An evening with a Sexpert.

What is a sexpert?

Well just this week I spent an evening with one, Juliet Allen as part of the Daily Guru, Self love Series.

The topic of the night; Reconnecting with yourself – The Feminine & the Sexy.

What can I say, I was excited. I was unsure of course what type of things we would be discussing especially as Juliet started her talk with ‘sometimes Im told Im to raunchy/explicit, and sometimes Im told IM not enough’.

I presume everyones assumption of ‘raunchy’ is different, and I believe that is the key core message that Juliet got across.

So to reconnect with your feminine and be the sexy sensual goddess you are, it takes 7 steps.

‘She is a woman who radiates light. She is magnetic’

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#1 Take care of yourself.

Put yourself first.

Self care & self love. When you feel good about yourself you create an essence of confidence (without ego).

Take time out for you, reconnect, do the girly things, get a manicure, a massage, a facial.

Take care of your body. Confidence starts on the inside. Are you treating yourself like the gorgeous sexy hot woman you know you are? Eating nourishing foods? Training your mind? Creating good situations to be in? Or are you not? Perhaps choosing not so nutritious foods that can leave you feeling bloated and blah, chatting to yourself ceaselessly negatively (how can anyone feel good with those negative words on repeat?), or being in situtaions that just dont make you feel good.

 

#2 Embrace your sexuality.

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Own it.

Your desires. Yours wants. Be into sex if you want. Be sexy. Have great sex. Get more. Or less. Know what you want and get it. This is non negotiable. You are the only one who knows what you want, so go out there and get it. Be strong, be sexual, be you.

#3 Work in your own stuff.

Let go of the past. Drop the emotional baggage off.

Orgasm is in the mind. Intimacy is in the mind. Pleasure is in the mind.

Let go of yesterday, things that might have happened and accept who you are, and embrace it.

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#4 Stop Judging.

Embrace the lifestyle & choices of others. Stop judging others. We are all unique. Respect the choices people make. Respect their decisions. Respect who they are. Its not for you to decide or comment about what should or shouldnt make a person happy. Let them be them, and you jsut be you. Focus on getting more of your own big O’s before your quick to judge other people.

#5 Be open to new experiences.

Try everything once. Create new experiences. Be bold. Read books, blogs, videos…explore. Be open with your partner. Communicate. Say yes or say no. Tell him/her what you want. Sexuality is designed to be explored. Like something, say so. Dont like it, say it.

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‘Being tied up is so in right now, thanks to Mr Gray’ Juliet.

#6 Allow yourself to be vulnerable.

Vulnerability = intimacy.

‘Sex is by nature a vulnerable act on so many levels. To open ones body bare, to share deep feeling, to allow yourself to be penetrated or seen naked, to expose tender parts of yourself like desire, fantasy and insecurity, to allow yourself to want and desire and to be fulfilled. These things are vulnerable.’ Amy Jo goddard.

Risk getting hurt. Open yourself up. We hide behind our fears of ‘what will he/she think’, scared of being judged. Again, be who you are, and jut own it. Find someone with the same thoughts as you, sexual freedom to explore.

#7 Step into your power.

You can chose to be sexy.

Make it a priority. Stop blaming others or making excuses. You have the power to create change. Your lack of, or great sex life is all up to you. Do you want more sexual freedom…get it. Do you want better sex… Ask for it. Want to try something new…whatever it may be, ask for it.

If you want a FWB… find one. If your happy for a one night stand, have one.

*Obviously always practice safe sex. (Did you know that wearing a condom is becoming increasingly rare?)

 

Interesting evening with a few q & a’s at the end.

Raunchy? I thought it could be more. But it was a great experience to be in a room full of woman, and a few men, and openly discuss what was once a taboo subject.

Yet the stats say:

Only 25% of women are completely satisfied with their sex life.

Only 12% of men say they are satisfied with their sex life.

39% of women wish they slept naked with their partner more often.

23% of men say they have no sex life.

I personally think that just like we train our bodies and our minds, our sexuality, chemistry and body experiences could be an area we could learn a bit more.

Or perhaps, this just goes back to self love…knowing who you are and what you want.

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Love, Charlie x.

P.s have you checked out my new funding campaign… I would love you to buy some #balls…

http://www.pozible.com/project/190510

 

Detox your Mind

And it is as good as it sounds! All to often we go on quick detox’s for our bodies, 1, 2 or 3 day juice cleanses, lean protein & greens, cut carbs, (hopefully not) The lemon detox etc, especially after the festive season or when we are feeling a bit blahhh (sorry no other expletive word).

What about our MINDS?? When was the last time you detoxed your Mind? Or trained your Mind? Did you pick up an educational, inspirational book this morning and start your day with creative, intelligent thinking???

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” Whatever your mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve” Napoleon Hill 

When we are feeling like it’s all getting a bit too much (my current state, I need an organisation fairy asap, Applications for a Social Media Superstar here ), when we hold onto the past, lost love, situations or create anxiety in the present moment, when we feel the weight of the world is on our shoulders.

When your just not feeling IT.

This is a sign you need to detox your mind.

I am so passionate about training our mind as we train our bodies. EVERY single day we go to the gym, sometimes twice, to train our muscles to feel better and lets be honest, most the time to enhance our aesthetic looks to be more attractive.

How often do you train your mind? Surely this is just as important. EVERY day, if not twice a day. To be truly beautiful is an inside job, no amount of plumping, fake eyelashes or muscles will ever be the same beauty as a beautiful heart and mind.

Train your mind to see the good in every situation. To be an opportunity seeker rather than problem maker. To be a beautiful person comes from your mind… being calm in moments of stress. To always give more than you get. To truly believe that when you change your thoughts you can change the world around you.

TRAIN your Mind.

But first, detox your mind from all that baggage your holding onto. So what the engagement didnt work out as it should have, so what if you’ve lost friends, so what if the career you wanted just seems a little to far out of reach. (geez its no wonder we feel like were carrying the weight of the world on our houlders, were carrying our whole lives). These things really dont matter. What matters is NOW. Your life, right now. In this moment.

Think about it, think about all the beauty you have (even though I know sometimes it can feel like there’s not a lot at all), take a moment to appreciate. To cultivate gratitude for the love you do have in your life, for the very fact that is a new day and you can chose to be the person you want to be.

‘This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.’ Dalai Lama

Im pretty excited to start, and I know Im in need of, the new 30 Day Detox Your Mind by Debbie Spellman.

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Which when implemented, will help you to:

● Feel confident that you can gracefully handle whatever life throws at you.

● Let go of control over outcomes in your life while simultaneously feeling more in control of your past, present, and future than ever before.

● Release the general anxiety and worry that’s become so constant that you don’t even notice it anymore.

● Find leisure time in your everyday life. And more importantly, how to absolutely love that alone time without feeling like you need to be doing something else or having your thoughts running a mile a minute.

● Dissolve your scarcity mindset once and for all. Start attracting the abundance to your life that you know you deserve.

● Clear the unconscious mental patterns that are keeping you in self-destructive cycles. You won’t be able to achieve a higher level of happiness until you do this.

● Wake up excited and energized for the day ahead and go to bed feeling totally at ease.

For 30-Days you’ll receive a daily action step that will help you master the day’s lesson and achieve the level of happiness you’ve always wanted.

All you have to do is to grab your morning tea, cozy up with your computer, and spend 5 minutes with the day’s lesson.

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“You can close the windows and darken your room, but you can also open the windows and let light get in. It is a matter of choice. Your mind is your room. Do you darken it or do you fill it with light?”

YES! Stop the crazy diets, thinking that when you get abs you’ll be happy, stop chasing the dream job that when you get, you think youll be happy, stop chasing Mr Right, that you think when you find everything else will fall magically into place and you will live happily ever after. Happiness is yours. Today. Wherever and whatever it is that you are doing (and yes sometimes I have to even remind myself of this when Im in the kitchen, rolling thousands of balls for hrs on end for Clean Treats )

Join me and many others as we create mental clarity, ease of thinking, peace in your mind. Its time to start training your mind. Every day. To see the beauty in the world we live in.

“You might be poor, your shoes might be broken, but your mind is a palace.” Frank McCourt

Are you ready to let go of all that s^&t your holding onto and be the best person you can be?

More information here

30 days of beautiful thinking for $69 = $2.30 per day, less than your cup of coffee. In the terms of Nike, Just do it. What have you got to lose?

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Debbie Spellman is a well renowned NLP therapist who has been published nationally in magazines such as Womens Fitness, Cosmopolitan, Womens Day & many more. Debbie has graced the stage with many of Australia’s key experts in the Health & Wellness Industry sharing her heart-felt message of self-worth for women. Described as ‘authentic, real and inspirational’ her ability to touch the depths of a woman’s heart continues to stir a connection from the audience that captivates and encourages hope, whilst providing real-life examples and proven techniques providing not only guidance but tangible value.

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Love, Charlie x.

“When you have control over your thoughts, you have control over your life.”

Currently training my mind with ‘The Obstacle is the Way’ Ryan Holiday.

Friday Fitspo/Chris Dufey… Fat Loss Cheat Sheet

As promised I will share with you my amazing trainer…the man who is responsible for my breakup with sugar {and my #balls!}, and getting me daily compliments on the changes in my body

Friday funny thought: why is it that just because you’re at the gym training people think its ok to give you their opinion on youre body? I mean, it is appreciated and definitely makes you feel good… ‘your looking really good’ Oh I didn’t before? Your looking so lean…and what was I looking before???)

‘Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it. 
-Lou Holtz’

Anyway, as summer is coming up, pool partys (especially New Years Day Ivy penthouse!!! #excited), new bikinis and barbies in the sun all ask for a certain amount of killer confidence to rock them. (Yes, Im aiming to rock a few pairs of the hot Triangl bikinis this summer, nothing screams beach babe more than these pieces)

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I had to share:

Quickest Female Fat Loss Cheat Sheet

By Chris Dufey

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You’re busy, but you’re sick of mediocre results.

 Simplifying what you need to do, and only doing what gives you the biggest bang for your buck for your fat loss is the answer.

Stop wasting time, money and effort on useless tips that you heard down at the gym or from friends.

‘I believe the greatest gift you can give your family and the world is a healthy you.’ Joyce Meyer

FOLLOW THESE STEPS EACH DAY.

  •  Protein at every meal

Each meal should include a protein source.  it can be an animal meat such as beef, chicken, turkey, fish, kangaroo or venison.  Also whey protein, brown rice or pea protein powder and eggs are great choices.

  •  Include your all you can eat carbs in every meal

This list are the carbs you can go to town and fill up on.  Add as much as you want and get variety to your meals.

Asparagus, bean sprouts, capsicum, bok choy, broccoli, brusel spouts, cabbage, cauliflower, celery, cucumber, eggplant, garlic, green beans, kale, leek, lettuce, mushroom, onion, radish, snow peas, spinach, tomato, zucchini and watercress.

  •  Drink 3L of water

Clean, filtered water is a must for your body.  It flushes toxins, hydrates your mush needed cells for multiple purposes.

You know you should be drinking more water, but you probably struggle.  I recommend you have a BPA free water bottle on you the whole day so it becomes a habit for you to easily sip on.

‘Strive for progress, not perfection. 
-Unknown’

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*Loving Tash Oakley and her perfectly proportioned healthy body!!! Curves are in!

  •  Carbs eaten Post training

Use your starchy carbs and carb powders if you use them for post training.

Yes, there are other times in the day that you can eat carbs, but the rule of thumb to at least start from, is to have them after your weight training.

‘Physical fitness is not only one of the most important keys to a healthy body, it is the basis of dynamic and creative intellectual activity.’ John F. Kennedy

  •  Sleep 7-9 QUALITY hours

Stirring, waking and flicking through your Facebook in the middle of night will damage and slow your fat loss.

Let your body rest, recover and catch the much needed Zzzz so you can dominate another day.

  • 1x Greens Drink

A green drink such as Phytologic, Vital Greens or Wellness Greens are chock full of nutrients you should be feeding your body.

Its easy, effective and get the job done.  Got to love that.

‘A healthy outside starts from the inside.’ Robert Urich

 

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  • Zero processed foods

Getting lazy and slackening off to processed foods is just not going to give you OPTIMAL results.

Yes you could maybe get away with it, but I say “why risk it”.  Get the best results, burn as much fat as you can, and be confident with your body.

For me to give you the best results possible, ask your questions below for me to answer.

Tell Me…

What is the ONE holding you back from having the body you want?

Chris Dufey

 

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*Triangl bikinis = certified Hottness, have you got yours? Whats your goal?

It’s not always about the 6 pack, or how lean you can get…remember its about eating to fuel and nourish youre body. About being the best version of yourself who you feel comfortable with & love.

When you eat good you feel good, when you feel good, you eat good. What a nice cycle.

‘Loving yourself…does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion.- Margo Anand’

And this is the truth that we all know. Pay attention to how food makes you feel, make better choices everyday.

My belief, so much so that its part of the Clean Treats brand belief; be REAL, not FAKE….its that simple, eat more REAL food.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Pretty excited for my sweet potato chips pre training tonight…Friday night Ill be rocking club GYM.

Why I adore…Babe Scrub

Let me introduce you to… babe scrub, the scrub for babes.

 

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Every now and then we need to stop, and take care of ourselves (this should be a daily practice if you can). What better way to truly love the skin you are in, then with a natural Himalayan Salt body scrub, if your lucky enough why not take a luxurious bath in it?

“Do something every day that is loving toward your body and gives you the opportunity to enjoy the sensations of your body.” Golda Poretsky

 

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Now, I not only love the product because its gorgeous, I love the women behind the brand. You know hen you meet people, or you connect with them and you just know that everything they are doing is coming from their heart? for the greater good? The creator of Babe scrub is one of those. And Im blessed to be able to share her gorgeous creation and inspiration.

Surround yourself with people who lift you higher.

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Babe Himalayn Salt scrub – Get a juicy booty…yes please!

1. Himalayan salts mixed with almond and essential oils.

Simply apply in the shower when wet and scrub.

Removes excess dead skin cells. Did you know as you age your skin cell proliferation process sloowwwwws down, this means dead skin cells stay stuck to the surface of the skin for a longer period of time leaving the complexion dehydrated, aged and dull? Say no, and get your glow on with this salt scrub. I will be focusing on particular problematic areas (that lovely addition some of us are graced with, because our bodies are gorgeous with or without it…cellulite). Manual massage over these areas will improve your lymphatic system which is your body’s waste removal system, therefore helping you to remove those disgusting toxins that don’t belong in your beautiful body, and that cause our least favourite attribute…cellulite.

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Now, because I believe that sharing is caring, Im delighted to be able to offer you, my valued readers 25% off Babescrub… so you to can take some time out and enjoy some self love (I know you need it).

Simply enter the code #charliesbabes at checkout www.babescrub.com

Welcome to babetown beautiful.

Love & light, Charlie x.

“Health isn’t about being “perfect” with food or exercise or herbs. Health is about balancing those things with your desires. It’s about nourishing your spirit as well as your body.” Golda Poretsky

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The Skin Expert…Your skin.

Today I wanted to introduce you to the gorgeous creation that is your integumentary system; your skin.

All to often we take our skin for granted yet get upset when we get fine lines, acne, spots (especially on those special dates). We have high expectations of healthy, glowing radiant, perfect skin, yet what are you doing to enjoy this?

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The Integumentary system is the largest body in the organ, however it often doesn’t receive the nutrients it requires as the internal organs will take what they need first.

The skin has responsibilities such as touch, pain, temperature, absorption and excretion all of which play a detrimental part to our internal and physical health. It also protects us against that nasty stuff called bacteria and other foreign objects.

The skin will show you what is happening internally. In the true manner of Chinese face reading you can decipher what is happening in the body but also the mind {I offer this via Skype, please email me Charlie@charliedehaas.com.au} via skin reading.
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Your skin consists of 2 layers the dermis (inner, consists of 2 layers) and the epidermis (the outer layer), consists of 5 layers.

From the Epidermis Our skin cells turnover (desquamate) approx every 28-35 days, this process slows down as we age, as do all of our systems.

At the basal layer, we have happy healthy skin cells, juicy, fresh, radiant. They are fed nutrients and oxygen via the dermis (Melanin, the colour pigment in our skin is also found in the basal layer in Melanocytes). As the desquamation process occurs, these cells start to move upwards towards the outer layers of the skin and begin to die (you shed approximately 30,000+ cells every minute). The dont receive as much nourishment from the dermis as the capillary (blood/delivery system) network starts to diminish. As the cells reach the outer layer, they are dead.

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Throughout the epidermis changes occur to the skin cells, this is where pigmentation (can sometimes also be found deeper), acne, skin sensitivities and cell mutations (cancer).

It is imperative we do what we can to protect the integrity of the skin.

We can do this by nourishing from the inside, ensuring we have nutrient dense food in our diets to feed the skin, an also from the outside with delivery systems of effective products.

Skin cells require:

WATER…drink more of it.

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Essential fatty acids – promote normal skin cell function. The Rheins barrier (the skins protection system) lies in the top 2/3 layers of the epidermis…this is created by both water and oil lipids.

Vitamin A: promotes cell communication.

Vitamin C: promotes collagen production, anti ageing and skin vibrancy.

Vitamin E: Antioxidant to assist in the prevention of ageing.

Exercise: to promote the flow of nutrients to the cells.

Positive thinking: Your cells respond to the emotions and thought within your body, so send some love.

Interesting facts:

Your skin weighs approx 15% of your total body weight.

Over 50% of the dust in your home is dead skin cells. Keep it clean.

The skin is the finest on the eye area, approx 0.02 mm. This is why it is essential to use eye care products specifically designed for the finer skin.

Love the skin you’re in, Charlie x.

P.s check out my youtube debut here, I would love your feedback (please note I only tolerate positivity, love and kindness in my world) and if you would share my message.

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