Happiest girls, are the prettiest girls.

The famous quote by Audrey Hepburn.

And it is so true.

Have you ever met someone and truly felt their beauty? Felt a sense of ”wow” or a pure sense of happiness in their presence? You know those people that make your heart smile, you just know theyve got ‘it’ together.

Regardless of outward attractiveness, you felt a sense of warmth, radiance in their presence? What is it about these people (girls & guys) that exudes confidence and breeds positivity that it makes you want to be around them? You may know someone like this, people who just leave you feeling ‘happy’.

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The answer, I believe, is, self-love and self-trust. These people have a resounding knowledge within them that no matter what happens, what events might occur in the near future, that they will always be ok, that their life will always go on. Knowing these things gives them confidence. A self-assurance that is portrayed to everyone they meet, the manner they act and the way that they speak. They gold within them a sense of appreciation, not only of themselves, but for you, the time it takes to meet and the very presence of now.

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There is an inner kindness about these girls (and guys) that shines from within them, and it occurs naturally. They just want to be nice. To be kind. To give.

If you want to cultivate love, kindness, giving in your life, first you need to have it to be able to give it away. Many of the most successful writers, philosophers and leaders say if you want more of something, first you have to give it away.

There are some common attributes these pretty people have…why not take some time and develop your own inner beauty?

Spend time loving yourself, develop the ‘pretty’ qualities:

Integrity: Always do what you say you will. If you were only as good as your word, how good would you be??? There is nothing that frustrates and aggravates people more than failing to follow through a spoken word, your promise. If you don’t mean it, don’t say it. But do say what you mean and mean what you do. Be who you are, and stop pretending to be someone else.

Kindness: There is always time to be kind. The little things matter. Smile, be polite, be patient. Treat people how you want to be treated. Its the small things that matter, Mother Theresa said not all of us can do great things, but we can do small thigns with great love. Hold open a door for someone, say please and thank you. As a society we are losing touch with our morals, our moral compasses seem to be getting a little interfered with with todays technology.

‘My religion is simple, my religion is kindness’ Buddha

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Gratitude: Always appreciate what you are lucky enough to have in your life for you never know when it will be too late. Miss someone; contact them, love someone; tell them, appreciate someone; say thank you. Don’t let your pride hold you back. Words are easy to say, and appreciated when they are not only expressed but felt. Accept that sometimes you are wrong, that you make mistakes. Apologise, let go and move on.

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Patience: Practice patience with people.

The capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.

Something we all need to work on. Let go of judgement. Practice compassion and understanding with people.

Respect: Develop compassion for everyone you meet. Genuine respect and compassion does not include looking down on others, it means understanding that we are all searching for happiness and  have the right to be happy by overcoming life’s obstacles. Treat everyone you meet in a respectful manner, and be slow to judge. After all, who are you to give someone judgment?

Belief: Always make time to be true to yourself, to your passion, your life’s journey. When you find what is right for you, you will know. You will feel it. Have faith and trust that what is meant to be will be. You are exactly where you should be, doing what you should.

‘Nothing is impossible, the word itself says IMpossible’ Audrey Hepburn

Practice the pretty qualities daily and soon you will be shining from within.

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To leave you with my absolute favourite quote:

‘For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others. for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness. and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone’ Audrey Hepburn

Do something different today.

Love & Light, Charlie x.

 

Keeping up with the ‘movers’; the new age Joneses.

Take a look around you and check out the world you live in.You know the saying ‘you are a product of your environment’…or as good as the 5 people you surround yourself with.

‘To all the other dreamers out there, dont ever stop or let the worlds negativity disenchant you or your spirit. If you surround yourself with love and the right people, anything is possible.’ Adam Green.

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What I find interesting is that Im my world I’ve somehow created a world of #boss people, entrepreneurs, dreamers…owners of their own passion and businesses.

 

‘The best thing to do when you find yourself in a hurting or vulnerable place is to surround yourself with the strongest, fnest, most positive people you know.’ Kristin Armstrong

Wow…when I think of this, yes I am very lucky. And I feel it, to have people who are in my world that a coffee meeting is a bounce meeting…sharing knowledge contacts and creating what I call collab Magic, that I can call and say ‘hey..I need your help, or what do you think about this?’ And honestly most of these people are much more accomplished and successful than me, further along in their secure businesses or more talented in their chosen fields.  

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Now, I’m not sure if it’s the rat race called Sydney that I live in or if it’s just me but there also seems to be a downside to this…the new age ‘keeping up with the joneses’. From what I believe the ‘Joneses’ was all about the material things that created status like the Range Rover, the designer handbag, the house on the water. It probably still is. But I’m taking about a term ‘keeping up with the movers’…because my gosh they do move. These people are the dreamers, the believers, the movers and the shakers…even though I consider myself to be part of this world Id definitely say they shake me up!

We’re creating a culture that is based in a social media world that IS NOT REALITY, it is a perception of a life that person wants you to see to create a relevant thought about who you think they are. (No Im not having a go or saying anything negatively). Were taught to speak positively so in the world of social media were all happy every day, living a life we love and creating HUGE success.

Because of the way we share our lives on social media it seems to me that everybody is out their building huge empires (and I must admit I use this term also…you know… think what you want into your reality). What nobody shares is the struggle – and let me tell you the struggle is real.
Every single day you have to wake up and actively create your thoughts changing anything that’s negative to positive. Everyday you have to see mistakes or f*+k ups as opportunities. For me, I have no business partners or romantic partner (probably quite lucky at this stage because he wouldn’t know what Charlie he was coming home to him every night) to lean on or to rely on, or that just have my back. But it does seems iinvestors are the new age dream house, in the same sense of security. Again, I’m not saying I’m against them I’ll definitely be looking for some soon, or maybe…still undecided #controlfreak wink emoji. 

‘Whatever you do in life, surround yourself with smart people who’ll argue with you.’ John Wooden. 

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Anyway…keeping up with greatness…it can take its toll on you. You might recall that I suffer depression and currently have adrenal fatigue so I’m just tired ALLLLLL the time (honestly really irritating me more than anything). As much as I want to go out there and change the world sometimes it can just be ‘to hard’ and a coffee or 2 is my passion substitute.

‘Surround yourself with the right people, and realize your own worth. Honestly, there are enough and people out there in the world – you dont need to be your own worst enemy’ Lucy Hale

 

 

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What I am learning to focus on is being grateful. Grateful that I am lucky enough to have such amazing inspirational leaders in my real world or even the ones on social media. Because yes even when it seems everybody is moving faster than a shooting star to their dreams and it feels like I’m here…revolving around mine like the sun around the earth…everyday they inspire me.
It’s when I act from my ego or a place of fear or my own instilled belief that ‘I’ll never be good enough ‘that I feel all the things that bring me down, make me destructive and definitely not productive. 
I’m also working on limiting my social media because as you probably now, 1 quick check can become an hr and next minute you’ve found ten other businesses in your area that are doing what you do, and their out there passionately chasing their dreams. 

‘You have to surround yourself with people who love you and want the best for you.’ Mena Suvari

 

Stop being afraid to do what you think you can’t do. And just do it. You are good enough. You can do it. You are worthy.

(note to self and to you!).
Love, Charlie x.

 

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Detox your relationships.

It seems to me we are limiting ourselves with the company we keep. Just like how we become what we eat, we are only as strong as those we surround ourself.

‘I think it’s important to get your surroundings as well as yourself into a positive state – meaning surround yourself with positive people, not the kind who are negative and jealous of everything you do.’ Heidi Klum

 

 

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Do you want love and support? Are you loving and supportive? Whatever it is that you need you must become. Take a moment and evaluate your circle. The people who are closest to you, who influence your choices and actions. Are they positive? Are they supportive? Do they care about your wellbeing? Are they understanding? Are they respectful? Do they guide you in the right direction? Do they have your best interests at heart?

I have found that allowing people to move through my life is one of the most difficult things to do. You see some people are only meant for a moment, some for a lifetime.

“7 things negative people will do to you. They will… 
1. Demean your value;
2. Destroy your image
3. Drive you crazily!
4. Dispose your dreams!
5. Discredit your imagination!
6. Deframe your abilities and
7. Disbelieve your opinions!

Stay away from negative people!” 

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If you have those toxic (negative, disrespectful, ‘take’ mentality) people in your life, how do you expect to reach your potential? Toxic people are toxic. To you. Your life.

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Detox immediately. You are the only one who has the power to make decisions in your life. You can wake up in the morning and choose to hit snooze or choose to get your body moving. You can choose to think it will be a beautiful day. You can choose what behaviours you accept. Every choice you make will create your life.

Make better choices. I used to carry a bucketload of guilt and sadness when I would distance myself from people.

“Someone who smiles too much with you can sometime frown too much with you at your back.” Michael Bassey Johnson

I would keep trying, giving people the benefit of the doubt, hoping and holding into thoughts of the goodness within is all. Truth is we are all on different life rhythms. Let go of those who are trying to hold you down, and let yourself be free. Just let go with love and light, wish them well and realise they were only for a moment. Let go with no guilt and surround yourself with the people who lift you higher (no guilt, it is a natural progression in life as we each change).

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Detox. Because people have the power to influence you, but only you have the power to decide and choose what you want and what is acceptable behaviour. Be strong. I can promise the more decisions you make to let go and move on from people who no longer have your best interests in their heart, the closer you are to finding the ones who do.

‘Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.’ Willie Nelson

 

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I am so grateful for every person in my life, the good and the not so, in this moment and the previous. For you have all contributed to the person {& I finally love who} I have become today.

‘Good for the body is the work of the body, and good for the soul is the work of the soul, and good for either is the work of the other.’ Henry David Thoreau

Love & light, Charlie x.

Do you have toxic people in your life? Have you successfully detoxed? Are you happier?

To enter to win this gorgeous ‘NOTOX’ box, please write a comment about your experiences with people detoxing.

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Envy or celebrate {others success}?

Do you find yourself envious of others success, or do you choose to celebrate their joys?

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I have found that sometimes it can be those that are closest to you that dont seem to share with you the same level of happiness in your successes as those who barely know you. Why is it that we can’t enjoy others success freely and instead try to belittle them or the way they have achieved their accomplishments?

‘It’s not people who resent successful people; it’s resentful people who resent successful people.’ Bo Bennett

As Im striving to continue working for myself doing what I love (this is my definition of success) I have fond that I am receiving recognition, support and congratulations from places and people I least expect it from, but perhaps not so much from the people I do (expectations we know only lead you to disappointment).

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‘It’s our nature: Human beings like success but they hate successful people.’ Carrot Top

When others believe that you have achieved the success they are yet to find, it can be difficult to swallow. After all we are all out there trying to the very best we can with what we have (or are you?).

‘When you’re around enormously successful people you realise their success isn’t an accident – it’s about work.’ Ryan Tedder

What determines who is successful and who is not?

“The world aint all sunshine and rainbows. Its a very  mean and nasty place, and I dont care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it, you me or nobody is going to hit as hard as life, but it aint about how hard you hit, its about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward.

Thats how winning is done.’ Rocky

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Its about how badly you want it.  You have to be prepared to do the work. When you achieve your version of success, you will understand me when I say, it is hard work. You have to keep going, for every 10 no’s there is 1 yes, for every minute there is hours worth of work to do. There are no days off. Work comes before partying. Your dream becomes your reality when you live and breathe it every moment of every day.

‘When you want to succeed as much as you want to breathe, then youll be successful’.  Eric Thomas

I used to gaze wistfully at successful people, people who I thought had it all. It LOOKS so easy. Now, I can tell you I look to those same successful people with full admiration and respect for I am fast learning the highs, the lows the sideway turns that it takes to get there.

There are some people in the world who just don’t like other people success. Resentment. Jealousy. Envy. This says more about them then it does you.

There are some people who are inspired by your success and admire you for dedication to your dream. Offer them a helping hand and keep these people close to you. Positivity breeds positivity.

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‘Successful people have a social responsibility to make the world a better place and not just take from it.’ Carrie Underwood

So be one of the ones that celebrates in others successes, you will feel better for it to. Celebrate, be motivated and share love.

The more you help others get what they want, the more ways what you want will come to you. This is true.

Success is hard work. Its saying I can in a world that will tell you you cant. Its believing in yourself when no one else does. Its getting up every time you fall. Its saying, I will not fail.

Love & light, Charlie x.

First, you just have to decide. Decide what you want, who you want to be, then do everything you can to be that person.

‘All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.’ Brian Tracy

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A girl or a woman.

As  I am changing my life I truly feel like I am becoming a woman.

What is the difference between a woman and a girl? A cultivated sense of self. As you get older, you become wiser. Very true age old saying.

 

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‘I like being a woman, even in a man’s world. After all, men can’t wear dresses, but we can wear the pants.’ Whitney Houston

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being either. I just wanted to express my thoughts about my feelings, and experiences of what I believe is entering womanhood.

You learn not to sweat the small stuff, you learn about true relationships and people. You become aware of who you are. The things you like, the things you dislike. Youve made enough mistakes to learn from (perhaps are still learning). After years of hard work, growing and learning some woman find it objectionable to be labelled or called a girl. It’s as though being a ‘woman’ rather than a girl demands respect. Weve done the hard work, lived through the highs and lows of life and have chosen the lives we currently live. We have been tested with lifes tribulations and proved that we are worthy of a beautiful life.

‘It takes people a long time to learn the difference between talent and genius, especially ambitious young men and women.’ Louisa May Alcott

I recently read in an article; I go to work with woman, I go shopping with the ‘girls’ (obviously woman but meaning a sense of freedom). Is there pressure as a woman to always be composed? Perhaps so. Woman have a demeanour, a sense of knowing, you may even call it ‘pressure’ placed on them. Especially to ‘make it’ in this face paced world.

As a woman you create a confidence. A confidence that comes from a trust of yourself.

‘People think at the end of the day that a man is the only answer [to fulfillment]. Actually a job is better for me.’ Princess Diana

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We can develop these senses through more self-love work, more positive affirmations, more healthy habits. Every day you are creating change in your life, every small step today is towards your future self. My gosh, even the food you eat today, is what you become…your skin cells turnover every 28 days (approx, this does slow down as we age), the food you eat creates the cells within your body. Are you making the right choices? You really are what you eat.

“A girl wants attention, a woman wants respect. A girl wants to be adored by many. A woman wants to be adored by one.” -anonymous

Do men prefer woman or girls, well I guess that is up to the individual man. Some of my male friends prefer ‘yes’ girls, the type that aren’t pre committed to their own career instead want to commit to their own beck and call.

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‘Smart women love smart men more than smart men love smart women.’ Natalie Portman

Girls have a tendency to believe that the world revolves around image; woman know its whats on the inside that counts.

Girls may believe a man will be their financial saviour; woman know they can be their own financial success.

Girls play games; woman don’t.

Girls look for someone to look after them; woman look for others to look after.

Girls change themselves depending on their man or situation; woman have a firm set of beliefs and sense of self regardless of the situation or man.

Girls speak without integrity; Woman offer integrity in everything they do.

Girls have not yet learnt the value of their body and will use it for attention, flaunting & disrespectfully; woman have learnt the body is priceless to be treasured and shared with someone special.

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“After spending time with a girl, you feel exhausted because she takes more than she gives. After spending time with a woman, you feel invigorated, because she empowers you with possibility, and a passion for life.”  N. Mah

{Please note this is not an ALL girls or ALL woman are like the above post}

After all,we are all beautiful creations. But believe me if I could give my 20yr old self some of the wisdom I know now, I would have changed a few of my ways 😉 But then I wouldnt be where I am today, which is so perfect & Im so grateful.

Love & light, Charlie x.

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Gossip…what good is it?

Do you find yourself caught in the vicious cycle of gossip? Why?

“Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.”  Eleanor Roosevelt

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How does it benefit you, to speak of someone or something in a derogative manner, to offer your opinion on something/someone you most likely have no idea about, and let’s be real, really has no effect on your own life?

Yet we have all been guilty of this nasty act, gossip. 

Does it make you feel better?

Does it determine your self worth?

Do you get satisfaction from offering your opinion?

Just as we’ve all been guilty of partaking in this terrible activity, I’m sure we have all been on the receiving side of gossip. Sometimes it can be quite interesting yet upsetting when it is relayed back to you (you learn things about yourself you didn’t even know existed or happened).

So why do we actively participate in brining other people down? Gossip is a bad habit. 

My mantra; if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all.

If you find yourself being drawn into a conversation or gossip session, politely excuse yourself, change the subject or remove yourself. You do not need to be part of the world that is negative, judgmental or opinionated. Be the change you wish to see in the world.

Just like positive thinking, positive speaking will bring so much more love and joy into your world. 

Why do you gossip?

“Gossip is just a tool to distract people who have nothing better to do from feeling jealous of those few of us still remaining with noble hearts.” Anna Godsperson

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Take a look within yourself, the answer is there. Most people partake in the bad habit of gossiping because they themselves do not feel good enough. Gossip or bringing other people down allows them to get a small sense of being better than (even though this is only perceived in their mind). Speak about the good in your life, share your happiness (there is always something good to be thankful for).

The fact is, how often do you know the real circumstances about the person or situation you are gossiping about (never)?

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“Be less curious about people and more curious about ideas.” Marie Curie

Really, who are you to judge? We all have a past, we are all trying to live life the best way we know how, and this includes making mistakes. Nobody deserves your judgement. Once you become a gossip you are in turn ruining your own reputation and creating a sense of distrust. Dont you want loving , respectful, trusting relationships nad friendships?

Gossiping says more about you than the person you are gossiping about. 

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Just stop. Say something nice instead. How brilliant would it be to know that people referred to you as ‘she never had a bad word to say about anyone’? (A lovely thought I imagine).

For attractive lips, speak words of kindness’ Audrey Hepburn. 

Interesting fact; in Shakespeare’s time, a GOSSIP was someone who sat with a women during child-birth to speak with her and offer comfort.

Love & light, Charlie x.

‘Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. ‘ Miguel Angel Ruiz.

 

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