Detox your Mind

And it is as good as it sounds! All to often we go on quick detox’s for our bodies, 1, 2 or 3 day juice cleanses, lean protein & greens, cut carbs, (hopefully not) The lemon detox etc, especially after the festive season or when we are feeling a bit blahhh (sorry no other expletive word).

What about our MINDS?? When was the last time you detoxed your Mind? Or trained your Mind? Did you pick up an educational, inspirational book this morning and start your day with creative, intelligent thinking???

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” Whatever your mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve” Napoleon Hill 

When we are feeling like it’s all getting a bit too much (my current state, I need an organisation fairy asap, Applications for a Social Media Superstar here ), when we hold onto the past, lost love, situations or create anxiety in the present moment, when we feel the weight of the world is on our shoulders.

When your just not feeling IT.

This is a sign you need to detox your mind.

I am so passionate about training our mind as we train our bodies. EVERY single day we go to the gym, sometimes twice, to train our muscles to feel better and lets be honest, most the time to enhance our aesthetic looks to be more attractive.

How often do you train your mind? Surely this is just as important. EVERY day, if not twice a day. To be truly beautiful is an inside job, no amount of plumping, fake eyelashes or muscles will ever be the same beauty as a beautiful heart and mind.

Train your mind to see the good in every situation. To be an opportunity seeker rather than problem maker. To be a beautiful person comes from your mind… being calm in moments of stress. To always give more than you get. To truly believe that when you change your thoughts you can change the world around you.

TRAIN your Mind.

But first, detox your mind from all that baggage your holding onto. So what the engagement didnt work out as it should have, so what if you’ve lost friends, so what if the career you wanted just seems a little to far out of reach. (geez its no wonder we feel like were carrying the weight of the world on our houlders, were carrying our whole lives). These things really dont matter. What matters is NOW. Your life, right now. In this moment.

Think about it, think about all the beauty you have (even though I know sometimes it can feel like there’s not a lot at all), take a moment to appreciate. To cultivate gratitude for the love you do have in your life, for the very fact that is a new day and you can chose to be the person you want to be.

‘This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.’ Dalai Lama

Im pretty excited to start, and I know Im in need of, the new 30 Day Detox Your Mind by Debbie Spellman.

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Which when implemented, will help you to:

● Feel confident that you can gracefully handle whatever life throws at you.

● Let go of control over outcomes in your life while simultaneously feeling more in control of your past, present, and future than ever before.

● Release the general anxiety and worry that’s become so constant that you don’t even notice it anymore.

● Find leisure time in your everyday life. And more importantly, how to absolutely love that alone time without feeling like you need to be doing something else or having your thoughts running a mile a minute.

● Dissolve your scarcity mindset once and for all. Start attracting the abundance to your life that you know you deserve.

● Clear the unconscious mental patterns that are keeping you in self-destructive cycles. You won’t be able to achieve a higher level of happiness until you do this.

● Wake up excited and energized for the day ahead and go to bed feeling totally at ease.

For 30-Days you’ll receive a daily action step that will help you master the day’s lesson and achieve the level of happiness you’ve always wanted.

All you have to do is to grab your morning tea, cozy up with your computer, and spend 5 minutes with the day’s lesson.

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“You can close the windows and darken your room, but you can also open the windows and let light get in. It is a matter of choice. Your mind is your room. Do you darken it or do you fill it with light?”

YES! Stop the crazy diets, thinking that when you get abs you’ll be happy, stop chasing the dream job that when you get, you think youll be happy, stop chasing Mr Right, that you think when you find everything else will fall magically into place and you will live happily ever after. Happiness is yours. Today. Wherever and whatever it is that you are doing (and yes sometimes I have to even remind myself of this when Im in the kitchen, rolling thousands of balls for hrs on end for Clean Treats )

Join me and many others as we create mental clarity, ease of thinking, peace in your mind. Its time to start training your mind. Every day. To see the beauty in the world we live in.

“You might be poor, your shoes might be broken, but your mind is a palace.” Frank McCourt

Are you ready to let go of all that s^&t your holding onto and be the best person you can be?

More information here

30 days of beautiful thinking for $69 = $2.30 per day, less than your cup of coffee. In the terms of Nike, Just do it. What have you got to lose?

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Debbie Spellman is a well renowned NLP therapist who has been published nationally in magazines such as Womens Fitness, Cosmopolitan, Womens Day & many more. Debbie has graced the stage with many of Australia’s key experts in the Health & Wellness Industry sharing her heart-felt message of self-worth for women. Described as ‘authentic, real and inspirational’ her ability to touch the depths of a woman’s heart continues to stir a connection from the audience that captivates and encourages hope, whilst providing real-life examples and proven techniques providing not only guidance but tangible value.

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Love, Charlie x.

“When you have control over your thoughts, you have control over your life.”

Currently training my mind with ‘The Obstacle is the Way’ Ryan Holiday.

Can women have sex like men? #nocommitment

Last night I was watching a tv show… (my trainer has asked me to stop over training at the moment to balance my hormones and Im left at night time with time) where the woman was stressed out and advised by her male business partners that she required a FWB… a friend with ‘benefits’.

It was recommended to her to find someone she is attracted to but had no respect for so they could enjoy a purely  physical relationship without the risk of getting attached.

Weve all watched Sex and the City, and if your like me…probably over and over. We know the story of Samantha who portrays a strong woman, knows what she wants, wont settle for anything less and is happy to be directed by her sexual fantasies with an ‘easy come, easy go’ in all senses of the words, attitude.

Can women have no commitment sex?

What I believe to be true…

Now, the pros are you both know it’s what it is, there’s no game playing, no sweetness, no fake promises. No sweet lies of romance (hopefully, if your FWB knows whats up), no leading on, no dating.

Its just a natural human  action you’ve both agreed to. And lets be real, we all want to feel the warm touch of someone sometimes.

This is type of relationship/agreement is fine if you are prepared to ignore emotions, because I promise you they will appear.

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As a woman is it possible to have sex without getting emotionally involved?

“Your naked body should only belong to those who fall in love with your naked soul.” –Charlie Chaplin, in a letter to his daughter, Geraldine.

For some, you might say yes. For me… no. Every time Ive decided to have this kind of arrangement, feelings appear, about someone who is not even close to what Im looking for. All because of the hormones released after sex. And youre being intimate, shouldnt there be a level of like/love?

‘A key hormone released during sex is oxytocin, also known as the ‘cuddle hormone’. This lowers our defences and makes us trust people more, says Dr Arun Ghosh, a GP specialising in sexual health at the Spire Liverpool Hospital.

It’s also the key to bonding, as it increases levels of empathy. Women produce more of this hormone, although it’s not clear why, and this means they are more likely to let their guard down and fall in love with a man after sex.

However, the problem is that the body can’t distinguish whether the person we’re with is a casual fling or marriage material — oxytocin is released either way. So while it might help you bond with the love of your life, it’s also the reason you may feel so miserable when a short-term relationship ends.’ Excerpt The Daily Mail.

“Friends with benefits? More than friends? Don’t sample the goodies unless you’re willing to risk addiction and withdrawal.’ Ann Landers
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To often, women use sex to get love.  Some women have been known to sleep with men in order to make them like them more (in the hope of a relationship developing) if this is you, get real, what are you doing?

Relationships rarely ever develop after a one nighter, first night, it’s a fairytale, or after a FWB agreement.

Men like to hunt and women gather, remember to give him something to chase if you want to see him again.

Value yourself.

Ask yourself is it really worth it? Sure it might feel good to get some feigned attention, but for how long? How do you feel after the deed is done and your on youre way home? Does it feel good when he only contacts you to see if your available for late night horizontal cardio?

From what I know (personal experience and from friends), most FWB agreements have a maximum 3 months expiration before feelings are developed and you’re simply left wanting more. Which of course wont be given as you’re the one breaking the deal. From what Ive heard its always the female who is asking for more as her bond to this man develops.

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To share your body with another and expect that you will not be emotionally involved is really only lying to yourself. 

Women are emotion beings. We like to nurture, to develop, so don’t be surprised when those feelings occur and you start to contemplate dating you’re FWB. Only problem is, he’s already getting what he wants, you made a deal and he most likely doesnt see you as relationship material.

‘It’s not who you want to spend Friday night with, it’s who you want to spend all day Saturday with’

What happened to the days of dating? Of simply crushing on someone, asking someone out, enjoying some time, getting to know them before giving them all of us? Call me old fashioned but this is the demise of relationships and dating everywhere. Those 1 night stand, the casual hookups, FWB agreements, secret facebook messages, instagram page likes…where is the love? It really is no wonder most of us are in a state of confusion. Were living in a world were actions mean nothing, yet mean everything. Words have lost value & communication is started by hiting a ‘like’ button.

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And if youve found youre special someone…hold onto them, value them… dont lose a diamond while chasing glitter.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Pretty happy here, waiting (but not) for someone special, whilst working on building my dreams.

Have you had a FWB? Has it worked?

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The thief of all joy; Comparison

I am lucky enough to be reaping the rewards of my hard work in a few areas of my life.

I am finding that the popular quote ‘you can never beat a person who doesnt give up) is true.

I feel proud, excited and exuberant; everything I am working towards and for is coming true, my dreams were/are becoming my reality. Im so excited about some BIG things that I am visualising into my reality (opening events, scents, layout, design etc already planned), that theyre keeping me awake at night (then through the day I feel like I am day dreaming as I drive past ‘for lease’ signs). I feel this dream beating in my heart, running through my veins, already knowing it will become real.

Yet sometimes I find myself comparing my successes to what I think other people around me are achieving (thanks to the social media highlight reel).

‘Comparison is an act of violence against the self’. Iyanla Vanzant

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How is this possible? Everything I had ever wanted in my life is unfolding before my eyes (still waiting on my tall, dark handsome Mr right ;), every day I receive news of something new and exciting that is happening, I wake up in the morning excited for what the day will bring.

Yet I still seem to self sabotage myself. It is as though my inner self doesn’t want to allow my happiness. Oh hello old self-liniting belief.

Why do we compare ourselves to others when we should be living our own lives to the best of our capabilities? Why are we so quick to look from the outside in and judge; their life must be better?

I know I’m not the only one who suffers this terrible habit, we all do it… (even if you claim you don’t); for example, the cyber stalking of your new guys or girls ex…to compare yourself and judge that person. Just last night as I couldnt sleep I (naughtily ) indulged in some SM stalking, before I knew it, I was in such a deep vortex of IG I didnt even know where I was. Id checked out someone in america, before being redirected to Melbourne and so on.

” Enjoy your own life without comparing that of another’. Marquis de Condorcet

We need to keep that inner negative voice quiet and enjoy the successes we make. We are all on our own journeys and everything that is meant for you will come to you at the right time.

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‘What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you’. Ralph Waldo Emerson

Always keep an attitude of gratitude and stop the comparison. The intriguing thing about comparison is that generally you are comparing yourself to a version of a persons life  that they portray to the world (social media is brilliant at this, everyone’s life looks perfect), you have no real idea about what that persons difficulties are, where they have come from to get where they are or their life, you are comparing yourself to a perception. Nothing that is real. So stop now (note to myself).


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As I am building my business, & hopefully soon I can warrant saying Empire; comparison is definitely becoming a regular occurrence in my mind. With the advance of selfies, facebook updates and letting the world know where & what your doing, its tough not to compare business growth, popularity and demand.

Especially when its just me. Im just here doing what I can with what I have.

I constantly have to remind myself that I am doing this for me. Im following my dream to create a healthy change in the world. Just as you should remind yourself, you are living your life for you.

Everybody’s version fo happiness is different. Do what makes you happy.

Because someone has a great body, a fancy car, or the perfect husband does not equal a life of happiness.

‘To love is to stop comparing’ Bernard Grasset

 

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‘Dont compare your beggining to someone elses middle’ Jon Acuff

Beat your inner critic; Stop comparing:

Acknowledge comparison as a bad habit. Acknowledge when you do it, how often you do it, and reflect on whats going on in your life that’s making you feel less than successful. Perhaps theres an area that needs some attention.

Be true to yourself. Once you accept that you are different (and that difference is beautiful), you will be on the way to truly allowing yourself to be happy. Your life is yours. Everything that is in it or was, and is to be, is something you have created, whether good or bad, its YOURS.

Set your own goals. Are you comparing yourself to other people because they look successful? No doubt they have set their own personal goals, working towards their dream. Just as you should. Stop wasting your precious time and energy, consuming your mind with what other people are up to…focus that energy on your goals, your plan…what do you want to achieve? Write it down and make it happen.

So today, as busy as it has gotten, I’m going to remember that I am more than blessed to have created this. Busy is good. I am thankful.

At the end of the day, do what makes you feel right. I have purposely unfollowed and blocked any similar products on the market, because why do i need to know what they are up to? Of course theres a degree of market research, but honestly, trust your own instincts, follow your own brand beliefs and do what is in line with your business goals.

Love & light, Charlie x.

It is my life, my way. I get to make decisions, and mistakes…and for that I am grateful.

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Self Love Sunday, my non negotiable date.

We are getting busy. This we all know. Its nearly an automatic response when people ask how we are? Answer; busy. Almost as if being busy is a sign of success. But when is your busyness…too much?

‘Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home.’ Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

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Self Love Sunday. I will write about it & speak about it to anyone who will read/listen to me. I cannot begin to stress how important it is to just take a time out, for yourself.

You are the CEO of your life. A self love Sunday date with yourself is like taking a weekly meeting to review, analyse, gain clarity, organise and plan how to proceed with that dream chasing you’re doing.

‘You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.’ Yogi Bhajan

Last week, I missed this (I was at the Fitness Expo all weekend with my #balls), and I could definitely tell I felt ‘off’ on Sunday night, but also through this week.

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‘Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine.’ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Rest is as important as everything else you do. Sometimes we get so caught up in ‘destination success’ {we think we wont feel successful or happy until we attain certain goals}, that we forget to realise that most of the time were crazy busy…we are actually unproductive, and we miss the happiness that can be found in this very moment.

Have you ever found yourself creating a whirlwind of things to do, stress, drama? Yet nothing really seems to be done? This is being unproductive.

‘A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror.’ Ken Keyes.

I know for myself, and I would recommend you try it, my date with myself is time for me to just chill, to check in with my core beliefs, my passion, my purpose. Without this downtime, I would be just racing towards my BIG dreams, feeling pressured and stressed, without realising & appreciating the beautiful journey that I am on, including those highs and lows {& there’s many of those, daily when your trying to create your own business and brand}.

You dont even have to do anything. In fact this is one of my favourite dates… I book in time to DO NOTHING. And honestly it feels as good as those big deals and accomplishments feel.

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When was the last time you just did nothing?

Perhaps enjoyed a herbal tea {or wine} and just sat still? Sat underneath the stars and just star gazed?

This is my challenge to you…make a date with yourself, you; the CEO, the one who is responsible for all the decisions you make in your life, the one who gets to choose what type of life you will live, the one is the most important of all. Do something {or nothing} that you just love to do.

Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
’ Veronica A. Shoffstall

This week I went art shopping, its been forever since I’ve picked up pencils and drawn, but I remember when I was younger this was actually one of my ‘self calm’ techniques (without realising it), drawing was my escape {I can actually draw more than a few squiggles, but painting, well…this is more stressful to me than a corporate meeting with the CEO of a massive food store}.

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Just try it.

You are number 1 in your life. Your mental health is just (if not more) important than your physical health, yet we invest hrs every day working out our bodies. What are you doing to workout your mind?

Let me know how you go.

Love & light, Charlie x.

P.s whatever you do, DO NOT make this meeting and then cancel it. Would you do that in real life to your boss? Husband? It is a non negotiable.

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If its worth having, it wont be easy.

What some people don’t tell you when you create your own business/chase your dreams/work for yourself…

*It can be hard to self motivate…everyday.

*It can be challenging to always search for the positive in a negative situation.

*You have to fake it til you make it.

*You have to let go of the guilt when you make mistakes.

*You will make them. Plenty of them.

‘I am not the richest, smartest or most talented person in the world, but I succeed because I keep going and going and going.’ Sylvester Stallone

*Its not easy to always be your own greatest fan.

 

*You have to find a source of strength and resilience within yourself.

*You will have to actively change any self doubt thoughts to self belief thoughts, the minute they start to occur.

*You will have to say I CAN in a world that will tell you you cant.

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{AND IT WILL ALL BE WORTH IT}

‘Determination gives you the resolve to keep going in spite of the roadblocks that lay before you.’ Dennis Waitley

We view people, our inspirations, mentors, and the great leaders with such awe and a ‘how did they do it’ attitude. What we don’t realise is what they have endured to achieve their great success. In fact I personally love to read, listen to these success stories. Recently I heard about the creator of Carmens muesli who after 5 years in business (she started in her garage) was out doing deliveries and ran out of petrol, and she had no money to refuel. But she found a way to keep going and do what needed to be done, and now Carmens is a nationwide known entity.

Its been nearly a year of working for myself and it has easily been the best, the most challenging, self developing and learnt, (yes I realise that isnt correct english), interesting, happy year of my life.

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But yes, it has been challenging, in fact there are many days when I want to crawl back into bed (today for example, feeling completely exhausted) or contemplate just going back to a paid career.

The easy way out. (You can never fail if you never quit).

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What I have found to be of utmost importance is to create your world with motivational triggers, inspiration go to sources; emotional, mental and physical that you can reach for in your time of need. Because there are times you dont want to do what needs to be done. There are days where your light might not be shining so bright. There are days where you question what do you think your doing?

Today I needed this:

{The below is reposted from Dan Waldschmidt}

You have to make the call you’re afraid to make.

You have to get up earlier than you want to get up.

You have to give more than you get in return right away.

You have to care more about others than they care about you.

You have to fight when you are already injured, bloody, and sore.

You have to feel unsure and insecure when playing if safe seems smarter.

You have to lead when no one else is following you yet.

You have to invest in yourself even though no one else is.

You have to look like a fool while you’re looking for answers you don’t have.

You have to grind out the details when it’s easier to shrug them off.

You have to deliver results when making excuses is an option.

You have to search for your own explanations even when you’re told to accept the “facts”.

You have to make mistakes and look like an idiot.

You have try and fail and try again.

You have to run faster even though you’re out of breath.

You have to be kind to people who have been cruel to you.

You have to meet deadlines that are unreasonable and deliver results that are unparalleled.

You have to be accountable for your actions even when things go wrong.

You have to keep moving towards where you want to be no matter what’s in front of you.

You have to do the hard things.

The things that no one else is doing. The things that scare you. The things that make you wonder how much longer you can hold on.

Those are the things that define you. Those are the things that make the difference between living a life of mediocrity or outrageous success.

The hard things are the easiest things to avoid. To excuse away. To pretend like they don’t apply to you.

The simple truth about how ordinary people accomplish outrageous feats of success is that they do the hard things that smarter, wealthier, more qualified people don’t have the courage — or desperation — to do.

Do the hard things. You might be surprised at how amazing you really are.

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WOW. Yes, definitely going on my vision board as a daily ‘JUST DO IT” mantra. You see, I truly believe that you have it within you to be anything that you dream of becoming (and I have it within me), you just have to be prepared to do what you dont like doing, give up on some of the things you enjoy (for me, my passion for fashion is compromised at the moment) and FOCUS everything on your goal.

Love & Light, Charlie x.

Time to get into my admin/figures/reporting.

‘Don’t listen to what anybody says except the people who encourage you. If it’s what you want to do and it’s within yourself, then keep going and try to do it for the rest of your life.’ Jake Gyllenhaal

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