I like the word soul, and I like the word mates…Mr Bigg, sex and the city. What is the definition of a soulmate? Do you believe in them? Does it have to be the opposite sex, or romantic love that clarifys a soulmate?
‘Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution.’ Deepak Chopra
I dont think so. I just found (another) soul mate/sister and I am so so thankful.
We tend to believe that a soul mate is the one person in the world that is designed for you. One person who when you meet, you just work and everything falls into place as though you have known each other for years.
If so, cant this be broken down into friendships also? After all friendships are the family we choose, the ones we share our greatest desires and moments with.
I am dedicating this post to a woman who I rarely knew, yet I took the opportunity and time to know. And I am so thankful I did.
I had been introduced to this gorgeous girl for a brief moment by mutual friend, over a year ago. After practically mirroring each others lives (social media showed us this) in different parts of the country, we had chatted about ashrams, yoga teacher training in India, motivation, training and then the opportunity arose for her to be where I live for a photoshoot (this girl is not only beautiful on the inside, she is stunning on the outside). Going along with my ‘open your heart’ mantra for this year, I said yes.
Some of you may know, or you may not, but I am quite a quiet, private person, I keep my innermost musings, fears, loves, trials and tribulations to myself (the world needs more inspiration and motivation shared, not negativity). I find it difficult to openly express my true self. I can honestly say, I was a little nervous (oh so cute!) and anxious; another person in my home for 5 days, that I really hadnt even had a first date with 😉 Talk about a whirlwind romance, straight to the honeymoon and the ‘old married couple’ stages (we were able to have a few giggles as we decided she would take the husbands role and I would be the wifey).
For these 5 days I will be eternally grateful. I can barely find the words to express what occured. As she spoke, and I listened it was like she was reading my mind. Her life experiences were practically that of mine, her passions, her dreams & fears, her likes and dislikes…it was unbelievable.
‘The soul mate is what we aspire to and like to understand about us, is what we deem to be perfection, purity and endless regarding our own being.’ Sorin Cerin
Even our ‘bad’ habits…I don’t think I need to share them here, but I am still working on the art of ‘practicing patience’, especially with a 5 day live in friend, soulmate, wifey/hubby.
This woman has given me the greatest gift of all…love & time.
As we spent our days walking, training, green smoothie ‘ ing’, discussing the most intense topics to the most ridiculous, I felt a sense of acceptance. She listened as I rambled, I listened as she rambled. She introduced me to Tempeh (my absolute new favourite!), I would like to think I helped her break a bad habit, together we created dream, vision & goal boards, we shared our inner most secret emotions, many priceless moments and marvelled at the amazing creation of our lives. The energy between us, sparkled (quite funny, but without sounding weird in anyway, when my gfs sleepover we share my bed, however for 5 days I had to delegate myself to the couch because the energy and motivation was so intense I couldn’t sleep).
Now, I realise this may sound like I have a new crush, or have fallen in love…the honest truth, I have.
‘Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with.’ Candace Bushnell (author, Sex and the City)
This woman…the true essence of grace. Radiating out of her for all to see. Kind, caring, motivated, passionate, a dreamer, a believer, a sensitive soul (and one that shouldnt be entrusted as the gps, or time commitments…we cant all be perfect 😉
‘Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When were two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are weve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.’ Richard Bach
She cooked (amazing), cleaned, played me music, opened my mind, opened my heart and walked beside me. We practised a yoga flow at sunset, no direction, no words just our practices and music, there is no other description but magic. I actually feel like I have been on a 5 day retreat, although I have been here in my own home, my own community, living my normal daily life.
I am left better than I was before, feeling wrapped up in love, supported and like I have found one of lifes greatest treasures; a soulsister.
‘Soulmates tend to find each other during their respective pursuits of their soul missions. Creating a soulmate could be seen as a spiritual reward that we give ourselves, after pursuing many soul contracts rife with discord.’ Linda Brady
So soulmate, just one? The opposite sex? I believe that you create exactly what you believe, in fact as we practised this and the art of manifestation it was extraordinary what we began to experince adn what was presented to us. What you believe, you create. So, if you want to find your one and only soul mate, go find him or her! Or, perhaps you may choose to see love (this is my 2014 word) everywhere, choose to expect less and give more and allow people to just be. The past 5 days, I have just been. Me. The raw, the grumpy, the motivated, the frustrated, the loving, every essence of my being that make me, me.
And I was accepted.
Ive talked alot about the feeling of not being enough. If someone makes you feel like you arent enough, exactly as you are…find people who do. Surround yourself with people who believe in you, who see your beauty without your hair done, who look into your eyes and see your soul, the ones who make you come alive.
Love & light, Charlie x.
Feeling honoured to have found another beautiful soul to share my journey that is life with. Thank you.