be an energy healer and I saw the positive changes in peoples lives, I decided I wanted to take it further and offer something that incorporated everything within the spectrum of my experience.

‘What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
’Ralph Waldo Emerson
Charlie: What inspired you to follow your passion?

I see the beauty within everyone I meet, yet unfortunately sometimes as women we don’t always see it within ourselves. I wanted to bust the negative self images that stop people from truly loving and accepting themselves inside and out. I have faced these challenges personally within myself and I wanted to give what I know back to others.
After being in the beauty industry for 20 years, I decided to not return to my executive job at Chanel. I chose to follow my dream and passion to create a transformation for people. After having 2 children and going through a massive change, studying metaphysics for 10 years (meaning beyond physical, or going beyond limiting beliefs) I decided to create Inside Out Beauty. The change that occurs from within first has an alchemical effect and has a natural bearing upon our outside image and beauty. Once we get in sync with that, naturally we become more savvy with what style suits us with clothes, make-up and we become more balanced, streamlined and in tune with what works for us innately.
Charlie: How do you feel as an inspirational figure/mentor?

I feel incredibly privileged with a sense of purpose in my life for what I do that is different to anything I’ve done before, it gets me up every day! It has its scary moments too of course, but I have adjusted to being comfortable with being uncomfortable.

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Charlie: How do you maintain balance between your Career and personal health?

I meditate daily and practice vinyasa flow yoga several times a week. I also start my day every day with positive affirmations before I even open my eyes and get out of bed. I believe that our thoughts create our reality, especially when we are still in half asleep mode, its a highly programable state for the mind just like meditation.
I have not been sick in years and I can definitely attest that to both yoga, meditation and surrounding myself with the right people who encourage and support me in what I do. I also try to laugh with and hug my children a lot.
Charlie: What do you believe are the keys to success in business?

I am learning as I go, I am no expert but from my own experience to make a successful business you need to work at it every day. I also believe in collaborating with others to share ideas. I believe that the time of the lone wolf in business is over, and I can see in the future what will work well is people working together inclusively. I think we are at the beginning of a very exciting change in the way we do business together, the world needs it.
Charlie: What is your advice for anyone who has a dream?

Dream Big and trust yourself. Be careful about who you share that dream with, share it only with people you can trust and will support you. If you have no dream yet, use your imagination and if you can get your hands on a great book called ‘Spiritual Business’ by Kate Forster. It will help you get very clear on your mission, vision and intention that will drive you towards your goal.

‘Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.’ Carl Gustav Jung

 

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Charlie: What can we look forward to next from you?

I am creating a really beautiful and fun product which makes a very special gift for a girlfriend, sister or even just for you!. Its the equivalent of coming to one of my workshops, but you get to take it home with you and keeps you on track with reminders for your inner beauty and femininity, and some great make-up tips as well. Im keeping it under wraps for now, but stay tuned! I am also doing my yoga teacher training at the moment through Inyoga in Surry Hills which is where I work, its the most divine space. In the future there will be retreats including yoga and Inside Out Beauty.

‘Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.’ Unknown
Charlie: Top 3 healthy tips/advice?

Cultivate a loving relationship with yourself and what you put into your body, what products you put onto your body, and the thoughts you have about your body.

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Follow Nicole at Inside Out Beauty on facebook.

If you are feeling like you need to connect with yourself, Nicole is holding a workshop this Sunday {25th May}, 11-5 at Conscious Wellbeing – 596 Crown Street Surry Hills. Tickets $95.

Dont miss out!

{I would definitely be going, but I will be in New Zealand, with my family, celebrating my grandparents 60th wedding anniversary WOW, & yes I am excited…4 more sleeps!)

Love & light, Charlie x.

Wake up every morning with the thought that today will be a beautiful day (and it will).

In Yoga also stock Clean treats aka #charliesballs. the perfect time, a yoga flow and some nourishing treats. They have a $25 2 week pass at the moment, I highly recommend you try it.

Why I adore…Babe Scrub

Let me introduce you to… babe scrub, the scrub for babes.

 

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Every now and then we need to stop, and take care of ourselves (this should be a daily practice if you can). What better way to truly love the skin you are in, then with a natural Himalayan Salt body scrub, if your lucky enough why not take a luxurious bath in it?

“Do something every day that is loving toward your body and gives you the opportunity to enjoy the sensations of your body.” Golda Poretsky

 

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Now, I not only love the product because its gorgeous, I love the women behind the brand. You know hen you meet people, or you connect with them and you just know that everything they are doing is coming from their heart? for the greater good? The creator of Babe scrub is one of those. And Im blessed to be able to share her gorgeous creation and inspiration.

Surround yourself with people who lift you higher.

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Babe Himalayn Salt scrub – Get a juicy booty…yes please!

1. Himalayan salts mixed with almond and essential oils.

Simply apply in the shower when wet and scrub.

Removes excess dead skin cells. Did you know as you age your skin cell proliferation process sloowwwwws down, this means dead skin cells stay stuck to the surface of the skin for a longer period of time leaving the complexion dehydrated, aged and dull? Say no, and get your glow on with this salt scrub. I will be focusing on particular problematic areas (that lovely addition some of us are graced with, because our bodies are gorgeous with or without it…cellulite). Manual massage over these areas will improve your lymphatic system which is your body’s waste removal system, therefore helping you to remove those disgusting toxins that don’t belong in your beautiful body, and that cause our least favourite attribute…cellulite.

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Now, because I believe that sharing is caring, Im delighted to be able to offer you, my valued readers 25% off Babescrub… so you to can take some time out and enjoy some self love (I know you need it).

Simply enter the code #charliesbabes at checkout www.babescrub.com

Welcome to babetown beautiful.

Love & light, Charlie x.

“Health isn’t about being “perfect” with food or exercise or herbs. Health is about balancing those things with your desires. It’s about nourishing your spirit as well as your body.” Golda Poretsky

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