Pay it Forward

Today is Pay it Forward day…

‘My religion is simple, my religion is kindness’ Dalai Lama

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A day where we should be giving someone some love, helping someone or doing a kind deed (really should be every day I think).

‘Your greatness is measured by your kindness; your education and intellect by your modesty; your ignorance is betrayed by your suspicions nad prejudices, and your real calibre is measured by the consideration and tolerance you have for others’ William J.H. Boetcker

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Why?

Have you ever had someone open a door for you when your hands are full? Had a random stranger compliment you (I still remmeber the day I was in a chemist waiting for a meeting and a kind elderly woman complimented my outfit and my composure…5 years ago)? Ever received a gift from someone unexpectedly? Perhaps even had someone let you in traffic? (Kindness doesnt have to be grandeur)

How did you feel? These are the little things (they dont have to cost a crazy amount, or anything at all) that can make a difference.

‘Unexpected kindness is the most powerful, least costly, and most underrated agent of human change.’ Bob Kerrey 

I know personally, they create a feeling of ‘good’, of peace, of connection with the world, hope, possibility and kindness. That there are good people in the world afterall. That life isnt about whats happening tomorrow, what your eating for your next meal…life is about being a good human and sharing your passion and purpose with as many people as you can.

Leave people better than they were after they have talked with you. We need to re connect, to listen, to show compassion for one another, otherwise well all be here chasing instagram likes, the latest designer outfits, more fake face plumping and left wondering why we arent actually happy?

 

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When was the last time you shared love? Complimented someone, let someone have the seat on the bus, helped someone with their boxes/bags (honestly every day Im weighed down with stock, struggling to open doors, and no men ever offer to help?! (maybe I’m not wearing enough makeup on those days, sad but true).

Then theres other days, like recently when Ive been at events (with my #balls of course) and someone hasnt had quite enough $$$ to buy a pack, so the kind lovely person next to her, purchased them and gave them to her… heartmelt moment (I then also put extra in her pack as a thank you/your too kind).

‘We think too much and feel too little. More than machinery, we need humanity. More than cleverness, we need kindness and gentleness’ Charlie Chaplin 

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So today fo Pay it Forward day…do something good…for someone…anyone, regardless if you know them or not. In fact it’s always a pleasant surprise when its a stranger.

Send some one  a love letter, send a message of love to the world.

Speak to the person at the supermarket, smile at the young girl who serves you coffee…make small talk about the weather, say please, and thank you, ‘have a good day’…these are the small things that we are losing in our fast paced world, the things that matter. That connect us.

I also know that when kindness has been given/shown to me…I then feel good about myself and continue to share this with the people I go on to connect with. An attitude of gratitude is the key to happiness.

‘You can have everything you want in life if you just help enough people get what they want in life’ Zig Ziglar

{This is my personal mantra nad belief for my business and my life}

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What will you do today to make someones day a little brighter?

Love, Charlie x.

So, so grateful beyond words that my project is nearly at 50%…if you would like to share love with me…and pre order my new #balls, check out my campaign:

http://www.pozible.com/project/190510

An evening with a Sexpert.

What is a sexpert?

Well just this week I spent an evening with one, Juliet Allen as part of the Daily Guru, Self love Series.

The topic of the night; Reconnecting with yourself – The Feminine & the Sexy.

What can I say, I was excited. I was unsure of course what type of things we would be discussing especially as Juliet started her talk with ‘sometimes Im told Im to raunchy/explicit, and sometimes Im told IM not enough’.

I presume everyones assumption of ‘raunchy’ is different, and I believe that is the key core message that Juliet got across.

So to reconnect with your feminine and be the sexy sensual goddess you are, it takes 7 steps.

‘She is a woman who radiates light. She is magnetic’

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#1 Take care of yourself.

Put yourself first.

Self care & self love. When you feel good about yourself you create an essence of confidence (without ego).

Take time out for you, reconnect, do the girly things, get a manicure, a massage, a facial.

Take care of your body. Confidence starts on the inside. Are you treating yourself like the gorgeous sexy hot woman you know you are? Eating nourishing foods? Training your mind? Creating good situations to be in? Or are you not? Perhaps choosing not so nutritious foods that can leave you feeling bloated and blah, chatting to yourself ceaselessly negatively (how can anyone feel good with those negative words on repeat?), or being in situtaions that just dont make you feel good.

 

#2 Embrace your sexuality.

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Own it.

Your desires. Yours wants. Be into sex if you want. Be sexy. Have great sex. Get more. Or less. Know what you want and get it. This is non negotiable. You are the only one who knows what you want, so go out there and get it. Be strong, be sexual, be you.

#3 Work in your own stuff.

Let go of the past. Drop the emotional baggage off.

Orgasm is in the mind. Intimacy is in the mind. Pleasure is in the mind.

Let go of yesterday, things that might have happened and accept who you are, and embrace it.

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#4 Stop Judging.

Embrace the lifestyle & choices of others. Stop judging others. We are all unique. Respect the choices people make. Respect their decisions. Respect who they are. Its not for you to decide or comment about what should or shouldnt make a person happy. Let them be them, and you jsut be you. Focus on getting more of your own big O’s before your quick to judge other people.

#5 Be open to new experiences.

Try everything once. Create new experiences. Be bold. Read books, blogs, videos…explore. Be open with your partner. Communicate. Say yes or say no. Tell him/her what you want. Sexuality is designed to be explored. Like something, say so. Dont like it, say it.

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‘Being tied up is so in right now, thanks to Mr Gray’ Juliet.

#6 Allow yourself to be vulnerable.

Vulnerability = intimacy.

‘Sex is by nature a vulnerable act on so many levels. To open ones body bare, to share deep feeling, to allow yourself to be penetrated or seen naked, to expose tender parts of yourself like desire, fantasy and insecurity, to allow yourself to want and desire and to be fulfilled. These things are vulnerable.’ Amy Jo goddard.

Risk getting hurt. Open yourself up. We hide behind our fears of ‘what will he/she think’, scared of being judged. Again, be who you are, and jut own it. Find someone with the same thoughts as you, sexual freedom to explore.

#7 Step into your power.

You can chose to be sexy.

Make it a priority. Stop blaming others or making excuses. You have the power to create change. Your lack of, or great sex life is all up to you. Do you want more sexual freedom…get it. Do you want better sex… Ask for it. Want to try something new…whatever it may be, ask for it.

If you want a FWB… find one. If your happy for a one night stand, have one.

*Obviously always practice safe sex. (Did you know that wearing a condom is becoming increasingly rare?)

 

Interesting evening with a few q & a’s at the end.

Raunchy? I thought it could be more. But it was a great experience to be in a room full of woman, and a few men, and openly discuss what was once a taboo subject.

Yet the stats say:

Only 25% of women are completely satisfied with their sex life.

Only 12% of men say they are satisfied with their sex life.

39% of women wish they slept naked with their partner more often.

23% of men say they have no sex life.

I personally think that just like we train our bodies and our minds, our sexuality, chemistry and body experiences could be an area we could learn a bit more.

Or perhaps, this just goes back to self love…knowing who you are and what you want.

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Love, Charlie x.

P.s have you checked out my new funding campaign… I would love you to buy some #balls…

http://www.pozible.com/project/190510

 

Help me… my crowd funding campaign

You know when you put something out to the world that your unsure how it will be received?

This is how I feel!

Nervous. Excited. Apprehensive.

I just launched my crowd funding campaign….

#charliesballs need a new home.

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Check it out:

http://www.pozible.com/project/190510

What is crowd funding???

Well, basically, a crowd (read, you) participate in actively pre purchasing an item (my #balls) before they are available. In my case, you are pre – buying my new and improved packaging. So when a group collectively purchase something I can reach a target and move my business forward.

Its time for me to start working smarter. Not harder.

Currently I sticker 1 ball…3 times!

Plus, I would like a longer shelf life so I can proceed with distribution and be able to offer my #balls in more places, so you know you can always reach for something healthy (and my love).

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I would love, LOVE your support. Together we can make a change.

And really, all your doing is pre-buying my new product {nothing gets charged until the end of the campaign and only IF its successful}

Theres different levels of support if you just check out the right hand side, you can even get a ‘love note’ from me to you, or buy several giftpacks to give out to people, and show them you truly care.

http://www.pozible.com/project/190510

Please like, share, view and you know, all that social media stuff that needs to be done to create success.

Thank you.

Love & light, Charlie x,

With my heart open and completely out of my comfort zone.

Honouring your temple {Self Love Series Pt 2}

HONOURING YOUR TEMPLE – SELF LOVE SERIES PART 2


Series 2 is focused on our relationship with food and how we nourish our bodies. It’s just as much a physiological process as it is a psychological choice. One of the phrases that resonated with me was ‘drink your food, eat your drink’ which of course centers itself on the importance of chewing your meals properly and aiding digestion. When drinking water, slowing down and sipping it is far more hydrating than gulping it down.

When I hear Tabitha’s take on ‘diet labels’, such as vegan, vegetarian, paleo etc. I feel rather relieved. Her take on them is rather pragmatic but absolutely makes sense – the philosophy is eating nourishing meals that our body responds well to. “Diet trends disconnect us from our real requirements”. It’s all about listening to your body and talking to yourself before you open the fridge, double take, yes, talk to yourself before opening the fridge! What do you say before opening the fridge dare you ask? “What does my body need”? Says Tabitha.

I cheekily questioned Tabitha on this, “what if my body wants chocolate”? “Well, I don’t call chocolate bad and frankly, maybe your body needs chocolate” OK, I am totally in – and I knew she will most definitely explain my craving so it makes 100% sense.

“Did you know that your body might be deficient in magnesium or iron if you crave chocolate?” Naturopaths are so insightful! A spoon full of pure cacao or a piece of dark chocolate can deliver not only the goodness of antioxidants but also promote happy vibes… You had me at chocolate but happy is my quest at present. The collaboration of food and self-love is genius.

Appreciating food for its nourishing properties, admiring the texture, colour, smell and of course taste are all-important parts of our relationship with food. It can only be healthy if it’s honoured for taking care of our temples.

Think back to the water theory by Masaru Emoto where he studied the changes in the molecular structure of water when exposed to different elements even words. Positive words and environments kept the beautiful crystalised structure but derogative words and harsh noises polluted the water.

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I just adore the fact we can use positive mantras to help improve how we build a healthy relationship with our decisions… just a few examples to start:

♥ I allow the healing power in my body to manifest perfect health

♥ I, myself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve my own love and affection

♥ I take care of my body, my home, my workplace, and all areas of my life. I alone am responsible for my health.

LOUISE HAY is the author of these mantras and someone I look up to and follow. Author of ‘You can Heal your Life’, she has a wellness mantra for absolutely anything. A simple Google search will find you countless videos and material – you won’t regret it.

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The evening was literally ‘packed to the brim’ with useful information; the audience getting curious with some great questions and the networking session afterwards saw some new introductions enriching the evening even further.

A meticulously organised event with talent of the likes of Annthea Matheson from Young Living who explained the power of essential oils so beautifully; Charlie de Haas who is even more amazing in person than we could’ve ever imagined her to be – you are such a star! Your energy is infectious and your treats to ‘die for’…

To sum up the night – delicious, enlightening, beautiful, heartfelt, fun, WOW – and completely BALANCED with advice. Exactly the way we view our food from now on!

Love and Sunshine,

Andrea and Jarka

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So, so beautiful. I actually just got this today and I am so grateful for the gorgeous words about me.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Craving chocolate…or magnesium…

#Boss life.

I wrote this last week when I was feeling inspired, to share with you the true journey of an entrepreneur…hustling AND struggling, making mistakes AND growing.

Because we see inspirational people who have achieved ‘success’, yet we dont see their struggle. What happens in all those in between years? So youve started a company…how do you go from small business to big business and when can you say youve ‘made it’? The actual reality that is behind starting your own business you have to wake up chasing your dreams, you have to create a sense of self so strong that you are able to always get back up after failing or being pushed down. You have to believe and have a strong sense of self that cannot be broken.boss5
I’m on a flight to Melbourne for the Filex show. Clean Treats is having a stand, my 2nd event of this type {read big scale, 30,000 visitors} in 4 weeks.

I feel a quiet contentment in my soul.
There is no stress, no worry, no concerns for I know now, especially after the first expo and this whole year of business, my first,  that what will be will be.

It was just over one year ago today that I didn’t even have any #balls. I was trying to make my life & living being a health coach and speaker in a field that is influxed with ‘professionals’. What I have found that success in this takes not only a long time but its all about who you know and being honest, your social media following.

 “I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.”  Michael Jordan

It was with desperation to pay my rent that I created a product (I was actually lucky, the #balls happened. I was surprised myself that they did with no recipes  but worked first go for my first 3 love ball range flavours).

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Now 1 year on, as I continuously read personal development books (currently the E myth & Inspiration from Lisa Messenger) my business that has no business plan, a business that was created out of desperation not to be homeless, is it’s at its adolescent stage. Grown from being a baby business, something I wasn’t quite sure was real or in fact sustainable…just operating week to week, now has its own little legs and is starting to run {if your familiar with the book and the reference of adolescence you’ll also know that at this stage my business is running me, I’m not running it and that’s my the best place to be).

 “If you are not embarrassed by the first version of your product, you’ve launched too late.”  –Reid Hoffman

{the above quote! So true…Ive done so many things and have later thought what was I thinking? But its good to laugh, look back, change and move forward}

I cannot begin to write the extent of struggles I’ve experienced; from not being able to pay rent on several occasions, not being able to pay power bills. To having to put $5 petrol in, or do deliveries with the E light on. To breaking down emotionally in public then having to walk into a meeting with a potential new client. Having to rush to a the nearest bathroom facilities to throw up (stress sickness). To feeling all alone with no support (even though I have a world of support around me). 

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To now, 1 year later about to exhibit with my own team of #ballers, at the largest fitness and health exhibition in Australia after making a statement lat year that I would have my own stand this year. To expose my business: something I have created from nothing, product to logos, design….everything that is Clean Treats to approximately 30,000 people.

To the moments that I have cried tears of happiness. To feeling my heart so full it could burst. To feeling 200% in tune with my passion and my purpose. 

 “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t — you’re right.”  –Henry Ford

And truth be told not everyday I awake with passion stronger than caffeine. Some days it is about one foot in front of the other.

I’m now ready to pass on the things that give me headaches: finances, tax etc so I can ensure allll of my energy is focused on the things I now how to do and can do them well (sales, sharing love, playing with balls 🙂

Business is my game & creating a healthy happy change in the world is my goal.

“The critical ingredient is getting off your butt and doing something. It’s as simple as that. A lot of people have ideas, but there are few who decide to do something about them now. Not tomorrow. Not next week. But today. The true entrepreneur is a doer, not a dreamer.”  –Nolan Bushnell

I truly believe the universe gave me an avenue (because believe me I am not a great cook, & sometimes I don’t particularly like 14hr days in the kitchen, or having to spend the 4 day easter weekend in prep with 5000 balls before the fitness expo) to be the best that I can be. To test every skill I have ever acquired from working for some of the best companies in Australia; Pevonia Botanica, Flush Fitness, Napoleon Perdis. All companies created by someone with a dream. Someone with drive, belief and the tenacious self belief to say yes to a world that will say no. I remember to this day when the CEO of pevonia Botanica (a leading proffessional skin care company) inspired us, his team of 15 sales reps that he once had to go out door knocking. He had to walk the streets to get accounts. 7 years later the company was turning over $8million and awarded best skin care distributor (this was a while ago). Because he believed. And he did the work.

 “Don’t be afraid to assert yourself, have confidence in your abilities, and don’t let the bastards get you down.”  –Michael Bloomberg

The purpose of this post (I have missed writing!!) is to say thank you.

To everyone who has been or is still part of my journey. Whether you hate me or love me, like me or don’t…you have influenced me in some way.

If you have a dream chase it.
Do everything you can.
(You have to let go of your ego and pride sometimes; for example when you have to ask your baby brother to bail you out for rent #loveyou)
Back yourself. And be prepared to do what needs to be done. To say no to dinner or a social engagement because you have to work.
There is no balance in the beginning. This I know. You have to live and breathe your business, because you are everything and the only thing it has. When it’s you, and only you trying to make ends meet with no financial backers, you’ve got to do what needs to be done…hrs upon hrs of work…commiting to a goal, a dream noone can see but you. You have be the the chef, the social media pro, the business manager, the admin assistant, the delivery man, the accountant, the communications, strategist, product packer… everything above and beyond any lines. Its all you. 

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I have HUGE dreams. And they scare me.
I’m getting tired of being the small guy to some companies, told no repeatedly or just treated with a blaze approach (think orders/suppliers etc) so it’s time I put in place some big systems and take action to be where and who I want to be. 
In writing that, I also know I am exactly where I should be, in this exact moment. Learning everyday. Taking a jump, running fast, falling down, and sometimes barely even crawling towards my dreams. But I am always going in the right direction towards them.
I am excited (especially for new packaging, new procedures and some new partnerships that I am creating/will make happen because I want to run my business not have it run me).
I’m not perfct. I make mistakes (everydayyyyyyy) but I am trying (and yes I left that spelling mistake there).

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And so should you. Because together we can be the change the world needs.

Love, Charlie x.

{from The Clean Treats Factory}

I believe. Do you?

A woman or a girl; how to tell.

As  I am changing my life, working every day on my dreams whilst still trying to be the best person I can be (kind, thoughtful, loving, giving), I truly feel like I am becoming a woman.

“A girl wants attention, a woman wants respect. A girl wants to be adored by many. A woman wants to be adored by one.” -anonymous

What is the difference between a woman and a girl? How can you tell?

Being a woman brings a cultivated sense of self. As you get older, you become wiser. A very true age old saying.

 

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‘I like being a woman, even in a man’s world. After all, men can’t wear dresses, but we can wear the pants.’ Whitney Houston

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being either. I just wanted to express my thoughts about my feelings, and experiences of what I believe is entering womanhood.

You learn not to sweat the small stuff, you learn about true relationships and people. You become aware of who you are. The things you like, the things you dislike. Youve made enough mistakes to learn from (perhaps are still learning and your ok with that).

After years of hard work, growing and learning some woman find it objectionable to be labelled or called a girl. It’s as though being a ‘woman’ rather than a girl demands respect. Weve done the hard work, lived through the highs and lows of life and have chosen the lives we currently live. We have been tested with lifes tribulations and proved that we are worthy of a beautiful life.

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noun
  1. an adult human female
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noun
  1. a female child.

‘It takes people a long time to learn the difference between talent and genius, especially ambitious young men and women.’ Louisa May Alcott

I recently read in an article; I go to work with woman, I go shopping with the ‘girls’ (obviously woman but meaning a sense of freedom, about letting our inner child come out). Is there pressure as a woman to always be composed? Perhaps so. Woman have a demeanour, a sense of knowing, you may even call it ‘pressure’ placed on them. Especially to ‘make it’ in this fast paced world. I know there are several woman I aspire to be like and they always hold themselves with composure, speak words of truth and are true to who they are. They just know who they are, and what they want, and what they need to do to attain it.

As a woman you create a confidence. A confidence that comes from a trust of yourself.

‘People think at the end of the day that a man is the only answer [to fulfillment]. Actually a job is better for me.’ Princess Diana

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We can develop these senses through more self-love work, more positive affirmations, more healthy habits.

Every day you are creating change in your life, every small step today is towards your future self. My gosh, even the food you eat today, is what you become…your skin cells turnover every 28 days (approx and this does slow down as we age), the food you eat creates the cells within your body…Are you making the right choices? You really are what you eat.

Do men prefer woman or girls, well I guess that is up to the individual man. Some of my male friends prefer ‘yes’ girls, the type that aren’t pre committed to their own career instead want their woman/girl to  commit to their own beck and call (which is also fine if that works for you).

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‘Smart women love smart men more than smart men love smart women.’ Natalie Portman

Girls have a tendency to believe that the world revolves around image; woman know its whats on the inside that counts.

Girls may believe a man will be their financial saviour; woman know they can be their own financial success.

Girls play games; woman don’t.

Girls look for someone to look after them; woman look for others to look after.

Girls change themselves depending on their man or situation; woman have a firm set of beliefs and sense of self regardless of the situation or man.

Girls speak without integrity; Woman offer integrity in everything they do.

Girls have not yet learnt the value of their body and will use it for attention, flaunting & disrespectfully; woman have learnt the body is priceless to be treasured and shared with someone special.

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“After spending time with a girl, you feel exhausted because she takes more than she gives. After spending time with a woman, you feel invigorated, because she empowers you with possibility, and a passion for life.”  N. Mah

{Please note this is not an ALL girls or ALL woman are like the above post}

After all,we are all beautiful creations. But believe me if I could give my 20yr old self some of the wisdom I know now, I would have changed a few of my ways 😉 In writing that, I wouldnt be where I am today and wouldnt have my story to tell, which is so perfectly imperfect, Im grateful.

Love & light, Charlie x.

All I aim for now is to be respected. Not loved or even liked (but if wither then this makes me happy), but respected for my grind, for my dream chasing, for my passion to create change.

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What is love really?

As you know, Im a single girl in the city.

player2A question I get asked ALL the time is ‘why are you single?’ {if I knew I presume I wouldn’t be lol}.

As I contemplate dating, putting myself out there, I’ve been speaking to my girls, some single, some married {that yes I have the biggest couple crushes on}.

What is love?

What do we perceive it to be? An all encompassing, just knowing that this one person is ‘the one’? That you shall never touch another for the rest of your life? Is unconditional love something we use as an excuse to accept bad behaviour? (but I just love him/her so much…Im sure weve all said those words).

What exactly do I want? I was recently advised to do ‘the list’, with everything I would like from someone I would want in my life. We know that the universe gives us what we ask for if we send a clear message (and I know that mine is definitely unclear, but what I do want is someone who has passion, who is a dream chaser, who understands what its like to work for yourself, someone who wants to create a change in the world. How amazing would that be??)

The funny thing is I get this crazy excited/nervous when I actually do have a date, because they are so few and far between (unlike some people who are dating pros and have conquered the art of it), that when it isnt all butterflies, ‘wow’, or magic I dont make it past the first date. In fact I am a one date wonder.

“That’s when I finally got it. I finally understood. It wasn’t the thought that counted. It was the actual execution that mattered, the showing up for somebody. The intent behind it wasn’t enough. Not for me. Not anymore. It wasn’t enough to know that deep down, he loved me. You had to actually say it to somebody, show them you cared. And he just didn’t. Not enough.” ― Jenny Han

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How do you find someone you even like enough to invest your time in? And yes I know…its only the movies, or a coffee, I shouldnt take it so seriously but right now in my life, time is my most valuable commodity. With a startup business I am a Baller, business development manager, admin staff, accountant, social media pro (well amateur really), delivery man and everything else in between.

“Most men claim to desire driven, independent and confident women. Yet when confronted with such a creature reverence often evolves into resent. For just like women, men need to be needed.”  ―Tiffany Madison

I want love in my life.

But Im not sure what it is and it seems Im getting more and more confused. My ideals of lifetime monogamous marriages are broken by the countless married people who cheat, divorce. The dating minefield thats sometimes so secret you have no idea who else theyre seeing (and it can be pretty close to your circle)…Im just confused.

I thought that I had true love in my life before. 3 times Ive had what I would call were ‘great loves’, but yet none of them were the ‘forever love’. A lets get married, I choose you forever and always love (ahh I cant wait for that).

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The movies and romance novels tell us that it should be an all-encompassing ‘you just know’ feeling. An ‘I would go to the end of the world and back for you’ statement that feels natural. They lead us to believe that a real love requires huge romantic notions, declarations and a not so happy story to go with it.

Does love mean that you put someone else before yourself, your own dreams, wants and needs?

“No matter what has happened. No matter what you’ve done. No matter what you will do. I will always love you. I swear it.” C.J Redwine

We expect romantic notions…flowers, cute texts, surprise presents, poetry (perhaps thats just me, and men, surely by now youve had to watch/endure enough rom coms to know that the expectation levels are being set high…we all want the fairytale)

We expect to be able to stay up all night with someone sharing our fears and greatest dreams (when was the last time you did this with someone, let them in so deep into your soul, into the being that you really are?)

We expect a connection. Those butterflies, the whole zoo. We expect to just know the instant we meet that special someone.

Yet were living a world were people are together just to be together. Are we so scared of being alone that we are settling? Would you prefer to be with anyone rather than no one? Is dating/putting yourself out there a must do to find your true love? Where are you meant to find someone compatible? And no Facebook messages asking for coffee arent considered.

As we get older the pressure starts…believe me Im feeling it. I just turned 31. And yes, I had that 30 goal; a husband, beautiful home and a family. I dealt with these unrealistic pressures last year with a mini meltdown before my birthday, and whilst 30 and this year so far have been the best in my life, I can definitely feel the pressure of looking for love; that special someone who cares, who will hold your hand (hopeless romantic in me beleives that hand holding is more intimate than sex) Time is ticking 😉 & thanks to family Im reminded of this and that I better ‘get started’… I see beautiful babies and everything internally goes warm. I want one. Oh that maternal instinct.

“And in her smile I see something more beautiful than the stars.” Beth Revis

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But first. Love.

Where to find it??? (and yes I am on tinder #nojudgment, some of my beautiful friends have lots of success with this, I not surprisingly dont). And no, a facebook message ‘come over for cuddles’, or ‘your hot’ does not make the grade to stimulate conversation or spending of my time.

We throw the love word around everyday, we say I love you to social media friends that weve never met.

But what does it really mean? The L word. 4 little letters with such a BIG meaning.

“It’s one thing to fall in love. It’s another to feel someone else fall in love with you, and to feel a responsibility toward that love.”David Levithan

Love.

Learn to love yourself. Love your life. Love what you see in the mirror. Love your imperfections.

The best love is self love.

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I know that the best relationship of your life is with yourself. Believe me Im working on this everyday…but how long do I have to wait to give my love to someone else?

Love & light, Charlie x.

I am a dreamer, a lover, a giver…and I want to be an exception.

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…”  ―Elizabeth Gilbert

You have to do the {hard} work.

Ive posted this before and as Im evaluating all of my systems, procedures, new products, new menus, new staff and ….#everything in my life (I am living in hope that once this chaotic mess of systems and procedures is sorted Ill be back to living in organised bliss #growing pains) I felt the need to not only re-read it, but print it for my vision board, right next to my business beliefs and what I need to do to achieve the 200% growth Im aiming for.

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The below is reposted from Dan Waldschmidt;

You have to make the call you’re afraid to make.

You have to get up earlier than you want to get up.

You have to give more than you get in return right away.

You have to care more about others than they care about you.

You have to fight when you are already injured, bloody, and sore.

You have to feel unsure and insecure when playing if safe seems smarter.

You have to lead when no one else is following you yet.

You have to invest in yourself even though no one else is.

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Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.

– Dale Carnegie

 

You have to look like a fool while you’re looking for answers you don’t have.

You have to grind out the details when it’s easier to shrug them off.

You have to deliver results when making excuses is an option.

You have to search for your own explanations even when you’re told to accept the “facts”.

It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.

– Albert Einstein

You have to make mistakes and look like an idiot.

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You have try and fail and try again.

‘I am not the richest, smartest or most talented person in the world, but I succeed because I keep going and going and going.’ Sylvester Stallone

You have to run faster even though you’re out of breath.

You have to be kind to people who have been cruel to you.

You have to meet deadlines that are unreasonable and deliver results that are unparalleled.

You have to be accountable for your actions even when things go wrong.

You have to keep moving towards where you want to be no matter what’s in front of you.

You have to do the hard things.

The things that no one else is doing. The things that scare you. The things that make you wonder how much longer you can hold on.

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Those are the things that define you. Those are the things that make the difference between living a life of mediocrity or outrageous success.

The hard things are the easiest things to avoid.  To excuse away. To pretend like they don’t apply to you.

The simple truth about how ordinary people accomplish outrageous feats of success is that they do the hard things that smarter, wealthier, more qualified people don’t have the courage — or desperation — to do.

Do the hard things. You might be surprised at how amazing you really are.

‘Don’t listen to what anybody says except the people who encourage you. If it’s what you want to do and it’s within yourself, then keep going and try to do it for the rest of your life.’ Jake Gyllenhaal

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YES. A reminder for us all. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it (and the hard times make the good times oh sooo much better!)

Love, Charlie x.

The highlighted are my notes to self 😉 DONT THINK ABOUT IT TO MUCH (re that to do list).