Be happy… NOW (not when you…)

 

Take a moment to stop and think..are you happy? Yes, no? Or are you a ‘when I’, or ‘when this happens’ Ill be happy?

Sorry to rock your world beautiful one but if you arent happy today with what you have right now in this exact moment…you wont be happy when you get those abs, that white range (yup thats on my own goal board), the hot hubby (yup, hes on there to) or whatever your ‘it’ might be.

Because your goals will always change and life will always happen. Things dont go to plan, and no matter how organised or proactive you might be…life will change. That guy that you adore, might not reciprocate your feelings. That promotion might be given to someone else. Etc, etc. What is meant for you will be.

You have to trust this, whilst working for all that you dream of, but being here today, present and grateful.

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Happiness…what is it even?

Material things; that promotion, that house, $$$, do not guarantee happiness.

Yet we claim these as symbols of success, and success to be happiness.

‘Everyone chases after happiness, not noticing that happiness is at their heels’ Bertolt Brecht

We use our ‘busyness’ as a sign of success; the busier we are the more important/successful we think we are.

Success, derived from the Latin succedere, means ‘to go on well’. Surely this would imply that success is a journey?

We {myself included} wake up with thoughts of ‘just do it’, ‘you can have it all’, ‘make it happen’, now Im not saying these are not good thoughts, but what is your ‘it’? What is ‘it’ that you are striving for.

Is it material? Or is it to inspire? Is it to love more? Emotional/spiritual goals? Are you looking for something/someone to complete you? Because the truth is, everything that you are looking for is right inside of you. And your happiness can be found in this moment.

Happiness is not an ‘it’ and the more you chase ‘it’ the more difficult it will become to achieve.

‘If your definition of success has little or no measure of love in it, get another definition’.

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Tell me, if you were to go to sleep every night content and happy…is this success?

We often read bibliographies of great men, who upon their last words wished they had made more time for the things that mattered; their family, their wife…their loved ones. See, they’ve realised, just a little to late,  that love is what it is all about. At the end of the day.

Everyday.

It all comes down to love.

‘The intelligent man quickly realize the importance of gold’ Hafiz

What is really important to you?

If love is important, how can you have more love in your life today?

If happiness is important, how can you be happier today?

If health is important, how can you be healthier today?

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Be present now. Whilst yes, I am a dreamer and I have BIG plans, when I find myself daydreaming {this includes interior designing & launch party invite creations of my 5 year goal/The Clean Treats Factory} I have to make a conscious effort to return to the moment, to today. Because if I don’t, If I spend my time to far in the clouds, to far in the ‘when I’ thoughts, the things that actually need to be done to make this dream come true, wont be.

Do you do what you love everyday?

Do you smile with someone everyday?

Do you exercise, eat healthy, treat your body with respect everyday? (If your anything like me I know for a fact that eating well can be felt as happiness within my body).

These are moments of success.

‘Dont aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally.’ David Frost.

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{I am so blessed to receive such kind words like the above, truly makes my heart smile, and keeps me going when those not so great things happen, as they do in business, love, life.}

It is a proven fact that happier people are more productive. So saying something like ‘I am happy with my work’ will generate a positive outcome. Saying something like’ I hate work’ wont.

If today you can just be a little better than yesterday, your already on your way to creating your own dream reality.

‘Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. Winston Churchill.

Even the above quote states that success is to keep going. If you ask me about business, happiness or love {not that I know a whole lot, I make mistakes everyday, but I am trying}, my words to you, to anyone would be to find what makes you happy, believe in yourself and never quit, and just blimmin enjoy it. Laugh, cry, scream, go to bed and then get the f&8k back up and get shit done.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Love right now. No matter where you are in your life, or what is happening, you are exactly where you should be & everything will always be ok.

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Self Love Sunday; Invest in yourself

Business is a funny thing, each day you can experience those on top of the world feelings, then the every next moment feel like your struggling to doggy paddle your way to shore, …or some form of safety, sometimes just trying to breathe (not that there is ever safety in business).

Change is good. It’s also often hard. But to succeed in business, you must run toward it.

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For this reason, and as I am making the big leaps to make my business something  real, I decided to invest in a Business Coach. An investment that I felt was priceless.

While I know a bit about business from 10 years as a BDM {Business Development Manager} for leading companies in their respective fields, and managing…its a different world when you’re in your own business. Im currently re-reading the E myth…making the change from a toddler to adolescent business can be scary (and it is!). The most difficult issue being that while once you were everything in your business; the technician, the manager, the entrepreneur, the accountant, the dreamer, the marketing pro, the delivery man, the social media guru and every single thing in between, making the jump to potentially being a BIG business means your taking a leap of faith…not knowing what will happen but only knowing & trusting where you are going.

These are the things I am currently changing in my business world that will ultimately (I believe) progress me towards my BIG dream reality, my vision of making a healthy change in the world.

‘Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.’ Brian Tracey

 

*Staff….because I can’t keep doing everything, everyday. Now if you don’t know, this itself is a huge investment of time, the interviewing process…I wish I could have some type of lie detector test (I guess this is really only a test of my intuition), people know how to interview today, and your basically opening your heart and soul that you’ve made a business to other people. It’s imeperative they have the passion and drive that you do. For me, one of the Clean Treats values is INTEGRITY. Ad let’s be 200% honest, no one will ever love your business like you do…so honestly…. I am scared.

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‘A dream is your creative vision for your life in the future. You must break out of your comfort zone and become comfortable with the unfamiliar and the unknown.’ Denis Waitley

 

In taking team members on board this also means; contracts, systems, policies and procedure manuals (that I dont have)…structure (that I also dont have a lot of).

NEW PACKAGING…as I write this on a Sunday, I underestimated how much work this would be. The risk…the pressure to get it right (I am also a perfectionist), and really just the need to have it now. Working with designers (this hasnt been my best experience) and printers, trying to make the decisions that will either mean success or failure (even though you can never fail if you dont quit), I should probably say the difference between right and wrong. And theres so many aspects to this. The legalities, the testing of the product, food regulations, display, appeal, marketing…..

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As you move outside of your comfort zone, what was once the unknown and frightening becomes your new normal.’ Robin S. Sharma

 

New Websites for both The Clean Treats Factory & my personal brand.

Ebook & Healthcoaching (I need to focus on this as helping people is my passion).

Secret projects… I cant write too much here, but these are completely new opportunities created with a thought… #collabmagic.

*Inhouse Accountant…its time for me not to waste anytime doing what I can average do and have a pro do what they professionally can.

So with all of the above, and some things being a lot more difficult than I imagined, it was only natural that I had a few tears when meeting with my Business Coach this week… her perfect words to me (and said excitedly) … your out of your comfort zone, this is where the magic happens.

‘Im continually trying to make choices that put me against my comfort zone. As long as your uncomfortable, it means your growing.’ Ashton Kutcher

 

 

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Im SO uncomfortable right now. Her (I’m using Alison Morgan from The Relauncher ) words were a perfect realisation for me. Spoken at the right time, in a little moment of self doubt & pressure. This is exactly the reason I chose to work with her.

A business coach is someone that might have more experience in an industry than you, it might be someone who has more experience with wealth creation, or it could be someone who inspires you… for me, Alison was this.

She gives me homework, so I can’t be ‘to busy’ not to do some of the things I need to do, she lets me know that everything is going to be ok when I feel overwhelmed and out of control, she helps me get all the crazy thoughts that consume out onto paper and helps me make a plan. So instead of doing everything I can until I burn out, we make a strategic plan and timeline so I know whats happening and when and can pause for a moment to catch my breath. I just feel like she has my back.

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You see getting a business coach, isnt admitting your bad at business, but it’s reaching out for help and making an investment in your self and your business because you might be too far in to look perspectively at all the wonder you’re creating (perhaps even the mess you are making). Just like you get a personal trainer for your body, a business coach is an investment you are making in your business, in your desire to be more, to grow and develop, and personally I dont have the business skills I know I will require to take my business where I want it to be. So in the terms of Henry Ford (he was a great man who knew nothing about his industry), build a team around you of people who are experts at what they do, so you can be an expert in what you do (me…Im the dreamer, the lover, the idealist)

‘Adaptability is about the powerful difference between adapting to cope and adapting to win.’ Max McKeown

Another thing…its kind of like a health coach, your basically paying for someone to hold your hand, and when you don’t have a world of business minded people/family/husband/lover, or financial support behind you…that alone is more than priceless.

Love & light, Charlie x.

{look her up, Alison also does skype coaching and I highly recommend her)

Blessed {thank you}

Its taken me a few days to get time to sit down and write this.

Firstly, a HUGE thank you to everyone who helped me with my crowdfunding campaign… it was a SUCCESS!  & I cannot even begin to describe how grateful I am to you. Words cannot portray the love & gratitude I feel in my heart.

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‘Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.’ Harriet Tubman 

The truth is, it was a big risk {and scary as hell}, to put myself and my brand out there and just say ‘hey, I need your help’.

As mush as we say its ok to ask for help, how often do we? Yet instead most of us chose to act strong & like everything is perfect with our rose tinted glasses on.

I can honestly say, something had to change for me. This made my decision about the launching the campaign. I couldnt keep doing the little things I was doing, working harder not smarter and making slow progress (yes, progress is still progress). But I knew I was close to burn out.

‘Oh, I was never a businessman. I was a visionary, a dreamer.’ Jim Bakker

With my business, its never had a $ of investment, instead it was created from a need to pay my own living costs and grow itself. & truth be told I love this about my story. I dont even have a credit card so I can instead chose to grow organically. Now, this is great & all, but it can also mean that growth may be slower, or in my case I was struggling to keep up with the growth & needs of my clients (more so on a time limit).

‘I think of myself not just as a dreamer, but as a dream chaser’. Sarah Brightman

So because of you, & my leap of faith, today Im sending of the brand new packaging to China for my first sample…

I AM IN LOVE…

 

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What do you think? {The Muscle Ball range is Mint Green & the display box is Kraft cardboard}

You see, what you have done, by showing me love, pre ordering & sharing my campaign, is restore my faith (that was getting a little tired from hrs of exhausting myself & Adrenal Fatigue) that I am exactly where I need to be, doing exactly what I should be doing (my recent Angel reading also said this). Youve shown me that there is a need for a product like mine (1 year of business also shows this), and that together, we, the people can make a change. This is EXCITING.

You know just the other day I read an article that McDonalds is losing money… This is success. WE can create a change by learning to love ourselves and  make healthy changes. By learning to listen to our bodies. Instead of focusing on the things you dont like, focus on the things you do and all the good you are blessed with.

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Because of the campaign success, I also decided its time to STEP up my game, and my own health so I can be the very best I can be. No more excuses. No more mistreatment of my body (too much sugar, not enough self love). Its time to honour the beautiful body I was created with & give it everything it needs to give me what I need. You eat well, you feel well…such a good circle.

For me, & for my business, but for you. Anyone that takes the time to read my blogs and share my journey with me.

Because I have BIG dreams & I believe in them with every essence of my being. YOU have given me a new opportunity to shine (I CANNOT WAIT TO RELEASE THE NEW PRODUCT).

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And Im doing the work. So many people say they want to do their own thing, but their not prepared to do the work. Not prepared to get up an hr earlier, go to bed an hr later, say no to social engagements & commit themselves fully to their dream.

I am. The next 3 months I have given myself to do everything I can to bring a better & improved product & company to you. Regardless of the weekends missed, I know what Im running towards, the dreams that are becoming my reality. Im prepared to go without do my business can go with.

Can you see yours? Do you know where your going? What are you running towards???

Its so easy to get confused & off track, I mean theres so much competition out there & entrepreneurship isnt easy. But if you believe, even 2 steps forward, 1 step back…sideways or upside down…it doesnt matter. Your headed in the right direction. Trust, faith & believe in yourself always.

‘There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.’ Colin Powell

My current frame of mind is taking from one of the greatest businessmen in history; Henry Ford, who knew nothing about the Steel industry but built a team around him of people who were experts with what they knew so he could do what he did best. And its a pretty special place to be, to be able to have a business coach (who makes me do homework & get out of my own mind), a graphic designer to bring a professional product to you, a lawyer to get everything that needs to be done, done, an accountant to look after all my figures, an intern to do the little things and today interviewing staff for the kitchen, so I can do what I love doing & do best… including writing, coaching & being the dreamer I am.

‘Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination, and dedication. Remember all things are possible for those who believe.’ Gail Devers

I am blessed & grateful. Thank you.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Because together, we can make a change in the world.

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Pay it Forward

Today is Pay it Forward day…

‘My religion is simple, my religion is kindness’ Dalai Lama

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A day where we should be giving someone some love, helping someone or doing a kind deed (really should be every day I think).

‘Your greatness is measured by your kindness; your education and intellect by your modesty; your ignorance is betrayed by your suspicions nad prejudices, and your real calibre is measured by the consideration and tolerance you have for others’ William J.H. Boetcker

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Why?

Have you ever had someone open a door for you when your hands are full? Had a random stranger compliment you (I still remmeber the day I was in a chemist waiting for a meeting and a kind elderly woman complimented my outfit and my composure…5 years ago)? Ever received a gift from someone unexpectedly? Perhaps even had someone let you in traffic? (Kindness doesnt have to be grandeur)

How did you feel? These are the little things (they dont have to cost a crazy amount, or anything at all) that can make a difference.

‘Unexpected kindness is the most powerful, least costly, and most underrated agent of human change.’ Bob Kerrey 

I know personally, they create a feeling of ‘good’, of peace, of connection with the world, hope, possibility and kindness. That there are good people in the world afterall. That life isnt about whats happening tomorrow, what your eating for your next meal…life is about being a good human and sharing your passion and purpose with as many people as you can.

Leave people better than they were after they have talked with you. We need to re connect, to listen, to show compassion for one another, otherwise well all be here chasing instagram likes, the latest designer outfits, more fake face plumping and left wondering why we arent actually happy?

 

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When was the last time you shared love? Complimented someone, let someone have the seat on the bus, helped someone with their boxes/bags (honestly every day Im weighed down with stock, struggling to open doors, and no men ever offer to help?! (maybe I’m not wearing enough makeup on those days, sad but true).

Then theres other days, like recently when Ive been at events (with my #balls of course) and someone hasnt had quite enough $$$ to buy a pack, so the kind lovely person next to her, purchased them and gave them to her… heartmelt moment (I then also put extra in her pack as a thank you/your too kind).

‘We think too much and feel too little. More than machinery, we need humanity. More than cleverness, we need kindness and gentleness’ Charlie Chaplin 

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So today fo Pay it Forward day…do something good…for someone…anyone, regardless if you know them or not. In fact it’s always a pleasant surprise when its a stranger.

Send some one  a love letter, send a message of love to the world.

Speak to the person at the supermarket, smile at the young girl who serves you coffee…make small talk about the weather, say please, and thank you, ‘have a good day’…these are the small things that we are losing in our fast paced world, the things that matter. That connect us.

I also know that when kindness has been given/shown to me…I then feel good about myself and continue to share this with the people I go on to connect with. An attitude of gratitude is the key to happiness.

‘You can have everything you want in life if you just help enough people get what they want in life’ Zig Ziglar

{This is my personal mantra nad belief for my business and my life}

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What will you do today to make someones day a little brighter?

Love, Charlie x.

So, so grateful beyond words that my project is nearly at 50%…if you would like to share love with me…and pre order my new #balls, check out my campaign:

http://www.pozible.com/project/190510

An evening with a Sexpert.

What is a sexpert?

Well just this week I spent an evening with one, Juliet Allen as part of the Daily Guru, Self love Series.

The topic of the night; Reconnecting with yourself – The Feminine & the Sexy.

What can I say, I was excited. I was unsure of course what type of things we would be discussing especially as Juliet started her talk with ‘sometimes Im told Im to raunchy/explicit, and sometimes Im told IM not enough’.

I presume everyones assumption of ‘raunchy’ is different, and I believe that is the key core message that Juliet got across.

So to reconnect with your feminine and be the sexy sensual goddess you are, it takes 7 steps.

‘She is a woman who radiates light. She is magnetic’

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#1 Take care of yourself.

Put yourself first.

Self care & self love. When you feel good about yourself you create an essence of confidence (without ego).

Take time out for you, reconnect, do the girly things, get a manicure, a massage, a facial.

Take care of your body. Confidence starts on the inside. Are you treating yourself like the gorgeous sexy hot woman you know you are? Eating nourishing foods? Training your mind? Creating good situations to be in? Or are you not? Perhaps choosing not so nutritious foods that can leave you feeling bloated and blah, chatting to yourself ceaselessly negatively (how can anyone feel good with those negative words on repeat?), or being in situtaions that just dont make you feel good.

 

#2 Embrace your sexuality.

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Own it.

Your desires. Yours wants. Be into sex if you want. Be sexy. Have great sex. Get more. Or less. Know what you want and get it. This is non negotiable. You are the only one who knows what you want, so go out there and get it. Be strong, be sexual, be you.

#3 Work in your own stuff.

Let go of the past. Drop the emotional baggage off.

Orgasm is in the mind. Intimacy is in the mind. Pleasure is in the mind.

Let go of yesterday, things that might have happened and accept who you are, and embrace it.

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#4 Stop Judging.

Embrace the lifestyle & choices of others. Stop judging others. We are all unique. Respect the choices people make. Respect their decisions. Respect who they are. Its not for you to decide or comment about what should or shouldnt make a person happy. Let them be them, and you jsut be you. Focus on getting more of your own big O’s before your quick to judge other people.

#5 Be open to new experiences.

Try everything once. Create new experiences. Be bold. Read books, blogs, videos…explore. Be open with your partner. Communicate. Say yes or say no. Tell him/her what you want. Sexuality is designed to be explored. Like something, say so. Dont like it, say it.

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‘Being tied up is so in right now, thanks to Mr Gray’ Juliet.

#6 Allow yourself to be vulnerable.

Vulnerability = intimacy.

‘Sex is by nature a vulnerable act on so many levels. To open ones body bare, to share deep feeling, to allow yourself to be penetrated or seen naked, to expose tender parts of yourself like desire, fantasy and insecurity, to allow yourself to want and desire and to be fulfilled. These things are vulnerable.’ Amy Jo goddard.

Risk getting hurt. Open yourself up. We hide behind our fears of ‘what will he/she think’, scared of being judged. Again, be who you are, and jut own it. Find someone with the same thoughts as you, sexual freedom to explore.

#7 Step into your power.

You can chose to be sexy.

Make it a priority. Stop blaming others or making excuses. You have the power to create change. Your lack of, or great sex life is all up to you. Do you want more sexual freedom…get it. Do you want better sex… Ask for it. Want to try something new…whatever it may be, ask for it.

If you want a FWB… find one. If your happy for a one night stand, have one.

*Obviously always practice safe sex. (Did you know that wearing a condom is becoming increasingly rare?)

 

Interesting evening with a few q & a’s at the end.

Raunchy? I thought it could be more. But it was a great experience to be in a room full of woman, and a few men, and openly discuss what was once a taboo subject.

Yet the stats say:

Only 25% of women are completely satisfied with their sex life.

Only 12% of men say they are satisfied with their sex life.

39% of women wish they slept naked with their partner more often.

23% of men say they have no sex life.

I personally think that just like we train our bodies and our minds, our sexuality, chemistry and body experiences could be an area we could learn a bit more.

Or perhaps, this just goes back to self love…knowing who you are and what you want.

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Love, Charlie x.

P.s have you checked out my new funding campaign… I would love you to buy some #balls…

http://www.pozible.com/project/190510

 

Help me… my crowd funding campaign

You know when you put something out to the world that your unsure how it will be received?

This is how I feel!

Nervous. Excited. Apprehensive.

I just launched my crowd funding campaign….

#charliesballs need a new home.

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Check it out:

http://www.pozible.com/project/190510

What is crowd funding???

Well, basically, a crowd (read, you) participate in actively pre purchasing an item (my #balls) before they are available. In my case, you are pre – buying my new and improved packaging. So when a group collectively purchase something I can reach a target and move my business forward.

Its time for me to start working smarter. Not harder.

Currently I sticker 1 ball…3 times!

Plus, I would like a longer shelf life so I can proceed with distribution and be able to offer my #balls in more places, so you know you can always reach for something healthy (and my love).

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I would love, LOVE your support. Together we can make a change.

And really, all your doing is pre-buying my new product {nothing gets charged until the end of the campaign and only IF its successful}

Theres different levels of support if you just check out the right hand side, you can even get a ‘love note’ from me to you, or buy several giftpacks to give out to people, and show them you truly care.

http://www.pozible.com/project/190510

Please like, share, view and you know, all that social media stuff that needs to be done to create success.

Thank you.

Love & light, Charlie x,

With my heart open and completely out of my comfort zone.

Honouring your temple {Self Love Series Pt 2}

HONOURING YOUR TEMPLE – SELF LOVE SERIES PART 2


Series 2 is focused on our relationship with food and how we nourish our bodies. It’s just as much a physiological process as it is a psychological choice. One of the phrases that resonated with me was ‘drink your food, eat your drink’ which of course centers itself on the importance of chewing your meals properly and aiding digestion. When drinking water, slowing down and sipping it is far more hydrating than gulping it down.

When I hear Tabitha’s take on ‘diet labels’, such as vegan, vegetarian, paleo etc. I feel rather relieved. Her take on them is rather pragmatic but absolutely makes sense – the philosophy is eating nourishing meals that our body responds well to. “Diet trends disconnect us from our real requirements”. It’s all about listening to your body and talking to yourself before you open the fridge, double take, yes, talk to yourself before opening the fridge! What do you say before opening the fridge dare you ask? “What does my body need”? Says Tabitha.

I cheekily questioned Tabitha on this, “what if my body wants chocolate”? “Well, I don’t call chocolate bad and frankly, maybe your body needs chocolate” OK, I am totally in – and I knew she will most definitely explain my craving so it makes 100% sense.

“Did you know that your body might be deficient in magnesium or iron if you crave chocolate?” Naturopaths are so insightful! A spoon full of pure cacao or a piece of dark chocolate can deliver not only the goodness of antioxidants but also promote happy vibes… You had me at chocolate but happy is my quest at present. The collaboration of food and self-love is genius.

Appreciating food for its nourishing properties, admiring the texture, colour, smell and of course taste are all-important parts of our relationship with food. It can only be healthy if it’s honoured for taking care of our temples.

Think back to the water theory by Masaru Emoto where he studied the changes in the molecular structure of water when exposed to different elements even words. Positive words and environments kept the beautiful crystalised structure but derogative words and harsh noises polluted the water.

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I just adore the fact we can use positive mantras to help improve how we build a healthy relationship with our decisions… just a few examples to start:

♥ I allow the healing power in my body to manifest perfect health

♥ I, myself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve my own love and affection

♥ I take care of my body, my home, my workplace, and all areas of my life. I alone am responsible for my health.

LOUISE HAY is the author of these mantras and someone I look up to and follow. Author of ‘You can Heal your Life’, she has a wellness mantra for absolutely anything. A simple Google search will find you countless videos and material – you won’t regret it.

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The evening was literally ‘packed to the brim’ with useful information; the audience getting curious with some great questions and the networking session afterwards saw some new introductions enriching the evening even further.

A meticulously organised event with talent of the likes of Annthea Matheson from Young Living who explained the power of essential oils so beautifully; Charlie de Haas who is even more amazing in person than we could’ve ever imagined her to be – you are such a star! Your energy is infectious and your treats to ‘die for’…

To sum up the night – delicious, enlightening, beautiful, heartfelt, fun, WOW – and completely BALANCED with advice. Exactly the way we view our food from now on!

Love and Sunshine,

Andrea and Jarka

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So, so beautiful. I actually just got this today and I am so grateful for the gorgeous words about me.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Craving chocolate…or magnesium…

A woman or a girl; how to tell.

As  I am changing my life, working every day on my dreams whilst still trying to be the best person I can be (kind, thoughtful, loving, giving), I truly feel like I am becoming a woman.

“A girl wants attention, a woman wants respect. A girl wants to be adored by many. A woman wants to be adored by one.” -anonymous

What is the difference between a woman and a girl? How can you tell?

Being a woman brings a cultivated sense of self. As you get older, you become wiser. A very true age old saying.

 

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‘I like being a woman, even in a man’s world. After all, men can’t wear dresses, but we can wear the pants.’ Whitney Houston

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being either. I just wanted to express my thoughts about my feelings, and experiences of what I believe is entering womanhood.

You learn not to sweat the small stuff, you learn about true relationships and people. You become aware of who you are. The things you like, the things you dislike. Youve made enough mistakes to learn from (perhaps are still learning and your ok with that).

After years of hard work, growing and learning some woman find it objectionable to be labelled or called a girl. It’s as though being a ‘woman’ rather than a girl demands respect. Weve done the hard work, lived through the highs and lows of life and have chosen the lives we currently live. We have been tested with lifes tribulations and proved that we are worthy of a beautiful life.

woman
noun
  1. an adult human female
girl
noun
  1. a female child.

‘It takes people a long time to learn the difference between talent and genius, especially ambitious young men and women.’ Louisa May Alcott

I recently read in an article; I go to work with woman, I go shopping with the ‘girls’ (obviously woman but meaning a sense of freedom, about letting our inner child come out). Is there pressure as a woman to always be composed? Perhaps so. Woman have a demeanour, a sense of knowing, you may even call it ‘pressure’ placed on them. Especially to ‘make it’ in this fast paced world. I know there are several woman I aspire to be like and they always hold themselves with composure, speak words of truth and are true to who they are. They just know who they are, and what they want, and what they need to do to attain it.

As a woman you create a confidence. A confidence that comes from a trust of yourself.

‘People think at the end of the day that a man is the only answer [to fulfillment]. Actually a job is better for me.’ Princess Diana

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We can develop these senses through more self-love work, more positive affirmations, more healthy habits.

Every day you are creating change in your life, every small step today is towards your future self. My gosh, even the food you eat today, is what you become…your skin cells turnover every 28 days (approx and this does slow down as we age), the food you eat creates the cells within your body…Are you making the right choices? You really are what you eat.

Do men prefer woman or girls, well I guess that is up to the individual man. Some of my male friends prefer ‘yes’ girls, the type that aren’t pre committed to their own career instead want their woman/girl to  commit to their own beck and call (which is also fine if that works for you).

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‘Smart women love smart men more than smart men love smart women.’ Natalie Portman

Girls have a tendency to believe that the world revolves around image; woman know its whats on the inside that counts.

Girls may believe a man will be their financial saviour; woman know they can be their own financial success.

Girls play games; woman don’t.

Girls look for someone to look after them; woman look for others to look after.

Girls change themselves depending on their man or situation; woman have a firm set of beliefs and sense of self regardless of the situation or man.

Girls speak without integrity; Woman offer integrity in everything they do.

Girls have not yet learnt the value of their body and will use it for attention, flaunting & disrespectfully; woman have learnt the body is priceless to be treasured and shared with someone special.

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“After spending time with a girl, you feel exhausted because she takes more than she gives. After spending time with a woman, you feel invigorated, because she empowers you with possibility, and a passion for life.”  N. Mah

{Please note this is not an ALL girls or ALL woman are like the above post}

After all,we are all beautiful creations. But believe me if I could give my 20yr old self some of the wisdom I know now, I would have changed a few of my ways 😉 In writing that, I wouldnt be where I am today and wouldnt have my story to tell, which is so perfectly imperfect, Im grateful.

Love & light, Charlie x.

All I aim for now is to be respected. Not loved or even liked (but if wither then this makes me happy), but respected for my grind, for my dream chasing, for my passion to create change.

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Detox your Mind

And it is as good as it sounds! All to often we go on quick detox’s for our bodies, 1, 2 or 3 day juice cleanses, lean protein & greens, cut carbs, (hopefully not) The lemon detox etc, especially after the festive season or when we are feeling a bit blahhh (sorry no other expletive word).

What about our MINDS?? When was the last time you detoxed your Mind? Or trained your Mind? Did you pick up an educational, inspirational book this morning and start your day with creative, intelligent thinking???

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” Whatever your mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve” Napoleon Hill 

When we are feeling like it’s all getting a bit too much (my current state, I need an organisation fairy asap, Applications for a Social Media Superstar here ), when we hold onto the past, lost love, situations or create anxiety in the present moment, when we feel the weight of the world is on our shoulders.

When your just not feeling IT.

This is a sign you need to detox your mind.

I am so passionate about training our mind as we train our bodies. EVERY single day we go to the gym, sometimes twice, to train our muscles to feel better and lets be honest, most the time to enhance our aesthetic looks to be more attractive.

How often do you train your mind? Surely this is just as important. EVERY day, if not twice a day. To be truly beautiful is an inside job, no amount of plumping, fake eyelashes or muscles will ever be the same beauty as a beautiful heart and mind.

Train your mind to see the good in every situation. To be an opportunity seeker rather than problem maker. To be a beautiful person comes from your mind… being calm in moments of stress. To always give more than you get. To truly believe that when you change your thoughts you can change the world around you.

TRAIN your Mind.

But first, detox your mind from all that baggage your holding onto. So what the engagement didnt work out as it should have, so what if you’ve lost friends, so what if the career you wanted just seems a little to far out of reach. (geez its no wonder we feel like were carrying the weight of the world on our houlders, were carrying our whole lives). These things really dont matter. What matters is NOW. Your life, right now. In this moment.

Think about it, think about all the beauty you have (even though I know sometimes it can feel like there’s not a lot at all), take a moment to appreciate. To cultivate gratitude for the love you do have in your life, for the very fact that is a new day and you can chose to be the person you want to be.

‘This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.’ Dalai Lama

Im pretty excited to start, and I know Im in need of, the new 30 Day Detox Your Mind by Debbie Spellman.

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Which when implemented, will help you to:

● Feel confident that you can gracefully handle whatever life throws at you.

● Let go of control over outcomes in your life while simultaneously feeling more in control of your past, present, and future than ever before.

● Release the general anxiety and worry that’s become so constant that you don’t even notice it anymore.

● Find leisure time in your everyday life. And more importantly, how to absolutely love that alone time without feeling like you need to be doing something else or having your thoughts running a mile a minute.

● Dissolve your scarcity mindset once and for all. Start attracting the abundance to your life that you know you deserve.

● Clear the unconscious mental patterns that are keeping you in self-destructive cycles. You won’t be able to achieve a higher level of happiness until you do this.

● Wake up excited and energized for the day ahead and go to bed feeling totally at ease.

For 30-Days you’ll receive a daily action step that will help you master the day’s lesson and achieve the level of happiness you’ve always wanted.

All you have to do is to grab your morning tea, cozy up with your computer, and spend 5 minutes with the day’s lesson.

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“You can close the windows and darken your room, but you can also open the windows and let light get in. It is a matter of choice. Your mind is your room. Do you darken it or do you fill it with light?”

YES! Stop the crazy diets, thinking that when you get abs you’ll be happy, stop chasing the dream job that when you get, you think youll be happy, stop chasing Mr Right, that you think when you find everything else will fall magically into place and you will live happily ever after. Happiness is yours. Today. Wherever and whatever it is that you are doing (and yes sometimes I have to even remind myself of this when Im in the kitchen, rolling thousands of balls for hrs on end for Clean Treats )

Join me and many others as we create mental clarity, ease of thinking, peace in your mind. Its time to start training your mind. Every day. To see the beauty in the world we live in.

“You might be poor, your shoes might be broken, but your mind is a palace.” Frank McCourt

Are you ready to let go of all that s^&t your holding onto and be the best person you can be?

More information here

30 days of beautiful thinking for $69 = $2.30 per day, less than your cup of coffee. In the terms of Nike, Just do it. What have you got to lose?

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Debbie Spellman is a well renowned NLP therapist who has been published nationally in magazines such as Womens Fitness, Cosmopolitan, Womens Day & many more. Debbie has graced the stage with many of Australia’s key experts in the Health & Wellness Industry sharing her heart-felt message of self-worth for women. Described as ‘authentic, real and inspirational’ her ability to touch the depths of a woman’s heart continues to stir a connection from the audience that captivates and encourages hope, whilst providing real-life examples and proven techniques providing not only guidance but tangible value.

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Love, Charlie x.

“When you have control over your thoughts, you have control over your life.”

Currently training my mind with ‘The Obstacle is the Way’ Ryan Holiday.

The year that was.

Are you spending time reflecting? Planning?

New Years; the perfect time of year to revisit the last year and create all those New Years resolutions (which, in all honesty how often do you stick to?)

‘Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.’ Buddha

As my 31st birthday was only a week ago, I’m also reflecting on the year that was my flirty 30… minus the flirty.

All to often we get consumed with where we are going, where we want to be, who we want to be, that we forget who and where we are, in this exact moment.

Do I have the family I had dreamed I would? The beautiful apartment we owned {me & my hot hubby of course}? Do I drive my dream car (white range ;)… the answer is no. Does this make me less of a success than if I did? No.

Instead this year:

I found myself.

‘You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.’ Buddha

This has to be my #1 most important and priceless lesson I have learnt. I have learnt that in all times of stress, uncertainty, anxiety, (read tears & pain, can’t get out of bed/what the f%&k am I doing thinking), you have to trust yourself. Your passion. Your belief. You have to do the work every day so that when life hits, and it hits hard, you are able to get knocked down, then promptly stand up and say is that all youve got? Time after time I have learnt that this year.

From the time I couldnt afford to pay my power bills and had to apply to the Salvation army for support (not that I could get it because I work for myself etc).

From the time I had to ask a friend to pay my rent for me.

From the release of my book with mistakes.

From the time I altered my recipe/Clean Treats for better processing time, which then created faulty stock… {AHHH}

From the time my ex who has a fiance came into my life and told me I was the one, the love of his life, wanted to build a world, get married, have a family etc, then promptly re disappeared.

From and in between all the unsuccessful dating escapades I’ve been on (not that many, hence the minus of ‘flirty’ before  thirty and the #onedatewonder) to the new and then broken friendships, new and lost clients…

In between all of this I was given the greatest gift of all. I found myself. I have realised that I am alone, but not lonely. As much as I dream of a real love, I have all my love to give to my business, my passion, my purpose, to you right now. This is my focus. Where I am is exactly where I am meant to be and I am thankful for everything that has happened to teach me, to learn from and to appreciate all that I do have.

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Now, I’m not saying that now I have an ego that strides next to me everywhere I go, instead, I’m still here feeling anxiety (even currently as Im processing big change in my life, I don’t like to be unorganised), I have a quiet confidence that has been instilled within my heart, my mind, my soul…I’ve got this. Whatever it is. Whatever happens, Ive got it.

I’ve learnt to look for opportunities in every mistake.

You’ve done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination.
– Ralph Marston

Geez. This is one of the best…opportunity thinking, because let me tell you, if you are building a business or a life and take every mistake you make as a personal hit and beat yourself up about it, how can you expect yourself to ever get up? You have to be your own cheerleader.

I have loved and lost. I have learnt that this is ok. As I get older I am constantly surprised with the flow of people in your life, sometimes people can be so close, yet sometimes so far away.

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Ive learnt that adoration is very different from love. You can meet people and create a #crush, adore them and who they seem to be, yet only sometimes will this turn into either a real relationship, or that soul shaking friendship (you know when you just know theyve got your back)?

We write #wifey, #lover, ‘I love you’ everywhere, yet how often do we mean these words? And on the flip side how often do you say these words to the people you actually do love?

Through this flow I’ve created a world of love and inspiration, mentors (I cannot believe some of the people/creators of their own empires that I now have to call, smile & laugh or stress with/learn from) and amazing people around me, yet I’ve also found my wall has been built higher, more impenetrable than ever before (read #trustissues).

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Do not mistake my kindness for
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My kindness is my greatest
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Cultivate an attitude of gratitude. There is always something to be grateful for. For the good, the not so good, the love, the pain…life, this is it and its beautiful.

This year I’ve gained 5kg, lost 2, gained 3, lost 1 etc…created a binge eating problem, ran a full marathon, 42km with no training 4.5 hrs, started boxing, gave up boxing, played with yoga, meditation, got bored of yoga and meditation (as much as I know I need them), looked in the mirror and hated myself… and at the end of it all Ive done more this whole year than most of my life combined and I am happy. Not lean, but happy.

Re the marathon; just wow. I highly promote this or any what may seem impossible goal to anyone. I decided 1 week prior and then just did (I am a little lucky, I have been a runner my whole life, and it is my chosen form of stress relief). The after effect: it felt like every cell in my body was alive, alert…having a party. Just wow.

This year, as I’m sitting here amongst my apartment that is half packed up, reports and receipts lying all around me, I’m not making any big promises, and new years resolutions, Im not starting a diet. In fact that’s a lie. I’m starting my new plan; the NO diet, diet. From a book? A program I paid for? NO. Just NO diet. Eat what I want when I want, train, run, walk,, yoga anything when I want. Changing my thinking and listening to my body.

‘Life isnt about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.’ George Bernard Shaw

I am however re acquainting myself with my yoga matt. And I’m spending new years eve/night (ill probably be asleep by 12pm #nanaandlovesit {you can all start the first day of the year removing toxins and feeling off}  working on my dream/goal/and rule boards.

These have been well overdue. And I’m talking about the small things like; Monday kitchen, Tues/weds/thurs delivery. Fri Admin; expense, marketing, social media…ETC. That really exciting stuff 😉 And I actually am EXCITED (please dont judge me). Im actually creating a job description and role for myself, because #bosslife, doing what I want when I want, has had me working harder, not smarter.

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Rules for myself; i.e no less than 8 hrs sleep per night. Technical detox (yup, no more naughty scrolling/stalking at 12pm at night) at 10pm. Morning walking or meditation. These aren’t so much even rules, but these are the things I KNOW make me feel good. And sometimes when your trying to create and build a business organically, you and your health can become lost within the pressures, the late night orders, questions etc.

My health is my #1 investment. So I’m writing my own rules. Keeping a focus on what makes me feel good, really good.

Oh, and something I had forgotten that makes me feel so good; a weekly book store visit and new book. Not a romance novel which only fills my mind with more hopeless romantic notions (read, I will never settle for anything less than the whole zoo when Im with you), but business books, people who have created their dream life, people who have said yes when the world has told them no. This is one of my pure soul #happy actions.

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So as I reflect, feeling a little on edge (I just need to move and get settled, I really, really DISLIKE my home environment being unsettled), as I’m about to hire my first #baller/personal assistant, all I want to say to you, my readers, my clients, my friends, my lovers, my #wifeys, my #soulies, my #healthies, every single person who has touched my life in any way, good or bad, for a moment or a lifetime…thank you.

THANK YOU.

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.
– Marcel Proust

I wouldn’t be here, trying to create a life I love to live, a healthy change in the world and hopefully inspiring just one person daily…without you.

‘Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.’ Buddha

Instead of making New YEAR goals, let’s make New DAY goals…every day. Be a better person, today. Make healthier choices, today. Say I love you, today. Take time to just be, today.

So much heartfelt, soul deep love to you, Charlie x.

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