The thief of all joy; Comparison

I am lucky enough to be reaping the rewards of my hard work in a few areas of my life.

I am finding that the popular quote ‘you can never beat a person who doesnt give up) is true.

I feel proud, excited and exuberant; everything I am working towards and for is coming true, my dreams were/are becoming my reality. Im so excited about some BIG things that I am visualising into my reality (opening events, scents, layout, design etc already planned), that theyre keeping me awake at night (then through the day I feel like I am day dreaming as I drive past ‘for lease’ signs). I feel this dream beating in my heart, running through my veins, already knowing it will become real.

Yet sometimes I find myself comparing my successes to what I think other people around me are achieving (thanks to the social media highlight reel).

‘Comparison is an act of violence against the self’. Iyanla Vanzant

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How is this possible? Everything I had ever wanted in my life is unfolding before my eyes (still waiting on my tall, dark handsome Mr right ;), every day I receive news of something new and exciting that is happening, I wake up in the morning excited for what the day will bring.

Yet I still seem to self sabotage myself. It is as though my inner self doesn’t want to allow my happiness. Oh hello old self-liniting belief.

Why do we compare ourselves to others when we should be living our own lives to the best of our capabilities? Why are we so quick to look from the outside in and judge; their life must be better?

I know I’m not the only one who suffers this terrible habit, we all do it… (even if you claim you don’t); for example, the cyber stalking of your new guys or girls ex…to compare yourself and judge that person. Just last night as I couldnt sleep I (naughtily ) indulged in some SM stalking, before I knew it, I was in such a deep vortex of IG I didnt even know where I was. Id checked out someone in america, before being redirected to Melbourne and so on.

” Enjoy your own life without comparing that of another’. Marquis de Condorcet

We need to keep that inner negative voice quiet and enjoy the successes we make. We are all on our own journeys and everything that is meant for you will come to you at the right time.

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‘What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you’. Ralph Waldo Emerson

Always keep an attitude of gratitude and stop the comparison. The intriguing thing about comparison is that generally you are comparing yourself to a version of a persons life  that they portray to the world (social media is brilliant at this, everyone’s life looks perfect), you have no real idea about what that persons difficulties are, where they have come from to get where they are or their life, you are comparing yourself to a perception. Nothing that is real. So stop now (note to myself).


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As I am building my business, & hopefully soon I can warrant saying Empire; comparison is definitely becoming a regular occurrence in my mind. With the advance of selfies, facebook updates and letting the world know where & what your doing, its tough not to compare business growth, popularity and demand.

Especially when its just me. Im just here doing what I can with what I have.

I constantly have to remind myself that I am doing this for me. Im following my dream to create a healthy change in the world. Just as you should remind yourself, you are living your life for you.

Everybody’s version fo happiness is different. Do what makes you happy.

Because someone has a great body, a fancy car, or the perfect husband does not equal a life of happiness.

‘To love is to stop comparing’ Bernard Grasset

 

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‘Dont compare your beggining to someone elses middle’ Jon Acuff

Beat your inner critic; Stop comparing:

Acknowledge comparison as a bad habit. Acknowledge when you do it, how often you do it, and reflect on whats going on in your life that’s making you feel less than successful. Perhaps theres an area that needs some attention.

Be true to yourself. Once you accept that you are different (and that difference is beautiful), you will be on the way to truly allowing yourself to be happy. Your life is yours. Everything that is in it or was, and is to be, is something you have created, whether good or bad, its YOURS.

Set your own goals. Are you comparing yourself to other people because they look successful? No doubt they have set their own personal goals, working towards their dream. Just as you should. Stop wasting your precious time and energy, consuming your mind with what other people are up to…focus that energy on your goals, your plan…what do you want to achieve? Write it down and make it happen.

So today, as busy as it has gotten, I’m going to remember that I am more than blessed to have created this. Busy is good. I am thankful.

At the end of the day, do what makes you feel right. I have purposely unfollowed and blocked any similar products on the market, because why do i need to know what they are up to? Of course theres a degree of market research, but honestly, trust your own instincts, follow your own brand beliefs and do what is in line with your business goals.

Love & light, Charlie x.

It is my life, my way. I get to make decisions, and mistakes…and for that I am grateful.

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Monday Motivation…Marina Passalaris {Beautiful Minds}

You know when you meet people and you just feel ‘WOW’. Marina Passalaris is one of those types of people that make you instantly fall in love with the way her smile lights her face, the depth in her words and the manner in which she acts.

I have been lucky enough to work with Marina & her beautiful program for teenage girls. Its designed to educate teenagers and their parents how to achieve happiness through vital life skills, self-esteem, confidence building and grooming. Marina is also a radio presenter, author and has been featured in many national & international acclaimed press.

‘I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.’ Audrey Hepburn

 

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Charlie: You are a successful business woman and the creator of Beautiful Minds, what do you attribute this success to?

Success is very simple..it boils down to having a clear vision, being lazer focused, working incredibly hard and knowing that giving up is neither a choice or an option.

Charlie: When did you decide to you wanted to be involved in the wellness industry?

I spent 15 years working as a grooming and deportment educator and make up artist in some of the top modelling agencies in Cape Town, London, Germany and Australia. This industry is known for negatively affecting girl’s confidence. I realised that there was a real need to educate girls more about their emotions and well-being. I wanted to achieve this by doing the Beautiful Minds courses in an environment that was conducive to all girls of any size and from any background, not just model ‘wanna be’s’. I wrote a program that I wish I had done as a young girl. It covers everything about being a teen girl in today’s society. Beautiful Minds has been a vision of mine for many years. I want to show young girls that they are beautiful inside and out.

 

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Charlie: What inspired you to follow your passion?

If you know what your passion in life is, what your purpose is and what you want your legacy to be, you will pursue it with everything you have.

Charlie: How do you feel as an inspirational figure/mentor?

I don’t look at myself as an inspirational figure as that has a tendency to place me on a pedestal. It is more about the sharing of knowledge and passing this onto my Beautiful Minds students in the hope they will go on to create incredible lives for themselves.

‘Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.’ Norman Vincent Peale

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Charlie: Has there been any challenges along your journey?

I would say rising above the ‘rip offs’. What I mean by this is that when you have a successful company, other individuals try and copy exactly what you are doing. I have had this experience and the blatant copying is rather outrageous. I have learnt to take it as a weird compliment that we must be doing something right. I also ensure that the business model changes and constantly improves so we are always top of our game.

‘You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.’ Albert Camus

Charlie: How do you maintain balance between your Career and personal health?

find it a bit of a juggle at times but as I am getting older, I am really starting to invest more in my health. I try and have one full day off a week, I eat really clean food and I try to exercise as often as possible. I have started having regular massages and putting time aside for me to just be still and to unwind.

Charlie: What do you believe are the keys to success in business?

You have to give people an incredible experience. They are buying into a feeling, how you make them feel when they have finished doing business with you. That is imperative. Under promise and over deliver.

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Charlie: What is your advice for anyone who has a dream?

We all have dreams but there is a huge difference between having a dream and taking small steps towards making this dream a reality. Be fearless, take action and chase the dream so it becomes a reality. Women are incredible, we are much stronger than we give ourselves credit for! Go after the life you desire. It may not be easy, but it will be worth it. I understand that fear stops people from doing many things but if your desire is stronger than your fear, you will find a way to do it.

Charlie: What can we look forward to next from you?

As the business has been going for 8 years, it has evolved over time. Beautiful Minds is about to totally change the way we educate young girls and we are in the process of setting up a very exciting event for girls aged 11 – 17. This event will be at The Paddington Town Hall on Saturday 6th September and is a full day jam packed with celebrities, guest speakers, dance troupes, music, dj’s and so much more! The aim of the day is to educate, inspire and entertain our youth. We have 550 tickets and these go on sale on April 10th. This event will then be rolled out Australia wide. There are so many incredible things happening in the Beautiful Minds office at the moment and the growth of the company is extremely exciting.

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‘Be happy with what you have and are, be generous with both, and you won’t have to hunt for happiness.’ William E. Gladstone

Charlie: Top 3 healthy tips/advice?

1: Every night, I listen to positive affirmations or subliminal music that will positively feed my mind as I fall asleep. I believe in training the mind every single day. We are all taught to exercise our bodies for at least 30 minutes every day. We need to do the same with our minds. This will significantly slow down the mental chatter as you re-program your mind to think positively.

2: Drink lots of water and get adequate sleep each night

3: Eat healthy, clean food. Your body and mind will thank you for it.

I sincerly thank Marina for her time. If you know of anyone who would like to attend her events, or if you would like to stay up to date with her classes and seminars available:

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{Yes, Im so proud and lucky to be included in the upcoming INSPIRE workshop…Book now, it will sell out!!!}

Instagram: Beautifulminds

Love & light, Charlie x.

Feeling my exhausted self, restored with love after reading this. Thank you.

The Skin Expert…The importance of Cleansing

For those of you (myself included) that perhaps neglect to take your makeup of at night time, this is for you, I also thought cleansing would be a brilliant place to start for ‘The Skin Expert’.

 

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So lets start with one of the most imperative steps to your skincare regime…Cleansing.

Why its important…not to mention the amount of makeup we pile on our faces to be more attractive, but throughout the day we are exposed to environmental toxins, all the suff we can’t see;

  • Persistent organochlorine pollutants (such as dioxins, PCBs some pesticides)
  • Chemicals (such as solvents, formaldehyde, vinyl chloride, some pesticides, ingredients in cosmetics or other substances applied directly to skin)
  • Metals (such as nickel, chromium, etc.)

Our skin is the largest organ of the body and its job is to protect our internal organs. Your skin is the first step of protection and an integral part of your immune system. The skin breathes; inhales (oxygen and nutrients) and exhales, it senses heat, cold, pressure . Also, what we eat becomes us. The food we choose this month, is effectively next months skin. I know myself, if I havent been on form, healthy eating, exercising and thinking…Ill see this in my skin.

Some people may experience skin disease and disorders such as eczema, psoriasis, dermatitis or even pigmentation as a result from toxins on the skin and in the body.

Keep it simple. Cleanse.

Theres no need to invest your $$$ on an ‘advanced’ cleansers, your cleanser is only designed to be on the skin for a few moments, which in this time is not long enough for ‘those’ expensive or ‘miracle’ ingredients to be absorbed all the way to the germinativum layer (the lower level of the epidermis).

What to use?

My advice, stay away from any product containing Sodium Laurel Sulfate (a highly toxic ingredient used by many products to ‘foam’, sometimes seen as SLS), use gentle cleansing products that don’t leave the skin feeling tight or stripped. Generally if you are left with this feeling, the products you have used may contain alcohol, or if it is an active product (alpha hydroxy acids etc) you may have over used the product therefore causing damage to the skins natural defence barrier (also called the rheins barrier). This can also be seen in the skin by an uneven redness. If you start to notice this, monitor the products you are using and how long you are using them for.

A few of my favourite organic skin care cleansers:

Aeos Cleansing Oil De-Maq; a beautiful blend of sesame, avocado and spelt oil to effectively remove makeup (including eye) and surface toxins. This range also incorporates blends of plants extracts with energies from gems and crystals.

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Alexami Purifying Gentle cleanser, Aloe vera based so its excellent for sensitive skin (I personally suffer from Rosacea, one of the most difficult skin concerns to treat), white tea as an antioxidant and chamomile. Gentle, yet effective and smells delicious.

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People for Plants Foaming Gel Cleanser; containing grapefruit as a refreshing, revitalising extract, this is brilliant for combination skin (especially for that time of the months ladies when you experience breakout because from hormonal changes). Also containing Aloe Vera to calm. This brand is also cruelty free.which I LOVE!

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So whats the harm in sleeping with your makeup on? Well as your skin cells naturally desquamate (this means dead skin cells are forced off the surface of the skin as the new skin cells come through. Skin cells have approx a 28 day turnover process) at night time. When you sleep with that makeup on (that enhances your natural beauty)…your skin isn’t able to proliferate these cells properly (so its actually doing the opposite). They cannot breathe and in fact you’re ensuring that the makeup gets trapped within the skin cell layers causing congestion and toxins within the layers of the skin.

If you experience underlying congestion (when you run your fingertips over your skin and feel ‘something’ underneath), this may be a reason.

Get cleansing. Every night. Then nourish with renewing, active ingredients (that’s a post for another day).

So, with just a little insight as to the importance of cleansing, I hope that tonight you do (and every other night).

Love the skin you’re in,

The Skin Expert x.

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Self love Sunday…self care (is important)

Perhaps it’s because I surround myself with women that are ‘go getters’, you know, the ones that are always on the go, they have dreams and aspirations, they are those ones who are crazy enough to believe they can change the world (and I have no doubt they will), but I have found that there is feeling of exasperation that’s increasing…the feeling of the weight of the world on your shoulders, even if it is only your surrounding world (that’s more than enough).

‘To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.’ Thich Nhat Hanh

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You see for these strong, focus driven, dream chasers their surrounding worlds; partners, lovers, friends and family depend on them and turn to them as a constant source of support and inspiration. Which is of course brilliant, but as I have found, as a giver, a lover, peace sharer; we tend to just keep giving.

Self love Sunday is about reigniting that little light within yourself that can start to dimmer throughout the long week, as sometimes you may give too much or as life throws you challenges. Self love sunday is your time to restore. However self-care is usually the first thing that we compromise, when really, how can we expect to be a source of strength and guidance for others when we arent feeling more than 110% (because I have discovered you need more than that to be able to do so)?

Self love Sunday, invest in yourself. Self care is the most valuable investment you will ever make. Do it regularly.

You deserve it, you are worthy, self care is a NON negotiable.

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‘Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.’ Carl Gustav Jung

Use this time to check in with yourself, how are you going? How are you feeling? Stop. Truly ask yourself, how am I feeling? If your feeling a little out of sorts or under pressure, ask yourself, what do I need in this very moment? You have within you the answers you seek, its imperative we take this time to be still and listen.

So, your self care may be different than mine after all we are indiciduals. After 30 years of learning to love myself, my body, my (sometimes/most the time, complicated) mind, my investment is:

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Firstly, Im cleansing, my body and also my week.

Babe Himalayn Salt scrub – Get a juicy booty…yes please!

1. Himalayan salts mixed with almond and essential oils.

Simply apply in the shower when wet and scrub.

Removes excess dead skin cells. Did you know as you age your skin cell proliferation process sloowwwwws down, this means dead skin cells stay stuck to the surface of the skin for a longer period of time leaving the complexion dehydrated, aged and dull? Say no, and get your glow on with this salt scrub. I will be focusing on particular problematic areas (that lovely addition some of us are graced with, because our bodies are gorgeous with or without it…cellulite). Manual massage over these areas will improve your lymphatic system which is your body’s waste removal system, therefore helping you to remove those disgusting toxins that don’t belong in your beautiful body, and that cause our least favourite attribute…cellutlie.

2. Alexami purifying gentle cleanser.

Certified Organic Australia; this means NO parabens (interesting fact, parabens have been found in breast cancer tissue), no mineral oil, no propylene Glycol, no SLS (I will be writing more on this Sodium Laurel Sulphate and its dangers in the upcoming weeks on The Skin Expert), no synthetic fragrances or artificial colours.

Say yes to feeding your skin organic goodness.

This cleanser has one of my favourite ingredients…White Tea plus Chamomile for calming, Vitamin E, antioxidants (they fight the free radical damage/toxins) and elderberry extract. It sounds good enough to eat, and the beauty of organic products is that they are. It’s imeprative you cleanse your skin every night, twice if you wear makeup to remove the environmental toxins, dirt and impurities.

Then I’m going to nourish my beautiful body (always repeat positive affirmations, every positive thought you have is a seed, and they will grow. The truly priceless relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself).

Body: Dr Lewinns Tone up Body Moisturiser

Advanced Liposome technology, which means the ingredients are designed to be delivered into the lower levels of your skin. Alpha Lipoic acid is an antioxidant with the unique ability to recycle Vitamin C and gluthianone once used within the body (this means you get more nutrient value). Again, I will be paying particular attention to ‘those’ areas and ensuring my movements are upwards towards the heart (this helps to flush the toxins to the lymph nodes located in the groin (femoral or inguinal).

‘You can’t build joy on a feeling of self-loathing.’ Ram Dass

Face: AlexamiExotic8 Facial Oil

Certified organic & blends together 8 restorative essential oils, plus Acerola berry (antioxidant and some studies show it can promote the production of collagen, which as you may know naturally slows down as we age) and Black tea (protects against UVB and has been called the natural alternative to sunscreen, it also helps repair the damage caused by UV rays, the damage that leads to mutated cells and can then lead to cancer).

Its ideal to use high quality products laden with antioxidants and beneficial ingredients in particular at night time as this is when the skin cell renewal process takes place. Your body is releasing growth hormone and trying to repair the free radical and toxin damage down throughout the day, give it a little helping hand with restorative products.

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Then…relax time. What I call ‘Charlie time’, a good book, my new-found addiction (that is good for me) Pukka tea and a delicious soma bite (you must try these as a healthy treat if you havent yet). Certified 100% natural organic, no added sugar (no guilt, I LOVE), and gluten free AND homemade…yum. These little treasures also contain Goji berries (another addiction), Chia seeds and almonds, super food; super treat

‘You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection.’ Buddha

And lastly but definitely not least, I will be resting my clean, nourished, relaxed self on my new Slip (for beauty sleep) pillowcase, made from Mulberry Silk; anti-ageing, anti-wrinkle and anti bed head hair (yes, I am a little bit of a product nerd I am so excited, I have had this all week, but because I believe in making things special/rituals and appreciating the small things, I thought it would be perfect tonight). I will be resting my cleanse, nourished skin on these the deluxe slips as I mediate for a productive week.

Yes, I would say this is a self-care evening, preparing my skin, my body and my mind for the amazing week ahead (which I already know will be full of opportunities, because thats all I choose to see).

Whatever it is you are doing…make time for YOU. You deserve it, you are worthy, you are your #1 priority.

Love & light,

Charlie x.

‘The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself  Steve Maraboli

{Dont forget my belief system is, everything in balance, yes I promote organic where possible, but I also appreciate advanced product technology}

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Practice the gift of giving…

Christmas, a time to give gifts, show appreciation and share love.

‘If you have only one smile in you give it to the people you love.’ Maya Angelou

Give a gift of wellbeing to your special someone. A gift that shows you care.

 

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‘A friend is a gift you give yourself.’ Robert Louis Stevenson

In life we are sometimes lucky enough to meet those people who make everything better, those people who have the ability to light up our world. Sometimes in life we all need a helping hand.

Be Well; the Project is a 4 week program; divided into Mind, Body and Soul.

Perhaps you know someone who needs to return to themselves? To find their inner peace, some self love? Someone who wants to be happier and healthier? Be Well; the Project provides daily healthy habits and health coaching to help you become the very best version of yourself.

 

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‘A simple sentence to say, a simple sentence to write, a very simple sentence to read, however as life rushes by in the blink of an eye, as we continually get caught up in things that really don’t matter, it is a hard task to live by. Charlie has opened my eyes to the importance of taking time to inhale love, to return to my true self, to be calm to be still.

I personally love reflecting on Charlie’s blog, and will often have it opened as I work through my day, her Inspirational thoughts and positive words jump off the page, motivating me to commit to being the BEST version of myself.

“Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know.” – Pema Chodron.

I am honored to have been able to introduce my members, my friends to Charlie: Charlie’s presence and inner beauty captivated the ladies at our seminar. As the seminar progressed, not one of us felt like we were being judged, as Charlie spoke we all listened, her honesty was so refreshing. This lady is not perfect, she is not an illusion she is simply present, you can feel her energy, her passion and you simply cannot help but be swept along on the magical ride that is Charlie De Haas.’

Stronger than yesterday, Judie Osbourne. Anytime Fitness Batemans Bay

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‘Charlie came into my life at a time of total confusion and no direction. I had just completed tough competition prep and needed some direction and guidance to get my body back in a healthy balance. In such a short time she has become so much more then that! She has become a daily inspiration not just for myself but also for so many of my like-minded girlfriends.  I think that’s ONE of the beauties of Charlie, she makes us all feel so empowered and positive and shows us how to let out ourselves truly shine. After attending her seminar I left feeling on top of the world and this buzz lasted for days (and is still hanging around). She has a way of sharing her message in a raw and special way that has shown us that we are all unique and beautiful in our own ways. So blessed to have such an inspirational woman in my life and cannot thank her enough for her constant motivation, beautiful words and honesty that she shares everyday.’ Hailee

 

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Life is a beautiful struggle and every now & then we all need some help.

Email me for more information about Gift Certificates charlie@charliedehaas.com.au

Love & light, Charlie x.

Share some real love this Christmas, some magic and some wellness.

 

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Sunday Self-love; Self Acceptance

I am learning one of the most important lessons of all time…self acceptance.

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”  Lao Tzu

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Accepting who you are. The way you look. The way you speak. The way you are.

Valuable stuff.

I’ve known for a long time that this was something I was trying to learn; to be ok with who I a, to accept myself; I’m not a supermodel, I’m not always right, I’m not a glamour queen, rather; I’m a normal girl (and prefer to be). Somedays good, some days not so much, sometimes perfect health, sometimes not so, and every day still trying to be a better version of myself, therefore still making mistakes.

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“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.”  Marilyn Monroe

It has taken me 30 years (well 29 & 11 months) to get here.

This realisation occurred to me yesterday when I was preparing myself for a seminar (Be the BEST version of yourself at Anytime Fitness in Batman’s Bay), and I decided I wouldn’t do my normal full face of makeup (that I have worn my whole life including upper & lower eyeliner with the flick, I did pack my eyeliner just in case I changed my mind), but as I looked into the mirror it occurred to me that I didn’t have to try be the most beautiful, or the prettiest, that my appearance wouldn’t be judged as much as the value of my words…I would be speaking from my heart and hopefully that light would radiate out. I didn’t need to hide behind a full face of makeup (don’t get me wrong I do love a little enhanced beauty). Society will judge you anyway so do what you want to do. I speak about being REAL, not FAKE in all aspects in life; relationships, actions, health, food choices (it’s a really simple yet effective motto to live by), so really, by hiding my REAL self, I wasnt being my authentic true self therefore not promoting the integrity I speak of.

30 years of wanting to be prettier, thinner, taller…and I’m finally here. Accepting who I am (and everything I’m not).

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You are YOU nique, why do we spend so much time trying to be like everyone else? As I’m finding my style for my brand & business & myself, it’s so fun to play with different looks & styles, the funniest part is making complete mistakes…(oops perhaps ‘that’ style doesn’t work for me). We will only find our true selves by trying. Trying on different clothing styles, trying on different eating & exercise habits, even trying on different relationship styles.

When you are happy on the inside, it changes you, it becomes you. There is a twinkle of confidence that sparkles in your eyes, a degree of authenticity, of being real. People will notice. There really is no beauty greater than inner beauty. Be that person.

It takes courage to be who you really are. Most people are scared or fearful of what society will think and say, how you will be judged. I was. But not anymore. To be comfortable in your own skin…its a pretty special feeling.

As I am building my business & my brand I’m well aware that I’m putting myself out there and open to be critiqued & judged…I have had to accept this & develop a little more strength within myself, develop my self-trust and inner belief systems, because you cannot always please everybody. In all relationships; family, love, friendships, career. Accept this and you will experience freedom to invest in the right relationships with people who love everything you are (& aren’t).

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“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.” Mark Twain

Self acceptance, acknowledging that you are not perfect in a society that perceives perfection to be a degree of success, beauty (it’s all airbrushed anyway) the clothes you wear, your social status; is priceless. You are perfectly imperfect, you are perfect exactly as you are, but you can become more if the gorgeous creation that you are.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Looks do not make the person & what you wear does not determine your worth (note to self).

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”  Gautama Buddha

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Take a walk with Nature

My favourite day of the week…Sunday Self love day.

Today, I felt like I needed to get away from it all, to have a moment of peace and calm. So I took a walk with nature.

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I let nature surround me. I felt the cool winters breeze caress my skin, marvelled at the way the sun shone down and provided me with  Vitamin D creating a sensation of wellbeing inside and out; the way the sun light is processed into Chlorophyll  to provide energy in the trees (photosynthesis); the way the trees are able to process Carbon Dioxide (toxins) into Oxygen; the way the clean fresh oxygen felt as I breathed in deeply, feeling every cell in my body celebrate. Fresh. Strong. Healthy.

There is a different feeling when you surround yourself with the natural beauty of nature.

it feels to me that my worries seem to melt away. There is a sense of calm that is created deep within me that is reassurance that everything will be ok.

When was the last time you stepped outside to appreciate the beautiful wonder of nature?

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several studies have been conducted to prove that being in Nature has been proven to enhance your mood, reduce stress and decrease mental fatigue.

Just look at Wilderness therapy; where people are needing rehabilitation or to recover, needing to get back to ‘themselves’, and are sent out to live on minimal supplies, but to appreciate nature, to return to the basics. Most patients find themselves, literally, and a sense of wellbeing nad understanding, a sense of returning to life.

‘You come to the wilderness to get in touch with yourself…You don’t come out here to get away from it all, but to get back to it all. You don’t get lost out here, you find yourself. You come home to what’s important, you come home to yourself.’ Peter Dombrovskis

Interesting fact; research by Roger Ulrich, suggests that hospitalised patients with a view of nature compared to those with none, have experience improved recovery rates. Francis Kuo’s research has shown that contact with nature, even small green spaces can enhance a child’s ability to learn and pay attention.

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‘Life and nature are similar concepts because nature is the study of how life  acts and interacts within the circle of existence. When we take the time to  examine the beauty of the world around us, we are able to see parallels within  our own lives. One who is attuned with nature is attuned with the practice of  living. All of nature moves in a spiral as do our personal lives. It is  important to spend time in nature because in this way we can become attuned to  its wisdom.’

‘If you ever suffer from insomnia, walk barefoot on the grass for ten minutes before getting into bed. Nature has a marvelous way of healing many maladies. Anytime in your life when you’re feeling out of sorts in any way, go to nature and find your peace.’ Dr Wayne Dyer

 

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Nature has a restorative effect on us. Let it heal you. all you have to do is visit, pay your respects and appreciate.

So, get outside, sit calmly under a tree (this is how Buddha evolved), run with the wind, or swim in the ocean, whatever feels good for you. do it.

‘Nature does not hurry, yet everything gets accomplished’ Lao Tzu

Love & Light, Charlie x.

Monday Motivation…

Today it is my great pleasure to share with you someone who motivates me everyday, someone who is living proof that you can overcome life’s adversities to change your life and become the person you want to be, living the life you want to live.

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Introducing Linda Fenech; Salon owner and therapist of Skin Fitness Hair and Beauty.

Linda began beauty therapy in 1993, 18 years ago. Then in 1996 bought her own salon and has grown her business to where it is today.

Linda: I have two established and busy salons in the Hawkesbury area of NSW with more business opportunities and adventures arising. I have 25 staff who are locally hired and undergo extensive training. All salons and staff have the latest up to date technology, science and trends.

All staff are very experienced in all different aspects of beauty. I have won the local business awards 10 times, winning the overall GOLD prize also for best business in the Hawkesbury and last year won overall best business person in the Hawkesbury 2010, we were awarded and made an Ambassador salon for Napoleon Perdis Makeup, With Napoleon himself inviting me to LA and NY for fashion week. We have also been rewarded with 10 trips to Paris as incentive trips from Payot Paris (prestigious skin care range).

I have a passion and dedication like no other, which is why we have achieved such great awards and results.

NBB: When did you decide you wanted a career in beauty?

I have always been an outgoing girl who just loved people and making them smile. I was 15 years old and in year ten in high school when I saw a job advertisement for an apprenticeship in beauty therapy. I wanted practice with interviewing and thought what do I have to lose. I passed the first two interviews and had a practical work day and I loved it, so much I found my career path.

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NBB: Has there been any challenges along your journey?

The absence of family and the time you spend away from them.

NBB: How do you maintain balance between your Career and personal health?

When my marriage broke down I realised I needed to step back and take some time out for me, I had lost touch with who I was and what I wanted from life. I had become depressed and lethargic.

NBB: When did you decide to create change in your life?

I woke up one day and was having a depressed day. I wanted to  pull the covers over my head again and hibernate. I got up made a cup of tea and thought about the people in my life who have overcome adversity, my mum, friends who have lost a child and I thought to myself; I am the only one that can change my situation.

It was not at first a goal to get a fit body, but a healthy mind (also if I’m honest, jealous of my ex husband and his new girlfriend, I wanted to look good).

‘you’ve got to be willing to lose everything to find yourself’. Lyanla Vanzant

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‘Your life is a result of the choices you make, if you don’t  like your life, its time to start making some better choices.’

NBB: Who are your inspirational figures?

Seriously I have a couple, My cousin David Vassallo, a really good person with heart and compassion.

Charlie, yourself, just proved to me I could do it.

Fred Hasting, He has lost alot of weight and inspired me constantly.

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NBB: How do you feel as an inspirational figure/mentor? You manage a team of young women daily (I know its not an easy task)…

My staff call me mum at times because I like to give them advice and support. Some of my team have lacked friends or family support and I love being their big sister or mum. At times with hormones etc we can all have tough days but honestly overall I hire on good hearts and trade skills. You can always trade skills and learn something however a bad attitude or mental approach is the most difficult to change.

‘What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us’ Oliver Wendell Holmes

NBB: What do you believe are the keys to success in business?
Love what you do, treat people well and work harder than anyone else.

NBB: What is your advice for anyone who has a dream?
Plan, set goals and targets and adapt when needed.

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NBB: When can we look forward to next from you?

I want a family that’s what I hope for next.

(NBB: Knowing you and your caring generous nature, you will be an amazing mother.)

NBB: Share something no one knows…

Noone knows that I actually am full of self doubt and hide it behind a smile. I believe if you think it you become it. SO I am a work in progress.

I sincerely thank Linda for her time.

If you would like to experience any amazing beauty/spa or hair treatment, visit www.skin-fitness.com.au for locations and services.

I realise there are many more inspirational stories out there, if you have an inspirational or motivational story you would like to share (it can be shared anonymously), please submit by email (charlie@charliedehaas.com.au) or personal message.

Life isn’t always easy and we all need motivation to create change for the greater good.

Love & Light, Charlie x.

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Brush your Body

Have you ever brushed your body? Perhaps this may sound absurd, but it is a daily practice I highly promote (to every single person who will listen).
In actual fact, when asked what my favourite beauty product is, I would easily and honestly reply, a dry body brush.

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I’m sure by now you are familiar with the circulatory system, the capillary network, the delivery of nutrients and oxygen throughout our body.
I want to introduce you to a system that is all to often forgotten about and we should be more aware of; your Lynphatic system.

The lymphatic system runs alongside your circulation and is responsible for the removal of waste and bacteria from your body, also known as lymph. The easiest way describe it; your lymphatic system is your body’s own waste/garbage removal system. The lymph (waste) is delivered to the lymph nodes. Lymph nodes destroy pathogens, toxins and bacteria. The lymph nodes are located at the base of the neck (cervical), armpit (axillary), collarbone (supraclavicular), lungs (mediastinal), abdomen (mesentry), and in the groin (inguinal).imagesCADKIPR7

So, how can we promote a healthy Lymphatic system???
Unlike the circulatory system which is controlled by our largest muscle; the heart, the lymphatic system requires manual manipulation to promote lymphatic drainage. Exercise (muscular contraction) , hot and cold hydrotherapy, Lymphatic massage (which if you ever have the pleasure of receiving one, is extremely light on the skin), and my favourite way to promote Lymphatic Flow; dry body brushing.

It’s as simple as a few moments each day (up to 10 minutes is sufficient), using a cactus bristle brush. Start from your feet and move upwards towards the Heart, promote the flow of the toxins onto the lymph nodes and at the same time receive these fabulous benefits:
*Exfoliation/removal of dead skin cells.
*Improved appearance of cellulite (seriously this alone is reason enough to Body brush every morning AND night.
*Assists removal of excess fluid.
*Promote delivery of nutrients to your bodys organs and skin (the largest organ within the body).

(Did I mention improves the appearance of cellulite??)

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nourish.balance.breathe suggests a NATURAL not synthetic Body Brush. Cactus bristle is my favourite.
*Brush upwards to promote Lymphatic flow & circulation towards the heart.
*Brush in the morning for lympahtic stimulation.
*Focus on (troublesome/cellulite) areas of concern.
*Clean your Brush x1 weekly with tea tree oil/water.

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And then…THANK yourself! You just started your day the right way; by assisting your body in removing (bad) toxins! No place for them in your gorgeous body!

Give yourself a little self love everyday and be on your way to Wellness.

Love & Light, Charlie x.

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Introduction

This is a dream come true for me.

All my life I have been trying to figure out who I really am and what I really wanted to be. I have always dreamed of being more then what I was, of a life that was more then just living. I have dreamed of a life lived in passion, in spirit, in wellness.
Eat. Pray. Love is a favourite book/movie of mine. In particular where one word can sum up your being.
My word is ‘balance’.

To live a life in balance, in health, inspired, in happiness. This is my goal.

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Health; a state of mind and body where the soul resides and happiness is found.

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To nourish your body, to balance your body and to breathe with your soul.

We live in a world that is overwhelmed with information and research. It can become confusing. What is right, what is wrong??? nourish.balance.breathe is a blog that will endeavour to provide information about the latest trends in health, diet, wellness, fitness, fashion & beauty, whilst always promoting biochemical individuality*.

n the con-cept that the nutritional and chemical make-up of each person is unique and that dietary needs therefore vary from person to person.

Join me on my journey to wellness, to a life lived in balance, where happiness is (every moment of every day).

Love & Light, Charlie x.

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*Please feel free to submit suggestions on topics you would like explored. This page is about creating a community of healthy happy people, where the quote ‘my religion is simple; my religion is kindness’ Buddha, is practised. Sharing love & kindness.