Self Love Sunday…Make decisions.

Self love Sunday…sometimes there really is nothing better than a sleep in, a book and a coffee {perhaps cuddles would conclude perfection}.

Today, I wanted to write about the power of making decisions. Of loving yourself, trusting yourself enough to be able to make decisions effectively and know that they are the best for you.

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‘First say to yourself what you would be, and then do what you have to do’ Epicteteus

Because, most of the time we feel anxiety, unstable or insecure it’s because we are unsure about something; were to busy wondering ‘what if’, over thinking, over analysing, to actually enjoy the present moment, the now.

“Decision is the spark that ignites action. Until a decision is made, nothing happens…. Decision is the courageous facing of issues, knowing that if they are not faced, problems will remain forever unanswered.” Wilfred A. Peterson

Last year after I felt that Yoga changed my life, I decided I wanted to become a Yoga Instructor, in fact it was on my goal list for this year to study in India, in the Himalayas. Unfortunately due to unpredicted #ball {Clean Treat} success, I wasnt able to take 4 weeks away.

Just the other week I got the opportunity to study Pilates, a 5 day class to gain certification to teach. The timing & pricing were right, and I felt it would be a perfect prelude to the Yoga study I still want to do, a perfect addition to my wellness seminars.

Yesterday, I went to my first class, but something didn’t feel quite right. You know when your heart just isn’t in it? I wasnt focused, didn’t feel like I was being attentive, retaining any information and spent most of the time dreaming about my secret BIG dream project Im working on (for Clean Treats).

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I decided to trust this feeling.

I contemplated the pros and cons, sure I wanted to do it, I still do and  it will be great to add to my growing resume, but is it right for me right now? No. Was it simply a self-limiting distraction/option? Yes (taking my focus away from the substantial risk I may be about to take).

Decision made. Relief felt. Focus restored.

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‘In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing’ Theodore Roosevelt

I had an ex come into my life and declare his undying, unconditional love, promises of marriage & kids (yes, I do wear my heart on my sleeve and I cannot wait to find someone to truly love and create my own family). Yet when we spoke the past was always brought up and I realised it always would be). I had to ask myself if I wanted to be reminded of that person I was (who I didnt and don’t like very much), was this love real, or was it the thought of that romantic love story, that true love will always concur everything?

I decided it was the thought. So I decided to be grateful for the words, but made the decision to firmly close the door behind us by taking myself off his option list (he is about to be married). I am not that person and I refuse to be reminded of who I was, my actions, and live in the past.

Decision made. I let him go with love and felt my heart smile.

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‘Follow your heart and make it your decision.’ Mia Hamm

Also recently (yes an emotionally, heart-felt month for me), I fell in ‘Like/lust/want/desire/perhaps love’ with someone who I hadn’t actually met. Non stop messages, texts with loaded emotional meaning, excitement beyond words, phone calls with cute giggles. I actually (silly of me) thought he might be the one. Then we met and I knew his heart wasnt in it. So I let go.

Decision made. Simple.

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‘Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.’ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Decision making can be scary, I mean most of the time were so scared of making the wrong decision we aren’t actually focused on the right decisions, what we know within us feels right.

But what does it really matter if we make a decision and its the wrong one? Of course it doesnt. THIS IS LIFE.

Every single day I am sill making mistakes, some financially expensive, some emotionally expensive, but for all of them I’m grateful, for how else would I learn? Just make the decision to understand it, act, then let it go, then move on.

Truth is you can’t be everything, to everyone…so be everything you dream of becoming and want to be…for you.

‘First seek to understand, then to be understood.’

Everyday I talk about creating self-love thoughts, being able to say ‘I love you’ in the mirror, consciously choosing healthy food, choosing happy thoughts, exercising and treating people with respect. Because every time you do these actions, every day, it’s an act of self-love, and do you know one of the most beautiful things about love…it grows. It gets stronger and stronger. So the more you cultivate self-love, the easier the difficult times in life will be.

I’m not saying that because Ive found a sense of being ok with who I am that my life is easy, but what I am saying is that when I feel emotionally disrupted, unwanted or unloved by someone, these feelings are only fleeting because I have created the self love/care habits that I can action to bounce right back.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Have trust, what is meant for you will be. Dont be scared to say no, to anything less than you deserve.

Pretty excited I now have 4 whole days that I had dedicated to my Pilates course to invest in my master plan… oh and my new website {#finally!!!}

 

Authentic Success

Are you waiting until you  the hot husband, the white range rover, the multi million $ house to feel successful?

Would you believe me if I said you are already successful with everything you have; right now, in this exact moment?

‘Dont aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally.’ David Frost

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Would you feel it?

So what if you dont have all the things society says you should.

Success is what you make of it. The definition means; the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.

So what is your aim, what is your purpose?

For me, my purpose is to share love, daily, to create change in the world. To inspire just one person with my thoughts and actions, and with Clean Treats, its the fact that just one choice {#charliesballs} is a healthier choice for one person. Its these small daily healthy habits that can create change.

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‘Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.’ {Mother Theresa}

This is my business & brand belief.

‘Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life – think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscle, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.’ Swami Vivekananda

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If you take a moment to breathe, be still and reflect on the true beauty that is in your life…Im pretty sure you’ll see success.

Ive recently felt my heart hurt a little from both old and new love, and instead of feeling that I will always be unsuccessful in relationships, Im trying to find peace and calm with the great relationships/friendships I have built.  I’ve been quite overwhelmed with the love and support of my close friends…and arent friendships still a relationship with others? Although it may not be romantical love, its still a relationship between 2 people and Im choosing to value these; this is success (rather than create stress and drama in my life, with ‘I will never have a good relationship/marriage’ thinking).

‘To succeed in life, you need two things: ignorance and confidence. Mark Twain

What we focus on grows. Im not saying its ok to just be happy where you are in life, Im a big believer in pushing yourself, getting outside of your comfort zone and really finding what makes you happy, but instead of chasing success, or making the statement we’ve all to often heard, or say to ourselves ‘ Ill be happy when…’, why not find happiness now, in this present moment? Actively change your thoughts to appreciate all the blessings you have.

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This is the happiness trap.

Be happy now with what you have whilst working for all that you dream of.

Stop comparing where you are on your own journey to where other people are. Comparison really is the thief of all joy. Thats their life, not yours and as glamourous/perfect it can appear to be on their ‘highlight reel’ (social media), I can promise you, it’s not. We all have our own challenges and fears. Its our decision whether we choose to work through and overcome them or let them get the better of us.

‘Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.’ Winston Churchill

Success, it’s about being ok with who you are, where you have been and where you are going.

‘Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.’ Bruce Lee

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Being grateful (yes, everything I do always comes back to my ‘attitude of gratitude’ belief) for every perfect and not so perfect thing in your life. The bad happens so we can appreciate the good, the dark comes before the light, and mistakes are just proof that you are trying.

‘Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.’ Albert Einstein

What is your greatest success?

Love & light, Charlie x.

Today I am so so grateful for the time and love I have invested into the world around me, my relationships, because in my time of need/hurt I’ve been shown what true success is…love.

 

Integrity; a pretty quality

Integrity, such a powerful word, yet not many know the true meaning.

Integrity: {noun}

The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness.

‘Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody’s going to know whether you did or not’. Oprah Winfrey

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I have chosen to focus my intentions on acting with integrity.

Being who I say I am, doing what I say Ill do.

Integrity is having ethics; morals and being trustworthy. Doing exactly what you say you will, when you say you will and  living a life exactly as you say you do. Basically, practising what you preach.

If you follow me & my journey, I am a do-er, I make my mind up about something and just get it done (and figure the logistics out later, I have researched this ‘just do it’ trait and apparently its good for entrepreneurs, thankfully), Im a hopeless romantic (I choose to believe the words I hear & that everyone is truly ‘good’), and I also suffer depression/self sabotage (yes, my days are very interesting!).

‘Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity’. W. Clement Stone

I use alot of powerful quotes everyday, romantic poems & invest my time reading in physiology, because it intrigues me as I only want to be a better person, for myself and those around me (one day my own family), yet on several occasions I find myself acting with my emotions even though I have the best intentions, speaking words that shouldnt be said and over analysing/acting with fear, hurt & ego.

For these reasons I am choosing to actively focus on this quality that few really possess; Integrity.

I want to be a woman of my word. That does not mean Im perfect, or I ever will be, it simply means that I will actively try to focus my intention on being as good as I say I am. On actively acting with integrity, not fear, hurt, anger.

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Thought: If you were as valuable as your word, how valuable would you be?

‘Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. ‘ Miguel Angel Ruiz

If you want to live a life with happiness; it is essential to act with integrity. To speak and live your truth. (Why I classified it a ‘ pretty’ quality).

Integrity means to honour your word. Can people trust you? Are you responsible? Reliable? Integrity as a quality means that you do the right thing and people find you trustworthy and reliable (important characteristics for any relationship/lovers or friends) . Integrity means that you are honest, about yourself, everything that you are, who you want to be,  and who you have been.

Be true to you…

What are your morals? What do you believe in (Respect, honesty, trust)?  To truly act with integrity you must know what your morals are.

Do you believe in treating people with respect yet are disrespectful to those around you?

Do you always say you will do something, that never seems to get done? Do you always commit yet never seem to follow through? (We are all guilty of this, especially via social media)

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Integrity is about being true to yourself, to who you are, knowing what you belive in and acting it out everyday.

‘The foundation stones for a balanced success are honesty, character, integrity, faith, love and loyalty. ‘Zig Ziglar’

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For some us, we are still on the journey to discovering our true selves…(there is no rush it can be a life long beautiful journey). If you are unsure about your morals and ethics take some time, on your own, and reflect, what do you believe in? Once you know what it is that you believe in, what you desire from life, the person you want to be, you can consciously act with integrity every day.

‘Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind. ‘Ralph Waldo Emerson

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The more I am focusing on acting with integrity, the stronger relationships I am building and the better  my life is becoming.  If I say I will do something, I will (reliability). If I’m unsure that I can, I will say so (honesty).

Be honest with those around you, its much better then over committing and being  a disappointment.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Everyday do something that makes you a better person, you are your only competition, just be better than yesterday 🙂


 

 

 

 

A love lost.

Lately I’ve been finding myself a little caught up in the past. You know when you seem to keep re thinking things, how they occurred, moments that have passed.

‘Love is the most beautiful thing to have, hardest thing to earn and most painful thing to lose.’ Unkown

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Obviously not the best place for any of our thoughts to be.

As I’m here building my empire (you have to speak what you believe for it to come true), I’m finding it more and more difficult to find someone to connect with (#love). As the difficulty increases I spend my time (as we all do) evaluating myself, my tendencies to love, to pull away (my current strike rate is 1 date and your out) I cant help but contemplate if I’ve had my great love. That one person who would do anything for ou, who creates their world to make yours better, that one person who is your number one believer, supporter. The one who was always there when it mattered.

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Im referring to my ‘good’ ex. I speak often about my ‘bad’ ex, the one who betrayed my love and trust. But I don’t often speak about the one who I betrayed.

‘You will never know true happiness until you have truly loved, and you will never understand what pain really is until you have lost it.’ Anonymous

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During that not so good time of my life, caught up with my bad ex, his multiple other woman, lies and mental abuse, I was lucky enough to meet someone who was so kind, so in love with me (I never knew why), someone who was my best friend. Yet, I never appreciated him, his time or his love. I wasnt a nice person, actually far from it. I didn’t give him the love he deserved (He’s now engaged and I know he will be an amazing husband, father and wish him and his fiance all the love and happiness that I never gave him).

“The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren’t paying attention to before.”
“Good Will Hunting”

I cant help but contemplate if I’m now/still receiving my karma, from all those years of mistreating him, whilst believing my ‘bad’ ex, Mr Wrong was the right love…am I now paying the price? The struggle to find someone to connect with is real (also there is a study that shows there is a shortage of men in Sydney). Its easy to find someone to share your bed with, but your hopes and dreams and inner fears, not so…this is reality. {yes, i want Marvin Gaye, flowers…romance #highexpectations}

It can sometimes take us a long time to realise what we lose. It’s then the hardest part to recover from that loss, but for me its the guilt I am holding onto. As I create change in my life, give love, share love and build my world, I cant help but have self doubt as I know I wasnt always this person, (I think) kind, loving, ‘nice’.

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‘Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.” Sonia Ricotti

But that’s the beauty of life…we have the power, the opportunity to create it, everyday, every thought, every word we speak.

So, as I process my guilt, my regret I can only wish my lost love all the very best and work through releasing my thoughts, knowing that he is now happier than I ever could have made him. And after all, isnt that the true sign of love… their happiness?

“Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never met.” Unknown

And hopefully everyday that I do good will help rebuild my own love karma.

It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Show someone you love & appreciate that you do today. A cute text message (those smiles ;), an extra long hug, a beautiful meal. Say ‘I love you’.

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Heal your hurt; give more love.

It’s no doubt that we have all been hurt by people in our lives at some stage; family, friends, lovers.

 

It’s something I know we struggle with, the hurt, resentment, pain. How can we resolve issues that we are so sure we are RIGHT in without causing more conflict? As a very personal person {believe it or not but I do like to keep my most inner musings to myself and express through writing}, I find it has become difficult to communicate our true intentions. (Most of the time letting go of the need to be in the RIGHT, will resolve any issue).

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‘Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more.’ H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Though we live in a world where technology allows us to communicate in a mere moment, how often is it effective? How often are you expressing your true feelings, needs and thoughts? I know for myself, at least once a day I’m confused of the subtext and the context of text. Reading on the lines, between the lines…and then deciphering those emojiis.

I am beginning to understand the true power of love and release. Of being able to just let go (believe me as a traditional over analysing personality type, a person who wants to know all the whys and hows, this has been a learning curve for me). What I have found to be true, and it’s working for me, if somebody hurts you, disrespects you or treats you in a manner not aligned with your beliefs {basically in not a good way}, as much as you feel anger, hurt, sadness or pain…change those feelings with conscious thoughts of love.

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‘Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love’. Lao Tzu

It can be hard but it’s not impossible. Change your energy, and intention and instead of focusing on the bad, the words that have been said, the situation that has occurred, realise that they are only people who are doing the best they can with what they have, just like you… And send them love. Not hate. And let it go.

‘You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving’. Robert Louis Stevenson

 

This is a process and practice I am working on personally, and I have found it much better to be a giver of love rather than a creator of ill will. You can change the world that you live in by simply changing your thoughts. If you find it difficult to change from such negativity to positivity research ways that you can express yourself, via writing, fitness, reading, music…

There are many ways to release and remove bad feelings, just find what works for you. For me, if someone does something to me or acts towards me in a way I’m not quite comfortable with, Ive started my ‘give more love’ process by imagining all the good things about that person, letting go of judgement and thoughts of ‘why’, then I create love, energy and light in my heart and send it to them. Wish them well. Then I let go. Sometimes some people aren’t meant to be in our lives.

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‘Give love, then forget that you gave it’ Sun Myong Moon

Use acts of self-love to tune into the environment you want to create by the people you surround yourself with. We are a product of that environment.

Do you have deep connections or are your conversations filled with what happened in a nightclub on the weekend? Or are those conversations always negative?

As I create my dream reality I’m finding myself drawn to others who are living their own passion, those who are thankful for each day, the dreamers, the opportunity makers…they make me want to be more…to believe in myself, to be a game changer, they inspire me and my soul delights in them.

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‘Generosity is giving more than you can, and pride is taking less than you need.’ Khalil Gibran

Let love create your world. Speak words of beauty and act with intention. Let go of anything that is not creating a better world for you and in turn for them. Use love to overcome the feelings that will only bring you down; hate, hurt, pain, envy, jealousy…and remove them from your heart {remember it is ok to feel these emotions, I’m purely suggesting you don’t keep your intentions focused on them and instead, change your focus and thoughts to the most powerful feeling of all, love}

Love & light, Charlie x.

Using love to heal my heart {and I believe its working!}

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Your inner shadow; own it.

I love books, I’m a nerd and I’m proud. Sometimes when I experience disappointment from the world around me, one fo my fave go to places is the public library. I normally have 3 on the go; nutrition or business, personal development and a silly romance novel {my mind turn off time} I’m currently reading ‘The Tools’ by Phil Stutz & Barry Michels. A book with techniques {they claim life changing} to unlock your true potential. I’ve just read chapter 4, find confidence and inner authority. The tool: inner authority. The higher force: the force of self expression.

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‘Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.’ Carl Gustav Jung

This resonated with me as the thought or knowledge of an inner ‘shadow’ is not new to me (also known as our alter ego). In fact it was brought up many years ago when I suffered depression and saw a psychologist weekly (if you are going through a difficult time, I highly promote seeing a professional, as someone to talk to with no judgement, what I call, a personal trainer for the mind).

I remember she asked me to imagine myself as a child (I had a not so great childhood and held onto alot, particulary playing the victim). To then take one seat, as if I were my father and say the words I wanted to hear from him; ‘I’m proud of you, I will always love you’. To repeat the exercise in a different chair speaking words I longed to hear from my mother; ‘I will always be here for you, I will look after you & guide you, I love you’. Then to finally repeat as my 25 year old self speaking to the younger version I brought up {the gangly, awkward, even ‘ugly’, nobody loves me teenager}. To simply say; ‘I love you, I will always look after you, you will grow up and be able to change everything, just do the best you can every day to be a good person, I will always be here for you’. Yes, if you can imagine this was an emotional experience, even now remembering this powerful conversation brings tears to my eyes {of acknowledgement & genuine thanks for the confronting work I did to release & let go}.

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‘The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.’ C. JoyBell C.

Now, reading this book it brings back the thought of the shadow, our inner versions of ourselves, the way we see ourselves. It’s different for all of us. For me my shadow will always be around the age of ten {uh I had a mullet…thanks mum}, my parents broke up, which I thought was my fault, I was thrown between schools yearly, between them. If I would act out id be packed up and delivered to the doorstep of the other. This happened yearly. Due to moving about and poor people skills I wasn’t very popular, yet I would have done anything to be in the popular group {this led to many ‘bad’ situations involving alcohol, boys and disrespect to my parents} So this is my shadow, unlovable, a failure, unwanted, never good enough. I crave stability, a sense of ‘home’.

We all have one, yours may be different. Reading today has brought to life the work I did to face these internal inferiority fears. The fears of judgement, of insecurity.

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A reminder to work with my inner self, to cultivate that sense of self-trust and self-love, compassion for my own need of love. To act with my best intention; eating healthy, exercising, choosing positive affirmations…these are a way that I can show respect to my ten year old scared self, my shadow.

To accept myself.

I believe this is the most powerful lesson I am learning; acceptance, of who I am. That my past does not define me, that it’s ok to feel insecurities, BUT I LOVE YOU {me}, that I’ve for my own back (and my shadows back). I can take care of myself.

‘What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
’ Ralph Waldo Emerson

The book states that when you become one with all aspects of yourself…this is a higher force, you can speak without fear, express yourself as who you truly are. Wouldn’t that be an amazing way to live?

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‘The way you communicate, especially the emotion you express, is more important than the words you use. When you speak without emotion, you can’t have enough impact on others to form a connection.’ Excerpt.

I believe everything comes to is as we need it, the same with books. Because to be honest, and I just expressed my inner fears yesterday, with my business progressing the way it rapidly is…I’m scared (natural inner shadow acting). Fear of failing, of inability to comprehend and manage this huge potential… But then, using the tools in this book, previous counselling advice…it all comes back to me…to be able to say ‘I’ve got this’, ‘I believe in you’, ‘I love you’… Creating a sense of unity within myself, I’ve got my own back. Picking this book up was exactly what I needed in this moment.

‘My willingness to be intimate with my own deep feelings creates the space for intimacy with another.’ Shakti Gawain

Do you have an inner shadow? (The book states we all do) How do you let your own self image control you? Do you feel insecure, nervous? Do you freeze when public speaking? Tell your shadow everything will be ok. Shadows generally derive from our younger years. A small child being told she is unlovable will generally believe this to be true…and this will stay with you as an internal belief. My shadow believes I am unlovable, therefore I have to do the work every day to create love in my life, self love. You have to do the work.

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Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you.  ~Maori Proverb

Learn to acknowledge this secret part of yourself, to just say its ok (yes, I love my positive affirmations…they work!).

Love & light, Charlie x.

Learn to love the beautiful creation that you are, accept your past and make today truly gorgeous day. This is freedom.

Connected; under the starlight…

Last night I did something I havent done for a while, something that makes me truly appreciate the world we live in.

‘Look deep into nature and then you will understand everything better’. Albert Einstein

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I took some time to lie and star gaze. What a beautiful sensation. Allowing the cool breeze to caress my skin, my thoughts to come and go, and just to be quiet and lie, still.

{Look how they shine for you}

When was the last time you connected with nature?

Nature heals. This is true. You only need to sit quietly with her to realise this.

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I know that a cure for insomnia nad anxiety is to walk barefoot on the grass. Why? Because you feel connected, or the new term for this practise is ‘earthing’. We all want to feel connected to something, to the people around us, the world we live in and ourselves. But sometimes life gets in the way.

“The earth has music for those who listen.”  George Santayana

As I lay gazing up at the night sky, open to whatever thoughts I had…I looked at the stars in wonder.

Some shine bright…so bright that you almost think they are the only stars there. Then as you train your eye, as you look deeper, you can see the other stars shining, perhaps not so bright, but they are there. Then if you know constellations, you can start to connect them all.

‘Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.’ Anne Frank

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In a philosophical manner, I saw this as seeing some of my own qualities/shining brightly as my strengths, other qualities/the ones I have to search for my not so strong points, but they were there, and they all connected to make me the person I am today. I truly felt the essence of the statement ‘everything you need is within you’. The stars/qualities I had to look for are an essence of the qualities I am searching for within myself to find strength and trust.

I also contemplated the stars like life, like people. Some people shine brighter than others, so much so, they are all you see at first glance. But, as you adjust your eyesight/personality and own life, you start to realise there are so many other people/oppourtunites, that are there, sometimes not shining so bright or getting attention, but they are there. And we are all connected.

I felt myself connected. I felt appreciated. I sent love to my family who I miss every day of my life. I let go of all my worries. I just lay in the darkness, underneath the starlight, breathing.

It was only more perfect when I realised that yesterday was earth day.

‘I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do.’ Helen Keller

 

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For no matter how ‘busy’ you get…it is imperative that you make time for the things that matter most.

‘Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished’ Lao Tzu

Love & light, Charlie x.

Yes, I am a dreamer, I live in my own reality and I like to think about things deeply. I think its important to take time to be still.

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Envy or celebrate {others success}?

Do you find yourself envious of others success, or do you choose to celebrate their joys?

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I have found that sometimes it can be those that are closest to you that dont seem to share with you the same level of happiness in your successes as those who barely know you. Why is it that we can’t enjoy others success freely and instead try to belittle them or the way they have achieved their accomplishments?

‘It’s not people who resent successful people; it’s resentful people who resent successful people.’ Bo Bennett

As Im striving to continue working for myself doing what I love (this is my definition of success) I have fond that I am receiving recognition, support and congratulations from places and people I least expect it from, but perhaps not so much from the people I do (expectations we know only lead you to disappointment).

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‘It’s our nature: Human beings like success but they hate successful people.’ Carrot Top

When others believe that you have achieved the success they are yet to find, it can be difficult to swallow. After all we are all out there trying to the very best we can with what we have (or are you?).

‘When you’re around enormously successful people you realise their success isn’t an accident – it’s about work.’ Ryan Tedder

What determines who is successful and who is not?

“The world aint all sunshine and rainbows. Its a very  mean and nasty place, and I dont care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it, you me or nobody is going to hit as hard as life, but it aint about how hard you hit, its about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward.

Thats how winning is done.’ Rocky

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Its about how badly you want it.  You have to be prepared to do the work. When you achieve your version of success, you will understand me when I say, it is hard work. You have to keep going, for every 10 no’s there is 1 yes, for every minute there is hours worth of work to do. There are no days off. Work comes before partying. Your dream becomes your reality when you live and breathe it every moment of every day.

‘When you want to succeed as much as you want to breathe, then youll be successful’.  Eric Thomas

I used to gaze wistfully at successful people, people who I thought had it all. It LOOKS so easy. Now, I can tell you I look to those same successful people with full admiration and respect for I am fast learning the highs, the lows the sideway turns that it takes to get there.

There are some people in the world who just don’t like other people success. Resentment. Jealousy. Envy. This says more about them then it does you.

There are some people who are inspired by your success and admire you for dedication to your dream. Offer them a helping hand and keep these people close to you. Positivity breeds positivity.

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‘Successful people have a social responsibility to make the world a better place and not just take from it.’ Carrie Underwood

So be one of the ones that celebrates in others successes, you will feel better for it to. Celebrate, be motivated and share love.

The more you help others get what they want, the more ways what you want will come to you. This is true.

Success is hard work. Its saying I can in a world that will tell you you cant. Its believing in yourself when no one else does. Its getting up every time you fall. Its saying, I will not fail.

Love & light, Charlie x.

First, you just have to decide. Decide what you want, who you want to be, then do everything you can to be that person.

‘All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.’ Brian Tracy

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Feel the Rain {& get wet}

Yesterday I cruised (biked) to the gym, happy that I made it when I wasnt really feeling like it (this is one of my tips, just go, when you get there youll get something done and you just may be surprised at how much). Then when I finished my intense leg session and it was time to go home…it was raining.

‘Some people feel the rain, others just get wet.’ Bob Marley

n6I contemplated the fact that I would get saturated, that my wicker basked would get wet (my cruiser is my new baby and I want her to stay in pristine/brand new condition for as long as possible), that the roads get more dangerous. I instead chose to think this was exactly what I was needing. Some mental clarity. Rain to wash away a few of the unwanted thoughts that have occurred of late; rain to create calm and restore peace. A gentle cleansing.

So I rode, just cruising, enjoying the rain. A few times I know I actually sung out loud along to my music (not the well known rain song, rather some old school rnb hip hop, I will always be true to my roots). I opened my eyes and my heart and enjoyed watching the individual rain drops fall, watching them drift towards me, individually. I felt the rain.

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And it was exactly what I needed. I just had to change my thinking. Instead of thinking something is ‘bad’, think of it as a ‘good’ thing. Everything happens for a reason, you just have to be prepared to accept it and alter your direction.

 

‘Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better.’ Albert Einstein

 

 

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Nature, a true healer, a beautiful creation, a mother. Sometimes all we need is to get back to her. To spend a little time barefoot, to lay in the grass marvelling at the cloud creations, to feel the rain, to bask in the sunshine. Everything seems to fade away when you open your heart and connect, not only with nature, but yourself.

‘Forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair.’ Khalil Gibran

I felt my heart refueled, I was truly in the moment, in the now. So much so I took the long way home and circled another block until I truly felt I had had my fill and satisfied my desire, my need for connection. A sense of calm.

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When was the last time you walked barefoot? Nature is a healer, whether it be the rain on your skin, the breeze through your hair or the earth beneath your feet; nature offers us an oppourntunity to be still. To actually appreciate our surroundings, the moment and listen to our inner selves. Pure magic.

‘He is richest who is content with the least, for content is the wealth of nature.’ Socrates

Sometimes all you need to do is simply sit outside, open your heart, open you eyes and experience how blessed we truly all are.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Saturated, satisfied & happy.

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Soul {mates}.

I like the word soul, and I like the word mates…Mr Bigg, sex and the city. What is the definition of a soulmate? Do you believe in them? Does it have to be the opposite sex, or romantic love that clarifys a soulmate?

‘Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution.’ Deepak Chopra

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I dont think so. I just found (another) soul mate/sister and I am so so thankful.

We tend to believe that a soul mate is the one person in the world that is designed for you. One person who when you meet, you just work and everything falls into place as though you have known each other for years.

If so, cant this be broken down into friendships also? After all friendships are the family we choose, the ones we share our greatest desires and moments with.

I am dedicating this post to a woman who I rarely knew, yet I took the opportunity and time to know. And I am so thankful I did.

I had been introduced to this gorgeous girl for a brief moment by mutual friend, over a year ago. After practically mirroring each others lives (social media showed us this) in different parts of the country, we had chatted about ashrams, yoga teacher training in India, motivation, training and then the opportunity arose for her to be where I live for a photoshoot (this girl is not only beautiful on the inside, she is stunning on the outside). Going along with my ‘open your heart’ mantra for this year, I said yes.

Some of you may know, or you may not, but I am quite a quiet, private person, I keep my innermost musings, fears, loves, trials and tribulations to myself (the world needs more inspiration and motivation shared, not negativity). I find it difficult to openly express my true self. I can honestly say, I was a little nervous (oh so cute!) and anxious; another person in my home for 5 days, that I really hadnt even had a first date with 😉 Talk about a whirlwind romance, straight to the honeymoon and the ‘old married couple’ stages (we were able to have a few giggles as we decided she would take the husbands role and I would be the wifey).

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For these 5 days I will be eternally grateful. I can barely find the words to express what occured. As she spoke, and I listened it was like she was reading my mind. Her life experiences were practically that of mine, her passions, her dreams & fears, her likes and dislikes…it was unbelievable.

‘The soul mate is what we aspire to and like to understand about us, is what we deem to be perfection, purity and endless regarding our own being.’ Sorin Cerin

Even our ‘bad’ habits…I don’t think I need to share them here, but I am still working on the art of ‘practicing patience’, especially with a 5 day live in friend, soulmate, wifey/hubby.

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This woman has given me the greatest gift of all…love & time.

As we spent our days walking, training, green smoothie ‘ ing’, discussing the most intense topics to the most ridiculous, I felt a sense of acceptance. She listened as I rambled, I listened as she rambled. She introduced me to Tempeh (my absolute new favourite!), I would like to think I helped her break a bad habit, together we created dream, vision & goal boards, we shared our inner most secret emotions, many priceless moments and marvelled at the amazing creation of our lives. The energy between us, sparkled (quite funny, but without sounding weird in anyway, when my gfs sleepover we share my bed, however for 5 days I had to delegate myself to the couch because the energy and motivation was so intense I couldn’t sleep).

Now, I realise this may sound like I have a new crush, or have fallen in love…the honest truth, I have.

‘Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with.’ Candace Bushnell (author, Sex and the City)

This woman…the true essence of grace. Radiating out of her for all to see. Kind, caring, motivated, passionate, a dreamer, a believer, a sensitive soul (and one that shouldnt be entrusted as the gps, or time commitments…we cant all be perfect 😉

‘Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When were two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are weve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.’ Richard Bach

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She cooked (amazing), cleaned, played me music, opened my mind, opened my heart and walked beside me. We practised a yoga flow at sunset, no direction, no words just our practices and music, there is no other description but magic. I actually feel like I have been on a 5 day retreat, although I have been here in my own home, my own community, living my normal daily life.

I am left better than I was before, feeling wrapped up in love, supported and like I have found one of lifes greatest treasures; a soulsister.

‘Soulmates tend to find each other during their respective pursuits of their soul missions. Creating a soulmate could be seen as a spiritual reward that we give ourselves, after pursuing many soul contracts rife with discord.’ Linda Brady

So soulmate, just one? The opposite sex? I believe that you create exactly what you believe, in fact as we practised this and the art of manifestation it was extraordinary what we began to experince adn what was presented to us. What you believe, you create. So, if you want to find your one and only soul mate, go find him or her! Or, perhaps you may choose to see love (this is my 2014 word) everywhere, choose to expect less and give more and allow people to just be. The past 5 days, I have just been. Me. The raw, the grumpy, the motivated, the frustrated, the loving, every essence of my being that make me, me.

And I was accepted.

Ive talked alot about the feeling of not being enough. If someone makes you feel like you arent enough, exactly as you are…find people who do. Surround yourself with people who believe in you, who see your beauty without your hair done, who look into your eyes and see your soul, the ones who make you come alive.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Feeling honoured to have found another beautiful soul to share my journey that is life with. Thank you.

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