Judgement, the worst trait.

After spending a weekend surrounded by fitness models, glamour girls and basically the image based society, I noticed a few things.

‘I love when things are transparent, free and clear of all inhibition and judgement.’ Pharrell Williams

 

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Firstly let me open my heart and tell you I was nervous. Even with all of my self love work, my transformation to happiness & the best relationship I’ve ever had {with myself}, I was nervous, scared and anxious about being judged. Last year I was just days off a photo shoot, lean, fit but also depleted (read, not very happy), this year, I work for myself, am a health coach and possibly eat too many balls daily {clean treats} giving me an extra 5kg to love.
It took some serious self love work, positive affirmations and healthy habits {1 Litre of fresh happy juice daily} to keep me in the mindset that I’m lucky enough to experience daily in my Life, the attitude of gratitude, living and loving every moment.
As I spoke to different people throughout the 3 days {it was a fitness expo} I realised that everyone had felt the same thing, I was genuinely surprised at how openly (a side effect of being a health coach) people told me of their own insecurities and fear of judgement. Their own anxiety.

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What are we breeding? These women were all beautiful in their own way, unique, nice, kind, yet they all expressed a sense of insecurity and lack of Self Worth, a sense of inferiority.
Who was the prettiest, who had the best body, the best hair, the whitest teeth. These things DO NOT matter!
As I have been working as a health coach I have cultivated a sense of looking at who the person really is, I have to learnt to listen to the manner in the way that people speak, the way that they act, underneath the tan, the eyelashes, the beauty enhancements. It was through this practice I was able to see the real beauty that surrounded me a{I only wish these girls could see it themselves}

‘When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.’ Wayne Dyer

 

All to often we are afraid of being judged. Afraid of being called fat, labelled a ‘model’, dumb etc. Why?
Because we ourselves are so quick to judge others. We do it as a protective mechanism. Fearful of the words or thoughts others will think about us we judge them generally negatively therefore giving them less power.
After all we all want to impress the people we think highly of.

 

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I myself had to step back after meeting some people I had in particular  pre conceived judgement from past times about. Wow, when I was open to who these people were, that their lives were different from mine, that they to were trying to live life the best way they knew how to, I could appreciate them for their
core values. And I am so thankful I did. Creating new connections, new opportunities and sharing smiles, hugs and love.

‘We should not judge people by their peak of excellence; but by the distance they have traveled from the point where they started.’ Henry Ward Beecher

Some people are still living their lives in judgement, let them . It doesn’t matter to you.
I got a look of utter contempt from a person that I see only anger and hatred in, a lack of her own self worth, it made me upset. Until I realised that this person was coming from a place of judgement, perhaps envy, perhaps pure dislike. I can only wish her happiness and light.

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We all want to be genuinely loved and thought well of. I let it go.

What she thinks of me is not relevant to my life. Does it matter to you if someone doesnt like you? It only matters if you let it, and believe me the more time you spend worrying about the ones that are judging you, the less time you have to live openly and be free to make new friendships and connections.

‘It’s a complete lie, why do people buy these papers? It’s not the truth I’m here to say. You know, don’t judge a person, do not pass judgement, unless you have talked to them one on one. I don’t care what the story is, do not judge them because it is a lie.’ Michael Jackson

 
Everyone is living their own life the best way they know how. You do not know their story, their trials their tribulations.
Just let them be.
Remember that.

Take people for who they are today.

Love & light, Charlie x.
The whispers, the gossip, the negativity has got to stop. It’s time we started looking for the good in other people, look into their eyes and look into their soul. See beauty. Its time to make a change.

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Detox your relationships.

It seems to me we are limiting ourselves with the company we keep. Just like how we become what we eat, we are only as strong as those we surround ourself.

‘I think it’s important to get your surroundings as well as yourself into a positive state – meaning surround yourself with positive people, not the kind who are negative and jealous of everything you do.’ Heidi Klum

 

 

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Do you want love and support? Are you loving and supportive? Whatever it is that you need you must become. Take a moment and evaluate your circle. The people who are closest to you, who influence your choices and actions. Are they positive? Are they supportive? Do they care about your wellbeing? Are they understanding? Are they respectful? Do they guide you in the right direction? Do they have your best interests at heart?

I have found that allowing people to move through my life is one of the most difficult things to do. You see some people are only meant for a moment, some for a lifetime.

“7 things negative people will do to you. They will… 
1. Demean your value;
2. Destroy your image
3. Drive you crazily!
4. Dispose your dreams!
5. Discredit your imagination!
6. Deframe your abilities and
7. Disbelieve your opinions!

Stay away from negative people!” 

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If you have those toxic (negative, disrespectful, ‘take’ mentality) people in your life, how do you expect to reach your potential? Toxic people are toxic. To you. Your life.

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Detox immediately. You are the only one who has the power to make decisions in your life. You can wake up in the morning and choose to hit snooze or choose to get your body moving. You can choose to think it will be a beautiful day. You can choose what behaviours you accept. Every choice you make will create your life.

Make better choices. I used to carry a bucketload of guilt and sadness when I would distance myself from people.

“Someone who smiles too much with you can sometime frown too much with you at your back.” Michael Bassey Johnson

I would keep trying, giving people the benefit of the doubt, hoping and holding into thoughts of the goodness within is all. Truth is we are all on different life rhythms. Let go of those who are trying to hold you down, and let yourself be free. Just let go with love and light, wish them well and realise they were only for a moment. Let go with no guilt and surround yourself with the people who lift you higher (no guilt, it is a natural progression in life as we each change).

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Detox. Because people have the power to influence you, but only you have the power to decide and choose what you want and what is acceptable behaviour. Be strong. I can promise the more decisions you make to let go and move on from people who no longer have your best interests in their heart, the closer you are to finding the ones who do.

‘Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.’ Willie Nelson

 

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I am so grateful for every person in my life, the good and the not so, in this moment and the previous. For you have all contributed to the person {& I finally love who} I have become today.

‘Good for the body is the work of the body, and good for the soul is the work of the soul, and good for either is the work of the other.’ Henry David Thoreau

Love & light, Charlie x.

Do you have toxic people in your life? Have you successfully detoxed? Are you happier?

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Old friends. New friends.

As I have launched myself into the world that is self employment, dream chasing, following my dream, aspiring to inspire {and all the fun stuff called stress that comes with it}, I’m experiencing challenges of a different kind, the type that not everyone can relate to. I have found that as my life is changing immensely I am making connections with new people who just get it. They get me, and the conversations over a green juice flow effortlessly for hrs.

‘Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.’ Oprah Winfrey

 

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I have felt myself hold onto guilt for not experiencing the same mind-blowing connection with old friends. Guilt because aren’t friends me at to be in your life forever? Guilt for redirecting my time. Guilt for investing my time with people whose lives are flowing in the same direction (like rivers running parallel).

I discussed this manner with someone who was one of these soul inspiring meetings and she justified my truth, people come and go this is the natural flow and ebb of life. As you change your priorities change, your interests change. So it’s not so much about leaving people behind, it becomes how committed are you both to investing in the friendship? Is the friendship worth committing to? (This I cant answer for you, its something you should both decide).

‘I think it’s a very firm part of human nature that if you surround yourself with like-minded people, you’ll end up thinking more extreme versions of what you thought before.’ Cass Sunstein

 

 

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I no longer choose to spend my weekends a in a dark club consuming ridiculous amounts of alcohol and other substances. I work for myself, every day is vital to my survival…my income. I literally cannot afford to waste a day. My time is my value, not only that, but in my business, I am my greatest asset. If I dont feel 110% on the inside I cannot give 110% to my world around me.

I cannot afford to have a day spent in bed hurting (because my gosh alcohol does). If I say no to a drinking session, or partying why should I experience guilt, after all, is acting in such self harming ways good for either of our health? Surely it’s ok for me to request healthy options to invest our time wisely and nourish and nurture our bodies and minds at the same time?

Spend time with people who sincerely want the very best life has to offer you. People who believe in the beauty of your dreams. People who inspire you.

‘Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction. Break the habit. Talk about your joys.’ Rita Schiano

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Life Changes, we change.

‘As you learn who you are, you can better surround yourself with friends who make you a better person, and that sometimes only happens when you disassemble old relationships.’ Maggie Stiefvater

 

There are people we automatically gravitate to because of a connection. Since releasing my book I have been working hard, I can easily say harder than I ever have before. This is my dream, & to continue living it every moment matters. My time is my investment. I have been lucky enough to connect with beautiful people who just get it, the passion, pressures and direction of a dream, a goal and who understand the trials and tribulations of creating your own business. If I have a deadline, I have a deadline and this means doing whatever it takes to meet it, including working until 1am on a Friday night to get it done, I will do so. (I do enjoy the pressures of deadlines) Not everyone understands this.

 

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I’m not saying new friends are better than old friends, I’m simply asking how committed are both you and your older friend to ensuring the friendship grows? Like any relationship, it takes effort. Respect. Are you being respectful and appreciative of the people in your life? Are you to focused on the good times (partying?) what happens when this is over? There are people who are meant to be in your life for a lifetime, others for a moment. Learn to value each and every person, every connection. Not for what you can get from them, but for what you can give them.

People will come and go, be your true self and create a sense of understanding, life changes, we change.

‘To all the other dreamers out there, don’t ever stop or let the world’s negativity disenchant you or your spirit. If you surround yourself with love and the right people, anything is possible.’ Adam Green

Love & Light, Charlie x.

Friendship is a priceless investment. Are you making the right one?

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Soul {mates}.

I like the word soul, and I like the word mates…Mr Bigg, sex and the city. What is the definition of a soulmate? Do you believe in them? Does it have to be the opposite sex, or romantic love that clarifys a soulmate?

‘Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution.’ Deepak Chopra

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I dont think so. I just found (another) soul mate/sister and I am so so thankful.

We tend to believe that a soul mate is the one person in the world that is designed for you. One person who when you meet, you just work and everything falls into place as though you have known each other for years.

If so, cant this be broken down into friendships also? After all friendships are the family we choose, the ones we share our greatest desires and moments with.

I am dedicating this post to a woman who I rarely knew, yet I took the opportunity and time to know. And I am so thankful I did.

I had been introduced to this gorgeous girl for a brief moment by mutual friend, over a year ago. After practically mirroring each others lives (social media showed us this) in different parts of the country, we had chatted about ashrams, yoga teacher training in India, motivation, training and then the opportunity arose for her to be where I live for a photoshoot (this girl is not only beautiful on the inside, she is stunning on the outside). Going along with my ‘open your heart’ mantra for this year, I said yes.

Some of you may know, or you may not, but I am quite a quiet, private person, I keep my innermost musings, fears, loves, trials and tribulations to myself (the world needs more inspiration and motivation shared, not negativity). I find it difficult to openly express my true self. I can honestly say, I was a little nervous (oh so cute!) and anxious; another person in my home for 5 days, that I really hadnt even had a first date with 😉 Talk about a whirlwind romance, straight to the honeymoon and the ‘old married couple’ stages (we were able to have a few giggles as we decided she would take the husbands role and I would be the wifey).

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For these 5 days I will be eternally grateful. I can barely find the words to express what occured. As she spoke, and I listened it was like she was reading my mind. Her life experiences were practically that of mine, her passions, her dreams & fears, her likes and dislikes…it was unbelievable.

‘The soul mate is what we aspire to and like to understand about us, is what we deem to be perfection, purity and endless regarding our own being.’ Sorin Cerin

Even our ‘bad’ habits…I don’t think I need to share them here, but I am still working on the art of ‘practicing patience’, especially with a 5 day live in friend, soulmate, wifey/hubby.

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This woman has given me the greatest gift of all…love & time.

As we spent our days walking, training, green smoothie ‘ ing’, discussing the most intense topics to the most ridiculous, I felt a sense of acceptance. She listened as I rambled, I listened as she rambled. She introduced me to Tempeh (my absolute new favourite!), I would like to think I helped her break a bad habit, together we created dream, vision & goal boards, we shared our inner most secret emotions, many priceless moments and marvelled at the amazing creation of our lives. The energy between us, sparkled (quite funny, but without sounding weird in anyway, when my gfs sleepover we share my bed, however for 5 days I had to delegate myself to the couch because the energy and motivation was so intense I couldn’t sleep).

Now, I realise this may sound like I have a new crush, or have fallen in love…the honest truth, I have.

‘Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with.’ Candace Bushnell (author, Sex and the City)

This woman…the true essence of grace. Radiating out of her for all to see. Kind, caring, motivated, passionate, a dreamer, a believer, a sensitive soul (and one that shouldnt be entrusted as the gps, or time commitments…we cant all be perfect 😉

‘Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When were two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are weve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.’ Richard Bach

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She cooked (amazing), cleaned, played me music, opened my mind, opened my heart and walked beside me. We practised a yoga flow at sunset, no direction, no words just our practices and music, there is no other description but magic. I actually feel like I have been on a 5 day retreat, although I have been here in my own home, my own community, living my normal daily life.

I am left better than I was before, feeling wrapped up in love, supported and like I have found one of lifes greatest treasures; a soulsister.

‘Soulmates tend to find each other during their respective pursuits of their soul missions. Creating a soulmate could be seen as a spiritual reward that we give ourselves, after pursuing many soul contracts rife with discord.’ Linda Brady

So soulmate, just one? The opposite sex? I believe that you create exactly what you believe, in fact as we practised this and the art of manifestation it was extraordinary what we began to experince adn what was presented to us. What you believe, you create. So, if you want to find your one and only soul mate, go find him or her! Or, perhaps you may choose to see love (this is my 2014 word) everywhere, choose to expect less and give more and allow people to just be. The past 5 days, I have just been. Me. The raw, the grumpy, the motivated, the frustrated, the loving, every essence of my being that make me, me.

And I was accepted.

Ive talked alot about the feeling of not being enough. If someone makes you feel like you arent enough, exactly as you are…find people who do. Surround yourself with people who believe in you, who see your beauty without your hair done, who look into your eyes and see your soul, the ones who make you come alive.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Feeling honoured to have found another beautiful soul to share my journey that is life with. Thank you.

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The Backup Plan

Perhaps you have seen the movie, Jennifer Lopez plays a single woman that takes her situation into her own hands and opts for the service of a sperm bank, it is then she meets the man of her dreams.

‘Ever since happiness heard your name, its been running through the streets trying to find you.’ Hafiz

 

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My back up plan is a little different, it’s as simple as a friend and I decided that by the time I turned 30, if there were no prospects, we would be together, get married, have a house with a white picket fence (well actually a farm with acres of rolling green grass).

As I’m approaching 30, I’m experiencing mixed emotions about it; positive and negative, but I was reminded about my back up plan.

Back up plans, are they good? It is quite comical really. My backup plan was made with a man who I had thought was the most amazing (ever and yes I do tend to wear my heart on my sleeve and fall head first into the men I actually like a lot) man who was perfect for me, a few years ago. At the time we dated, we were young, both only beginning to completely know ourselves. We weren’t ready to settle. Throughout the years of our friendship there have been numerous fun times and moments; family gatherings (my family still harass me about him today), so we decided to create our own back up plan. At a time we thought we would be ready (30, when your younger you expect to have your whole life planned by the time you are), if we were both free, we would choose to be together and create a life.

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I realise now that we created this back up plan as a way to ease our insecurity and offer both of us some form of protection, no matter what happened we would have each other. We offered each other a sense of security.

‘The dreams that you hold for your future are what you dream about at night. Theyre always at the back of your mind. Theyre what your heart desires. They keep you going. Accept reality and have a backup plan, but always follow your dreams no matter what.’

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To be someones ‘back up’ plan, could be seen as putting yourself as someones option, or even as a second choice in a derogatory manner. However, from my experience (only the 1), we built our back up plan on a friendship, with mutual trust, respect and love (I do consider myself extremely lucky). The plan was all made in fun, Im not sure we were serious, but the sense of security and of true friendship I gained was priceless, for that I will always be grateful to him.

“The most valuable gift you can receive is an honest friend.” Stephen Richards

To be lonely and alone is one of the greatest fears of many in this world. Especially as we begin to see failed marriages, divorces, and bad relationships surrounding us. I mean, I could count on one hand the number of truly, madly, deeply, head over heals, unconditional love, types of relationships I know (and the people who are in them are just amazing).

‘Loneliness is my least favorite thing about life. The thing that I’m most worried about is just being alone without anybody to care for or someone who will care for me.’ Anne Hathaway

When it’s not acceptable to be a ‘backup’; if he/she keeps you waiting, playing with your emotions and treats you disrespectfully.

This is not a backup plan, he/she is keeping you as an option in case anything better comes along, but you’ll do in the mean time. Do not allow yourself to be someones option, second choice or time filler. You are an amazing, gorgeous creation and you deserve the very best, set yourself some standards.

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Now as the big 3 0 is approaching, rapidly, I may need to ask for an extension on our plan …whilst I am free, my passion, time and energy needs to be directed to creating my dream reality. Lets hope he agrees or I’ll be looking for a new one 😉

“Freedom is not the absence of commitments, but the ability to choose — and commit myself to — what is best for me.” ―Paulo Coelho

Hopefully I can continue my search for truly madly, passionate all-consuming love that as the hopeless romantic that I am, do believe is out there for me.

Love & light, Charlie x.

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Do you have a back up plan?

I would love to hear about it! Comment or email me charlie@charliedehaas.com.au

Stop trying to control OTHER people…

“Everybody thinks of changing humanity, but nobody thinks of changing himself.” Leo Tolstoy

Do you find yourself disappointed in other people’s actions? Feeling let down or worse, betrayed? Perhaps you find yourself trying to control other people, frustrated when they choose to do what THEY want to do, which all to often is not what we would like them to do.

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The truth is you cannot control other people and once you stop trying to by just letting them be, this is when the magic will happen. Those relationships, friendships and connections you have always wanted will blossom.

Everyone has their own set of morals and standards that they adhere to, thoughts and experiences in life so they can live their life in a way that they think is right. We are all different.

When you try to control or direct other people and the role they play in your life, this will only lead to disappointment. Sometimes, we believe we know what is best for other people, for their well-being. One of the hardest situations as a friend is to be a constant source of support, especially when you see the same mistake happening over and over again.

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Controlling can be sourced from a desire of having things in order and perfectionism, but it can also be an ugly trait, co existing with manipulation, jealousy and low-self esteem.

Do you have high expectations because you expect more from people? As much as you give? I’m sorry to say but this can be a setting them up to fail, and setting yourself up for pain. Just let them be.

Let them be the master of their own destiny just as you are the master of yours. You can choose to be happy, today in this moment, your happiness is not found through other people. You create it with your thoughts, your actions.

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“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.” Gilda Radner

You can control your life. You can control who is in it. You can control what you do with it.

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But you cannot control other people. We are all on our own journey. How do you know when it’s time to let go? You may find yourself in a situation where you are no longer moving together on your journeys perhaps it’s time to find your own direction. You can’t tie people to you, so they don’t find their own way through life. Find some independence.  Dont dwell on the change of friendships, relationships, people change. Find peace in the movement of people, many will come and go in your life. Just let go, remember what will be will be.

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“The real things haven’t changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong.” Laura Ingalls Wilder

This is the beauty of life, the flow, the highs and lows. Start focusing in your own rather than other people’s.

Love & light, Charlie  x.

The ‘C’ word; Commitment

Commitment, a word so many of us seem to have become fearful of, even creating commitment phobia; the fear of commitment.

‘Commitment is an act, not a word.’ Jean-Paul Sartre

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I wanted to write about this as it is such a huge term thrown around loosely in our society. Dating; there are people who are always in relationships who fear being alone, and then the opposite people who never seem to let anyone to close or commit, fear of commitment.

What does making a commitment mean? Why do we make it such a big word? (Yes, I include myself in this).

Commitment isn’t  really such a big thing, either you make a commitment or you don’t, its simply doing what you say you will do.

Sounds so simple.

Yet so often (even if it is as simple as that), are we failing, failing to make a commitment and keep it.

I’m writing about this in every life sense; relationships: lovers, family, friends. Life; Career, health.

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When we make a commitment to someone or something it means that we will do exactly what it is we have said we would and do whatever it takes to achieve the result you made the commitment for in the first place. No matter what happens.

Relationships; commit to create a loving happy environment for each person to develop and grow.

Health; commit to a target or goal to achieve as something to adhere to.

Career; commit to be the best version of yourself.

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‘The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.’ Vince Lombardi

What about a commitment to yourself? That you will only ever be the very best you can, with the very best people and not allow yourself to be tolerant of anything less?

Why are we scared of commitment? I have found from speaking with numerous people, in/out and in between relationships, that the ‘c’ word carries a certain level of threat, a sense of entrapment, a loss of your freedom. In the world we live in, we are told we can have anything, be anyone, is this part of the reason people are failing to commit, in hope of something better, after all we are always told, not to settle.

Is this the way it should be? Again I am no expert, in fact I would easily say I have a fear of letting anyone get to close, but I would hope that in times of evaluating a commitment, especially in a relationship that the person you were creating it with, that person wouldn’t want to take away your freedom, or create a sense of entrapment. After all you are the person you are because of all the things you do, the way that you do them. Unique.

Relationships that are ‘traps’ or something rather than nothing don’t have the longevity or level of commitment required to develop something truly wonderful.

“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans’. Peter F. Drucker

What about commitments to our friends? We make these every day without realising, a social date, dinner date, green tea, walk in the park. Take a moment now to evaluate how many plans you make, and how many actually happen?

I’m not sure if this is the fast paced life of a Sydneysider (were always, always busy), but I do know that it is incredibly frustrating when you are the friend that is cancelled on.

When we think about committing to plans, think for a moment, the other person, your friend, your lover, who you love, respect and care about, is making time out of their own busy schedule for you, to be in your company  and enjoy all the magical things that friends/lovers do (generally making your world a better place).

What type of love and respect are you showing by cancelling?

Why commit to the plans in the first place? It’s easy to say yes, I’ll be there. But the real respect and trust comes from actually showing up. Especially for special events. Sometimes its important to contemplate the importance of something in your friend/lovers life that may have no importance to you. If it means the world to them, be there. Simple.

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Desire is the key to motivation, but it’s determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal – a commitment to excellence – that will enable you to attain the success you seek.’ Mario Andretti

We have relationships and friendships with people in our life who we want to spend our time with, people who (should) make us feel better, people who we want to enjoy the journey of life with including the ups and the downs.

Are you a commitment phobe? Think about why?

I would classify myself as slightly scared of commitment, I know for myself, I am still healing my heart, and I am developing self-love inside myself, before I can start to contemplate a relationship. I’ve also noticed from my personal experience, I like my life the way it is, (actually head over heals in love with it) and from previous relationships, all I know is that they have the power to disrupt and ruin everything (I have made very unwise decisions in the past). So for myself; as guarded as that may sound, I’m taking a little time to work on myself, my trust issues and I’m happy to do so.

You don’t always need to be with someone to be ok. The secret is, you already always have someone, yourself.

So today, when you make a commitment however big or small, to whatever aspect, contemplate firstly if you have any intention of going through with it. If not, just say no, people respect honesty (much more than a last-minute cancellation)

‘An ounce of performance is worth pounds of promises’. Mae West.

Todays commitment (actually week); it’s not a treat if it’s every day – committing to be fit. (The C word, not such a big deal after all).

Love & light, Charlie x

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Diamonds are a girls best friend…

Not the ones you buy as a status symbol or statement (don’t get me wrong, diamonds are beyond beautiful); diamonds; of the true friend type…precious and rare.

 ‘A single rose can be my garden…a single friend, my world.’ Leo Buscaglia

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Recently I have been overwhelmed by the pure kindness, support and love from some special people in my life.

Today’s inspired writing is for them in hope of sharing a smile and some magic and perhaps to inspire you to show your appreciation for the love in your life.

True friends are like diamonds, precious and rare. So rare, I can count them easily, the people who I know will always be there, the ones that love me unconditionally, and hold my hand and support me (even when they know what I may be doing could be a huge mistake, recent journey to the past, point).

‘A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same.’ Elbert Hubbard

As I returned home, a genuine feeling of belonging, a complete sense of being washed over me (as I crawled into my much awaited bed after an emotionally exhausting weekend).

A sense that everything would be ok, I was home, exactly where I belonged and I would figure it all out on my own (I do admit independence can sometimes be my downfall) filled my mind, body and soul (this feeling of complete contentment is priceless).

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As I reached out to my close friends; I was filled with genuine love for the support they provided me. The true love. How did I get so lucky to have such amazing wonderful, kind people in my life?

Some people bring out the best in you. My diamonds (true friends), bring out the very best in me. Somehow they make me want to be more, to be better, for you see, these special people in my life are held on pedestals, I love them, cherish them, worship them and would do anything I can to protect them and support them. I genuinely believe they are beautiful people (inside & out).

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 ‘Good friends, good books and a sleepy conscience; this is the ideal life’. Mark Twain.

Having friends you look up to and aspire to be like is one of the greatest tools of success (I believe).

Be with people who bring out the best in you and you will go places you never thought possible.

Be with people who bring out the worst in you, and you will find your dreams will just remain dreams. Life isnt designed to be easy, and to truly find our success we need a support system greater then self-love, sometimes we need a shoulder to cry on, or a hand to help us up when we fall down (and we all fall down, including myself, often actually).

As I contemplated my luck; feeling my heart full of love, I realised that I had created this life, I had created this circle of trust, respect and love.

When you choose to act morally correctly, the people with the same values will be attracted to you, like attracts like.

‘The only way to have a friend is to be one’. Ralph Waldo Emerson.

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I am no longer a ‘want to be the centre of attention’ party girl, in fact I cannot recall the last time I was in that scene, but I do recall, there were no diamonds, just fake friends (leaves, found everywhere) based on how pretty you looked and what designer you wore.

‘Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.’  Oprah Winfrey

Everyone is entitled to live their life as they choose, by their own moral standards. You will attract people who live by the same ethical code as you do.

I choose to live my life based on integrity, gratitude and love.

I will wear my heart on my sleeve, I will radiate love, and I will make a conscious effort every day to be kind and to simply; smile.

To do this, I will keep my priceless diamonds protected and safe with the loyalty of my Love.

True friendship cannot be brought in a store, true friendship will only be available to you when you yourself are a true friend. How do you treat the people in your life? Are you supportive of their dreams? Their desires? Do you listen? Are you truly ‘there’ when they may have needed you?

Taking this time to send my love to every (amazing) person in my life right Now. You may not realise, but whilst I have been reflecting on the changes occurring, the very thought of the gentle feeling of your hand holding mine, drives me to succeed.

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I believe in myself, but why do it on your own when you can enjoy the journey of life, of creating a dream reality in the pleasurable company of friends? Life after all is a journey, not a destination, laugh at the confusion, smile at the madness and love with all your heart.

‘Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.’ Marcel Proust

Love & Light, Charlie x.

I am feeling blessed, supported and wrapped up in your love (thank you). This is for my true friends (diamonds) who are precious & rare.

Self love Sunday; Invest your time.

With the growing pressures of life It’s not to often we get time to do what we like.

Self love Sunday; ask yourself, what would make you happy today?

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After a recent situation occurred in my life, I found myself needing the company of my good friends, I felt like I needed to get out the thoughts I was holding in, but I needed to be sure they were spoken to the right people. There is a certain degree of trust we must build with people to offer and gain respect.

A place where there was no judgement, a place where it was ok to be yourself, with people who understand that life is a beautiful blessing with highs and lows.

‘One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood. ‘ Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Sometimes situations occur that you can’t control and they may not be what you thought they would be. Such is life.

When this happens the best plan is to surround yourself with people who lift you higher. People who inspire and motivate you.

In life you meet people for different reasons, a short time or a long time. Treasure those you met who replicate the qualities you value.

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It can be to easy and I’ve definitely done it before, that when things happen that upset us we want to hide away from the world and cancel the best laid plans with our loved ones (extremely frustrating if you are the one cancelled on).

Today, instead of hiding myself away, wallowing in negative thoughts, feeling less then happy, I continued on with my pre organised life. A day of exercise, sunshine, writing and my ‘me’ time, yoga, all with friends. And now I am thankful that I did. The gift that is friendship is something so special, that no matter what happens you will always feel ‘restored’. Friendship is a brilliant source of therapy.

 “A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.”   William Shakespearesls4

The pure beauty about true friendships, the people who you love and love you, is that they will understand if your not your normal bubbly self, they will lend a sympathetic ear, and offer the reassurance that sometimes even though you may have learnt self love, need.

‘A friend is one who knows you and loves you all the same’. Elbert Hubbard

Surround yourself with people who make you feel good. Invest your time in these friendships, for they are rare.

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When I was younger, it was about how many friends you had = how popular you were. Now, it’s not about how many, but how many real friends, quality over quantity.

Friendship is a special gift. Treasure it.

‘Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. ‘Marcel Proust

Love & light, Charlie x.

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Special dedication for my gorgeous girl who was there when I needed her