Self Love Sunday; The cost of ambition

Do you know what it takes to be successful? Are you prepared to commit to your dream? Are you prepared to work for it? To give up weekends?

‘To succeed in life, you need two things: ignorance and confidence.’ Mark Twain

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Ive been having some in-depth discussions lately about people, our different values, and different dreams.

These are the very things that make us all different and unique, yet also make it harder for us to connect to one another. Sometimes you can meet people and you just click, and sometimes you just don’t (and that s ok to).

Ive been speaking with some of my very close, trusted friends about this feeling of loneliness I have thats lingering (& growing) underneath all my dream chasing.

Just yesterday I said ‘I feel like I’m living in a world of my own’. Now, this is not meaning my world is better or worse than anyones, it was simply a statement revealing the truth, underneath my passion and purpose I am finding it hard to create or even manage my connections with people.

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My dream consumes me. And as much as I am about balance, I would rather spend my time working on it then out socializing. I just don’t seem to have a lot of patience for small talk, the negative things that most people have to say (listen carefully to your next conversation, how much good, inspiration are they speaking?).

I am hoping that this is just a phase of turning my dream into reality, because I am well aware of the connections we need with people. Friends, family, lovers, shared smiles; they are what make it all worth it.

‘Decide what you want, decide what you are willing to exchange for it. Establish your priorities and go to work. ‘ H. L Hunt

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So today, Self Love Sunday, I’m working on my priorities. You know its true, when people say they don’t have time, you can rest assured that the truth they are telling you is that they just don’t have time for you. People make time for what they want.

So, as we go into the silly season, events and invites are everywhere, and as easy as it is to get caught up and play the social butterfly, I need to create some time management systems for both my dream, my health/fitness and my social life. I need to set my priorities straight to ensure I am focused on my goals, whilst making some time for some love in my life.

‘Dont make people a priority if they only make you an option’ Unknown

Im going to make time for the people who make time for me. As unfortunate as it sounds its true. The ones that also make an effort. Friendship/love cant be created by one person (unless youve create a social media ‘stalking’ relationship they dont know about). Im done with chasing people.

‘The key is not to prioritise whats on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.’ Stephen Covey

 

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As my business grows, so to does the pressure (and amazing gratitude for the opportunities I am being given), of creating more success. So, if I have to be choosy with my time, its ok (trying to give myself a little mental break), because what I have to realise, and perhaps you do to, is not everyone gets these types of opportunities. Just recently I presented my BIG dream/proposal, regardless of the outcome I AM SO grateful I got the chance to do that, the biggest sales pitch of my entire life, for something I had created/will create.

‘Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life – think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.’ Swami Vivekananda

{I definitely feel the above #obsessed}

There are things/people in life that will either lift you higher or pull you down. Cultivate Self love to trust your decisions. Time is priceless. Do not spend it doing things that don’t make you happy, with people who don’t spark the passion in your soul.

 

Today, Self Love Sunday Im reflecting & evaluating my priority list to ensure I can use my time more wisely, with people who inspire me, who make my heart smile (also organising my business so I can become more time efficient, Ive kind of been going along with it, surprised at how something so small #charliesballs, could grow so quickly, and I now need to realise that it is real. Even though Im a small business I need to start big business thinking & strategic planning).

As I work weekends, different hrs of the day, I know that this is what it takes. I am cultivating an attitude that every no, is closer to a yes, every mistake is an opportunity. And Im prepared to do the work (just watch me).

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Love & light, Charlie x.

A huge heart felt thank you to the people I can call my true friends who are in my life/holding my hand/putting up with my crazy work/dream/passion… Bali & cocktails soon 😉

 

17 Things To Expect When You Date A Girl Who’s Used To Being On Her Own

I read this and had to have a giggle to myself. Lately there’s been a lot of talk about what makes a man a man and what makes a woman, a woman. At least in my world & from what I see on Social Media, perhaps because Im trying to date and am personally wondering how many frogs will I have to kiss until I get my prince?

How do you know if you’re dating either? Theres something really strange happening and I just don’t quite get it, but men, or boys, I’m not sure; both are choosing to be with ‘girls’ as such described in my previous post ‘A girl or a woman?’ {please note I am not saying either is wrong or right} & the strong, independent, dream chasing women are left wondering ‘when will I ever met him’ {read, someone who challenges me, inspires me, laughs with me, understands me..#lovesme 😉 } Yes, me. This question interrupts my world changing thoughts on a daily, really hourly basis.

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So I had to share, with some added quotes & images #charliestyle.

“A girl wants attention, a woman wants respect. A girl wants to be adored by many. A woman wants to be adored by one.” -anonymous

17 Things To Expect When You Date A Girl Who’s Used To Being On Her Own

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1. Expect her to do her own thing often and without letting you know, at least at first. It’s not that you don’t matter; it’s just that she’s learned to love doing what she wants, when she wants, and without asking permission or informing anyone.

‘It takes people a long time to learn the difference between talent and genius, especially ambitious young men and women.’ Louisa May Alcott

2. She’ll probably want to take things slowly because she’ll not be used to all the attention. Don’t think she doesn’t like you enough, she probably likes you a lot; it’s just all new to her.

3. Expect her friends to be overprotective of her and to be suspicious of you at first. They’re not used to her being with someone and they’ll want to make sure you’re the kind of guy who will treat her well.

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4. She’ll have a hard time letting you do things for her. Try not to take this personally. She’s just used to taking care of herself and it’ll be hard for her to live in a world where she’s got someone else looking out for her in that way.

5. Expect her to be stubborn, to always want things her way, and to fight you when she doesn’t get it. Don’t always give in to her, but do let her win sometimes.

‘Real magic in relationships means an absence of judgment of others.’ Wayne Dyer

6. She needs to be left alone often especially when you first start seeing each other and it should feel like she’s head over heels. Believe that she has more butterflies in her stomach than she knows what to do with, which is why she’ll need to compose herself.

7. Expect her to pull away from you, especially when she realizes how much she likes you. She’ll come back to you but she’ll need time to think her feelings through.

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8. She’ll question you, sometimes directly, sometimes implicitly, about your feelings for her. She’ll always want to know if they are real or if she’s making things up in her head.

9. Expect her to be headstrong. She’ll tell you, “I’ve got this,” more than you’ll want to hear. But she’ll get used to your offers to help. And in time she’ll know how to let go of the tight grip she seems to have on everything.

10. She’ll be guarded, and she won’t be keen on letting you in. She’s waiting to see if you’re patient, she’s waiting to see if you’re worth it. She’s hoping that you’re worth it.

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11. Expect her to be stingy with trust, to only give a little bit at a time. But every time she gives you a little, it’ll feel like a big step for her. Cherish these big steps.

12. She’ll come across as strong, maybe too strong for you at first. But don’t be intimidated, this is her outer shell. And when you get to know her, you’ll know she’s strong but soft; tough but kind.

13. Expect her to be reserved, at least about the things that matter. Until you really get to know her. And then you’ll see the untamed, raw, and always beautiful open version of her that she’ll let you fully discover.

14. She’ll be slow with her vulnerabilities, and hide many of her weaknesses. And when she shows you them, she’ll feel naked. Clothe her with your words.

15. Expect her not to need you, and not to believe in needing much of anything at all. But she’ll want you. And when she does, it’ll be the most exhilarating feeling you’ve ever experienced.

“After spending time with a girl, you feel exhausted because she takes more than she gives. After spending time with a woman, you feel invigorated, because she empowers you with possibility, and a passion for life.”  N. Mah

16. She’ll be scared – scared to be hurt, scared to love, and be loved. Scared that you’ll eventually hurt her or leave her and if and when that happens, she won’t know who she was before.

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17. Being alone is her default, it’s her comfort zone. But expect her to fall in love with you faster than she’ll admit and in a way that isn’t loud but still powerful; it’ll be like a little bit of heaven. And it won’t matter if you love her for a while or for a lifetime; her love will change both you and her forever.

Love & light Charlie x.

& if you know someone like the below… 😉

‘I love a man with a great sense of humor and who is intelligent – a man who has a great smile. He has to make me laugh. I like a man who is ambitious and driven and who has a good heart and makes me feel safe. I like a man who is very strong and independent and confident – that is very sexy – but at the same time, he’s kind to people.’ Nicole Scherzinger

Depression, do you know what it is?

I will tell you.

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Depression is:

Being encompassed by a darkness that allows you to see no light, no matter how much beauty is in your life.

Depression is emotionless.

Depression is a feeling of hopelessness.

Depression numbs your senses, robs you of joy, of happiness, of motivation and instead of being grateful for the life that you live (which does always have its beauty) you can barely understand the point of life.

Depression kicks you down even when you want to get up {and its a strong f&*ker, believe me I know}.

Depression is when you feel like youve lost hope, you contemplate why are you are doing all the things you are doing and getting nowhere, when you start to question the very essence of the person you are.

Tears flow for no reason at all, and often (Sometimes you can actually just make a small smile having a giggle at your self being all emotional for no reason, because its ok to cry).

Depression; it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders and there is no one to help you.

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Life is not all sunshine & rainbows (thanks Rocky).

Im one of the first to admit that I suffer depression and it freaking sucks.

‘Depression begins with disappointment. When disappointment festers in our soul, it leads to discouragements.’ Joyce Meyer

Sometimes there can be no trigger, sometimes there can be many.

For me, as I build my life around love, my brand about helping other people, when I am let down or disappointed by people I start to lose a little faith in humanity. One of my business beliefs is first help other people get what they want, and then you will get what you want (Zig Ziglar quote) & #sharelove; give more love everyday. Yet, when I get hurt I often feel that I have no love left to give…this is the start of a depression cycle for me. Contemplating when & if ever I will receive love (when Im not depressed I know Im blessed), and have people in my life that truly care (not just in the social media world).

The thing with depression, is that you cannot control it.

But you can create self love tools to minimise the time spent in the darkness.

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What I have found helps me, and Im no expert, simply sharing techniques that help me minimise my own stormy weather;

*Know that it will pass. The darkness will let you appreciate the light, and with every sunset there is always a sunrise.

*Be patient. Just do what needs to be done in your daily life, just get it done. Sometimes thats all you can do. You can be a world changer tomorrow when you feel better.

*Take some time out. Im not saying wallow in yourself, but if you feel like it’s all getting too much, have a half hr rest, maybe don’t go to the gym and go to bed early, get ten hrs sleep. We live in a world of ‘busy’, we work so hard until we actually fall apart or have a complete meltdown. Try get 8hrs sleep EVERY night.

If your laying in bed, wrapped up in terrible thoughts; go to sleep.

*Fill your body with nutrients. Speaking from experience, Ive often used my down times to reach for junk food, binge eating until I feel 100% worse than what I already was feeling, using my emotions as an excuse. Learn this lesson. Instead, know that your body is needing some extra love, get a green smoothie, a rainbow salad, green juices.

‘If you dont think your anxiety, depression, sadness and stress impact your physical health, think again. All of these emotions trigger chemical reactions in your body, which can lead to inflammation and a weakened immune system. Learn how to cope, sweet friend. there will always be dark days.’ Kris Carr

*Minimise caffeine (note to self). Caffeine will only provoke the anxiety that your already feeling, instead try switch to chamomile tea or at least green tea (minimal caffeine).

*Write. Get it out of your mind. I know when I’m depressed, being the control freak that I am I try to figure out whats going on, what I need to do, over-analyse (everything, yes even texts and social media likes), and try to organise myself, free from the clutter that all seems a blur in my mind. This can do my own head in MORE. Writing helps get it out.

If it hurts to keep everything inside, get it out. What I have found with my depression is I generally extract myself further from anyone close to me, another few bricks go on my already well-built wall and I don’t feel comfortable letting someone close enough to speak to; fear of judgement, sure. Writing is my answer. Speaking to someone might be yours.

‘The deepest fear we have, ‘the fear beneath all fears,’ is the fear of not measuring up, the fear of judgement. Its this fear that creates the stress and depression of everyday life.’ Tillian Tchividjian

I feel: write your own (disappointed)

What situation occurred to make me feel this way: write your own (I didn’t get what I wanted)

What I’m really feeling/thinking: write your own (my dream will never become reality, why am I even trying? Ill never be good enough)

Thought change: write your own (This is my life, my dream and I can make it happen. Where there is a will there is a way. I can process these emotions and then move forward, value the lesson learnt and look for new opportunities).

And with that let it go. If you can. Or just go to bed and rest.

*Dont focus on the thoughts. When we are depressed we tend to think things that are not even true; I’m not lovable, I will never make it, Im hopeless, Im a failure, Ill never be good enough etc. These are not true statements at all, yet depression leads us to believe them, and with the thoughts follows emotions, sadness, loneliness…etc.

Just say ok. Im feeling (insert your word here) anger, hurt, frustrated. And then let it go. It will pass.

*STOP with the negative action. If your re reading someones messages, replaying someones words, actions, and it causes you to hurt. STOP. Just delete (yes the delete button is ok to use). If you are over eating that causes you to hurt/feel worse, STOP. If you turn to self-destructive alcohol or drugs, STOP. After all of these self sabotage practices we ALWAYS feel worse, so try give yourself a break (and yes, I am well aware as I write this Im speaking to myself).

*Earth. Have you heard about this? earthing is when you walk barefoot with nature.

‘Basically, the theory is that our bodies are meant to come into contact with the Earth (a “grounding” force) on a regular basis. Positive electrons in the form of free radicals (ever heard of those guys?) can build up in our bodies and direct contact with the ground balances this out as it is a negative grounding charge.

Our bodies and cells have electrical energy, and especially with the high prevalence of Electromagnetic waves, Wi-Fi and mobile phone waves, many of us have a high amount of positive electrons built up in our bodies.’ Excerpt Wellnessmama.com

Interested? Read this: Earthing: The Most Important Health Discovery Ever

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*Breathe. As funny as it sounds, we all to often we forget to really breathe. Notice your breathing right now, in this moment, shallow, just filling the top of your chest, fast, small, rapid. Breathing is the best way to calm your central nervous system so just take a moment and practice a breathing technique I use often from Deepak Chopra. For the count of 1, 2, 3, 4 breathe in, retain your breathe at the top of your inhalation. Then for the count of 1, 2 , 3, 4 exhale and retain at the base. Repeat x10. Youll soon feel a sense of calm.

“Maybe you have to know the darkness before you can appreciate the light.” Madeleine L’Engle

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My words to you, and to myself, is that when you are feeling this way, just know that its ok. Dont beat yourself up about not being 110% motivated, chasing after your dream or having the best day ever. Just do what needs to be done, be gentle, kind and loving with yourself. Retract from anyone that makes you feel bad…perhaps (and I am trying to do this) minimise your time spent on social media and just read, write, listen to music, be still.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Know that because you have a bad day does not make it a bad life.

Honesty; a priceless quality

Have we become so self obsessed/busy that we’ve forgotten standard moral code?

The right way to treat other people? Common courtesy? R E S P E C T {do you even know what it means?}

It seems to me that we are breeding a culture of self absorption, ‘Ill do what I want’, ‘Whats in it for me’ & ‘its all about me’ thinking.

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Honesty is a quality that seems to be lacking. In a society where we all live a little guarded, protecting ourselves and our hearts from hurt and disappointments, wouldn’t it be important to spend time practising this quality? Were all struggling to keep up with the demands that society places on us, scared to show our true colours for fear of judgement, hurt and disappointment. We answer ‘how are you’, with ‘ok’, because how can we let anyone through the walls weve built close enough to let them know were doing everything but being ‘ok’.

Honesty is always respected and appreciated. Honesty is not a sign of weakness, but rather the sign of being a good human.

‘Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom’. Thomas Jefferson.

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Previously {when I was employed} as a business development manager, and a skin care trainer, one of the best lessons I have learnt; if you don’t know something, be honest, find out the answer and get back to the client/student. People respect honesty and view dishonesty with disdain. People can see through lies. No matter how big or small they are.

Are you an honest person?

Being honest means you refrain from lying, cheating, stealing and acting hypocritically.

Personally, I have found that people will be dishonest when trying to protect themselves, rather than being honest and dealing with the circumstances. It can seem easier to tell a white lie in hope of protecting a person and their feelings, rather than perhaps breaking them apart with the truth, or putting ourselves on the chopping block & owning up to something not so great we might have done (which we allllll have, were only human).

In dating, why do we bother not calling back, creating distrust and hurt when we could easily say ‘Im just not  that into you’?

Truth hurts. It’s true. The truth can be more damaging than a lie, or omitting it, but the truth will always come to light. Your better to be the person telling it. Whether to a lover, family or friend, honesty isn’t easy. Especially when words of truth have the ability to hurt, but honesty is always valued & no matter what, it will make the situation better for both/all involved.honesty6

If something/someone upsets you, do you hold onto resentment, or do you let the other person know their actions have affected you (of course this happens in life, were all different people on our own journeys).

Be honest, talk about how those actions have made you feel, and then choose to get over it, or invest your time elsewhere. Everyone has a different set of morals and values that they live by, spend time with people who share your moral code (not saying some are good, some are bad, just everyone is different).

If you know something but you don’t tell someone, are you being dishonest or simply omitting the truth? Obviously I don’t promote to interfere with other people’s business, just to act your own way, with integrity and honestly.

 ‘Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around’. Leo Buscaglia

Many situations can be avoided when you act honestly.

I know now, if i make a mistake (whether in work or relationships) I’m quick to admit it and then FIX it. Be honest (trying to own up to my inner CRAZY when it comes to dating).

The truth is no one is perfect, but we are all here trying to live our lives happily with great love, family and friendship, to accomplish this, you must include honesty in your list of core qualities.

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 ‘If Im honest I have to tell you I still read fairy tales and I like them best of all.’ Audrey Hepburn

Be honest with yourself.

Who you are, what you like, what you dislike, stop trying to be somebody you’re not. When you start acting in a manner that is true to you, you’ll find the happiness you have been searching for, act from a place of integrity from your heart not your ego & live a life of passion.

 ‘There are those who are good with goodness, and also treat those who are not good with goodness. Thus goodness is attained. Be honest to those who are honest, and also be honest to those who are not honest. Thus honesty is attained. Lao Tzu

 

Love & light, Charlie x.

Treat other people how you want to be treated & remember what goes around comes around.

“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.” Bob Marley

 

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{Monday Motivation} Cassie Mendoza-Jones; Elevate Vitality

There is nothing better than attending a seminar & feeling the speakers words resonate with you. When you hear the exact same message {choose self love, & learn to listen to your body} you are trying to convey be heard through the words she speaks, it creates a tingle of passion knowing that together we can make a change.

Cassie Mendoza-Jones is one of these such women. A Kinesiologist, Naturopath, Nutritionist and Herbalist, Cassie has recently released an Ebook for “Body Harmony Society”. The ebook focuses on The ebook focuses on “12 lessons to help you (finally) find freedom in your own skin’, broken into 3 lessons;

1. Body-Doing
2. Mind- Being
3. Spirit- Knowing

Download a free copy here.

Cassie is a glowing example of natural, whole hearted living.

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You have created the Body Harmony Society, what was the reason behind this?

I founded my business, Elevate Vitality, and I have launched the Body Harmony Society as the flagship online resource for helping women find freedom + harmony in their bodies, their lives and their business.

The Body Harmony Society is an online space for women who are tired of hating their bodies, who feel trapped in old patterns of negativity and worthlessness, who feel exhausted, drained and overwhelmed, who panic, stress and worry about everything, and who generally don’t feel safe or ‘at home’ in their skin.

On the surface? It’s about upgrading your health and your life.

But really? It’s about accepting yourself on every level. And feeling really proud of yourself for doing so.

I made it because it breaks my heart when I see women feeling so stuck, so less than, so lost.

I made it because I remember feeling so disconnected to myself, so overwhelmed, so sad and flat and tired.

I made it because I’m tired of seeing women (and dudes too) worry about their bodies.

I made it because I feel your pain when you stress and fret and anguish over how you look instead of celebrate who you are. 

And ultimately… I want to help

‘Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home.’ Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

When did you decide to you wanted to be involved in the health & wellness industry?

I was working as a hair and makeup artist in the fashion and beauty industry, and I found myself always speaking to the models about their nutrition and health. I was drawn to natural medicine, so I made the switch several years ago and I’m so glad I did!

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How do you feel as an inspirational figure/mentor?  

I never set out to be an inspiration figure or mentor, I just want to help women find body harmony and help them feel balance, aligned and calm in their bodies and their lives.

I love what I do, so it feels easy and enjoyable and important to spread this message. 

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Has there been any challenges along your journey? 

Of course; it wouldn’t be a journey if there weren’t challenges.

But the challenges have made me stronger. They helped me clarify my vision and my strengths, and show me where I had to improve and focus.

‘Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ‘ Rumi, thirteenth century Sufi poet

How do you maintain balance between your Career and personal health? 

I make sure to start my day with exercise and some ‘me’ time – whether that’s writing in a café for a few hours, going for a walk and breakfast with a friend, journaling or meditating.

I watch my energy levels closely and I make sure to pull back before I burn out. I give myself whole days off, and block out time to just write and do some content creation so I’m not cramming too much into my days.

My business is based around self-care and educating my clients on how to not burnout, so I make self-care a priority as it’s important I lead by example.

‘To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. ‘~Thich Nhat Hanh

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What do you believe are the keys to success in business

‘Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.’ Unknown

I think this depends on every business, but I think some keys are:

  1. Clarify what your dream is, as opposed to other people’s dreams
  2.  Stick it out through the harder times, knowing that this too shall pass. This is easier when you can see the bigger picture
  3. Give yourself plenty of time outside of your business – this is often when the big, beautiful ideas will come
  4. Invest in yourself and your business – i.e.  spend time on your business and not just in it. You sometimes need to spend money to make money
  5. Find a group of people who get you when it comes to business, and bounce ideas off them. It’s important to have support from fellow business owners or entrepreneurs
  6. Find a mentor or mentors, and work out which traits of theirs you resonate with and want to emulate in your own business

What is your advice for anyone who has a dream?

Chase it.

Follow it.

Make it happen.

Make it beautiful.

‘Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.’ Carl Gustav Jung

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Top 3 healthy tips/advice? 

  1. Find what works for you… and implement it!
  2. Be willing to change what’s not working
  3. Always be kind and gentle with yourself

Your top 3 tips for fitness fashion?

I think my only tips for fashion fitness are to be comfortable, and don’t be scared to wear colour!

Share something no one knows…

I grew up horse-riding and my riding friends and I thought we’d all ride in the Olympics, and then run a horse training farm together. We even had our individual roles all mapped out! Oh, childhood dreams…

As a kinesiologist and naturopath, Cassie Mendoza-Jones helps women upgrade their health and their life. In working with Cassie, women move into what she calls “body harmony” – a state of balance, ease and vitality.

She has been described as “… leading a revolution that has both been a long time coming and is desperately needed”.

Her lessons and insights have been featured in publications such as Body + Soul, Women’s Fitness, and Gourmet Traveller, and on popular websites such as news.com.au, Vogue.com.au, Sporteluxe, and smh.com.au. She’s spoken at events and workshops around Australia for a variety of companies, including LinkedIn.

When she’s not working with clients, or creating new books, online courses and programs, she’s getting lost in a good novel, hanging out in a cafe or suiting up for a yoga class.

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Meet Cassie and stay in-the-loop about her upcoming online courses, books and events at www.bodyharmonysociety.com and www.elevatevitality.com.au.

Instagram: @elevate_vitality/

Facebook: /elevate.vitality

Pinterest: /elevatevitality/

Twitter: @cmjnaturopath

I sincerely thank Cassie for her time!

Love & light, Charlie x.

Learn to love your body, its your own beautiful creation & you get to choose how you will feel by the foods you eat.

 

In the kitchen with Good chef/Bad Chef; Zoe Bingley-Pullen

I was lucky enough to be invited to attend an afternoon at cooking class with the beautiful and talented Zoe Bingley Pullen, a nutritionist and chef, infamous on the Channel ten show: Good chef, bad chef.

Zoe is also an author, presenter & educator, and has recently become a mother (yes, she is a superwoman, one worthy of my new crush).

To celebrate the launch of its new blended milks, Vitasoy partnered with ambassador Zoe Bingley-Pullin and foodie heaven, Williams & Sonoma (an absolutely stunning kitchen that would make anyone want to learn to cook), to run an exclusive interactive cooking workshop for influencers to experience the new products first-hand.

Zoe makes healthy cooking easy.

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Im not sure if you feel the same way, but when you watch chefs prepare food its like a production you cant take your eyes away from, from their ridiculous chopping skills that when replicated look anything but elegant to her amazing simple and effective way of crushing fresh garlic…without garlic fingers (yes small things amuse my mind, but you cannot tell me youve not struggled peeling garlic!Often I find it put in the too hard basket and use pre prepared product #lazy).

I had to share with you the Cashew Nut Fritter served with a salsa topping and Rocket salad:

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Prep time: 10-15 minutes

Cooking time: 10 minutes

Serves: 10-12 fritters

Ingredients for cashew fritters:
1 1/2 cups of raw cashews, finely ground

1/4 cup Vitasoy Soy & Almond Milk 
1/2 a bunch of fresh basil, finely chopped (alternatively use 2 dessert spoons of dried basil)
1/2 a large onion, finely chopped
1 egg, lightly beaten
1 tbsp. of Tamari soy sauce
Small amount of olive oil

Ingredients for salsa topping:
1 tomato, diced
1 tbsp. of Tamari soy sauce (alternatively use 2 pinches of salt)
2 tsp. tomato paste (gluten free)
2 cloves garlic, crushed
20g fetta or goats cheese (optional)

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Method:

Cook onion in heated olive oil until soft. Combine the cooked onion, cashews, Vitasoy Soy & Almond Milk, basil, Tamari soy sauce and egg in a bowl. Stir until thick and sticky.
Use a dessert spoon to form fritters and cook in a pan on medium heat for 5 minutes each side, with a little olive oil.

Sauté the tomato and garlic in a pan for about 10 minutes, or until pureed. Add the tomato paste and Tamari soy sauce.

Serve the fritters on a plate with tomato sauce on top. Place slivers of
fetta/goats cheese on top of tomato sauce and garnish with fresh basil
leaves or coriander.

Serve with a green salad.

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About Soy…

Vitasoy ambassador, nutritionist and co-star of Channel Ten’s Good Chef Bad Chef, Zoe Bingley-Pullin, says:

“The hardest part about a new product can be experiencing it for the first time, and knowing what to do with it! Vitasoy Soy & Almond Milk is made from Australian grown whole soybeans, combining the great taste of almond with the nutritional benefits of Vitasoy Soy Milk.

Vitasoy Oat & Almond Milk is made from Australian grown oats, which contain beta- glucan. It combines the great taste of almond with the nutritional benefits of Vitasoy Oat Milk. Research shows as part of a healthy diet low in saturated fat, 3g of beta-glucan each day canhelp lower cholesterol absorption.

“Neither of the new blended milks with almond contain any artificial colours, preservatives or flavours, which is great because I’m a big advocate for checking nutrition labels and knowing exactly what you put into your body.”

“As we’ve seen too, Vitasoy’s new blended milks with almond are really versatile. Not only are they tasty on breakfast cereals and in smoothies, they can also be used as a dairy alternative in many recipes. This is great for health conscious Australians, who can enjoy a milk alternative without compromising on taste.”

Honestly I devoured these Fritters (Cashew nuts are one of my greatest loves ;), why not make it for someone special this weekend 😉

Make friends with your kitchen. Your body & soul will love you for it.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Be sure to check out the website for lots more delicious recipes, including buckwheat pancakes which Im planning for my Self Love Sunday.


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Mistakes, they’re yours, own them.

If you take a moment to read my words, I’m pretty sure you should know by know the message that I am trying to send, about being real not fake.

“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” Marilyn Monroe

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What does being real mean?
To me it means not trying to be someone you’re not. Being yourself. You were born to stand out so why bother trying to fit in {although we all do this to be ‘liked’ & feel like we fit in}. Being real is accepting you unique gifts and flaws, and we all have both. 

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Last night as I was practising my daily gratitude thoughts; every night before I go to sleep I think about 3 things that I am grateful for whilst focusing in deep breathing. This allows me to go to sleep with a grateful heart, sending out thoughts of gratitude to the universe/what you focus on grows.
So as I was thinking about things, in a business sense; for some reason my mind gets creative and activated when it touches the pillow, I was thinking about mistakes.
Mistakes I’ve made with people. Mistakes I’ve made in business. Mistakes I’ve made in love.

Then choosing to cultivate an attitude of gratitude I decided I was blessed to have made these mistakes because they are mine. Part of my own beautiful struggle that is MY life. I’m lucky that I can make them, then I have the power to choose how to proceed/correct or look for the opportunity that lies within it.

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“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.” Mahatma Gandhi

No one ever said you had to be perfect so why are you trying so hard to be? {Note to self}
I have a personal belief, a fear of my being good enough, of not being deserving, or lovable. This belief tells me that I need to be the best, better than my competition, better than I was yesterday. When I am driven by this belief I am acting with my ego, with fear and generally not from a place of love.
Now sure there’s a certain element of striving for success that is needed to be self motivated and create a brand/business on your own.
The difference is learning where that motivation is coming from is it ego? Are you being led by your not good enough belief? (Generally when it’s from this it’s from a place of fear and nothing will work out the way you decide it should because your being fake not real).
Or is your motivation from a better place? From your soul, with love, faith and belief that what is right for you will be. If you work hard enough, love more and give more…opportunities will arise. Youll still make mistakes, and you will learn.
There is nothing more gratifying then achieving success for something you never believed you could do,  then you do it/achieve it & you just know it’s right for you.

Take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave. – Mary Tyler Moore

So mistakes, make them. Don’t be afraid. Fear is your potentials worst enemy. Fear of failure? How can you fail of you never quit? Fear of judgement? Oh let people judge, do they even matter to you? {Small things amuse small minds} Fear is your self-limiting belief that will hold you back more than anyone else or anything else in the world.

“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” Albert Einstein

You have to believe with the essence of who you are. Believe that what you are doing is for a greater good. Believe that you can make a healthy happy change in the world (I truly do) & when you fall, dust yourself off and try again {alliyah}

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“We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.” Steve Maraboli

You can chose to dwell in the perceived failure of making a mistake or you can chose to see it as an opportunity to be better, to learn and to develop more (you, your life and business).

Everyday I have highs and I have lows, as I chose to focus my attention on the highs I seem to not be having so many lows. If I can tell you one thing that has changed my life and allowed me to become the person Im happy to be today (yes, I would still like to find true love), its cultivate an attitude of gratitude. Simple.

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If you make a mistake, be proud, it only shows you are trying. Stepping outside of your comfort zone to be the person you are meant to be.

Love & light, Charlie x.

What mistakes will I make today? Oh, already did it…locked myself out! {lol} Find the opportunity to smile, everywhere.

League of Extraordinary women

One of the best things about working for yourself and creating a brand is that I get to connect with people and business who have the same beliefs, motivation & passion as I do.

‘The keys to brand success are self-definition, transparency, authenticity and accountability.’ Simon Mainwaring.

Im proud (& lucky) to announce Clean Treats will be sponsoring the upcoming event by League of Extraordinary Women.

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‘Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination and dedication. Remember all things are possible for those who believe.’ Gail Devers

So if you would like a morning of inspiration (& to #eatmyballs & Ill be there with them):

December 2nd; 7.30am-9am Location TBA.

Book HERE

Speaker: PAULINE NGUYEN {Who Im personally SO excited to hear}

Pauline Nguyen, author of Secrets of the Red Lantern, is co-owner of Red Lantern, the most awarded Vietnamese restaurant in the world.

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In her moving memoir, Pauline tells the honest, difficult story of the Nguyen family, following the journey of her parents from their homeland in Vietnam on their escape to Thailand as refugees, and then on to their eventual resettlement in Australia. They moved to Sydney’s most vibrant and notorious Vietnamese enclave where Pauline and her brothers grew up. A shared passion for food is at the heart of this family’s journey.

‘Happiness does not come from doing easy work but from the afterglow of satisfaction that comes after the achievement of a difficult task that demanded our best.’ Theodore Isaac Rubin

Internationally, ’Secrets of the Red Lantern’ has appeared on best sellers lists around the world, and in 2008 was voted Best Cookbook In Asia.

Pauline’s writing has appeared in The Best Australian Essays 2010, Voracious – The Best New Australian Food Writing, Griffith Review, as well as various other publications. She holds a BA in Communications at UTS and in 2008 won Newcomer Writer of the Year at the Australian Book Industry Awards.

Red Lantern is six-time winner of Best Asian Restaurant – Restaurant and Catering Awards.

Red Lantern has been voted in the ’Top Ten Most Environmentally Sustainable Restaurants (Sydney Morning Herald Good Food Guide) and placed in the Top 80 of Australian Traveller Magazine’s 100 Australian Gourmet Experiences.

In 2012, Red Lantern was voted AUSTRALIA’S FAVOURITE RESTAURANT (I LOVE Food Awards 2012) and took out the winners prize for the Telstra Australian Business Awards NSW 2012.

‘There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.’ Colin Powell

About League of Extraordinary Women

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VISION

To connect the extraordinary female entrepreneurs of the world.

MISSION

To provide a powerfully influential community for women, globally, who are passionate and motivated entrepreneurs, who are inspiring each other to succeed while also participating fully in entrepreneurial communities world-wide.

VALUES

The League Brand is built on five key values:

  • INSPIRATION

Drawing strength & motivation from others.

  • COMMUNITY

A collective of women supporting each other & never allowing another to give up!

  • ENTREPRENEURIAL DRIVE

Using innovation and determination to deliver results!

  • INTEGRITY

Doing business with honesty and thoughtfulness.

  • THINKING BIG AND DIFFERENTLY

Striving for growth, following unorthodox paths and creating opportunities with limited resources.league5

{I just adore this wardrobe…Adidas & Chanel 😉 #oneday plus a few Nikes}

I hope to see you at this inspirational morning!

Love & light, Charlie x.

Off to go & make things happen.

 

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Monday Motivation; Health Synergy

You know when you just crush on people? Or in this case, their Instagram page, everything they do, their style & grace… I’m completely rushing on the Mother & daughter team that together make @Healthsynergy.

{So much so that I am utilising their style & beautifully creative eye for my brand}

In the true essence of my brand belief (#sharelove) it was only right that I share these beautiful woman with you.

‘Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more.’ H. Jackson Brown Jr.

 

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Charlie: You are successful business owners and the creators of Health Synergy, what do you attribute this success to?

I think the most important thing is to do something you love and for me, cooking and photography are two of my greatest passions – it really isn’t work!

I also believe that working with my Mum has been a major contributing factor to our success as it has enabled us to combine our skills and work as a team on this new business endeavour. My Mum is a naturopath and wellness/executive coach, which inspired my passion for health. As for me, I am a student of Media and Communications at the University of Sydney so this business has been a great opportunity for me to learn about different social media platforms, in order to for us to get our message out there.

‘To succeed, you need to find something to hold on to, something to motivate you, something to inspire you.’ Tony Dorsett

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{How amazing are these!!! This is a simple yet easy healthy recipe by Health Synergy…Fruit and Coconut water, perfect for Summer. Who said being healthy was hard?}

Charlie: When did you decide you wanted to be involved in the wellness industry?

 

As a student, I think it is very difficult to know exactly what you want to do.

Leaving school in 2012, I knew I either wanted to work in the fashion industry or the health/wellness industry. In order to discover more about both areas, I applied for an internship in fashion marketing and simultaneously, begun to build Health Synergy with my Mum. Over the past two years, I have learnt that my true passion lies in health and being able to inspire others to start a healthier lifestyle, however the skills I have learnt in fashion marketing have been highly valuable and have been applicable to our own business.

‘There is incredible power in the arts to inspire and influence.’ Julie Taymour

 

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Charlie: What inspired you to follow your passion?

Given that my Mum is a naturopath, I have always been relatively healthy and brought up with whole and nourishing foods, but it wasn’t until I was about 15 that I started to become personally interested in health and wellbeing.

After finishing school, a friend and I decided to start a food Instagram page, which started as a bit of a joke, but became something we really loved doing. Over a period of about 6 months, we were able to build a following of approx. 2000 people, however, our account was then hacked. About a year later, my Mum and I decided to start building the Health Synergy Instagram page, sharing lots of our favourite recipes via our blog (www.healthsynergy.com.au/blog), as well as doing lots of experimenting to create new ones.

From the beginning, we have received a lot of encouragement and support which was very motivating. I can’t imagine not doing this as it has become such a big part of our lives.

‘Good actions give strength to ourselves and inspire good actions in others.’ Plato

Charlie: How do you feel as an inspirational figure/mentor?

I think receiving emails and comments from people to say that they’ve enjoyed remaking our recipes or that we have inspired them to start a healthier lifestyle is truly the biggest motivation. I feel honoured to be considered an inspiration – it makes our job incredibly rewarding.
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{Yes, this is my ridiculously amazing caramel and Choc/peanut slice pictured}

Charlie: Has there been any challenges along your journey?

I think with any business, there are always going to be a few obstacles along the way. It has been a big learning curve and over the short time we have been doing this, I think we have both learnt a lot. I can see a dramatic difference in my photography from when we began to now, we are constantly working to perfect our recipes and my Mum has learnt to write nutritional information in a way that is easy to understand. At first, I had to send them back for her to rewrite in English!

Charlie: How do you maintain balance between your Career and personal health?

I am a student which does allow me greater flexiblity as University contact hours are minimal. This has been a great advantage in enabling us to grow our business as even though we love what we do, it has been very time consuming, from the actual creation and photography to uploading the recipes onto our blog.

Charlie: What do you believe are the keys to success in business?

I believe the key to success is being passionate about what you do, as well as making sure you are able to put in the time and hard work. I think it is important to give 100% to whatever you do, ad when you are truly dedicated and committed to your work, success will follow.

Charlie: What is your advice for anyone who has a dream?

My advice would be to follow your dreams, no matter what they are. If you love what you do, the chances of success are dramatically higher and more importantly, you will be happier if you are doing something you enjoy.

Charlie: What can we look forward to next from you?

Our next endeavour is to create our very own Health Synergy App, with access to all our recipes, nutritional information and more. We have been talking about it for a while and are now at a stage where we are able to begin. We are hoping it will be available in early 2015 but will keep you posted!

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{I just might be remaking the above for a special date this weekend 😉 #luckyman}

Charlie: Top 3 healthy tips/advice?

Start every day with a glass of warm water and lemon.

Walk whenever you can, or if you have to drive, park a little bit further away.

Eat foods as close to its natural form as possible and choose organic, if available.

‘Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.’ Lao Tzu

I sincerely thank Health Synergy for their time & sharing their amazing selves with me (to share with you). Be sure to check out their blog for delicious, healthy AND easy recipes (Im SO excited for their App).

Love & light, Charlie x.

Making my Monday, magic.

 

Chris Dufey; Find Your “Perfect” Weight Loss Diet With THIS

As promised, weekly #sharinglove via my amazing trainer Chris Dufey.

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Your Mother was right…You are unique!

The reason you are confused as what diet or workout to follow is because some people are shouting “do this” and then another mob are preaching the exact opposite.  leaving you in the middle not making any progress with your body — and it affecting your health.

‘Take care of your micronutrients intake. Your body should be Thriving’

It’s not that they are out “to get you”, its because some plans will work for some people, and other plans will work for other people.

But Here Is The Secret Sauce For Weight Loss

  1. Start with a plan that tailored to you and your situation.
  2. Have it work with you – as you and your metabolism changes, your diet and workouts need to.
  3. Have the guidance and support to keep you easily on track and not falling off the wagon like you have before.

Selecting a good weight loss diet to match your fitness goals can be tricky. Depending on what you are trying to achieve and what your body type is, some diets may be more effective than others. Before starting any sort of weight loss diet, always check with your doctor. They can not only clear you for it, but can help by giving suggestions and warnings that can guide you more successfully to your goal.

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Starving yourself can backfire in the worst sort of way and make you body store everything coming in instead of burning it. You need to slowly scale back your intake and eat meaningful calories. Increasing your activity and burning more calories with a sensible diet is a good way to slowly loose weight and keep it off.When You’ve Lost Most OF The Weight, But Are Stuck.

…Stubborn Fat

One thing most people run into with a weight loss diet is an plateau or two. You’ve stepped up your routine, maybe even trimmed a little more from the calories but nothing seems to be budging.

To avoid the non-sense, I’m not going to blow smoke and tell you there a ‘magic potion’.  The only potion you need 95% of the time is to stay committed to yourself and keep working hard.  Fat will start coming off from certain areas over your body than others.

There are Alpha and Beta receptors in your fat cells than can “switch on” fat-burning or make it harder to burn off.  To get the famous Female guide on dealing withStubborn Fat Click HERE

If you are having an issue with stubborn fat, you may need to first adjust your workout, and then reconsider your diet. Adding in fat burning herbs and spices can help kick up if your metabolism has started to drag for some reason. Peppers, such as cayenne, are great for helping boost your fat burning. Black pepper in particular has a unique chemical in it that can help you loose weight as well. There are a lot more herbs and spices that have natural fat fighting compounds, many Indian spices such as turmeric and cumin, for example are helpful as well.


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This is truthfully only going to be minuscule changes – for a Fitness Model or Bodybuilder, these small changes when at low body fat levels will make a difference, but don’t go down the “Fat Burning Pill” avenue — its not needed.

…Now You Want To Get “Lean”

You have smashed through your initial weight loss goals, and your aim is now to get in great shape. To really drop into low body fat and reveal your body and shape.

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This is when you need to use advanced tactics as used HERE with Lean Body Life

Important:  Don’t lose sights of the basics — the habits you have created with being able eat a nourishing diet and train consistently and with intensity is what will bring you the best results.

Each person is unique and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to finding the weight loss diet that will work for you. It can take a bit of work and experimenting.  To fast-track that and have the professional guidance and support of a team you can’t find anywhere else…

I sincerely thank Chris for sharing {allowing me to share him with you}

Love & light, Charlie x.

Pretty happy I get to have sweet potato chips after training tonight 😉 And to visit the farmers market this weekend for lots of fresh goodies!

 

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