You have to do the {hard} work.

Ive posted this before and as Im evaluating all of my systems, procedures, new products, new menus, new staff and ….#everything in my life (I am living in hope that once this chaotic mess of systems and procedures is sorted Ill be back to living in organised bliss #growing pains) I felt the need to not only re-read it, but print it for my vision board, right next to my business beliefs and what I need to do to achieve the 200% growth Im aiming for.

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The below is reposted from Dan Waldschmidt;

You have to make the call you’re afraid to make.

You have to get up earlier than you want to get up.

You have to give more than you get in return right away.

You have to care more about others than they care about you.

You have to fight when you are already injured, bloody, and sore.

You have to feel unsure and insecure when playing if safe seems smarter.

You have to lead when no one else is following you yet.

You have to invest in yourself even though no one else is.

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Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.

– Dale Carnegie

 

You have to look like a fool while you’re looking for answers you don’t have.

You have to grind out the details when it’s easier to shrug them off.

You have to deliver results when making excuses is an option.

You have to search for your own explanations even when you’re told to accept the “facts”.

It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.

– Albert Einstein

You have to make mistakes and look like an idiot.

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You have try and fail and try again.

‘I am not the richest, smartest or most talented person in the world, but I succeed because I keep going and going and going.’ Sylvester Stallone

You have to run faster even though you’re out of breath.

You have to be kind to people who have been cruel to you.

You have to meet deadlines that are unreasonable and deliver results that are unparalleled.

You have to be accountable for your actions even when things go wrong.

You have to keep moving towards where you want to be no matter what’s in front of you.

You have to do the hard things.

The things that no one else is doing. The things that scare you. The things that make you wonder how much longer you can hold on.

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Those are the things that define you. Those are the things that make the difference between living a life of mediocrity or outrageous success.

The hard things are the easiest things to avoid.  To excuse away. To pretend like they don’t apply to you.

The simple truth about how ordinary people accomplish outrageous feats of success is that they do the hard things that smarter, wealthier, more qualified people don’t have the courage — or desperation — to do.

Do the hard things. You might be surprised at how amazing you really are.

‘Don’t listen to what anybody says except the people who encourage you. If it’s what you want to do and it’s within yourself, then keep going and try to do it for the rest of your life.’ Jake Gyllenhaal

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YES. A reminder for us all. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it (and the hard times make the good times oh sooo much better!)

Love, Charlie x.

The highlighted are my notes to self 😉 DONT THINK ABOUT IT TO MUCH (re that to do list).

Self Love Sunday; The cost of ambition

Do you know what it takes to be successful? Are you prepared to commit to your dream? Are you prepared to work for it? To give up weekends?

‘To succeed in life, you need two things: ignorance and confidence.’ Mark Twain

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Ive been having some in-depth discussions lately about people, our different values, and different dreams.

These are the very things that make us all different and unique, yet also make it harder for us to connect to one another. Sometimes you can meet people and you just click, and sometimes you just don’t (and that s ok to).

Ive been speaking with some of my very close, trusted friends about this feeling of loneliness I have thats lingering (& growing) underneath all my dream chasing.

Just yesterday I said ‘I feel like I’m living in a world of my own’. Now, this is not meaning my world is better or worse than anyones, it was simply a statement revealing the truth, underneath my passion and purpose I am finding it hard to create or even manage my connections with people.

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My dream consumes me. And as much as I am about balance, I would rather spend my time working on it then out socializing. I just don’t seem to have a lot of patience for small talk, the negative things that most people have to say (listen carefully to your next conversation, how much good, inspiration are they speaking?).

I am hoping that this is just a phase of turning my dream into reality, because I am well aware of the connections we need with people. Friends, family, lovers, shared smiles; they are what make it all worth it.

‘Decide what you want, decide what you are willing to exchange for it. Establish your priorities and go to work. ‘ H. L Hunt

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So today, Self Love Sunday, I’m working on my priorities. You know its true, when people say they don’t have time, you can rest assured that the truth they are telling you is that they just don’t have time for you. People make time for what they want.

So, as we go into the silly season, events and invites are everywhere, and as easy as it is to get caught up and play the social butterfly, I need to create some time management systems for both my dream, my health/fitness and my social life. I need to set my priorities straight to ensure I am focused on my goals, whilst making some time for some love in my life.

‘Dont make people a priority if they only make you an option’ Unknown

Im going to make time for the people who make time for me. As unfortunate as it sounds its true. The ones that also make an effort. Friendship/love cant be created by one person (unless youve create a social media ‘stalking’ relationship they dont know about). Im done with chasing people.

‘The key is not to prioritise whats on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.’ Stephen Covey

 

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As my business grows, so to does the pressure (and amazing gratitude for the opportunities I am being given), of creating more success. So, if I have to be choosy with my time, its ok (trying to give myself a little mental break), because what I have to realise, and perhaps you do to, is not everyone gets these types of opportunities. Just recently I presented my BIG dream/proposal, regardless of the outcome I AM SO grateful I got the chance to do that, the biggest sales pitch of my entire life, for something I had created/will create.

‘Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life – think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.’ Swami Vivekananda

{I definitely feel the above #obsessed}

There are things/people in life that will either lift you higher or pull you down. Cultivate Self love to trust your decisions. Time is priceless. Do not spend it doing things that don’t make you happy, with people who don’t spark the passion in your soul.

 

Today, Self Love Sunday Im reflecting & evaluating my priority list to ensure I can use my time more wisely, with people who inspire me, who make my heart smile (also organising my business so I can become more time efficient, Ive kind of been going along with it, surprised at how something so small #charliesballs, could grow so quickly, and I now need to realise that it is real. Even though Im a small business I need to start big business thinking & strategic planning).

As I work weekends, different hrs of the day, I know that this is what it takes. I am cultivating an attitude that every no, is closer to a yes, every mistake is an opportunity. And Im prepared to do the work (just watch me).

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Love & light, Charlie x.

A huge heart felt thank you to the people I can call my true friends who are in my life/holding my hand/putting up with my crazy work/dream/passion… Bali & cocktails soon 😉

 

Monday Motivation; Health Synergy

You know when you just crush on people? Or in this case, their Instagram page, everything they do, their style & grace… I’m completely rushing on the Mother & daughter team that together make @Healthsynergy.

{So much so that I am utilising their style & beautifully creative eye for my brand}

In the true essence of my brand belief (#sharelove) it was only right that I share these beautiful woman with you.

‘Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more.’ H. Jackson Brown Jr.

 

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Charlie: You are successful business owners and the creators of Health Synergy, what do you attribute this success to?

I think the most important thing is to do something you love and for me, cooking and photography are two of my greatest passions – it really isn’t work!

I also believe that working with my Mum has been a major contributing factor to our success as it has enabled us to combine our skills and work as a team on this new business endeavour. My Mum is a naturopath and wellness/executive coach, which inspired my passion for health. As for me, I am a student of Media and Communications at the University of Sydney so this business has been a great opportunity for me to learn about different social media platforms, in order to for us to get our message out there.

‘To succeed, you need to find something to hold on to, something to motivate you, something to inspire you.’ Tony Dorsett

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{How amazing are these!!! This is a simple yet easy healthy recipe by Health Synergy…Fruit and Coconut water, perfect for Summer. Who said being healthy was hard?}

Charlie: When did you decide you wanted to be involved in the wellness industry?

 

As a student, I think it is very difficult to know exactly what you want to do.

Leaving school in 2012, I knew I either wanted to work in the fashion industry or the health/wellness industry. In order to discover more about both areas, I applied for an internship in fashion marketing and simultaneously, begun to build Health Synergy with my Mum. Over the past two years, I have learnt that my true passion lies in health and being able to inspire others to start a healthier lifestyle, however the skills I have learnt in fashion marketing have been highly valuable and have been applicable to our own business.

‘There is incredible power in the arts to inspire and influence.’ Julie Taymour

 

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Charlie: What inspired you to follow your passion?

Given that my Mum is a naturopath, I have always been relatively healthy and brought up with whole and nourishing foods, but it wasn’t until I was about 15 that I started to become personally interested in health and wellbeing.

After finishing school, a friend and I decided to start a food Instagram page, which started as a bit of a joke, but became something we really loved doing. Over a period of about 6 months, we were able to build a following of approx. 2000 people, however, our account was then hacked. About a year later, my Mum and I decided to start building the Health Synergy Instagram page, sharing lots of our favourite recipes via our blog (www.healthsynergy.com.au/blog), as well as doing lots of experimenting to create new ones.

From the beginning, we have received a lot of encouragement and support which was very motivating. I can’t imagine not doing this as it has become such a big part of our lives.

‘Good actions give strength to ourselves and inspire good actions in others.’ Plato

Charlie: How do you feel as an inspirational figure/mentor?

I think receiving emails and comments from people to say that they’ve enjoyed remaking our recipes or that we have inspired them to start a healthier lifestyle is truly the biggest motivation. I feel honoured to be considered an inspiration – it makes our job incredibly rewarding.
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{Yes, this is my ridiculously amazing caramel and Choc/peanut slice pictured}

Charlie: Has there been any challenges along your journey?

I think with any business, there are always going to be a few obstacles along the way. It has been a big learning curve and over the short time we have been doing this, I think we have both learnt a lot. I can see a dramatic difference in my photography from when we began to now, we are constantly working to perfect our recipes and my Mum has learnt to write nutritional information in a way that is easy to understand. At first, I had to send them back for her to rewrite in English!

Charlie: How do you maintain balance between your Career and personal health?

I am a student which does allow me greater flexiblity as University contact hours are minimal. This has been a great advantage in enabling us to grow our business as even though we love what we do, it has been very time consuming, from the actual creation and photography to uploading the recipes onto our blog.

Charlie: What do you believe are the keys to success in business?

I believe the key to success is being passionate about what you do, as well as making sure you are able to put in the time and hard work. I think it is important to give 100% to whatever you do, ad when you are truly dedicated and committed to your work, success will follow.

Charlie: What is your advice for anyone who has a dream?

My advice would be to follow your dreams, no matter what they are. If you love what you do, the chances of success are dramatically higher and more importantly, you will be happier if you are doing something you enjoy.

Charlie: What can we look forward to next from you?

Our next endeavour is to create our very own Health Synergy App, with access to all our recipes, nutritional information and more. We have been talking about it for a while and are now at a stage where we are able to begin. We are hoping it will be available in early 2015 but will keep you posted!

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{I just might be remaking the above for a special date this weekend 😉 #luckyman}

Charlie: Top 3 healthy tips/advice?

Start every day with a glass of warm water and lemon.

Walk whenever you can, or if you have to drive, park a little bit further away.

Eat foods as close to its natural form as possible and choose organic, if available.

‘Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.’ Lao Tzu

I sincerely thank Health Synergy for their time & sharing their amazing selves with me (to share with you). Be sure to check out their blog for delicious, healthy AND easy recipes (Im SO excited for their App).

Love & light, Charlie x.

Making my Monday, magic.

 

{Shared post} F*#k yes or F*#k no.

Original post by Mark Manson , so true I had to share with you, because I know weve all experienced that grey area, spending more time wondering what if, then actually dating.

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Think about this for a moment: Why would you ever choose to be with someone who is not excited to be with you?

There’s a grey area in dating many people get hung up on — a grey area where feelings are ambiguous or one person has stronger feelings than the other. This grey area causes real, tangible issues. As a man, a huge question is often whether to be persistent and continue pursuing a woman even when she seems lukewarm or hot/cold on your advances. For women, a common question is what to do with men who make their feelings ambiguous.

“She said she’s not interested, but she still flirts with me, so what do I need to do to get her?”
“Well, I know she likes me, but she didn’t call me back last weekend, what should I do?”
“He treats me well when he’s around, but he’s hardly around. What does that mean?”

Most dating advice exists to “solve” this grey area for people. Say this line. Text her this. Call him this many times. Wear that.

Much of it gets exceedingly analytical, to the point where some men and women actually spend more time analyzing behaviors than actually, you know, behaving.

Frustration with this grey area also drives many people to unnecessary manipulation, drama and game-playing. This is where you get rules about making men pay for this many dates before you can become intimate. Or how men need to transition from attraction phase to comfort phase by qualifying three times before they’re allowed to commence an escalation ladder.

These things may seem clever and exciting to some people who are stuck or frustrated. But this dating advice misses the point. If you’re in the grey area to begin with, you’ve already lost.

Let me ask again: Why would you ever be excited to be with someone who is not excited to be with you? If they’re not happy with you now, what makes you think they’ll be happy to be with you later? Why do you make an effort to convince someone to date you when they make no effort to convince you?

What does that say about you? That you believe you need to convince people to be with you?

You wouldn’t buy a dog that bites you all the time. And you wouldn’t be friends with someone who regularly ditches you. You wouldn’t work a job that doesn’t pay you. Then why the hell are you trying to make a girlfriend out of a woman who doesn’t want to date you? Where’s your self-respect?

The entrepreneur Derek Sivers once wrote a blog post where he said that “If I’m not saying ‘Hell Yeah!’ to something, then I say no.” It served him well in the business world and now I’d like to apply it to the dating world. And because I’m more of a vulgar asshole than Derek is, I’ll christen mine The Law of “Fuck Yes or No.”

The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” states that when you want to get involved with someone new, in whatever capacity, they must inspire you to say “Fuck Yes” in order for you to proceed with them.The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” also states that when you want to get involved with someone new, in whatever capacity, THEY must respond with a “Fuck Yes” in order for you to proceed with them.

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As you can see, The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” implies that both parties must be enthusiastic about the prospect of one another’s company. Why? Because attractive, non-needy, high self-worth people don’t have time for people who they are not excited to be with and who are not excited to be with them.

This may sound a bit idealistic to some. But The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” has many tangible benefits on your dating life:

  1. No longer be strung along by people who aren’t that into you. End all of the headaches. End the wishing and hoping. End the disappoint and anger that inevitably follows. Start practicing self-respect. Become the rejector, not the rejected.
  2. No longer pursue people you are so-so on for ego purposes. We’ve all been there. We were so-so about somebody, but we went along with it because nothing better was around. And we all have a few we’d like to take back. No more.
  3. Consent issues are instantly resolved. If someone is playing games with you, playing hard to get, or pressuring you into doing something you’re unsure about, your answer is now easy. Or as I often like to say in regards to dating, “If you have to ask, then that’s your answer.”
  4. Establish strong personal boundaries and enforcing them. Maintaining strong boundaries not only makes one more confident and attractive, but also helps to preserve one’s sanity in the long-run.
  5. Always know where you stand with the other person. Since you’re now freeing up so much time and energy from people you’re not that into, and people who are not that into you, you now find yourself perpetually in interactions where people’s intentions are clear and enthusiastic. Sweet!

The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” is applicable to dating, sex, relationships, even friendships. You may have absolutely nothing in common with that bartender. But they’re hot and are interested in getting down. Is it a “Fuck Yes!” for sex? It is? Then game on.

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Wrapped up in that sweet guy who treats you so well, except goes weeks without calling you and suddenly disappears after a couple drinks and a round of the horizontal polka? Been wondering if he really likes you? Do his excuses of being so busy all the time seem legit? It doesn’t sound like the answer is a “Fuck yes.” Then it’s time to move on.

Making out with a girl at your house and every time you go to take her shirt off she swats your hands away? That is not a “Fuck Yes,” my friend, therefore, it’s a no and you shouldn’t pressure her. The best sex is “Fuck Yes” sex — i.e., both people are shouting “Fuck Yes” as they hop between the sheets together. If she’s not hopping, then there’s no fucking.

(Hint Fellas: This is a great time to ask the girl why she’s not comfortable, and what she’s looking for from you. That, by itself — you know, treating her like a human and empathizing with her — often solves this “problem.”)

Want to date that woman you met last weekend but she keeps ignoring your texts and calls? Not sure what to say or do, especially since she seemed so happy to go out with you when you initially met her? Well, my friend, this is obviously not a “Fuck Yes.” Therefore, it is a “No.” Delete her number and move on.

Fuck Yes or No applies to relationships as well. My girlfriend works with a guy who got married because “it seemed like the right thing to do.” Four years later, he was cheating on his wife every chance he got. The marriage was not a Fuck Yes for him, therefore it should have been a No.

Sometimes The Law of Fuck Yes or No will apply differently on different levels. You may be a “Fuck Yes” for friendship with someone, but mildly excited to have sex with them. Therefore, it’s a no. You may be a “Fuck Yes” on banging someone’s brains out, but a definite “No” on actually spending any time with them. Apply the law to your decision-making as it suits your current needs.

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But the real beauty of The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” is that it simplifies the problems you can have in your dating life. When applying the Law of “Fuck Yes or No,” there are really only two problems one can have.

The first problem is people who never feel a “Fuck Yes” for anybody they meet. If you are lukewarm on absolutely everyone you meet, then either your demographics are way off, or you suffer from a lack of vulnerability and are protecting yourself by remaining indifferent and unenthused by all of those around you.

 

Remember, it’s your job to look for something cool in everyone you meet; it’s not their job to show you. This is life, not a fucking sales convention. Learning to appreciate people you meet is a skill you cultivate. So get on it. This doesn’t mean you have to fall in love with everyone who breathes in your direction. It just means you need to take responsibility for your ability to connect with the people you are meeting.

The second problem is people who never meet others who feel a “Fuck Yes” for them. If all of the people you pursue give you a mild responses, or outright rejections, then it’s time to focus on improving yourself. Ask yourself, what is it about yourself that would inspire others to say “Fuck Yes” about you? If the answer is not obvious, then you get to work. Build yourself into a person others would say “Fuck Yes” to.

And this is the ultimate dating advice lesson — man, woman, gay, straight, trans, furry, whatever — the only real dating advice is self improvement. Everything else is a distraction, a futile battle in the grey area, a prolonged ego trip. Because, yes, with the right tools and performance, you may be able to con somebody into sleeping with you, dating you, even marrying you. But you will have won the battle by sacrificing the war, the war of long-term happiness.

Repost from Mark Manson

Wait for the boy who will do anything to be your everything.

Love & light, Charlie x.


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Monday Motivation…Kim Peirce (BabeScrub)

Did you wake up this morning with the opportunity to chase your dreams? Or excited thoughts of ‘what change will I create today?’ Gratefully, I did.

‘The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.’ Eleanor Roosevelt

I can honestly say that I am doing the work, every day…choosing my thoughts, actively changing automatic negative thoughts (ANT’s) to beautiful positive seeds. I am working on the garden of my mind…everyday. You can to. It just takes small steps, thoughts & actions every day. But you have to do the work.

One of those actions is to surround yourself with people who inspire you (otherwise they will drain you). I’m happy to introduce you to one of own personal sources of inspiration…Kim Peirce, entrepreneur & creator of Babe Scrub. As much as you can control your own thoughts and actions, you are still a product of your environment, so make sure its a good one! (I create my environment with the dream chasers, the believers, the opportunity makers).

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Charlie: You are the creator of Babe Scrub, an in demand, ‘must have’ product. What do you attribute this success to?

I’ve always been entrepreneurial and for a long time used this skill set to benefit the organisations I worked for! Two years ago I gave up my career in the corporate world to pursue my own entrepreneurial ventures and in this light, my success as an entrepreneur is founded on an inherent belief in myself. As Beyonce famously said “I don’t like to gamble, but if there’s one thing I’m willing to bet on, it’s myself”.

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This belief, served with a shitload of tenacity, and sprinkled with an openness to try anything is definitely the formula for my success!

Charlie: When did you decide to you wanted to be involved in the wellness industry?

My last job in the oil & gas and mining industry required travelling every month to all corners of the earth, leaving my children behind, and passing my husband like ships in the night. It was grueling. A weekend visit to Gwinganna Health Retreat in QLD was the catalyst for taking the step out of corporate and into the wellness and lifestyle industry.

Charlie: What inspired you to follow your passion?

Reading Tim Ferris’s 4Hr Work Week!

Charlie: How do you feel as an inspirational figure/mentor?

On some level, we all inspire others in different ways. Encouragement is sometimes all that is needed to inspire others to take action, and this is a beautiful gift to give from ourselves to those around us.

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Charlie: Has there been any challenges along your journey?

I was a single mum when I took my first major career pivot deciding to go to university full time to get my undergraduate degree. Bringing two little babies under the age of 3 to university with me to my lectures and trying to keep them occupied under the desk while writing my essays was a challenge for sure, but it just made me more determined to succeed and I would not be where I am today without making that happen all those years ago.

Charlie: How do you maintain balance between your Career and personal health?

I begin every day with a walk early in the morning before I have to engage with anyone – including family! It helps me get my mind right and clear my thoughts for each day! It also helps me open my eyes!

‘Hope is the dream of the waking man.’ French Proverb

Charlie: What do you believe are the keys to success in business?

Determination. Manners. Determination. Educating yourself. Determination. Manners!

Charlie: What is your advice for anyone who has a dream?

Start NOW!

‘Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.’ Harriet Tubman

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Charlie: What can we look forward to next from you?

We have a new line coming out in the next couple of months as well as an extension to the Babescrub range. Yey!

Charlie: Top 3 healthy tips/advice?

#1 Move your body.

#2 Drink buckets of water but not just before, during or just after meals.

#3 Meditate.

“When the mind goes beyond the thought of ‘the me,’ the experiencer, the observer, the thinker, then there is a possibility of a happiness that is incorruptible.”  Jiddu Krishnamurti

I sincerly thank Kim for her time.

Sharing is caring, if you would like to enjoy a little self love action or perhaps give a beautiful gift with some Babe Scrub, enter the code Charliesbabes at checkout to receive a discount.

Be sure to follow:

IG: Babe Scrub

FB: Babe Scrub

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Love & light, Charlie x.

You are the only one who can create your dream reality; choose good thoughts over bad, love over hate, and be a good human for the hope of all humanity (kind, honest & caring).

 

Self made, not man made.

Now I’m sure this is no latest trend but perhaps as my eyes are opening to society and I am becoming aware of the world around me, maybe I’m noticing more of this occurring…women with men to ‘make’ them?

‘When you stop trying to find the right man and start becoming the right woman, the right man will find his way to you.’ Cher

 

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Now I’m not even talking about the classic gold digger, I’m referring to those girls who are with someone for reasons they find justifiable. His friends, his influence, his business. What if you could be a self made women? A women of independence doing what you can with what you have; passion and drive?

‘Life is a challenge, meet it’ Mother Theresa

Some people would rather be in any type of relationship rather than alone and particularly if his ‘particulars’ assist our goals. Does this come from a sense of insecurity a lack of sense of self? My thoughts (and remember these are my simple musings about the world around me) is that yes, it does. If you need to be with some one for a sense of validation, you haven’t yet learnt the true power of self love.

‘Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.’ Norman Vincent Peale

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Self love is when you know exactly who you are, you feel the doubt, the insecurity, yet you have the courage to face the world with a ‘this is me, like it or not. I am who I am attitude’ (and believe me there will always be someone who doesn’t like you). Facing the world front on exactly as you are requires strength and a deep integral self support and belief system. Truth is, we all make mistakes. It doesn’t matter. As long as you have your own back. Stop leaning on someone for the pure benefit of having someone there or someone who can support (in all ways) you and your goals (for all the wrong reasons).

‘My willingness to be intimate with my own deep feelings creates the space for intimacy with another.’ Shakti Gawain

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You are strong enough to do it on your own. Stop waiting to be rescued. That’s a big statement that I know a lot of girls and women are guilty of feeling…when I meet ‘the one’, ‘when I get married’, ‘I don’t have to work hard or make something of myself because when I’m married I’ll be a stay at home mum’. Chances are you’ll be just as unsatisfied when/if that happens as you are now. Be self made. Create a sense of self dependance, and attitude of I can, I will, watch me. Then be with someone who you can compliment and who compliments you, not out of need.

‘When you are discontent, you always want more, more, more. Your desire can never be satisfied. But when you practice contentment, you can say to yourself, ‘Oh yes – I already have everything that I really need.’ Dalai Lama

There is no greater power than self trust and belief. Setting yourself a goal no matter how big or small and achieving it. This rewards your mind, and your body. You feel good. You release all sorts of wonderful chemicals and hormones that create a sense of self worth. Remember the last goal you had that you achieved? Take a moment to reignite that feeling… If you haven’t got a current goal other than finding a man to save you, I highly suggest you go get one. Even if it’s get to the gym today, eat healthy, or run a marathon.

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A sense of accomplishment creates pride (not ego), strength and courage.

Create a goal, and then go get it done.

Love & light, Charlie x.

{I’m here, waiting for the one who will do anything to be my everything, but in the mean time I have love to share, work to be done and (HUGE) goals to accomplish}

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Wanting what we cant have.

The forbidden fruit syndrome. I’m sure you’ve experienced this at some stage of you life; from aesthetically wanting to be taller, thinner, prettier; to relationships, wanting who you can’t have, or know someone who has.

When it comes to health; when we restrict ourselves on diets, we automatically want and desire the foods we ‘arent allowed’.

‘You change your life by changing your heart’. 

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I’ve been heard saying (many times) ‘why do I always seem to fall for the ones I can’t have’? (I’ve also heard this more times than I can count from girlfriends and guy friends alike). We want what we can’t have.

Studies show that when you are told NO, it increases your desire, your want and need. The mind becomes fixated on getting a YES. We really are complicated  creatures with an intricate thinking process.

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In terms of dating what is it that attracts us to those that are emotionally, mentally or physically unavailable to us? Is it the thrill of the chase? Is it a desire for self-justification, or proving self-worth when and of they finally say yes? What happens when you dont get that justification?

You may have chased someone, frustrated with their lack of interest, for them to turn around and be interested and you actually decide your actually not interested (a common occurrence).

‘If a person wants to be a part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so.  Think twice before reserving a space in your heart for people who do not make an effort to stay.’

We hear of it repeatedly with marriage affairs; a woman or man is happy to be the ‘mistress or man on the side’ but when the married party talks about divorce it’s as though your pouring ice cold water over a burning hot flame, the side party is no longer interested.

If someone is unattainable, either they are already committed or unable to commit, it does not mean you are not good enough, or that you are not worthy of love. remember everyone has their own beautiful life journey, we are all at different times and stages of it. When it is right, you will both be in the right situation, the right time.

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We associate love and pleasure in our brains releasing Dopamine. This can make it difficult to break away from situations where the romance is unsuitable and clearly not beneficial of your time. Dopamine makes us feel good, when we remove the situation that creates this feeling our body, the mind will crave it, its a natural response to want to feel good. Sometimes its the drama we are addicted to; the highs, the lows, the circle of unpredictability. How healthy is this? This circle is destructive to any bonds of intimacy you hope to create and it wont be long before you feel depleted, alone and confused. My advice, find other ways to create pleasure, spend some time with people who are available; loved ones who care and respect you.

‘Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.’ Audrey Hepburn

unfortunately there is no consolidation (from the song)  being “with the one you’re with” when it’s not the “one you want.” But the good news is that time does heal everything and you deserve better than being on the side or someones part time. If you are with someone who is not the one you want, my opinion is that you should spend some time being on your own, not mis treating someone who is giving you their priceless time and affection, rather wait patiently for something that is right to come along, rather than just being with anyone.

Some people are unattainable; people who are married, in a relationship, I even believe seeing someone continuously (building something). Dont be the person to break apart these commitments.

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Find someone that is available and you can become unavailable together.

‘If anyone can have it, I dont want it’.

In the terms of diet, stop restrictive thinking. You can have anything you want, just remember; Junk foods create junk moods. Choose to honour your body, and if you need that 3 pm chocolate, choose dark chocolate full of Cacao/antioxidants. Balance.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Remember karma, what goes around comes around.

As always these are simply my thoughts about the complex world that is dating and the amazing gorgeous thing called LIFE.

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Elation; the Feeling

Its not very often in our lives we get to experience the feeling that is pure elation. The exhilarating feeling of everything being right.

‘If you do what you love, it is the best way to relax.’ Christian Louboutin

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Elation; 

Noun: Great happiness and exhilaration.

Synonyms: Delight.

Last night I held Be Well; 12 steps to Wellness. This was the first event I held for my own business, for myself.

As I am a perfectionist I had put immense pressure on myself to make sure everything was just perfect…I wanted attendees to think and feel a sense of ‘WOW’.

‘Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.’ Oprah Winfrey

As I was preparing for this event some nerves, my old foes started to settle in. As they began to create ‘what if’ feelings of self doubt and create thoughts of absolute disaster, I had to step back, out of my own mind and contemplate where these little (sneaky, naughty) thoughts were coming from. I took a moment to reflect on how many public speaking events and seminars I had held before and once i counted to 100, I stopped with a sense of relief and belief reignited within myself.

‘Dont aim for success if you want it; jus do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally.’ David Frost

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These fears and thoughts were not from lack of knowledge, I know everything I speak about inside and out, in fact I speak about these things all day every day (especially balance 😉 so how were these sneaky, negative unwanted thoughts creeping into my mind like little unwanted gatecrashers to a party?

The fact is, as I am a perfectionist, I hold myself to a very high standard, I like to be organised and when I want something to be perfect…it will be perfect (obviously these traits can be beneficial at times, detrimental at others). this perfectionism trait was building and creating immense pressure on myself, I had created it.

When you start out in your own business, every small move you make can be a success or perhaps not so good. Like a chess player playing an international tournament, every move you make must be thought about carefully; is it a move in the right direction? What will the possibilities be from this? And also to contemplate the possibility of it not being quite so good.

‘Every great dream begins with a dreamed. always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars and change the world.’ Harriet Tubman

I have in fact given many seminars and educational seminars before, but without the intensity and dependance of my name, growing my business attached.

I had the intention that attendees felt a sense of warmth from the moment they walked in. I come from a day spa background and trained my staff that the moment a client steps through the door is just as important as the treatment itself (some day spas have lost this memo).

I had the intention of attendees feeling and thinking…WOW. Of creating a sense of warmth, love and belonging. that they were in fact in the right place at the right moment.

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I invested my heart, my time and my funds into organising this event to create something special, and I was rewarded with something no amount of money can bu;, with smiles, kind words, even hugs from people who listened. I was ‘wowed’ my words could have that effect? You see, I don’t stand or speak from as manner that is egotistical I speak from a place in my heart, a place that has been there in the shadows with no light to be seen, a place where I have had to face my own inner demons and self sabotage acts, a place of emptiness and feeling lost…a place that is now filled with love for myself and love to give. When I speak I simply want to share.

My goal as a Wellness coach is to inspire 1 person daily, to smile, to make conscious choices and to perhaps love a little more. Just one person, in the words of Mother Theresa…‘Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.” 

(I do have every intention of doing great things 🙂

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I am still floating on cloud 9, this feeling is my reward, and it is priceless.

“Real elation is when you feel you could touch a star without standing on tiptoe’ Doug Larson

ELATION; when everything just feels RIGHT. You know those days you wake up and you feel just RIGHT? The outfit works, your hair works (the hair part doesnt happen to often for me), life is GOOD.

When you chase your dreams, you are filled with a sense of passion, greater than any fear. Do what you love, love what you do.

You are exactly where you are meant to be right now, everything you need is already within you. It was quite amusing; when I was preparing my theme and things that I wanted for the event, I already had most of it, some items from years ago, everything you need and want, you already have. Appreciate it.

If you want to make a change, in the terms of Nike; JUST DO IT.

Love & light, Charlie x.

‘Every great dream begins with a dreamed. always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars and change the world.’ Harriet Tubman

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When dreams become reality…

I have recently made some life changing decisions, (risks) to follow my dreams.

‘Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.’ Henry David Thoreau

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Time will tell if I am making wise choices, but I wanted to share with you the feeling of when your dreams become reality, when you actually can’t sleep at night because your reality has become your dreams.

I have of course heard this saying before; ‘You know your in love when you cant fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.’ (DR. Seuss)

I’m attributing this overwhelmingly, exciting, anything is possible feeling to the belief that I can do it (and I have to say that when you can create such a surreal feeling through your own actions, the sense of accomplishment and self love is intense).

Regardless of what anyone says.

‘Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you are right.’ Henry Ford

How I’m making it happen for me;

I am a dreamer. I dare to dream, to contemplate the endless possibilities that are available. For without a dream, what is life?

Get advice. Look to motivational successful people who can guide you in the right direction, a business advisor (I have one, hes a little special and I respect him for putting up with ALL of my AMAZING ideas). Invest your time with people who have their own dreams; passion and positivity are contagious.

Take a risk. They say life begins outside of your comfort zone. I can say, I definitely agree. Living on the edge, unsure if my choices will work or not. I have risked everything stable in my life, for this chance of happiness (unstability, business building) and I am feeling happy every day; thankful, grateful…these feelings are priceless.

‘You control your future, your destiny. What you think about comes about. By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put your future in good hands – your own.’ Mark Victor Hansen

Be wary of jealousy. People will have their opinions, be wary of the place their decisions are coming from, a place of love? Choose to make your own decisions based on what feels right for you. Do not spend time concerned with what other people will think. (I have definitely been prone to this, scared of ‘who does she think she is’, ‘what is she doing’ remarks/thoughts Im sure other people have). You cannot live your life for other people. Do what makes you feel happy, do what you know to be right.

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‘Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do.’ Pop John XXIII

 

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Be prepared to make mistakes. Mistakes are proof that you are trying and NO ONE gets it 100% perfect the first time. Learn from your mistakes, be prepared to re evaluate and change direction if needed. Stop beating yourself up over them (again, I am a perfectionist, so this is definitely a note to self). In fact, to not be perfect can be a good thing in regards to marketing relations & relatability. People will love the fact that you are real. Be yourself. When your chasing your dreams, its your journey and your chance to make mistakes, to learn and become even more amazing than you already are.

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Be present. I am finding that chasing my dreams is the most exciting, exhilarating journey ive been on yet. I get so excited I can’t sleep at night. Be aware of your thoughts, plan effectively and get the things that need to be done today, done (because nobody else will do them). I have always loved writing, and I do advocate ‘to do’ lists; a tool that I am definitely utilising now. Enjoy the uncertainty, enjoy the moment, the planning, the beginning, the decision you make.

Believe in yourself.

Above all else. You are the only who has the power to make your dreams come true. Ask yourself how much do you want it? What are you prepared to sacrifice in order to make them come true? How dedicated are you? How hard are you prepared to work for it?

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You can have anything you want in this world as long as you work hard enough for it.

Love & light, Charlie x.

‘Take pelasure in your dreams; relish your principles and drape your purest feelings on the heart of a precious lover’. Giotto di Bondone

Monday Motivation…

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Today I would like to share with you ‘The Nutrition guru and The Chef’, a husband; The Chef, and wife; the Nutrition guru living the healthy living dream on qlds beautiful Sunshine Coast (the chef factor definitely helps!)

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NBB: The Nutrition guru and the Chef are well renowned for your healthy, (delicious), nutritious meals. What do you attribute this success to?

Our recipes haven’t been designed to follow the latest health or nutrition fad, only to please our own bellies and taste buds. Most importantly, they are designed to pack a nutritional punch using ingredients that are inexpensive and readily available. I think because of this, our readers are able to make the recipes quite easily, enjoy the final product and at the same time, know that it is relatively healthy for them.

I never tell people what NOT to eat. I find many health pages focused on outlining all the frightening facts about junk food eg, the terrible aspects of margarine, the cancer causing effects of soft drink and the sins of nitrates which personally drive me nuts.  I find that it does get a lot of people reading and interested in the material, but in reality does not necessarily convert to long time healthy eating habits.  Instead, I only focus on outlining the positive benefits of foods, nutrients and behaviours we could be doing MORE of.

‘To keep the body in good health is a duty, otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.’ Buddha

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NBB: When did you decide to you wanted to be involved in the Nutrition, health, wellness industry?

I was a dancer for almost 20 years and then moved into the fitness industry as a personal trainer so being active has always been a part of me.

5 years ago I had to have a large surgery on my hip and I was in a wheelchair for 4 months. I had to think seriously about a long-term career which wasn’t so reliant on peak physical fitness, so I went and studied a Bachelor of Nutrition and Dietetics and here I am!

NBB: How does it feel, living your dream?

I couldn’t imagine not filling life with things that make me happy. It’s not always possible for us to do, as there are always stages in life where it isn’t always possible to do what makes us happy, but I believe we do have to strive to make those moments happen. We can’t wait for them to come to us, if we aren’t doing what  makes us happy, we have to go actively make changes to live our dream.

‘The groundwork of all happiness is health.’James Leigh Hunt

NBB: How do you feel as an inspirational figure/mentor?

I have never considered myself as being inspirational but it is something I most definitely aspire to be. It always nice to receive emails from readers who say that I have inspired them to make changes in their life, whether that is that they have revamped their diet and lost weight, or took 5 minutes to just stop and relax. We all have a reason to be here in this life, and I feel blessed to have found my purpose and look forward to building on that and using it to reach as many people as I can in order to put a smile on loads of people’s dial!

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NBB: Has there been any challenges along your journey?

I have experienced ill-health for the past several years which has prevented me from reaching the goals I had set out to achieve. I keep coming up against road blocks and this is very challenging and upsetting, but I have now learned that the challenges we all come across aren’t there simply to make us mad. They are there as part of the overall big picture to steer us in the direction we need to go. If we can adapt to changes and road blocks in the plan, then we are well on the path to the most fantastic adventure.

‘The doctor of the future will give no medicines, but will interest his patients in the care of the human frame, in diet, and in the causes and prevention of disease. ‘ Thomas Edison

NBB: What is your advice for anyone who has a dream?

Well, a dream is just that – a dream. Something that is in your thoughts but doesn’t actually happen. So, you can let it remain a dream or actually make it a goal. Once it is a goal, you can put steps in place to actually make it happen. Once you have a dream, no matter how crazy it is, then acknowledge it and sit down and actively work out how to change it from a dream into a goal and then a goal into reality.

NBB: What can we look forward to next from you?

Lots of great things. Top secret!

NBB: Top 3 healthy tips/advice?

Focus on what foods you could eat MORE of, rather than what foods you should be eating less of. Choose one thing in your diet that you would like to change, and focus on that as your goal for 1 week. Once you have mastered that change for 7 continuous days, add another goal and repeat. You won’t get anywhere if you want to change every single thing about your diet at once, your brain and emotions will explode. Carbs are not the enemy. All too often I see people cut carbs completely of their diet due to fear and incorrect information they have read on the web. When, all they need to do is switch to a whole grain variety and reduce the portions. Carbs are extremely important for our brain and immune function as well as our  mood and with life already being hectic and stressful enough, carbs as a very important part of a healthy diet.

“The food you eat can be either the safest and most powerful form of medicine or the slowest form of poison.” Ann
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NBB: Share something no one knows…

My pet hate is washing up cutlery. I can’t stand it and always leave it for The Chef to wash up.

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You can do anything you put your mind to, anything you believe you can achieve…YOU CAN.

Hope you have a fabulous Monday, start your day and week the right way. And why not share some love today 🙂

Love & Light, Charlie x.