Self Love Sunday; Be grateful

 


I know I write about gratitude often…but how often are you (or I ) really practising an attitude of gratitude?

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“Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity…it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Melody Beattie

Ive been given so much kind words lately, that I feel undeserving but grateful for. I mean Im just here, just me, doing what I think is my best {most of the time, sometimes I know Im not}.

On Friday night I was invited to attend one of my clients ‘all star’ Christmas Yoga class as a guest.

You might think this is something small, but to me it is these small things that matter. I felt privileged and thankful (and I have been a little naughty with missing my own yoga practice).

I had intended to gift this beautiful client of mine one of my new cakes as a simple thank you for their support and belief in Clean Treats.

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{Raw blueberry Cheesecake available here}

Whilst in class (it was the most fun ever), as I felt my body and all my worries release onto my matt, I thought to myself ‘wow’, I am in someone elses dream. A dream they believed in with so much of their own passion that they made it come true. And tonight it was a full class of 60 people, their community, celebrating christmas and them, the home that they had created for people to connect, to feel welcome, to just be. Simply amazing.

I felt so much gratitude right there, in that moment. I was asked to be part of this. Their something special.

And to see someone elses dream become their own reality…makes my heart smile.

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“The way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement.” Charles Schwab

There is enough love, support, growth and business for us all, as long as you stay true to you. To your passion.

The key to happiness: An attitude of gratitude

A big statement, but this is what I believe. No matter how bad your day is (and believe me Ive been having some tough times with couriers, delivery and managing orders lately, in fact I’m about to go and pack some Christmas packs), or what it is that you are going through…there is always something to be grateful for. ALWAYS.

“Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.” Charles Dickens

Change your attitude and your thought to gratitude and you’ll soon feel any feelings on anger, negativity or unease pass.

Instead you’ll feel the opposite, #happy. Because you cannot be angry whilst feeling grateful for something. You cannot be sad whilst being grateful for something, you cannot be anxious while expressing gratitude (yes, it is sunday night and I have to ‘work’, but my attitude of gratitude changes a ‘ugh I have to work thought’… to ‘wow…someone somewhere is giving my product, something I have created to someone they love’…honestly, that’s kinda cool and I dont mind if I sound like a geek saying that).

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{Christmas packs now available in 4 or 8, order here}

In every darkness there is always light.

“At times, our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” Albert Schweitzer

Self love Sunday; be grateful for everything you have in your life, even the things you think you dont want because you have created them for a reason…to learn from, or a reason, or a need….you have created it. Everything. Every situation is only an opportunity.

“I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought; and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.” G.K. Chesterton

You are the only one who is in control of your life, your thoughts, your actions, so make sure they are reflective of who you want to be.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Dont forget, you are the CEO of your life…I hope your booking in your self-love date every week. It is imperative.

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Self Love Sunday…Make decisions.

Self love Sunday…sometimes there really is nothing better than a sleep in, a book and a coffee {perhaps cuddles would conclude perfection}.

Today, I wanted to write about the power of making decisions. Of loving yourself, trusting yourself enough to be able to make decisions effectively and know that they are the best for you.

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‘First say to yourself what you would be, and then do what you have to do’ Epicteteus

Because, most of the time we feel anxiety, unstable or insecure it’s because we are unsure about something; were to busy wondering ‘what if’, over thinking, over analysing, to actually enjoy the present moment, the now.

“Decision is the spark that ignites action. Until a decision is made, nothing happens…. Decision is the courageous facing of issues, knowing that if they are not faced, problems will remain forever unanswered.” Wilfred A. Peterson

Last year after I felt that Yoga changed my life, I decided I wanted to become a Yoga Instructor, in fact it was on my goal list for this year to study in India, in the Himalayas. Unfortunately due to unpredicted #ball {Clean Treat} success, I wasnt able to take 4 weeks away.

Just the other week I got the opportunity to study Pilates, a 5 day class to gain certification to teach. The timing & pricing were right, and I felt it would be a perfect prelude to the Yoga study I still want to do, a perfect addition to my wellness seminars.

Yesterday, I went to my first class, but something didn’t feel quite right. You know when your heart just isn’t in it? I wasnt focused, didn’t feel like I was being attentive, retaining any information and spent most of the time dreaming about my secret BIG dream project Im working on (for Clean Treats).

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I decided to trust this feeling.

I contemplated the pros and cons, sure I wanted to do it, I still do and  it will be great to add to my growing resume, but is it right for me right now? No. Was it simply a self-limiting distraction/option? Yes (taking my focus away from the substantial risk I may be about to take).

Decision made. Relief felt. Focus restored.

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‘In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing’ Theodore Roosevelt

I had an ex come into my life and declare his undying, unconditional love, promises of marriage & kids (yes, I do wear my heart on my sleeve and I cannot wait to find someone to truly love and create my own family). Yet when we spoke the past was always brought up and I realised it always would be). I had to ask myself if I wanted to be reminded of that person I was (who I didnt and don’t like very much), was this love real, or was it the thought of that romantic love story, that true love will always concur everything?

I decided it was the thought. So I decided to be grateful for the words, but made the decision to firmly close the door behind us by taking myself off his option list (he is about to be married). I am not that person and I refuse to be reminded of who I was, my actions, and live in the past.

Decision made. I let him go with love and felt my heart smile.

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‘Follow your heart and make it your decision.’ Mia Hamm

Also recently (yes an emotionally, heart-felt month for me), I fell in ‘Like/lust/want/desire/perhaps love’ with someone who I hadn’t actually met. Non stop messages, texts with loaded emotional meaning, excitement beyond words, phone calls with cute giggles. I actually (silly of me) thought he might be the one. Then we met and I knew his heart wasnt in it. So I let go.

Decision made. Simple.

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‘Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.’ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Decision making can be scary, I mean most of the time were so scared of making the wrong decision we aren’t actually focused on the right decisions, what we know within us feels right.

But what does it really matter if we make a decision and its the wrong one? Of course it doesnt. THIS IS LIFE.

Every single day I am sill making mistakes, some financially expensive, some emotionally expensive, but for all of them I’m grateful, for how else would I learn? Just make the decision to understand it, act, then let it go, then move on.

Truth is you can’t be everything, to everyone…so be everything you dream of becoming and want to be…for you.

‘First seek to understand, then to be understood.’

Everyday I talk about creating self-love thoughts, being able to say ‘I love you’ in the mirror, consciously choosing healthy food, choosing happy thoughts, exercising and treating people with respect. Because every time you do these actions, every day, it’s an act of self-love, and do you know one of the most beautiful things about love…it grows. It gets stronger and stronger. So the more you cultivate self-love, the easier the difficult times in life will be.

I’m not saying that because Ive found a sense of being ok with who I am that my life is easy, but what I am saying is that when I feel emotionally disrupted, unwanted or unloved by someone, these feelings are only fleeting because I have created the self love/care habits that I can action to bounce right back.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Have trust, what is meant for you will be. Dont be scared to say no, to anything less than you deserve.

Pretty excited I now have 4 whole days that I had dedicated to my Pilates course to invest in my master plan… oh and my new website {#finally!!!}

 

Monday Motivation…Kim Peirce (BabeScrub)

Did you wake up this morning with the opportunity to chase your dreams? Or excited thoughts of ‘what change will I create today?’ Gratefully, I did.

‘The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.’ Eleanor Roosevelt

I can honestly say that I am doing the work, every day…choosing my thoughts, actively changing automatic negative thoughts (ANT’s) to beautiful positive seeds. I am working on the garden of my mind…everyday. You can to. It just takes small steps, thoughts & actions every day. But you have to do the work.

One of those actions is to surround yourself with people who inspire you (otherwise they will drain you). I’m happy to introduce you to one of own personal sources of inspiration…Kim Peirce, entrepreneur & creator of Babe Scrub. As much as you can control your own thoughts and actions, you are still a product of your environment, so make sure its a good one! (I create my environment with the dream chasers, the believers, the opportunity makers).

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Charlie: You are the creator of Babe Scrub, an in demand, ‘must have’ product. What do you attribute this success to?

I’ve always been entrepreneurial and for a long time used this skill set to benefit the organisations I worked for! Two years ago I gave up my career in the corporate world to pursue my own entrepreneurial ventures and in this light, my success as an entrepreneur is founded on an inherent belief in myself. As Beyonce famously said “I don’t like to gamble, but if there’s one thing I’m willing to bet on, it’s myself”.

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This belief, served with a shitload of tenacity, and sprinkled with an openness to try anything is definitely the formula for my success!

Charlie: When did you decide to you wanted to be involved in the wellness industry?

My last job in the oil & gas and mining industry required travelling every month to all corners of the earth, leaving my children behind, and passing my husband like ships in the night. It was grueling. A weekend visit to Gwinganna Health Retreat in QLD was the catalyst for taking the step out of corporate and into the wellness and lifestyle industry.

Charlie: What inspired you to follow your passion?

Reading Tim Ferris’s 4Hr Work Week!

Charlie: How do you feel as an inspirational figure/mentor?

On some level, we all inspire others in different ways. Encouragement is sometimes all that is needed to inspire others to take action, and this is a beautiful gift to give from ourselves to those around us.

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Charlie: Has there been any challenges along your journey?

I was a single mum when I took my first major career pivot deciding to go to university full time to get my undergraduate degree. Bringing two little babies under the age of 3 to university with me to my lectures and trying to keep them occupied under the desk while writing my essays was a challenge for sure, but it just made me more determined to succeed and I would not be where I am today without making that happen all those years ago.

Charlie: How do you maintain balance between your Career and personal health?

I begin every day with a walk early in the morning before I have to engage with anyone – including family! It helps me get my mind right and clear my thoughts for each day! It also helps me open my eyes!

‘Hope is the dream of the waking man.’ French Proverb

Charlie: What do you believe are the keys to success in business?

Determination. Manners. Determination. Educating yourself. Determination. Manners!

Charlie: What is your advice for anyone who has a dream?

Start NOW!

‘Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.’ Harriet Tubman

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Charlie: What can we look forward to next from you?

We have a new line coming out in the next couple of months as well as an extension to the Babescrub range. Yey!

Charlie: Top 3 healthy tips/advice?

#1 Move your body.

#2 Drink buckets of water but not just before, during or just after meals.

#3 Meditate.

“When the mind goes beyond the thought of ‘the me,’ the experiencer, the observer, the thinker, then there is a possibility of a happiness that is incorruptible.”  Jiddu Krishnamurti

I sincerly thank Kim for her time.

Sharing is caring, if you would like to enjoy a little self love action or perhaps give a beautiful gift with some Babe Scrub, enter the code Charliesbabes at checkout to receive a discount.

Be sure to follow:

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FB: Babe Scrub

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Love & light, Charlie x.

You are the only one who can create your dream reality; choose good thoughts over bad, love over hate, and be a good human for the hope of all humanity (kind, honest & caring).

 

Self love Sunday…self care (is important)

Perhaps it’s because I surround myself with women that are ‘go getters’, you know, the ones that are always on the go, they have dreams and aspirations, they are those ones who are crazy enough to believe they can change the world (and I have no doubt they will), but I have found that there is feeling of exasperation that’s increasing…the feeling of the weight of the world on your shoulders, even if it is only your surrounding world (that’s more than enough).

‘To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.’ Thich Nhat Hanh

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You see for these strong, focus driven, dream chasers their surrounding worlds; partners, lovers, friends and family depend on them and turn to them as a constant source of support and inspiration. Which is of course brilliant, but as I have found, as a giver, a lover, peace sharer; we tend to just keep giving.

Self love Sunday is about reigniting that little light within yourself that can start to dimmer throughout the long week, as sometimes you may give too much or as life throws you challenges. Self love sunday is your time to restore. However self-care is usually the first thing that we compromise, when really, how can we expect to be a source of strength and guidance for others when we arent feeling more than 110% (because I have discovered you need more than that to be able to do so)?

Self love Sunday, invest in yourself. Self care is the most valuable investment you will ever make. Do it regularly.

You deserve it, you are worthy, self care is a NON negotiable.

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‘Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.’ Carl Gustav Jung

Use this time to check in with yourself, how are you going? How are you feeling? Stop. Truly ask yourself, how am I feeling? If your feeling a little out of sorts or under pressure, ask yourself, what do I need in this very moment? You have within you the answers you seek, its imperative we take this time to be still and listen.

So, your self care may be different than mine after all we are indiciduals. After 30 years of learning to love myself, my body, my (sometimes/most the time, complicated) mind, my investment is:

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Firstly, Im cleansing, my body and also my week.

Babe Himalayn Salt scrub – Get a juicy booty…yes please!

1. Himalayan salts mixed with almond and essential oils.

Simply apply in the shower when wet and scrub.

Removes excess dead skin cells. Did you know as you age your skin cell proliferation process sloowwwwws down, this means dead skin cells stay stuck to the surface of the skin for a longer period of time leaving the complexion dehydrated, aged and dull? Say no, and get your glow on with this salt scrub. I will be focusing on particular problematic areas (that lovely addition some of us are graced with, because our bodies are gorgeous with or without it…cellulite). Manual massage over these areas will improve your lymphatic system which is your body’s waste removal system, therefore helping you to remove those disgusting toxins that don’t belong in your beautiful body, and that cause our least favourite attribute…cellutlie.

2. Alexami purifying gentle cleanser.

Certified Organic Australia; this means NO parabens (interesting fact, parabens have been found in breast cancer tissue), no mineral oil, no propylene Glycol, no SLS (I will be writing more on this Sodium Laurel Sulphate and its dangers in the upcoming weeks on The Skin Expert), no synthetic fragrances or artificial colours.

Say yes to feeding your skin organic goodness.

This cleanser has one of my favourite ingredients…White Tea plus Chamomile for calming, Vitamin E, antioxidants (they fight the free radical damage/toxins) and elderberry extract. It sounds good enough to eat, and the beauty of organic products is that they are. It’s imeprative you cleanse your skin every night, twice if you wear makeup to remove the environmental toxins, dirt and impurities.

Then I’m going to nourish my beautiful body (always repeat positive affirmations, every positive thought you have is a seed, and they will grow. The truly priceless relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself).

Body: Dr Lewinns Tone up Body Moisturiser

Advanced Liposome technology, which means the ingredients are designed to be delivered into the lower levels of your skin. Alpha Lipoic acid is an antioxidant with the unique ability to recycle Vitamin C and gluthianone once used within the body (this means you get more nutrient value). Again, I will be paying particular attention to ‘those’ areas and ensuring my movements are upwards towards the heart (this helps to flush the toxins to the lymph nodes located in the groin (femoral or inguinal).

‘You can’t build joy on a feeling of self-loathing.’ Ram Dass

Face: AlexamiExotic8 Facial Oil

Certified organic & blends together 8 restorative essential oils, plus Acerola berry (antioxidant and some studies show it can promote the production of collagen, which as you may know naturally slows down as we age) and Black tea (protects against UVB and has been called the natural alternative to sunscreen, it also helps repair the damage caused by UV rays, the damage that leads to mutated cells and can then lead to cancer).

Its ideal to use high quality products laden with antioxidants and beneficial ingredients in particular at night time as this is when the skin cell renewal process takes place. Your body is releasing growth hormone and trying to repair the free radical and toxin damage down throughout the day, give it a little helping hand with restorative products.

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Then…relax time. What I call ‘Charlie time’, a good book, my new-found addiction (that is good for me) Pukka tea and a delicious soma bite (you must try these as a healthy treat if you havent yet). Certified 100% natural organic, no added sugar (no guilt, I LOVE), and gluten free AND homemade…yum. These little treasures also contain Goji berries (another addiction), Chia seeds and almonds, super food; super treat

‘You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection.’ Buddha

And lastly but definitely not least, I will be resting my clean, nourished, relaxed self on my new Slip (for beauty sleep) pillowcase, made from Mulberry Silk; anti-ageing, anti-wrinkle and anti bed head hair (yes, I am a little bit of a product nerd I am so excited, I have had this all week, but because I believe in making things special/rituals and appreciating the small things, I thought it would be perfect tonight). I will be resting my cleanse, nourished skin on these the deluxe slips as I mediate for a productive week.

Yes, I would say this is a self-care evening, preparing my skin, my body and my mind for the amazing week ahead (which I already know will be full of opportunities, because thats all I choose to see).

Whatever it is you are doing…make time for YOU. You deserve it, you are worthy, you are your #1 priority.

Love & light,

Charlie x.

‘The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself  Steve Maraboli

{Dont forget my belief system is, everything in balance, yes I promote organic where possible, but I also appreciate advanced product technology}

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Practice the gift of giving…

Christmas, a time to give gifts, show appreciation and share love.

‘If you have only one smile in you give it to the people you love.’ Maya Angelou

Give a gift of wellbeing to your special someone. A gift that shows you care.

 

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‘A friend is a gift you give yourself.’ Robert Louis Stevenson

In life we are sometimes lucky enough to meet those people who make everything better, those people who have the ability to light up our world. Sometimes in life we all need a helping hand.

Be Well; the Project is a 4 week program; divided into Mind, Body and Soul.

Perhaps you know someone who needs to return to themselves? To find their inner peace, some self love? Someone who wants to be happier and healthier? Be Well; the Project provides daily healthy habits and health coaching to help you become the very best version of yourself.

 

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‘A simple sentence to say, a simple sentence to write, a very simple sentence to read, however as life rushes by in the blink of an eye, as we continually get caught up in things that really don’t matter, it is a hard task to live by. Charlie has opened my eyes to the importance of taking time to inhale love, to return to my true self, to be calm to be still.

I personally love reflecting on Charlie’s blog, and will often have it opened as I work through my day, her Inspirational thoughts and positive words jump off the page, motivating me to commit to being the BEST version of myself.

“Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know.” – Pema Chodron.

I am honored to have been able to introduce my members, my friends to Charlie: Charlie’s presence and inner beauty captivated the ladies at our seminar. As the seminar progressed, not one of us felt like we were being judged, as Charlie spoke we all listened, her honesty was so refreshing. This lady is not perfect, she is not an illusion she is simply present, you can feel her energy, her passion and you simply cannot help but be swept along on the magical ride that is Charlie De Haas.’

Stronger than yesterday, Judie Osbourne. Anytime Fitness Batemans Bay

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‘Charlie came into my life at a time of total confusion and no direction. I had just completed tough competition prep and needed some direction and guidance to get my body back in a healthy balance. In such a short time she has become so much more then that! She has become a daily inspiration not just for myself but also for so many of my like-minded girlfriends.  I think that’s ONE of the beauties of Charlie, she makes us all feel so empowered and positive and shows us how to let out ourselves truly shine. After attending her seminar I left feeling on top of the world and this buzz lasted for days (and is still hanging around). She has a way of sharing her message in a raw and special way that has shown us that we are all unique and beautiful in our own ways. So blessed to have such an inspirational woman in my life and cannot thank her enough for her constant motivation, beautiful words and honesty that she shares everyday.’ Hailee

 

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Life is a beautiful struggle and every now & then we all need some help.

Email me for more information about Gift Certificates charlie@charliedehaas.com.au

Love & light, Charlie x.

Share some real love this Christmas, some magic and some wellness.

 

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Self love Sunday, Opening my heart.

Recent speculation has shown me that many of us have felt our heart hurt before, or worse, felt our heart break.

 ‘You want to heal your body, you have to heal your heart, what so ever you sow you will reap.’ India Arie
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This can rock the very fundamentals of our lives, our purpose of life, the very thought of who we are. How do we learn to heal our hearts and open them again? How can we learnt o let go with love and learn to love again?

I was thinking about the joy children bring (when happy) to those around them. Their carefree nature, kind and open hearts. For they feel no fear, they have not yet experienced what I would determine as possibly one of the worst pains in life. They wear  their heart with pride and joy on their sleeve, for everyone to see and feel.

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“The walls we build around us to keep out the sadness also keep out the joy.” Jim Rohn

At 30 (21 days away), I’m finding that most people, men and woman alike have some form of past pain or baggage they hold onto and bring with them into the next relationship or situation. We have built self protective walls around our hearts as we have taken vows, never to feel that hurt again or feel like we have lost it all, whatever your situation might have been. Retracting and hiding ourselves away from possibilities.

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How fair is this to new love, new opportunity? I have been living with a wall built so strong around my heart I havent given anyone the opportunity to enter, to become a part of my life. Acting from fear, not love. We hold onto our past pain and vow to never allow ourselves to be hurt again. In doing so who are we really hurting?

‘I have to admit, that hiding my heart doesn’t only hurt others it hurts me the most, hiding from reality and building my own walls made me lose alot’ Ghaidaa Atef

Fear.

Fear of something that hasn’t even happened yet. Fear, created by painful memories of the past. The past, a place where I don’t live anymore. I live in this moment.

‘If you wont take a chance on love & take that leap with faith alone, then all the mysteries & joys of love, will remain to you unknown.’ Unknown

My Sunday Self love is dedicated to opening my heart, to breaking down my own walls and being open to the opportunities that are presented to me in love and life.

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‘The happiest moments my heart knows are those in which it is pouring forth its affections to a few esteemed characters.’ Thomas Jefferson

Have you built an impenetrable wall around your heart? What are you hiding from? Open your heart and open yourself to new (amazing) things, allow good to enter into your life.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Dear Universe, I am ready for new opportunities. I am ready for new possibilities. I am ready to open my heart. Here is my order:

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The thigh gap

Have we become so superficial we judge other people by the size of a gap between there thighs? Unfortunately the answer is yes.

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One of the ongoing ‘it’ word when it comes to trends, I couldn’t help but speculate and of course express my thoughts.  The thigh gap was something previously only demanded of models, however it is now a rapidly spreading ‘want’ or desire by normal woman, young and old (not for the greater good).

‘Thinspiration’ has been breeding through online media for years to encourage followers to become unhealthily thin.

The size of a gap between your thigh; how can this possible define all that you are, all that you have been and all that you are yet to become (there’s absolutely no way it can)? Why are we so quick to judge, to claim these people with this gap as good or even worse…as an inspiration? Is it healthy, for most of us the answer is no. We are all different shapes and sizes, we have different bone structure.

Embrace who you are, the beautiful body that is yours. Its YOU-nique.

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‘The more you like yourself, the less you are like anyone else, which makes you unique.’ Walt Disney

We cannot conform to to these ridiculous & unhealthy demands that society places on us. What will happen to our children (I havent been blesseed with children yet, but already Im concerned)? I imagine for mothers out there this is something you may be experiencing; teenage daughters facing the pressure of  being ‘popular’, facing demands placed upon us by airbrushed magazines, social media, and society. As an adult I find it difficult to distance myself and not get caught up in it, I can image how a teenage soul must feel.

After all, the ugly truth is, studies do show that life is easier when you are prettier and  slimmer, doors open for you that don’t open for others.

Can we make a change? When will accept our unique differences? When will we start to learn about good nutrition for ourselves, in schools funded by the government? When will we learn that your size does not define you? When will we STOP defining others by their size??

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‘Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, its always your choice.’ Wayne Dyer

You are what you eat, every cell in your body is created from the food you eat, interesting thought. Your skin cells turnover every 28 days; what you indulged in last month, will show through your skin (Chinese face reading), were you good or not so good with your health choices? After relaxing a little on my normally strict diet, I’m taking sometime to allow my body to find it’s on balance, particularly as I’m going through what I believe to be the most exciting times of my life (good food as good fuel for optimal body function). No scales, no restrictions, just listening to my body, and the beautiful truth is, you feel and perform better when you make healthier choices.

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‘Damn look at that thigh gap: no guy ever’.

The thigh gap, in my opinion is nothing more than the latest trend, a reason/excuse for women to eat poorly, if they eat at all, and attempt to lose weight. In the hope of being deemed pretty or successful. Of course a healthy body goes a long way, if you are what you eat; think about those blueberries on your daily quinoa. Full of antioxidants that will fight free radicals (damage) within you; you will feel better, look better and your body will love you for it by adjusting weight. The thigh gap, another method to create self image issues, eating disorders and bad mentality.

‘If your thighs touch then you’re one step closer to being a mermaid so who’s the real winner here?’

It’s time to make a change.

Love & light, Charlie x.

‘In my world, juicy quads are a good thing. All the better to squat with, you know?’ Jen Sinkler

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Self love Sunday…getting control.

The day of the week to be still and reflect on your life, to plan and make changes (I love Self love Sunday).

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‘To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to ones family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control ones own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him.’ Buddha

 

As Im reflecting, Ive noticed that I’ve created a dependence on food to feel a sense of control, eating until a sense of satiety takes over (ridiculous amounts). Not only this but I’ve falling into the ‘I don’t care’ category, filling myself with anything toxic. As I think about it, it scares me, I have never lost my own motivation in this way. Sugar, chocolate, chips and Ice cream. Now I’ve always been prone to a ‘cheat’ meal or two a habit  I have desperately been trying to break the circle of dieting. I believe in balance, but it’s always been the one or two, this time it’s been over 2 weeks where I haven’t gone longer than a few days without reaching for a sugary treat.

‘This is the very perfection of a man, to find out his own imperfections.’ Saint Augustine

 

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Where has this come from? After researching and discovering the many causes of out of control eating/over eating and binge eating I realised I had created this as my ‘go to’. As my world is changing (I currently have the luxury of not having to set an alarm any day or be anywhere at anytime except for yoga class and a few seminars weekly). I had created a dependence on food in lieu of a sense of routine (and I am an OCD/addictive personality). In times of being unsure we become dependant on other areas in our life that we can control; partners, substances, exercise (this was my normal addiction), good and bad habits.

So how do we break these bad habits and dependencies that come on so quickly they occur without us even realising?

Make a plan. Today is a new day, I’m using my self-love Sunday to write a commitment letter to myself. Just as a reminder; healthy is happy. And a reminder that I care for my wellbeing.

I know I feel better in my body and mind when I make healthier choices (junk foods create junk moods, I have found this to be true). I am the only one in control of my life and I can choose how to live it.

‘A man sooner or later discovers that he is the master-gardener of his soul, the director of his life.’ James Allen

I also have to remind myself, it’s ok to make mistakes. For you see my whole life I have been involved in health and fitness, I live and breathe it, especially now as it’s my chosen career; the career I love. I will remind myself that it’s ok to slip up. Guilt is a bad thought that leads to bad emotions. Which only then lead to more of your bad habit (such a terrible cycle).

Let go of the guilt. The pressure to be perfect (all the time). Life is made to be lived; we live and we learn.

 

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‘The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.’ Albert Ellis

As I reflect, making my plan, I’m thinking about the triggers; a bad day, lack of motivation, and for me personally; the hope of something blossoming into a relationship that didn’t (rejection, something I deal with poorly). I have determined this has been, amongst others, the trigger to my low self-esteem, ‘I’m not good enough’ thoughts. Why, when this time of my life, (everything is amazing) this particular person doesn’t want to be involved? . These thoughts can lead to hurt, sadness and a negative downward spiral. But it’s ok to feel them sometimes, just know when it’s time to stop (today).

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Today, is my time, I’m choosing to not give my power, my self-love away to someone, away to the addictive chemicals in ‘bad’ food. Instead I’m going to write My Commitment letter and reflect on everything that is amazing in my life, because I am truly blessed. I’m starting a 28 day ‘clean’ program. Not a Diet. In 28 days it will be my 30th birthday and I’m hoping the release of my book; Live a life you love (fingers crossed). What better motivation, to be the very best version of myself.

What are you committed to? Where is your focus? What can you do today to make a change in your life?

‘As your faith is strengthened you will find that there is no longer the need to have a sense of control, that things will flow as they will, and that you will flow with them, to your great delight and benefit.’ Emmanuel Teney

I am the only one who can create my dream reality, and I have the faith, knowledge and belief that I will. Mistakes do not define me, they empower me.

Love and light, Charlie x.

I’m off to spend the day doing the absolute final (scary and exciting) read though of my Manuscript.

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The chemistry of Love.

As Im living my life, a particular discussion keeps reoccuring, regardless of age or status, is how do you know if he’s Mr Right (or she)?

‘Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.’ Robert Frost

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Do we live in an era that butterflies can still be felt, or are we keeping our hearts so protected that the oppourtunity of love at first sight barely exists?

We seem to be waiting for ‘the one’, but how do you know when that person is ‘the one’, are you supposed to know when you first meet them, or is it something you have to discover over time?

We are led astray by the romantic movies, giving us high hopes of what true love should be like, when in reality if you ask anyone who lives in love, a successful relationship, it takes hard work, commitment and persistance.

The spark; fireworks, butterflies, do they exist or are they a myth?

“If I could reach up and hold a star for every time you’ve made me smile, the entire evening sky would be in the palm of my hand.” -Anonymous

I can say I am lucky enough to have experienced this before, the butterflies of nervous excitement when seeing a special someone, the tingle on your skin from a gentle touch, even the way that their eyes can look into your soul.

The ‘spark’ is chemistry. Chemistry between two people that is created when they share a special connection.

‘At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.’ Plato

 

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When we have chemistry with someone it can be on a physical, sexual, or mental level, an automatic sense of feeling welcomed and free in this persons company. No chemistry can mean you find it difficult to relate to a person, or have little in common with them.

The love ‘butterflies’, ‘fireworks’ and ‘spark’ have physical symptoms; your blood pressure will rise, cheeks will blush, you may become flustered as adrenalin is increased, you experience pleasure and excitement.

One of the interesting (& my favourite) facts; falling in love can cause a release of phenylethylamine or PEA (also found in chocolate)

Pea is a stimulant much like amphetamine that releases feel good hormones; Dopamine and Norepinephrine (this can explain why sometimes if your love life is a little low in the activity scales, you may crave chocolate). Dopamine then stimulates the release of Oxytocin, also known as the ‘cuddle’ hormone (provides a sense of comfort and wellbeing).

Do we set ourselves up for failure or loneliness because we expect and want the spark? Is it ok to settle?

‘Some people are settling down, some people are settling and some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies’. Carrie Bradshaw

 

1459674_10152094055518619_998336447_nWe use ‘there was no spark’, ‘the sparks gone’ as reasons why we end relationships, when really its most likely due to another factor, did you get bored or did you just give up trying? In the world we live in we are told never to settle, to expect the very best, this is the message that is drilled into us by our parents from a young age or from the media as we grow older; that we can be anything we dream of being. Has this had an effect of our inability to choose an appropriate lover? Are we too busy waiting for more?

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Can you have a successful relationship without the spark? There really is no right or wrong answer. Many successful marriages are arranged, many unsuccessful marriages had spark and nothing else in common (this describes my past relationship).

‘Falling in love and having a relationship are two different things.’ Keanu Reeves

As always, these are just my thoughts about life and in particular love that seems to be a hugely misunderstood concept these days.

My personal advice, get rid of your lists ladies, focus on living your own life to the very best you can and just let whatever be. Men, try to act with integrity, all women really want is love, a sense of protection and honesty.

“But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.” Carrie Bradshaw

Sending you all some love & light, Charlie x.

and a little giggle…

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Sunday Self-love; Self Acceptance

I am learning one of the most important lessons of all time…self acceptance.

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”  Lao Tzu

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Accepting who you are. The way you look. The way you speak. The way you are.

Valuable stuff.

I’ve known for a long time that this was something I was trying to learn; to be ok with who I a, to accept myself; I’m not a supermodel, I’m not always right, I’m not a glamour queen, rather; I’m a normal girl (and prefer to be). Somedays good, some days not so much, sometimes perfect health, sometimes not so, and every day still trying to be a better version of myself, therefore still making mistakes.

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“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.”  Marilyn Monroe

It has taken me 30 years (well 29 & 11 months) to get here.

This realisation occurred to me yesterday when I was preparing myself for a seminar (Be the BEST version of yourself at Anytime Fitness in Batman’s Bay), and I decided I wouldn’t do my normal full face of makeup (that I have worn my whole life including upper & lower eyeliner with the flick, I did pack my eyeliner just in case I changed my mind), but as I looked into the mirror it occurred to me that I didn’t have to try be the most beautiful, or the prettiest, that my appearance wouldn’t be judged as much as the value of my words…I would be speaking from my heart and hopefully that light would radiate out. I didn’t need to hide behind a full face of makeup (don’t get me wrong I do love a little enhanced beauty). Society will judge you anyway so do what you want to do. I speak about being REAL, not FAKE in all aspects in life; relationships, actions, health, food choices (it’s a really simple yet effective motto to live by), so really, by hiding my REAL self, I wasnt being my authentic true self therefore not promoting the integrity I speak of.

30 years of wanting to be prettier, thinner, taller…and I’m finally here. Accepting who I am (and everything I’m not).

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You are YOU nique, why do we spend so much time trying to be like everyone else? As I’m finding my style for my brand & business & myself, it’s so fun to play with different looks & styles, the funniest part is making complete mistakes…(oops perhaps ‘that’ style doesn’t work for me). We will only find our true selves by trying. Trying on different clothing styles, trying on different eating & exercise habits, even trying on different relationship styles.

When you are happy on the inside, it changes you, it becomes you. There is a twinkle of confidence that sparkles in your eyes, a degree of authenticity, of being real. People will notice. There really is no beauty greater than inner beauty. Be that person.

It takes courage to be who you really are. Most people are scared or fearful of what society will think and say, how you will be judged. I was. But not anymore. To be comfortable in your own skin…its a pretty special feeling.

As I am building my business & my brand I’m well aware that I’m putting myself out there and open to be critiqued & judged…I have had to accept this & develop a little more strength within myself, develop my self-trust and inner belief systems, because you cannot always please everybody. In all relationships; family, love, friendships, career. Accept this and you will experience freedom to invest in the right relationships with people who love everything you are (& aren’t).

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“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.” Mark Twain

Self acceptance, acknowledging that you are not perfect in a society that perceives perfection to be a degree of success, beauty (it’s all airbrushed anyway) the clothes you wear, your social status; is priceless. You are perfectly imperfect, you are perfect exactly as you are, but you can become more if the gorgeous creation that you are.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Looks do not make the person & what you wear does not determine your worth (note to self).

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”  Gautama Buddha

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