Blessed {thank you}

Its taken me a few days to get time to sit down and write this.

Firstly, a HUGE thank you to everyone who helped me with my crowdfunding campaign… it was a SUCCESS!  & I cannot even begin to describe how grateful I am to you. Words cannot portray the love & gratitude I feel in my heart.

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‘Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.’ Harriet Tubman 

The truth is, it was a big risk {and scary as hell}, to put myself and my brand out there and just say ‘hey, I need your help’.

As mush as we say its ok to ask for help, how often do we? Yet instead most of us chose to act strong & like everything is perfect with our rose tinted glasses on.

I can honestly say, something had to change for me. This made my decision about the launching the campaign. I couldnt keep doing the little things I was doing, working harder not smarter and making slow progress (yes, progress is still progress). But I knew I was close to burn out.

‘Oh, I was never a businessman. I was a visionary, a dreamer.’ Jim Bakker

With my business, its never had a $ of investment, instead it was created from a need to pay my own living costs and grow itself. & truth be told I love this about my story. I dont even have a credit card so I can instead chose to grow organically. Now, this is great & all, but it can also mean that growth may be slower, or in my case I was struggling to keep up with the growth & needs of my clients (more so on a time limit).

‘I think of myself not just as a dreamer, but as a dream chaser’. Sarah Brightman

So because of you, & my leap of faith, today Im sending of the brand new packaging to China for my first sample…

I AM IN LOVE…

 

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What do you think? {The Muscle Ball range is Mint Green & the display box is Kraft cardboard}

You see, what you have done, by showing me love, pre ordering & sharing my campaign, is restore my faith (that was getting a little tired from hrs of exhausting myself & Adrenal Fatigue) that I am exactly where I need to be, doing exactly what I should be doing (my recent Angel reading also said this). Youve shown me that there is a need for a product like mine (1 year of business also shows this), and that together, we, the people can make a change. This is EXCITING.

You know just the other day I read an article that McDonalds is losing money… This is success. WE can create a change by learning to love ourselves and  make healthy changes. By learning to listen to our bodies. Instead of focusing on the things you dont like, focus on the things you do and all the good you are blessed with.

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Because of the campaign success, I also decided its time to STEP up my game, and my own health so I can be the very best I can be. No more excuses. No more mistreatment of my body (too much sugar, not enough self love). Its time to honour the beautiful body I was created with & give it everything it needs to give me what I need. You eat well, you feel well…such a good circle.

For me, & for my business, but for you. Anyone that takes the time to read my blogs and share my journey with me.

Because I have BIG dreams & I believe in them with every essence of my being. YOU have given me a new opportunity to shine (I CANNOT WAIT TO RELEASE THE NEW PRODUCT).

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And Im doing the work. So many people say they want to do their own thing, but their not prepared to do the work. Not prepared to get up an hr earlier, go to bed an hr later, say no to social engagements & commit themselves fully to their dream.

I am. The next 3 months I have given myself to do everything I can to bring a better & improved product & company to you. Regardless of the weekends missed, I know what Im running towards, the dreams that are becoming my reality. Im prepared to go without do my business can go with.

Can you see yours? Do you know where your going? What are you running towards???

Its so easy to get confused & off track, I mean theres so much competition out there & entrepreneurship isnt easy. But if you believe, even 2 steps forward, 1 step back…sideways or upside down…it doesnt matter. Your headed in the right direction. Trust, faith & believe in yourself always.

‘There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.’ Colin Powell

My current frame of mind is taking from one of the greatest businessmen in history; Henry Ford, who knew nothing about the Steel industry but built a team around him of people who were experts with what they knew so he could do what he did best. And its a pretty special place to be, to be able to have a business coach (who makes me do homework & get out of my own mind), a graphic designer to bring a professional product to you, a lawyer to get everything that needs to be done, done, an accountant to look after all my figures, an intern to do the little things and today interviewing staff for the kitchen, so I can do what I love doing & do best… including writing, coaching & being the dreamer I am.

‘Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination, and dedication. Remember all things are possible for those who believe.’ Gail Devers

I am blessed & grateful. Thank you.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Because together, we can make a change in the world.

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Honouring your temple {Self Love Series Pt 2}

HONOURING YOUR TEMPLE – SELF LOVE SERIES PART 2


Series 2 is focused on our relationship with food and how we nourish our bodies. It’s just as much a physiological process as it is a psychological choice. One of the phrases that resonated with me was ‘drink your food, eat your drink’ which of course centers itself on the importance of chewing your meals properly and aiding digestion. When drinking water, slowing down and sipping it is far more hydrating than gulping it down.

When I hear Tabitha’s take on ‘diet labels’, such as vegan, vegetarian, paleo etc. I feel rather relieved. Her take on them is rather pragmatic but absolutely makes sense – the philosophy is eating nourishing meals that our body responds well to. “Diet trends disconnect us from our real requirements”. It’s all about listening to your body and talking to yourself before you open the fridge, double take, yes, talk to yourself before opening the fridge! What do you say before opening the fridge dare you ask? “What does my body need”? Says Tabitha.

I cheekily questioned Tabitha on this, “what if my body wants chocolate”? “Well, I don’t call chocolate bad and frankly, maybe your body needs chocolate” OK, I am totally in – and I knew she will most definitely explain my craving so it makes 100% sense.

“Did you know that your body might be deficient in magnesium or iron if you crave chocolate?” Naturopaths are so insightful! A spoon full of pure cacao or a piece of dark chocolate can deliver not only the goodness of antioxidants but also promote happy vibes… You had me at chocolate but happy is my quest at present. The collaboration of food and self-love is genius.

Appreciating food for its nourishing properties, admiring the texture, colour, smell and of course taste are all-important parts of our relationship with food. It can only be healthy if it’s honoured for taking care of our temples.

Think back to the water theory by Masaru Emoto where he studied the changes in the molecular structure of water when exposed to different elements even words. Positive words and environments kept the beautiful crystalised structure but derogative words and harsh noises polluted the water.

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I just adore the fact we can use positive mantras to help improve how we build a healthy relationship with our decisions… just a few examples to start:

♥ I allow the healing power in my body to manifest perfect health

♥ I, myself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve my own love and affection

♥ I take care of my body, my home, my workplace, and all areas of my life. I alone am responsible for my health.

LOUISE HAY is the author of these mantras and someone I look up to and follow. Author of ‘You can Heal your Life’, she has a wellness mantra for absolutely anything. A simple Google search will find you countless videos and material – you won’t regret it.

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The evening was literally ‘packed to the brim’ with useful information; the audience getting curious with some great questions and the networking session afterwards saw some new introductions enriching the evening even further.

A meticulously organised event with talent of the likes of Annthea Matheson from Young Living who explained the power of essential oils so beautifully; Charlie de Haas who is even more amazing in person than we could’ve ever imagined her to be – you are such a star! Your energy is infectious and your treats to ‘die for’…

To sum up the night – delicious, enlightening, beautiful, heartfelt, fun, WOW – and completely BALANCED with advice. Exactly the way we view our food from now on!

Love and Sunshine,

Andrea and Jarka

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So, so beautiful. I actually just got this today and I am so grateful for the gorgeous words about me.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Craving chocolate…or magnesium…

Busy, my new swear word.

Yesterday I fell into bed at 6pm, and I just couldnt move. I was on edge, uneasy, anxious, I was having difficulty to breathe and completely exhausted.

I was torn between getting up and doing the gym workout I knew I was supposed to do and just sleeping, just hiding away from the world, turning off and letting everything go.

I listend to my body and nearly instantly fell asleep for a good few hours.

This week I was B U S Y. Ridiculously so it felt.

‘Beware the barrenness of a busy life.’ Socrates

 

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Its been an emotionally, physically and mentally exhausting week.

By wednesday I said to a friend ‘I feel like im about to fall apart’ and had every intention of cancelling my birthday, by Thursday, Id had a #ball/sugar attack, and by Friday I was simply trying to breath.

‘The sky isnt aways blue, the sun doesnt always shine, and its okay to fall apart sometimes.’ 

Busy. My new swear word.

This is my week.

*Its basically the last week for personal Christmas pack orders. Packing, posting, personal notes.

*The Clean Treats Factory Investor meeting {obviously the highlight! Also takes huge mental preparation}

Coordinating Christmas promotions and clients Christmas events.

Last week for most client orders for 50% of my clients, already taking pre orders for existing and new clients in the new Year.

Its the last week of all my suppliers for several weeks, meaning I have to be extra organised with boxes, products, marketing materials etc.

I was supposed to be organising a trip to Qld for Christmas; friend catchups, client meetings and new business contacts.

Its my birthday tomorrow; required people organising, dress, tan, makeup, shoes etc.

Christmas is next week.

My flatmate tells me she’s moving out {which then created emotional instability, hurt feelings, mistrust…worst time of the year #ever). Which then requires the stress of finding someone new, investing time and energy both which I dont have into trying to (and especially over the holiday season, whilst Im away)?  Or do I move? Decision making….

Decision made. Moving. Now requires, moving, new lease, packing ETC. (honestly moving is one of the worst things ever). A day after New Years {#nice, insert sarcastic emoji}.

Trying to organise New Years, Tickets. Outfit ETC.

*Trying to do no carbs/eat clean… {failing obviously}

*Gym (at the end of the day just making it there felt like a huge accomplishment).

And Im meant to be organising all my new packaging, designing new marketing ready for the New Year.

Now, this may seem a little or a lot to you, but to me its felt like a whole lot, perhaps its because its the end of a big, B U S Y, unstable, yet productive,…BEST YEAR OF MY LIFE (my 30’s)

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Ive become one of those people when asked how they are… Busy (arghhhh). And in all honesty, I know because I think it when people say it to me…how productive is your busy???

Being busy does not always mean real work. The object of all work is production or accomplishmeny and to either of tehse ends there must be forethought, system, planning, intelligence, and honest purpose, as well as perspiration. Seeming to do is not doing.’ Thomas A. Edison. 

And Im the first to say, in fact I have been saying it to the few close to me…I need to work smarter not harder. Im actually doing ym own head in with some of the silly mistakes I make because of the ‘busy’ pressure I feel under.

As a small startup business (no investment) everything is organic growth, which means I have to get orders before I can order marketing material, promotional items…stock for my product. This is not time efficient, but its just the way it is, for now.

Busy is a swear word.

When I think Im ‘busy’ Im more focused on being busy then actually productive, or how grateful I am my days a re full. I feel anxious, frustrated, nervy, on the verge of just breaking down.

Busy, is a swear word to your body. Being busy creates stress. ‘Theres no question you consume more when youre under pressure. And, thanks to spikes in hormones such as cortisol and insulin, research shows you also crave higher cal foods, says psychiatrist Dr Elissa Epel.  Whats more your emotional state while eating may determine whether – and – where – calories get stored as fat. ‘When your body feels threatened it stashes fuel in your abdomen, where it can be accessed quickly,’ she says. Excerpt 30 ways to a calm you, Shape magazine.

Theres something about the word busy that automatically creates a feeling of anxiety for me, an out of control, testing myself, not sure if Ill get everything done feeling. And as always, Im not saying that everyone feels this, this is just me expressing what happens in my crazy passionate #dreamer mind.

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Busy. A word thrown around as perceived social status. How are you, Im busy. So common; if were busy its acceptable. {And I do it all the time}. If were busy, we must be doing ok right?

How are you?, ‘Productive, calm, in control.’ (I even feel calm writing that answer) Might take people back a bit Id say.

Busy. Creates clutter. Pressure.

Ive got it under control…creates calm.

It always has been and always will be about your thoughts, and you do have the power to change them. Although sometimes, this week for example, it was simply a case of one foot in front of the other….get shit done. And thats ok to. Release the guilt, the fear of failure and just do what needs to be done.

You have to learn to go with the flow…evolve your capacity to take it as it comes and learn to be creative with a little ingenuity to get things done. Because if there is one thing I have learnt in business, is, its unpredictable, from one day/week to the next, (although as my brand is building it seems to be 2 steps forward with only half a step back). So you learn from it. Feel it. Then create new ways to do things better. Smarter, not harder.

‘Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.’ Confucius

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So the night before I turn 31, and yes perhaps theres some of those emotions mixed in with my week as Im still no where closer to my childhood romanticised dream of a hubby, kids, house, dog, white picket fence etc by the time I was 30, and yes I have released this childhood belief, merely stating…Im still single) Im going to spend tonight with myself. Im getting a massage, a Rainbow salad from one my favourite places; O Superfood in Bondi  (also stockist of Clean Treats) and Im going to desire map. how do I want to feel?

I dont really adapt well to change, its something Ive always struggled with, business is fine but personally? Still learning.

So as its been a week with huge changes; my Qld plans are now cancelled (which also creates a sense of letting people down). Im looking forward to a few days between Christmas and New Years to create some systems for not only my business but myself.

‘Things don’t go wrong and break your heart so you can become bitter and give up. They happen to break you down and build you up so you can be all that you were intended to be.’ Charlie Jones

What I have found this week is I am an emotional/stress eater. So, it makes sense to create measures to minimise the stress/uncertainty/pressure I feel. From the little things like specific pre order days, to specific delivery days and set daily/weekly plans for myself. For whilst I might work good under pressure, my body doesnt.

“Life always waits for some crisis to occur before revealing itself at its most brilliant.” ~ Paulo Coelho

So busy, is now a swear word in my vocabulary. I will refrain from using it and instead choose to create systems and ways to be productive, efficient and calm.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Like treat myself to a massage 😉

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Self Love Sunday; The cost of ambition

Do you know what it takes to be successful? Are you prepared to commit to your dream? Are you prepared to work for it? To give up weekends?

‘To succeed in life, you need two things: ignorance and confidence.’ Mark Twain

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Ive been having some in-depth discussions lately about people, our different values, and different dreams.

These are the very things that make us all different and unique, yet also make it harder for us to connect to one another. Sometimes you can meet people and you just click, and sometimes you just don’t (and that s ok to).

Ive been speaking with some of my very close, trusted friends about this feeling of loneliness I have thats lingering (& growing) underneath all my dream chasing.

Just yesterday I said ‘I feel like I’m living in a world of my own’. Now, this is not meaning my world is better or worse than anyones, it was simply a statement revealing the truth, underneath my passion and purpose I am finding it hard to create or even manage my connections with people.

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My dream consumes me. And as much as I am about balance, I would rather spend my time working on it then out socializing. I just don’t seem to have a lot of patience for small talk, the negative things that most people have to say (listen carefully to your next conversation, how much good, inspiration are they speaking?).

I am hoping that this is just a phase of turning my dream into reality, because I am well aware of the connections we need with people. Friends, family, lovers, shared smiles; they are what make it all worth it.

‘Decide what you want, decide what you are willing to exchange for it. Establish your priorities and go to work. ‘ H. L Hunt

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So today, Self Love Sunday, I’m working on my priorities. You know its true, when people say they don’t have time, you can rest assured that the truth they are telling you is that they just don’t have time for you. People make time for what they want.

So, as we go into the silly season, events and invites are everywhere, and as easy as it is to get caught up and play the social butterfly, I need to create some time management systems for both my dream, my health/fitness and my social life. I need to set my priorities straight to ensure I am focused on my goals, whilst making some time for some love in my life.

‘Dont make people a priority if they only make you an option’ Unknown

Im going to make time for the people who make time for me. As unfortunate as it sounds its true. The ones that also make an effort. Friendship/love cant be created by one person (unless youve create a social media ‘stalking’ relationship they dont know about). Im done with chasing people.

‘The key is not to prioritise whats on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.’ Stephen Covey

 

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As my business grows, so to does the pressure (and amazing gratitude for the opportunities I am being given), of creating more success. So, if I have to be choosy with my time, its ok (trying to give myself a little mental break), because what I have to realise, and perhaps you do to, is not everyone gets these types of opportunities. Just recently I presented my BIG dream/proposal, regardless of the outcome I AM SO grateful I got the chance to do that, the biggest sales pitch of my entire life, for something I had created/will create.

‘Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life – think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.’ Swami Vivekananda

{I definitely feel the above #obsessed}

There are things/people in life that will either lift you higher or pull you down. Cultivate Self love to trust your decisions. Time is priceless. Do not spend it doing things that don’t make you happy, with people who don’t spark the passion in your soul.

 

Today, Self Love Sunday Im reflecting & evaluating my priority list to ensure I can use my time more wisely, with people who inspire me, who make my heart smile (also organising my business so I can become more time efficient, Ive kind of been going along with it, surprised at how something so small #charliesballs, could grow so quickly, and I now need to realise that it is real. Even though Im a small business I need to start big business thinking & strategic planning).

As I work weekends, different hrs of the day, I know that this is what it takes. I am cultivating an attitude that every no, is closer to a yes, every mistake is an opportunity. And Im prepared to do the work (just watch me).

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Love & light, Charlie x.

A huge heart felt thank you to the people I can call my true friends who are in my life/holding my hand/putting up with my crazy work/dream/passion… Bali & cocktails soon 😉

 

Self Love Sunday, my non negotiable date.

We are getting busy. This we all know. Its nearly an automatic response when people ask how we are? Answer; busy. Almost as if being busy is a sign of success. But when is your busyness…too much?

‘Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home.’ Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

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Self Love Sunday. I will write about it & speak about it to anyone who will read/listen to me. I cannot begin to stress how important it is to just take a time out, for yourself.

You are the CEO of your life. A self love Sunday date with yourself is like taking a weekly meeting to review, analyse, gain clarity, organise and plan how to proceed with that dream chasing you’re doing.

‘You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.’ Yogi Bhajan

Last week, I missed this (I was at the Fitness Expo all weekend with my #balls), and I could definitely tell I felt ‘off’ on Sunday night, but also through this week.

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‘Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine.’ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Rest is as important as everything else you do. Sometimes we get so caught up in ‘destination success’ {we think we wont feel successful or happy until we attain certain goals}, that we forget to realise that most of the time were crazy busy…we are actually unproductive, and we miss the happiness that can be found in this very moment.

Have you ever found yourself creating a whirlwind of things to do, stress, drama? Yet nothing really seems to be done? This is being unproductive.

‘A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror.’ Ken Keyes.

I know for myself, and I would recommend you try it, my date with myself is time for me to just chill, to check in with my core beliefs, my passion, my purpose. Without this downtime, I would be just racing towards my BIG dreams, feeling pressured and stressed, without realising & appreciating the beautiful journey that I am on, including those highs and lows {& there’s many of those, daily when your trying to create your own business and brand}.

You dont even have to do anything. In fact this is one of my favourite dates… I book in time to DO NOTHING. And honestly it feels as good as those big deals and accomplishments feel.

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When was the last time you just did nothing?

Perhaps enjoyed a herbal tea {or wine} and just sat still? Sat underneath the stars and just star gazed?

This is my challenge to you…make a date with yourself, you; the CEO, the one who is responsible for all the decisions you make in your life, the one who gets to choose what type of life you will live, the one is the most important of all. Do something {or nothing} that you just love to do.

Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
’ Veronica A. Shoffstall

This week I went art shopping, its been forever since I’ve picked up pencils and drawn, but I remember when I was younger this was actually one of my ‘self calm’ techniques (without realising it), drawing was my escape {I can actually draw more than a few squiggles, but painting, well…this is more stressful to me than a corporate meeting with the CEO of a massive food store}.

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Just try it.

You are number 1 in your life. Your mental health is just (if not more) important than your physical health, yet we invest hrs every day working out our bodies. What are you doing to workout your mind?

Let me know how you go.

Love & light, Charlie x.

P.s whatever you do, DO NOT make this meeting and then cancel it. Would you do that in real life to your boss? Husband? It is a non negotiable.

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High Expectations or Close minded.

After a few disaster first dates (in succession), I have had to stop and take a moment to evaluate what was happening.

I made a vision board at the beginning of this year, in love it stated ‘to live with an open heart’.

I believed I was/am finally ready to find love, to feel love (you may recall my history, the cheating, abusive, lying ex, the fake engagement ring, the other girlfriends, and in turn my own insecurities emphasised).

‘The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.’ Thich Nhat Hanh

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However, as the dates fail, Im left to question… is it me? As I have cultivated self love, and am chasing my dreams, I know I am very driven. I believe hard work and persistence will eventuate to success. Is this too much for some males? I have come to the conclusion that it just might be (please note these are only my thoughts, about my experiences), especially if the male doesnt yet have their own dream job, or life in control. Is it threatening for a female to be more successful than the male they date?

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{#funny as my range Clean Treats aka #charliesballs are extremely popular this may be impossible literally}

Or is it just that my expectations of ‘just knowing’ are to high? I must admit I am a hopeless romantic (and I express this through all my social media channels repeatedly), the very thought of ‘just knowing’ makes my heart smile. So after 1 date with no fluttering of butterflies I chose to not pursue it and instead become ‘busy’.

“So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s gonna be really hard. We’re gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day…” – Ryan Gosling, The Notebook

It was brought to my attention that this could be very close minded thinking. A friend (who I would say is a serial dater, 3 or more per week) made a comment that to her it was the second date that was the most interesting, it was when you could talk about things deeper than the ‘who are you’, ‘what do you do’ level and find out if you actually had a connection (I wouldnt know as Im a 1 date wonder).

However, I value my time (if any of you have created a business you will understand the time it takes), in fact the honest truth is I would prefer to be labeling, designing, anything empire building elated then enduring these bad dates. If after 1 date I dont feel the ‘magic’ I dont feel it beneficial to invest more of my time. Believe it or not, but with the ex, I knew…from the moment I met him I would love him (perhaps this alone is a sign saying I shouldnt be looking for the same feeling).

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‘I knew the second I met you that there was something about you I needed. Turns out it wasnt something about you at all. It was just you.’ Beautiful Disaster, Jamie McGuire

Open heart…seems I am only able to give love without letting anyone get to close to me. Sadly, this is true. Ive spent so long re-building my life to where it is today (I experience complete happiness, contentment and bliss everyday) that I am living in fear of someone coming and taking it all away from me.

Seems to me I am still living in fear of heart break. Like what was done before, the tear apart your life heart breaking hurt, the kind that left me lifeless.

‘when you love someone / you are scared of getting hurt / and you will get hurt’ Brandon Scott Gorrell

As I read self help, self love and psychology books they all advise…never to settle. So as we get older, love ourselves more and become scure in our chosen careers, our list for a suitable companion also grows…becoming nearly impossible for anyone to succeed.

High expectations…is it too much to ask for flowers?

‘And in her smile I see something more beautiful than the stars’. Across the Universe, Beth Revis

Let me tell you, that the last 3 first dates I have been on, they each expected (and asked for) an invite upstairs to my apartment. This alone guarantees you no callback. Seriously? First date = action? I must have missed this rule whilst I’ve been to busy chasing my dreams. The worst, is that each of these guys are/were friends with me on facebook and I am quite sure that I make it known Im not that type of girl.

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A males expectations…horizontal cardio. My expectations…soul warming chat, perhaps a flower or 2, NO PRESSURE.

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No wonder were (Im) living in a world of confusion.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Or am I just in love with the idea of true love?

(thanks Disney)

‘He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.’
Bob Marley

#oneday.

Monday Motivation… Marina Passalaris {Beautiful Minds}

You know when you meet people and you just feel ‘WOW’. Marina Passalaris is one of those types of people that make you instantly fall in love with the way her smile lights her face, the depth in her words and the manner in which she acts.

I have been lucky enough to work with Marina & her beautiful program for teenage girls. Its designed to educate teenagers and their parents how to achieve happiness through vital life skills, self-esteem, confidence building and grooming.

Marina is also a radio presenter, author and has been featured in many national & international acclaimed press.

‘I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.’ Audrey Hepburn

 

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Charlie: You are a successful business woman and the creator of Beautiful Minds, what do you attribute this success to?

Success is very simple..it boils down to having a clear vision, being lazer focused, working incredibly hard and knowing that giving up is neither a choice or an option.

Charlie: When did you decide to you wanted to be involved in the wellness industry?

I spent 15 years working as a grooming and deportment educator and make up artist in some of the top modelling agencies in Cape Town, London, Germany and Australia. This industry is known for negatively affecting girl’s confidence. I realised that there was a real need to educate girls more about their emotions and well-being. I wanted to achieve this by doing the Beautiful Minds courses in an environment that was conducive to all girls of any size and from any background, not just model ‘wanna be’s’. I wrote a program that I wish I had done as a young girl. It covers everything about being a teen girl in today’s society. Beautiful Minds has been a vision of mine for many years. I want to show young girls that they are beautiful inside and out.

 

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Charlie: What inspired you to follow your passion?

If you know what your passion in life is, what your purpose is and what you want your legacy to be, you will pursue it with everything you have.

Charlie: How do you feel as an inspirational figure/mentor?

I don’t look at myself as an inspirational figure as that has a tendency to place me on a pedestal. It is more about the sharing of knowledge and passing this onto my Beautiful Minds students in the hope they will go on to create incredible lives for themselves.

‘Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.’ Norman Vincent Peale

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Charlie: Has there been any challenges along your journey?

I would say rising above the ‘rip offs’. What I mean by this is that when you have a successful company, other individuals try and copy exactly what you are doing. I have had this experience and the blatant copying is rather outrageous. I have learnt to take it as a weird compliment that we must be doing something right. I also ensure that the business model changes and constantly improves so we are always top of our game.

‘You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.’ Albert Camus

Charlie: How do you maintain balance between your Career and personal health?

find it a bit of a juggle at times but as I am getting older, I am really starting to invest more in my health. I try and have one full day off a week, I eat really clean food and I try to exercise as often as possible. I have started having regular massages and putting time aside for me to just be still and to unwind.

Charlie: What do you believe are the keys to success in business?

You have to give people an incredible experience. They are buying into a feeling, how you make them feel when they have finished doing business with you. That is imperative. Under promise and over deliver.

Charlie: What is your advice for anyone who has a dream?

We all have dreams but there is a huge difference between having a dream and taking small steps towards making this dream a reality. Be fearless, take action and chase the dream so it becomes a reality. Women are incredible, we are much stronger than we give ourselves credit for! Go after the life you desire. It may not be easy, but it will be worth it. I understand that fear stops people from doing many things but if your desire is stronger than your fear, you will find a way to do it.

Charlie: What can we look forward to next from you?

As the business has been going for 8 years, it has evolved over time. Beautiful Minds is about to totally change the way we educate young girls and we are in the process of setting up a very exciting event for girls aged 11 – 17. This event will be at The Paddington Town Hall on Saturday 6th September and is a full day jam packed with celebrities, guest speakers, dance troupes, music, dj’s and so much more! The aim of the day is to educate, inspire and entertain our youth. We have 550 tickets and these go on sale on April 10th. This event will then be rolled out Australia wide. There are so many incredible things happening in the Beautiful Minds office at the moment and the growth of the company is extremely exciting.

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‘Be happy with what you have and are, be generous with both, and you won’t have to hunt for happiness.’ William E. Gladstone

Charlie: Top 3 healthy tips/advice?

1: Every night, I listen to positive affirmations or subliminal music that will positively feed my mind as I fall asleep. I believe in training the mind every single day. We are all taught to exercise our bodies for at least 30 minutes every day. We need to do the same with our minds. This will significantly slow down the mental chatter as you re-program your mind to think positively.

2: Drink lots of water and get adequate sleep each night

3: Eat healthy, clean food. Your body and mind will thank you for it.

I sincerly thank Marina for her time. If you know of anyone who would like to attend her events, or if you would like to stay up to date with her classes and seminars available (there is a course starting next week):

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{Yes, Im so proud and lucky to be included in the upcoming Beautiful Minds GIRLFRIEND event…Book now, it will sell out!!!}

Instagram: Beautifulminds

Love & light, Charlie x.

Surround yourself with people who make you want to become more.

{Selflove Sunday} Believe in yourself.

Do you know what separates the extraordinary from the ordinary? Belief. In themselves.

‘The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.’ Eleanor Roosevelt

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Trust and knowledge that they can accomplish anything they put their minds to, belief that they have it within in them, what it takes to make a difference, to live their dreams.

The most valuable lesson you can ever learn is the cultivation of self love, for that includes belief in yourself, appreciation for all that you are yet a desire to become more.

Do you have a dream? A passion? A purpose?

How can you expect to attain your goals if you dont believe in yourself? How can you reach your definition of success if in your heart you dont believe you will ever succeed?

You may have heard about my latest, unexpected #ball business (Clean Treats). The demand, popularity and feedback has truly blown me away, I couldnt have wished for anything more from something I just fell into (yes the ball business 🙂 But I cant keep floating along the wave of social media, the hype of a new product…today is about creating a business plan, writing down goals (remember a dream is only a dream until its written down, then it becomes an achievable goal). After only 3 weeks, its time I create a plan.

It is essential to write your dreams down. Create goals, have a clear focus of what it is you want and what you are working for every day, whilst enjoying the precious moments within the journey. This is where most people fail. We keep our dreams in our minds, in the ‘one day’, ‘if I could, I would’ thoughts. Whats holding you back? We all have greatness within us. Trust me.

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What is stopping you? Your own self belief system. From the day we are born, until this very moment we are influenced by our environment. We have an integral self belief system of what level, where, and what we will do. Are you limiting your own potential?

This includes the people we surround ourselves with. It was stated by Jim Rohn (an entrepreneur, author & mentor to Anthony Robbins) that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. Take a moment now, think about those you surround yourself with daily, their words, their actions, are they doers? Positive? Negative? Become mindful about those that influence you. You are most likely unaware of the effect these people have on your life. Be with people who inspire you heart, the ones who are chasing their own dreams, the ones who believe in you. The ones you have ‘those’ lightbulb conversations with.

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As I have found myself, started working for myself, and as I like to say, Im a dreamer, and a doer, my circle has changed. I want to be inspired. I want to feel my heart fill with pride and joy for those I love when they follow their dreams. I dont want to talk about the 9-5 complaints of the corporate world, the everyday problems. I choose to speak about our joys, our successes. Because we all have problems. But what you focus on is what will grow. Choose your thoughts, your conversations, and the investment of your time wisely.

As I’m writing down my BIG goals, I feel it in my heart, running through my veins, that this is right for me.  Mind; business. Body; sharing the healthy word. Soul; creating something for myself, following my passion. and I am grateful. Even when I have to do the things that arent necessarily my favourite, Im grateful for the opportunity to do more, to become more.

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‘To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.’ Anatole France

Sure, they are only healthy #balls, theres plenty out there, but I am in competition with no one. Im doing it as my small part in creating change within the world. Sunday funny, I sing to my balls, (LOL, but true) the soulful, strength building, wise words of India Arie, I infuse every ball with love, and my energy (in macrobiotic & ayerveda traditions they believe in the energy that is infused whilst creating a meal, and suggest never to prepare a meal whilst you are feeling angry or upset. Just think about when your not feeling so great, you always want your mums home cooked meal, because its infused with LOVE). Every Clean Treat is someone making a healthy decision over a not so healthy one. Its one insulin spike against the obesity epidemic. As I write this, my heart is full. I am passionate. I believe.

I am my own best friend. I can say ‘I CAN do it’ against a world that will tell me I cant, or people that may laugh at my BIG goals, BIG dreams. I trust my decisions, my actions and my heart. I will make mistakes, Im perfectly Imperfect. Im just doing what I can with what I have, not tryint to be anyone else but myself on this beautiful journey that is life.

‘All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.’ Walt Disney

You have to believe. You have to wake up every day and be passionate. You have to know that whatever you decide to do, you can do it!

Theres a well known story about the 4 minute mile, the power of belief. Roger Bannister an oxford student, a runner who achieved 4th place in the 1952 Olympics, began to question his skill. Instead of giving up he set himself a new goal: to be the first man to run a mile in under 4 minutes. At this time in history, no one had ever accomplished this, Drs said it was impossible for the body to run that fast.The biomechanics, our nature wouldnt achieve this. Roger Bannister believed he could. He trained and trained. His first attempt was 4:03:06, close but not quite, but close enough that he realised his goal was within reach. He trained harder. 1 year later he ran the mile in 3:59.4. He achieved his goal. Interesting enough, just 6 weeks later another runner broke the 4 minute barrier, and in years that followed many more did the same, repeatedly.

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‘We all have dreams. But in order to make dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort.’ Jesse Owens

What happened? Belief. someone tells you you cant do something, believe you can and go out there and do it. Whether it be a fitness goal, business goal, desire, dream, passion chasing goal. You can do it. But you have to write it on your heart EVERY day that you can, every moment of every day. You have to live your dream, breathe it, sleep it. This is passion.

This is the life that I am living.

‘Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.’ Harriet Tubman

Self love sunday is the best day to invest your time into your goals, your focus. Go out there and make it happen. I believe you can, I know you can, the question is, do you?

Love & light, Charlie x.

In case you are wondering, the goal for Clean Treats is $1 million for its first year. BIG, scary (especially to share that), but possible because I believe.

{Studies show making goals public holds you accountable to achieve them}

 

 

You can…be Happy

Have you ever met those people that are so happy it can sometimes make you feel ill at ease? You wonder where this endless energy comes from, the positive outlook, you contemplate the way that you want to be around them more because it makes you feel better too? {that answer is simple, they radiate love}

‘I have found that if you love life, life will love you back.’ Arthur Rubinstein

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From what I have been told, the messages I am now getting (& I feel it) I am now one of these people. I actually LOVE life. I am now one where every problem is an opportunity, I possess a ‘can do’, ‘will do’ attitude, and sport the ‘I wont quit’ determination.

This is me now, grateful for every day. Every possible opportunity. Every moment. Not a day goes by I dont feel blessed, feel my heart fill with love and gratitude for everything I have created.

This wasnt always so, I used to live in the darkness and saw no reason for life itself. I gave the purpose of my life, my heart and my soul to another person, needless to say when that didnt work out I wasnt left with very much. I didnt want to live. It has taken time, and hard work, but I have found my very own happiness.

Through cultivating a sense of self, appreciating who I am, exactly as I am, not worrying about what happens tomorrow or when I reach the goals I set for myself, but now. Here, in this moment. I have cultivated an attitude of gratitude. For everything and everyone in my life, now, the past and yet to come. I have made peace with my past, the person who I used to be that wasnt necessarily good, and acted in ways that are the opposite. My past does not define me. Through taking the time to find myself, I have found my passion, my pure purpose in life.

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I have become my own best friend. Without speaking from ego, I love the person I am, that includes the extra 5kg, the facial lines of wisdom, signs of my life, the cellulite, the grey hair…these things are all me. I have learnt to understand my emotions, to actively change my thoughts, and to live every day blessed. To trust myself and the decisions I make, and know that its ok to make mistakes.

You can create your very own happiness.

Be Well; the Project is my 21 day program designed to introduce you to the healthy habits I use every day to live my life content, in bliss…happy (and healthy).

This project is about becoming the best version of yourself, after all the best & priceless relationship you will ever have is with yourself. You are your best investment. It is not a diet plan; however there will be personalised nutritional advice. Together we will find healthier, manageable options to enhance the life you are living. Whether you choose the program for weight loss, after an emotional upset, or just to feel better, together we will work towards your goals.

‘Be happy with what you have and are, be generous with both, and you won’t have to hunt for happiness.’ William E. Gladstone

The program is 4 weeks long and is divided as follows:

Intro week: Responsibility and awareness. Begin your journey by completing daily awareness forms, understand how food makes you feel, evaluate your energy levels. *Upon completion of each week you will send your completed forms to me. I will then provide a personal recommendation for the following week. Week 1: Mind. Learn to focus your mind with tips and tools. Plant seeds of positivity and create a healthy mindset to ensure success of the lifestyle change. Learn to change your automatic thought patterns.

Week 2: Body. Personalised nutrition and exercise advise. Nutrition consultation & begin to alkalise. Find what works for you. Learn to appreciate the beauty that your body is. Understand how to listen to its cravings and how to eat for your hormones.

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Week 3: Soul. Learn the art of Self-love and balance. Take time for yourself. Cultivate a sense of self trust, belief. Practice gratitude and acts of kindness.

 

‘Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.’ Mahatma Gandhi

 

 

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The 4 week program is $100.

If you would like to partake in the program, please email me charlie@charliedehaas.com.au

I would love to work with you and be a source of support.

‘Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.’ Dalai Lama

 

Love & light, Charlie x.

There is light & greatness within us all, are you prepared to be more of the gorgeous creation you already are?

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Judgement, the worst trait.

After spending a weekend surrounded by fitness models, glamour girls and basically the image based society, I noticed a few things.

‘I love when things are transparent, free and clear of all inhibition and judgement.’ Pharrell Williams

 

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Firstly let me open my heart and tell you I was nervous. Even with all of my self love work, my transformation to happiness & the best relationship I’ve ever had {with myself}, I was nervous, scared and anxious about being judged. Last year I was just days off a photo shoot, lean, fit but also depleted (read, not very happy), this year, I work for myself, am a health coach and possibly eat too many balls daily {clean treats} giving me an extra 5kg to love.
It took some serious self love work, positive affirmations and healthy habits {1 Litre of fresh happy juice daily} to keep me in the mindset that I’m lucky enough to experience daily in my Life, the attitude of gratitude, living and loving every moment.
As I spoke to different people throughout the 3 days {it was a fitness expo} I realised that everyone had felt the same thing, I was genuinely surprised at how openly (a side effect of being a health coach) people told me of their own insecurities and fear of judgement. Their own anxiety.

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What are we breeding? These women were all beautiful in their own way, unique, nice, kind, yet they all expressed a sense of insecurity and lack of Self Worth, a sense of inferiority.
Who was the prettiest, who had the best body, the best hair, the whitest teeth. These things DO NOT matter!
As I have been working as a health coach I have cultivated a sense of looking at who the person really is, I have to learnt to listen to the manner in the way that people speak, the way that they act, underneath the tan, the eyelashes, the beauty enhancements. It was through this practice I was able to see the real beauty that surrounded me a{I only wish these girls could see it themselves}

‘When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.’ Wayne Dyer

 

All to often we are afraid of being judged. Afraid of being called fat, labelled a ‘model’, dumb etc. Why?
Because we ourselves are so quick to judge others. We do it as a protective mechanism. Fearful of the words or thoughts others will think about us we judge them generally negatively therefore giving them less power.
After all we all want to impress the people we think highly of.

 

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I myself had to step back after meeting some people I had in particular  pre conceived judgement from past times about. Wow, when I was open to who these people were, that their lives were different from mine, that they to were trying to live life the best way they knew how to, I could appreciate them for their
core values. And I am so thankful I did. Creating new connections, new opportunities and sharing smiles, hugs and love.

‘We should not judge people by their peak of excellence; but by the distance they have traveled from the point where they started.’ Henry Ward Beecher

Some people are still living their lives in judgement, let them . It doesn’t matter to you.
I got a look of utter contempt from a person that I see only anger and hatred in, a lack of her own self worth, it made me upset. Until I realised that this person was coming from a place of judgement, perhaps envy, perhaps pure dislike. I can only wish her happiness and light.

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We all want to be genuinely loved and thought well of. I let it go.

What she thinks of me is not relevant to my life. Does it matter to you if someone doesnt like you? It only matters if you let it, and believe me the more time you spend worrying about the ones that are judging you, the less time you have to live openly and be free to make new friendships and connections.

‘It’s a complete lie, why do people buy these papers? It’s not the truth I’m here to say. You know, don’t judge a person, do not pass judgement, unless you have talked to them one on one. I don’t care what the story is, do not judge them because it is a lie.’ Michael Jackson

 
Everyone is living their own life the best way they know how. You do not know their story, their trials their tribulations.
Just let them be.
Remember that.

Take people for who they are today.

Love & light, Charlie x.
The whispers, the gossip, the negativity has got to stop. It’s time we started looking for the good in other people, look into their eyes and look into their soul. See beauty. Its time to make a change.

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