A ‘Can do’ Attitude

Whether think you can or you think you can’t, your right.

Think positive thoughts, and positive things will happen. It sounds so simple, yet for some people it can be everything but.

I have lived a period of my life consumed by hate & negativity. Disgruntled at the situation I was in, feeling ‘victimised’ by the situations that occurred in my life, feeling the ‘poor me’ syndrome. Always  expecting someone to reach out, to help me and just make everything better.

I wasn’t wise enough, willing to look within, or ready to comprehend the power of self love and self assurance.

We can only live this way for so long.

Aren’t you sick and tired of being sick and tired??? Isn’t it time for a change?

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The power of the mind has been studied for centuries, and is receiving more and more recognition in recent years. There have been numerous best sellers (the secret), movies and motivational speakers (Anthony Robbins) that have created empires teaching people how to change their mindset and create the life they love. In a book Im currently reading {Authentic Success, Robert Holden}, ‘The universe, looks less and less like a great machine and more and more like a great thought.’ Modern scientists who study the new physics say that the essential ‘stuff’ of the universe is not atoms, but thoughts.’

Remember, we are creatures if habit. The power to change relies on the breaking of ‘bad/unsupportive’ habits. Negative thoughts are simply bad habits, thoughts you have created in response to situations, generally as a method to self protect/soothe.

Contemplate for a moment how amazing would it feel to break a negative, bad, makes you feel everything but good, habit?

We are all intricate individuals living busy lives, pursuing happiness. It is easy to be consumed by fear and negativity.

What if you actually reached that state of happiness…now? Do you think that would make you feel good? If in this very moment, you had a sense of well being, of peace, of serenity?

Yes…you would feel good, more then good (great I expect).

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Happiness is everywhere…it is in the rising of the sun every morning to light your world, it is in the  breeze that circulates pollen to fertilise the flowers, the carbon that is removed &  oxygen that is released from trees to assist in our state of living, it is in the sun setting allowing the stars to shine bright in the night sky. 

Are these gifts from Mother Nature not happiness? Have you taken a moment to wonder at the worlds natural beauty. To stop for a moment, breathe, relax. Calm your mind. Then deal with whatever situation you are in or that may have occurred.

Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside yourself. Greater than any obstacle.

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A personal favourite mantra of mine (and I’m still learning to master this art); Respond, do not react.

We tend to react when we are acting in fear, of wanting to be right, from our ego, from a place of anger (any state that is opposite of calm).

We respond in a calm manner. Anger or negativity has subsided and we can communicate effectively.

Yes, still learning this (have been advised on many occasions, not to send ‘that’ email/text).

So, how can we break the bad habits of negative thoughts/affirmations…

‘Write it on your heart that everyday is going to be the best day of the year’ Ralph Wardo Emerson

Wake each morning with a feeling of gratitude. Be thankful for the day that you have been blessed with. Every day can be a GOOD day.

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‘There is nothing good or bad, only thinking makes it so’ Hamlet

When a negative thought occurs in your mind, acknowledge it, and let it pass by. Pay absolutely no attention to it. Negative thoughts are affirmations, just negative. The more you repeat them, the more you focus on them, the larger they will grow and suddenly it will seem you are consumed, creating big problems over potentially nothing.

Understand that the thought will pass. The feeling that you are experiencing will pass. Refocus your mind. Think of something that sends warmth into your heart, a person or place that creates a feeling of wellness within you.

Plant seeds of positivity into your mind. Just like a garden those seeds will grow. Feed them, water them, nourish them. This may include activities hat make you feel good; reading, running, yoga…DO MORE of what makes you feel good.

Have faith that you can change your life for the better. Trust yourself. Believe.

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‘The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude’ Oprah Winfrey

You can create the life you love, you just have to believe it.

My ‘Can do’ attitude was given to me by my Opa; dutch for grandfather. Who, at a very young age had us on his knee learning to drive (manual) tractors on the family farm (whether or not he was trying to teach us a lesson or train us to work on the farm/free labour, who knows?). To this day, he will remind me of my repetitive cries ÍCANT do it”. This man, who is everything any man or woman could look up to (moved to New Zealand during the war, away from family & friends and my beautiful Oma; dutch for grandmother, to create a life of opportunity, and our gorgeous family), did not believe in the words Í CANT’, so we just had to do it (I wasn’t very happy about it at the time I expect), but…I drove a manual tractor, into a few hedges but never the less, I DROVE. And to this very day I remember this lesson taught to me at a young age, if those horrendous words ‘I CANT’ enter my mind and I suffer from self doubt I hear his voice, You ‘CAN’.

*Id like to point out here, that it wasn’t about whether you drove into the hedge or the barn (a cousin of mine  has left her permanent mark), it was about trying.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Today I am choosing to be grateful that thorns have beautiful roses, rather then sad that the roses have thorns. There is good and bad in all things, let the good into your life, nourish it, and it will flourish. Believe it.

Heal your hurt; give more love.

It’s no doubt that we have all been hurt by people in our lives at some stage; family, friends, lovers.

 

It’s something I know we struggle with, the hurt, resentment, pain. How can we resolve issues that we are so sure we are RIGHT in without causing more conflict? As a very personal person {believe it or not but I do like to keep my most inner musings to myself and express through writing}, I find it has become difficult to communicate our true intentions. (Most of the time letting go of the need to be in the RIGHT, will resolve any issue).

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‘Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more.’ H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Though we live in a world where technology allows us to communicate in a mere moment, how often is it effective? How often are you expressing your true feelings, needs and thoughts? I know for myself, at least once a day I’m confused of the subtext and the context of text. Reading on the lines, between the lines…and then deciphering those emojiis.

I am beginning to understand the true power of love and release. Of being able to just let go (believe me as a traditional over analysing personality type, a person who wants to know all the whys and hows, this has been a learning curve for me). What I have found to be true, and it’s working for me, if somebody hurts you, disrespects you or treats you in a manner not aligned with your beliefs {basically in not a good way}, as much as you feel anger, hurt, sadness or pain…change those feelings with conscious thoughts of love.

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‘Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love’. Lao Tzu

It can be hard but it’s not impossible. Change your energy, and intention and instead of focusing on the bad, the words that have been said, the situation that has occurred, realise that they are only people who are doing the best they can with what they have, just like you… And send them love. Not hate. And let it go.

‘You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving’. Robert Louis Stevenson

 

This is a process and practice I am working on personally, and I have found it much better to be a giver of love rather than a creator of ill will. You can change the world that you live in by simply changing your thoughts. If you find it difficult to change from such negativity to positivity research ways that you can express yourself, via writing, fitness, reading, music…

There are many ways to release and remove bad feelings, just find what works for you. For me, if someone does something to me or acts towards me in a way I’m not quite comfortable with, Ive started my ‘give more love’ process by imagining all the good things about that person, letting go of judgement and thoughts of ‘why’, then I create love, energy and light in my heart and send it to them. Wish them well. Then I let go. Sometimes some people aren’t meant to be in our lives.

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‘Give love, then forget that you gave it’ Sun Myong Moon

Use acts of self-love to tune into the environment you want to create by the people you surround yourself with. We are a product of that environment.

Do you have deep connections or are your conversations filled with what happened in a nightclub on the weekend? Or are those conversations always negative?

As I create my dream reality I’m finding myself drawn to others who are living their own passion, those who are thankful for each day, the dreamers, the opportunity makers…they make me want to be more…to believe in myself, to be a game changer, they inspire me and my soul delights in them.

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‘Generosity is giving more than you can, and pride is taking less than you need.’ Khalil Gibran

Let love create your world. Speak words of beauty and act with intention. Let go of anything that is not creating a better world for you and in turn for them. Use love to overcome the feelings that will only bring you down; hate, hurt, pain, envy, jealousy…and remove them from your heart {remember it is ok to feel these emotions, I’m purely suggesting you don’t keep your intentions focused on them and instead, change your focus and thoughts to the most powerful feeling of all, love}

Love & light, Charlie x.

Using love to heal my heart {and I believe its working!}

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10 Habits of people who follow their dreams

I read this and had to share… how many habits of the below do you have?

{Re blog from Mind Body Green}

 

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People who are true to their purpose and are really successful didn’t always get there because they had the financial means to do so or were just lucky enough to have been brought up in a confidence boosting environment. There are actually a few common habits that have helped them get to where they are. The best part is that these are habits that anyone can attain!

1. They see challenges as opportunities

Most people interpret fears as obstacles and tend to run away from them. People who live their purpose successfully have developed the capacity to see fear as a sign of what they really need to go for and put all their courage and energy into it.

2. They see life as a game.

Having this vision of life opens up space for playfulness and creativity instead of limitation. This also cultivates qualities of resilience, problem solving and confidence that helps them take risks to get to the next big place.

3. Living the life they want is the only option.

They’re so committed to making their dreams a reality that they banish any possibility of a backup plan whatsoever from their mind. They don’t think things like, “If it doesn’t work, I’ll just go get a job.”

4. They always speak their truth.

They’re able to speak it because they make a conscious effort to connect to their truest desires, their inner voice, and their spirituality without fear of judgment. This connection is typically fostered through meditation, journaling, being mentored and being surrounded by like minded-people.

5. They aren’t just dreamers: they act on their desires.

Instead of getting stuck in their dreams, they snap right into action, no matter what it takes. Whether it’s quitting a job, getting out of a relationship that holds them back, investing in themselves or moving to a new location, they have the courage to do it. They do this by listening to, and then acting on, their intuition.

6. They expect and know that they deserve the best.

They expect that what they want is going to happen as if it were an inner-knowing. They expect and feel they deserve to earn well, do what they love, serve others using their gifts. The secret is that they still expect the best even when they don’t have all the answers as to how it’s going to happen.

7. They have no fear or guilt when asking for what they want.

Because they’re so connected to their passions, they aren’t afraid to ask for what they want. In fact, they understand that their success depends on others, so asking for what they want is part of the deal. They set their boundaries and express their needs without fear, guilt or shame. Best of all, this is a trait that earns them respect from others.

8. They create their own rules.

They create their own rules instead of fitting into society’s norms. They make decisions from a place of what they want to have instead of what they think they can have. This gives them the freedom to design their destiny.

9. They’ve learned to be comfortable being uncomfortable.

They don’t get stuck in having all the answers, making things perfect or trying to gain comfort by controlling everything. Instead, they’re aware that they’re not going to see the next step until they make the decision to move forward despite the discomfort.

10. They have teachers, mentors and role models.

Having teachers increases their awareness. They clearly understand that each time they’re getting ready to pursue their dreams all their limitations are going to come up to the surface so that they can let go of them. Having role models and mentors helps them quickly identify where they’re stuck so that they can immediately change their results.

Now, go out there and start living life to the fullest!

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Love & light, Charlie x.

Cultivate healthy habits for both your mind and your body everyday. Start each morning by thinking ‘what a beautiful day’, realise that life will happen, the goods and the bads, but train your mind to see the positive in every occurrence, and ALWAYS, ALWAYS keep an attitude of gratitude.

Envy or celebrate {others success}?

Do you find yourself envious of others success, or do you choose to celebrate their joys?

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I have found that sometimes it can be those that are closest to you that dont seem to share with you the same level of happiness in your successes as those who barely know you. Why is it that we can’t enjoy others success freely and instead try to belittle them or the way they have achieved their accomplishments?

‘It’s not people who resent successful people; it’s resentful people who resent successful people.’ Bo Bennett

As Im striving to continue working for myself doing what I love (this is my definition of success) I have fond that I am receiving recognition, support and congratulations from places and people I least expect it from, but perhaps not so much from the people I do (expectations we know only lead you to disappointment).

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‘It’s our nature: Human beings like success but they hate successful people.’ Carrot Top

When others believe that you have achieved the success they are yet to find, it can be difficult to swallow. After all we are all out there trying to the very best we can with what we have (or are you?).

‘When you’re around enormously successful people you realise their success isn’t an accident – it’s about work.’ Ryan Tedder

What determines who is successful and who is not?

“The world aint all sunshine and rainbows. Its a very  mean and nasty place, and I dont care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it, you me or nobody is going to hit as hard as life, but it aint about how hard you hit, its about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward.

Thats how winning is done.’ Rocky

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Its about how badly you want it.  You have to be prepared to do the work. When you achieve your version of success, you will understand me when I say, it is hard work. You have to keep going, for every 10 no’s there is 1 yes, for every minute there is hours worth of work to do. There are no days off. Work comes before partying. Your dream becomes your reality when you live and breathe it every moment of every day.

‘When you want to succeed as much as you want to breathe, then youll be successful’.  Eric Thomas

I used to gaze wistfully at successful people, people who I thought had it all. It LOOKS so easy. Now, I can tell you I look to those same successful people with full admiration and respect for I am fast learning the highs, the lows the sideway turns that it takes to get there.

There are some people in the world who just don’t like other people success. Resentment. Jealousy. Envy. This says more about them then it does you.

There are some people who are inspired by your success and admire you for dedication to your dream. Offer them a helping hand and keep these people close to you. Positivity breeds positivity.

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‘Successful people have a social responsibility to make the world a better place and not just take from it.’ Carrie Underwood

So be one of the ones that celebrates in others successes, you will feel better for it to. Celebrate, be motivated and share love.

The more you help others get what they want, the more ways what you want will come to you. This is true.

Success is hard work. Its saying I can in a world that will tell you you cant. Its believing in yourself when no one else does. Its getting up every time you fall. Its saying, I will not fail.

Love & light, Charlie x.

First, you just have to decide. Decide what you want, who you want to be, then do everything you can to be that person.

‘All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.’ Brian Tracy

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A dedication…Nelson Mandela

Yesterday the world lost a true leader. A fighter for the free world. A man who dedicated his life to peace and love.

 “Do not judge me by my successes, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.”

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Nelson Mandela (18 July 1918 – 5 December 2013)

As I watched social media fast fill up with dedications and posts, I began to truly understand just how immense his effect was and began to completely feel his power. This was a man that believed in something and dedicated his whole life to the cause, despite the controversies and struggles he faced.

Re-reading his words of wisdom and reflecting on the life he led, really rocked me to the core.

Today I just wanted to share some words from a man who truly believed in change; change that we can create with every small act of love, every 1 person who believes; we can create the change the world needs.

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He devoted his life as a freedom fighter.

As a leader of a freedom, anti racial movement he was branded as a terrorist by a white government. Nelson Mandela served 27 years in prison, working more than 7 hrs a day for nearly 12 years until force labor was abolished on Robben Island. His cell was small and contained a bucket as a toilet. He was allowed one visitor per year for only 30 minutes. Of his time in prison Mandela wrote “People tend to measure themselves by external accomplishments, but jail allows a person to focus on internal ones; such as honesty, sincerity, simplicity, humility, generosity and an absence of variety,” “You learn to look into yourself.

When he walked hand in hand with his wife…“As I finally walked through those gates … I felt — even at the age of seventy-one — that my life was beginning anew.” Here was a man the world had waited to see.

In his time as president (the first black south african president) he created a government of national unity, focusing on anti racial, poverty and equality rights.

‘Poverty is not natural’.

Although a controversial figure for most of his life, Mandela was rewarded with a Nobel peace price in 1993. He also received the US presidential medal of freedom, in his time he received over 250 medals of honour.

He wil be remembered now and forever as a man who dedicated himself to a goal. A goal to create a better world.

 

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Words of wisdom…

‘I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.’

‘It is better to lead from behind and to put others in front, especially when you celebrate victory when nice things occur. You take the front line when there is danger. Then people will appreciate your leadership.’

‘For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.’

‘There is no easy walk to freedom anywhere, and many of us will have to pass through the valley of the shadow of death again and again before we reach the mountaintop of our desires.’

‘We must use time wisely and forever realize that the time is always ripe to do right.’

“Difficulties break some men but make others. No axe is sharp enough to cut the soul of a sinner who keeps on trying, one armed with the hope that he will rise even in the end.”

“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”

 

 

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Mandela; the father of a nation. Bless.

Love & light, Charlie x.

After reflecting on these powerful/strong words I am reminded that I can create my dream reality; I just have to work harder for it.

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Monday Motivation…

‘Adopt the pace of nature:  her secret is patience.’ Ralph Waldo Emerson
 
I was recently lucky enough to attend a full day training at Tribe the Tree Flower Essences. Ive heard of the healing and beneficial properties of flower essences and have used products such as the Bach flower remedy before so I was excited when I was offered the opportunity to attend and delighted when Tribe of the Tree kindly agreed to sponsor Be Well; 12 steps to Wellness Seminar. You will receive your very own essence Up, Up & Away reminds you to love and approve of yourself no matter what. It invites you to build better boundaries so you regain your sense of balance and feel unaffected by the actions and opinions of others.
 

 

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Introducing Jayne Tancred: Co-Founder and Chief Tree Hugger at Tribe of the Tree flower essences, a new range of flower essences that offers healing, insight and wisdom, delivered with a healthy dose of loving energy and a cheeky attitude.

NBB: Tribe of the Trees flower essences is fast becoming a well known brand, Why do you think that is?
It’s lovely to hear you say that, because we don’t feel very well known at all yet! We have a long way to go! But I think the reason people feel they are starting to get to know us is that we are very committed to making genuine connections with our customers and our community and having fun doing it, whether that’s in person at an event or online (for example on Facebook).

NBB: When did you decide to you wanted to be involved in the wellness industry? 

I’ve always known that this was the right industry for me – I decided to become a naturopath when I was just 15 or 16, and I’m now in my mid-40s! In that time I’ve worked with some extraordinary people and marketed and sold some fantastic products. My business partner, Scott Harris, has also been in the industry for about a decade, and specialises in manufacturing and quality assurance, so between the two of us, we have a lot of experience in this area.

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NBB: Has there been any challenges along your journey?

Absolutely. We’ve had to work really hard to get up and running on a very tight budget, while also juggling our existing careers. There have also been the inevitable trial and error moments when various things have gone wrong along the way, and like any new business it has been a steep learning curve.

‘Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.’ Lao Tzu

NBB: How do you maintain balance between your Career and personal health?

It’s tricky sometimes, but I’ve learned that every day flows more smoothly if it starts with meditation. Getting outdoors is also very important and restorative for me – especially among the trees.

NBB: How do you feel as an inspirational figure/mentor?

No-one has ever called me anything like that before, so your question has floored me a little! What I will say is that the work I do has made me extraordinarily happy and has inspired me in a way that I’ve never been inspired before. Both of those feelings are quite contagious, and so we do often get people telling us that Tribe of the Tree has prompted them to look after themselves better, take positive steps towards realising their dreams, or to finally address issues that have been holding them back for ages. That is an extraordinary privilege for us and we look forward to being able to have an even more positive influence on people’s lives as we grow.

‘I believe that there is a subtle magnetism in Nature, which, if we unconsciously yield to it, will direct us aright.’ Henry David Thoreau

 
NBB: What do you believe are the keys to success in business?
I think it’s different for everyone. Our business sells energetic healing products, so our own energy and intentions are vital to our success. Patience, persistence and above all a strong vision are essential for any business person though, I think.

NBB: What is your advice for anyone who has a dream?

You don’t need to work out all the logistics at the beginning. The first and most important step is to have a vision that is powerful enough to guide you and draw you towards your goal. After that, just start with a single step. I highly recommend our flower essence Destiny Calls™ for anyone in this situation too – it helps you move through the inevitable fears and make that transition from being someone who wants to do something someday to a person who is making it happen NOW. Tribe of the Tree certainly wouldn’t have made it this far without it!

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NBB: When can we look forward to next from you?

Our focus right now is on our flower essence workshops, in which we teach people how to work with our products for themselves, their families and their clients. The last Level 1 training for the year will be on Sunday 10th November in Sydney. Next year we’ll also start rolling out Level 2 training, which we’re very excited about!

Share something no one knows

Trees have a great sense of humour, and infinite quantities of wisdom and healing energy to share with us all.

‘Look at the trees, look at the birds, look at the clouds, look at the stars… and if you have eyes you will be able to see that the whole existence is joyful.  Everything is simply happy.  Trees are happy for no reason; they are not going to become prime ministers or presidents and they are not going to become rich and they will never have any bank balance.  Look at the flowers – for no reason.  It is simply unbelievable how happy flowers are.’ Osho

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Top 3 wellness tips:

1. Loving yourself unconditionally is the doorway to all aspects of health and wellbeing. It almost makes it inevitable that you’ll look after your diet and lifestyle, nurture your heart and prioritize your emotional needs. Unfortunately, for many of us, opening up to and accepting that self-love feels difficult – and sometimes even selfish. For those who’d like some extra support on their journey, I highly recommend our flower essenceUp, Up & Away, which reminds you to love and approve of yourself no matter what, and regardless of the opinions of others.

2. I’ve learned (the hard way!) that many of the things in life we think are complicated or difficult are only so because of our mindset. It’s okay to take the easy way, and it usually yields better results too!

3. Spending time amongst trees has been scientifically proven to lower your blood pressure and your stress levels – and it’s fun and spiritually uplifting too!

I sincerely thank Jayne for her time and generous contribution to Be Well; 12 steps to Wellness   (https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=667937619906763&set=a.611969725503553.1073741825.587695801264279&type=1&theater).

Follow on Facebook: Tribe of the Tree Flower essences. 

That reminds me, I better have my daily dose of Connection Creator (helps you attract and connect with kindred spirits to help you in your life’s work).

Love & light, Charlie x.

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‘What if’…a wasted thought.

‘What if’, a thought too often used, yet such a waste timeout precious time.

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As I’m making changes in my life and trying to get the things done that need to be done in order to get to where I want to be, I’m finding some sneaky little ‘what if’ thoughts growing like little weeds in my mind.
‘What if it doesn’t work’?
‘What if you aren’t any good?’
‘What if it goes wrong?’

‘What if…’

The little ‘what if’ thoughts that if given enough thought or time can be enough to create fear and perhaps stop you from reaching your full potential.

‘Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another’ Napoleon Hill

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Everything in life is a risk, only some risks are bigger then others.

‘Ignore the risk, and take the fall, if its meant to be, it’s worth it all.’

What are you prepared to risk or give up in order to create and live a life you love?

Are you prepared to give up social weekends full of guilty pleasures in favour of healthy activities to achieve your health goal?
Are you prepared to work extra hours in the day to get the things that need to be done, done?
Are you prepared to risk your heart for the chance of true love?

Every small choice we make is a risk, is it right or wrong, well I don’t believe it’s generally either, some choices can definitely be better than others, whilst others not so good. But this is the beauty of life, to learn, to grow (and to not make the same mistake twice 😉

How much time and energy do you give to the ‘what ifs’ of life?
What if he doesn’t call?
What if I lose my job/competition?
What if I’m not successful? (Who deems success anyway?)

The more time you give these thoughts, is like the more water you are giving them (the weeds) to  grow.

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‘Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.’ Willie Nelson

We don’t want weeds in the beautiful garden that is your mind and life.
Get rid of them. Do whatever it takes.

Choose to think of something that creates an automatic feeling of ‘good’ within you; a family member or friend, the last gorgeous place you visited, think of the time you last felt happy. Recreate that emotional feeling/reminisce and your emotions will hear your thoughts and you will feel accordingly.

mia2If you find it difficult to get out of your own head (I definitely do) go outside, move your body, breathe.
Or, in case of emergency/times of stress, keep soul music available. Music does wonders in changing your thought process and occupying your mind especially if it is something you love & feel.
(I recently discovered The XX, and is my current go to).

Figure out your ‘switch to’ thought of well-being.

‘Happiness is an attitude.  We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong.  The amount of work is the same.’ Francesca Reigler

It’s perfectly normal to be anxious and apprehensive before making choices and decisions, and my goodness there are so many of them! We live in an age with an abundance of choice, and seem to be all striving for perfection. The pressure we place on ourselves to make the ‘right choices’ and be socially acceptable/successful is ridiculous, so what if you make mistakes (note to self) have a giggle and laugh it off, learn from it. Mistakes are proof that you are trying. And we all make them.

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So today, try to think of yourself as a nourishing Gardener; do you want your garden featured on the cover of house & home? Knowing that you grew every single plant and flower with time & love? (Positive, kind, loving thoughts).
Or do you want to just ‘let it happen’,  let the weeds grow until it becomes an over grown mess your neighbours are complaining about?

I know which choice I’m making.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.  ~Anthony J. D’Angelo.

Diamonds are a girls best friend…

Not the ones you buy as a status symbol or statement (don’t get me wrong, diamonds are beyond beautiful); diamonds; of the true friend type…precious and rare.

 ‘A single rose can be my garden…a single friend, my world.’ Leo Buscaglia

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Recently I have been overwhelmed by the pure kindness, support and love from some special people in my life.

Today’s inspired writing is for them in hope of sharing a smile and some magic and perhaps to inspire you to show your appreciation for the love in your life.

True friends are like diamonds, precious and rare. So rare, I can count them easily, the people who I know will always be there, the ones that love me unconditionally, and hold my hand and support me (even when they know what I may be doing could be a huge mistake, recent journey to the past, point).

‘A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same.’ Elbert Hubbard

As I returned home, a genuine feeling of belonging, a complete sense of being washed over me (as I crawled into my much awaited bed after an emotionally exhausting weekend).

A sense that everything would be ok, I was home, exactly where I belonged and I would figure it all out on my own (I do admit independence can sometimes be my downfall) filled my mind, body and soul (this feeling of complete contentment is priceless).

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As I reached out to my close friends; I was filled with genuine love for the support they provided me. The true love. How did I get so lucky to have such amazing wonderful, kind people in my life?

Some people bring out the best in you. My diamonds (true friends), bring out the very best in me. Somehow they make me want to be more, to be better, for you see, these special people in my life are held on pedestals, I love them, cherish them, worship them and would do anything I can to protect them and support them. I genuinely believe they are beautiful people (inside & out).

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 ‘Good friends, good books and a sleepy conscience; this is the ideal life’. Mark Twain.

Having friends you look up to and aspire to be like is one of the greatest tools of success (I believe).

Be with people who bring out the best in you and you will go places you never thought possible.

Be with people who bring out the worst in you, and you will find your dreams will just remain dreams. Life isnt designed to be easy, and to truly find our success we need a support system greater then self-love, sometimes we need a shoulder to cry on, or a hand to help us up when we fall down (and we all fall down, including myself, often actually).

As I contemplated my luck; feeling my heart full of love, I realised that I had created this life, I had created this circle of trust, respect and love.

When you choose to act morally correctly, the people with the same values will be attracted to you, like attracts like.

‘The only way to have a friend is to be one’. Ralph Waldo Emerson.

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I am no longer a ‘want to be the centre of attention’ party girl, in fact I cannot recall the last time I was in that scene, but I do recall, there were no diamonds, just fake friends (leaves, found everywhere) based on how pretty you looked and what designer you wore.

‘Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.’  Oprah Winfrey

Everyone is entitled to live their life as they choose, by their own moral standards. You will attract people who live by the same ethical code as you do.

I choose to live my life based on integrity, gratitude and love.

I will wear my heart on my sleeve, I will radiate love, and I will make a conscious effort every day to be kind and to simply; smile.

To do this, I will keep my priceless diamonds protected and safe with the loyalty of my Love.

True friendship cannot be brought in a store, true friendship will only be available to you when you yourself are a true friend. How do you treat the people in your life? Are you supportive of their dreams? Their desires? Do you listen? Are you truly ‘there’ when they may have needed you?

Taking this time to send my love to every (amazing) person in my life right Now. You may not realise, but whilst I have been reflecting on the changes occurring, the very thought of the gentle feeling of your hand holding mine, drives me to succeed.

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I believe in myself, but why do it on your own when you can enjoy the journey of life, of creating a dream reality in the pleasurable company of friends? Life after all is a journey, not a destination, laugh at the confusion, smile at the madness and love with all your heart.

‘Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.’ Marcel Proust

Love & Light, Charlie x.

I am feeling blessed, supported and wrapped up in your love (thank you). This is for my true friends (diamonds) who are precious & rare.

Making a commitement…

As my life is changing in ways I could only dream about, I find myself entertaining some fearful thoughts; what if you can’t do it, who do you think you are? It won’t work.

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Negative, derogative, self doubting thoughts.

Every person I have spoken to about my decision, has genuinely been excited and expressed their belief in me. (So much enthusiasm it has genuinely surprised me, the true belief in me and support system I have created).

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“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. You playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others”. Coach Carter

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As I tend to be an over thinker and have been prone to creating havoc in my mind and my life. Today’s Sunday self-love exercise is a commitment letter to myself. I have struggled with making commitments in the past, I still do to this day.

But a commitment to myself; what better one to make? Especially in a time of great change, opportunity and risk.

A letter that I will write all my thoughts and dreams in, a letter where I will speak to myself as if I would a good friend: with compassion, strength and positivity. A letter that I can return to read in my times of need or emotional turmoil. A letter of dedication to my dreams, a source of inspiration and self-love.

‘You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.’ Eleanor Roosevelt

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It’s a proven fact the mind is much quicker to think negative thoughts as a way to protect ourselves rather than to think positively.

This is why I find positive affirmations and exercises are so important to surround myself with. I need to plant positive seeds consistently in my mind, so they will develop and create a natural positive attitude, healthy habits that I can return to in times of turmoil or stress.

‘Every failure brings with it the seed of an equivalent success.’ Napoleon Hill

Sometimes we search for answers in the world around us. I’ve found myself asking every person close to me their opinion about my life changing move; what I was really asking for was a positive reinforcement that I am capable of doing it for myself. Someone to tell me that I had indeed made the right decision, when in fact I already know within myself, my heart, body and soul, that to follow this dream is right for me. It is what I have been working for my whole life; to find myself, my passion, my calling.

All the answers we ever need are always inside of us. We just fail to look. We fail to truly be still and let our inner self direct us, our intuition. What is right for you will come to you.

I am a big believer of this. Everything that is occurring in my life is a step towards my dream reality, yet I still can’t help but fear failure.

I want to succeed. To do this, I need to plan and give myself guidance. So I am making a commitment to myself, that I will have faith and chase my dreams.

‘What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?’ Vincent van Gogh

Try making a commitment to yourself. Whether it be a letter, a thought, a daily goal. You are the only one responsible for achieving your goal and the sense of achievement is beyond measurement.

I am committing to giving myself absolutely everything that I have within me, every thing that I have worked for has led me to this point of my life, the opportunity to do it for myself.

I want to make it work, therefore I will.

I am the only one who can make it happen.

I am making a commitment to myself to be the very best version of myself that I can be, whilst giving and sharing love and wellness.

Love & light, Charlie x.

I believe.

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Monday Motivation…Tara Wolf

I recently fell in LOVE with Tara Wolf. I simply HAD to have my own special piece of her divine collection… (my only problem was what one to choose?!). I now wear it everyday, and if even for a moment I’m feeling self doubt, I look down and see the Symbol of the Solar Plexus Chakra; Manipura that means Wisdom, Clarity and self-esteem, and it gives me the reassurance I need.

I was absolutely delighted when Chris Wolf agreed to be Monday Motivation (be sure to read all the way down for your chance to win your very own Tara Wolf piece).

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NBB: Tara Wolf pieces are rapidly becoming a wardrobe ‘must have’, for special occasions or added to the daily staple as a subtle statement piece. Why do you think that is?

TARAWOLF style is very clean lined, elegant. This is because we believe LESS is MORE ! Our designs have been created to be worn either on their own or in a “stackable” style, which is so popular today. We endeavoured to make TARAWOLF pieces compliment the wearers other jewellery selections. TARAWOLF JEWELLERY has been designed for everyone, of all ages to enjoy, and wear with confidence. TARAWOLF is contemporary jewellery for the human spirit.

NBB: When did you decide to you wanted to design jewellery? And significant, elegant pieces?

We have been involved in the jewellery scene since 2007, we have been successful distributors for other brands, and decided that there was gap in the market place for stylish, soulful quality pieces that represent wellbeing, spiritual and personal …….something designed for elegance, worn for wellbeing….So TARAWOLF was born.?

NBB: How does having a successful business feel?

You asked, How does it feel to have a successful business? I have never thought of the business in this way. Success can be measured on so many levels and mean so many different things. I love to create jewellery that makes the people love to wear, people want to give, and put smiles on faces. I receive emails and social media comments saying…WOW. Love this, and look at my new Tarawolf bracelets…and this is extremely satisfying knowing you have created something that other people all over the world appreciate and love.

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NBB: Has there been any challenges along your journey?

There have always been challenges, but you have to try and overcome all obstacles if you want it bad enough.  As the saying goes…..If you never try, you will never know, keep believing in yourself.

‘The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen.’ Frank Lloyd Wright

NBB: How do you maintain balance between your Career and personal health?

It is a huge challenge to balance career and personal health…..this is an ongoing exercise that must be worked at everyday.

NBB: How do you feel as an inspirational figure/mentor?

I don’t feel that I am an inspirational figure/mentor….I am a wife, Mum, dreamer and believer.

NBB: What do you believe are the keys to success in business?

Keys to be successful in business……is to have balance, be absolutely passionate in what you are doing, surround yourself with talented people, be open and listen to suggestions, BE HONEST ALWAYS.

‘Live your beliefs and you can turn the world around.’ Henry David Thoreau

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NBB: What is your advice for anyone who has a dream?

If you have a dream……follow it, believe in it, it will not diminish with time and age…….have the conviction to “Go for it” , and take a step back…..don’t be afraid, and make plans to fulfil your dreams…….don’t die thinking….what if???????????

‘If you dream it, you can do it’. Walt Disney

NBB: When can we look forward to next from you?

I have just created the FULL CIRCLE bracelet on a hematite band, which is in stock now, our new Evil Eye necklace will be available soon in silver, gold and ROSE gold…..and we have a ‘LIMITED EDITION” BREAST CANCER AWARENESS BRACELET on ROSE QUARTZ BAND, IN SILVER GOLD AND ROSE GOLD. This will be available within 4 weeks….it comes in its white box and information leaflet. I don’t think that anyone has not been touched by this insidious disease. We all need to band together and help each other.

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Today I am lucky enough (huge THANK YOU to Chris Wolf) to share the ‘Tara Wolf’ love and offer this beautiful piece! A stunning ‘Lotus’ bracelet symbolising Purity, Good wishes and Positive energy.

To enter to win, click ‘follow’ to receive NBB updates and comment; what does Karma mean to you? (either on the blog or the Nourish.balance.breathe Facebook page) *Entires close 18/8/13.

Good luck!

Love & light, Charlie x.

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