Self Love Sunday; Be grateful

 


I know I write about gratitude often…but how often are you (or I ) really practising an attitude of gratitude?

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“Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity…it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Melody Beattie

Ive been given so much kind words lately, that I feel undeserving but grateful for. I mean Im just here, just me, doing what I think is my best {most of the time, sometimes I know Im not}.

On Friday night I was invited to attend one of my clients ‘all star’ Christmas Yoga class as a guest.

You might think this is something small, but to me it is these small things that matter. I felt privileged and thankful (and I have been a little naughty with missing my own yoga practice).

I had intended to gift this beautiful client of mine one of my new cakes as a simple thank you for their support and belief in Clean Treats.

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{Raw blueberry Cheesecake available here}

Whilst in class (it was the most fun ever), as I felt my body and all my worries release onto my matt, I thought to myself ‘wow’, I am in someone elses dream. A dream they believed in with so much of their own passion that they made it come true. And tonight it was a full class of 60 people, their community, celebrating christmas and them, the home that they had created for people to connect, to feel welcome, to just be. Simply amazing.

I felt so much gratitude right there, in that moment. I was asked to be part of this. Their something special.

And to see someone elses dream become their own reality…makes my heart smile.

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“The way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement.” Charles Schwab

There is enough love, support, growth and business for us all, as long as you stay true to you. To your passion.

The key to happiness: An attitude of gratitude

A big statement, but this is what I believe. No matter how bad your day is (and believe me Ive been having some tough times with couriers, delivery and managing orders lately, in fact I’m about to go and pack some Christmas packs), or what it is that you are going through…there is always something to be grateful for. ALWAYS.

“Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.” Charles Dickens

Change your attitude and your thought to gratitude and you’ll soon feel any feelings on anger, negativity or unease pass.

Instead you’ll feel the opposite, #happy. Because you cannot be angry whilst feeling grateful for something. You cannot be sad whilst being grateful for something, you cannot be anxious while expressing gratitude (yes, it is sunday night and I have to ‘work’, but my attitude of gratitude changes a ‘ugh I have to work thought’… to ‘wow…someone somewhere is giving my product, something I have created to someone they love’…honestly, that’s kinda cool and I dont mind if I sound like a geek saying that).

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{Christmas packs now available in 4 or 8, order here}

In every darkness there is always light.

“At times, our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” Albert Schweitzer

Self love Sunday; be grateful for everything you have in your life, even the things you think you dont want because you have created them for a reason…to learn from, or a reason, or a need….you have created it. Everything. Every situation is only an opportunity.

“I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought; and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.” G.K. Chesterton

You are the only one who is in control of your life, your thoughts, your actions, so make sure they are reflective of who you want to be.

Love & light, Charlie x.

Dont forget, you are the CEO of your life…I hope your booking in your self-love date every week. It is imperative.

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Self Love Sunday; The cost of ambition

Do you know what it takes to be successful? Are you prepared to commit to your dream? Are you prepared to work for it? To give up weekends?

‘To succeed in life, you need two things: ignorance and confidence.’ Mark Twain

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Ive been having some in-depth discussions lately about people, our different values, and different dreams.

These are the very things that make us all different and unique, yet also make it harder for us to connect to one another. Sometimes you can meet people and you just click, and sometimes you just don’t (and that s ok to).

Ive been speaking with some of my very close, trusted friends about this feeling of loneliness I have thats lingering (& growing) underneath all my dream chasing.

Just yesterday I said ‘I feel like I’m living in a world of my own’. Now, this is not meaning my world is better or worse than anyones, it was simply a statement revealing the truth, underneath my passion and purpose I am finding it hard to create or even manage my connections with people.

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My dream consumes me. And as much as I am about balance, I would rather spend my time working on it then out socializing. I just don’t seem to have a lot of patience for small talk, the negative things that most people have to say (listen carefully to your next conversation, how much good, inspiration are they speaking?).

I am hoping that this is just a phase of turning my dream into reality, because I am well aware of the connections we need with people. Friends, family, lovers, shared smiles; they are what make it all worth it.

‘Decide what you want, decide what you are willing to exchange for it. Establish your priorities and go to work. ‘ H. L Hunt

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So today, Self Love Sunday, I’m working on my priorities. You know its true, when people say they don’t have time, you can rest assured that the truth they are telling you is that they just don’t have time for you. People make time for what they want.

So, as we go into the silly season, events and invites are everywhere, and as easy as it is to get caught up and play the social butterfly, I need to create some time management systems for both my dream, my health/fitness and my social life. I need to set my priorities straight to ensure I am focused on my goals, whilst making some time for some love in my life.

‘Dont make people a priority if they only make you an option’ Unknown

Im going to make time for the people who make time for me. As unfortunate as it sounds its true. The ones that also make an effort. Friendship/love cant be created by one person (unless youve create a social media ‘stalking’ relationship they dont know about). Im done with chasing people.

‘The key is not to prioritise whats on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.’ Stephen Covey

 

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As my business grows, so to does the pressure (and amazing gratitude for the opportunities I am being given), of creating more success. So, if I have to be choosy with my time, its ok (trying to give myself a little mental break), because what I have to realise, and perhaps you do to, is not everyone gets these types of opportunities. Just recently I presented my BIG dream/proposal, regardless of the outcome I AM SO grateful I got the chance to do that, the biggest sales pitch of my entire life, for something I had created/will create.

‘Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life – think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.’ Swami Vivekananda

{I definitely feel the above #obsessed}

There are things/people in life that will either lift you higher or pull you down. Cultivate Self love to trust your decisions. Time is priceless. Do not spend it doing things that don’t make you happy, with people who don’t spark the passion in your soul.

 

Today, Self Love Sunday Im reflecting & evaluating my priority list to ensure I can use my time more wisely, with people who inspire me, who make my heart smile (also organising my business so I can become more time efficient, Ive kind of been going along with it, surprised at how something so small #charliesballs, could grow so quickly, and I now need to realise that it is real. Even though Im a small business I need to start big business thinking & strategic planning).

As I work weekends, different hrs of the day, I know that this is what it takes. I am cultivating an attitude that every no, is closer to a yes, every mistake is an opportunity. And Im prepared to do the work (just watch me).

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Love & light, Charlie x.

A huge heart felt thank you to the people I can call my true friends who are in my life/holding my hand/putting up with my crazy work/dream/passion… Bali & cocktails soon 😉

 

Self Love Sunday, my non negotiable date.

We are getting busy. This we all know. Its nearly an automatic response when people ask how we are? Answer; busy. Almost as if being busy is a sign of success. But when is your busyness…too much?

‘Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home.’ Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

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Self Love Sunday. I will write about it & speak about it to anyone who will read/listen to me. I cannot begin to stress how important it is to just take a time out, for yourself.

You are the CEO of your life. A self love Sunday date with yourself is like taking a weekly meeting to review, analyse, gain clarity, organise and plan how to proceed with that dream chasing you’re doing.

‘You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.’ Yogi Bhajan

Last week, I missed this (I was at the Fitness Expo all weekend with my #balls), and I could definitely tell I felt ‘off’ on Sunday night, but also through this week.

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‘Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine.’ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Rest is as important as everything else you do. Sometimes we get so caught up in ‘destination success’ {we think we wont feel successful or happy until we attain certain goals}, that we forget to realise that most of the time were crazy busy…we are actually unproductive, and we miss the happiness that can be found in this very moment.

Have you ever found yourself creating a whirlwind of things to do, stress, drama? Yet nothing really seems to be done? This is being unproductive.

‘A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror.’ Ken Keyes.

I know for myself, and I would recommend you try it, my date with myself is time for me to just chill, to check in with my core beliefs, my passion, my purpose. Without this downtime, I would be just racing towards my BIG dreams, feeling pressured and stressed, without realising & appreciating the beautiful journey that I am on, including those highs and lows {& there’s many of those, daily when your trying to create your own business and brand}.

You dont even have to do anything. In fact this is one of my favourite dates… I book in time to DO NOTHING. And honestly it feels as good as those big deals and accomplishments feel.

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When was the last time you just did nothing?

Perhaps enjoyed a herbal tea {or wine} and just sat still? Sat underneath the stars and just star gazed?

This is my challenge to you…make a date with yourself, you; the CEO, the one who is responsible for all the decisions you make in your life, the one who gets to choose what type of life you will live, the one is the most important of all. Do something {or nothing} that you just love to do.

Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
’ Veronica A. Shoffstall

This week I went art shopping, its been forever since I’ve picked up pencils and drawn, but I remember when I was younger this was actually one of my ‘self calm’ techniques (without realising it), drawing was my escape {I can actually draw more than a few squiggles, but painting, well…this is more stressful to me than a corporate meeting with the CEO of a massive food store}.

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Just try it.

You are number 1 in your life. Your mental health is just (if not more) important than your physical health, yet we invest hrs every day working out our bodies. What are you doing to workout your mind?

Let me know how you go.

Love & light, Charlie x.

P.s whatever you do, DO NOT make this meeting and then cancel it. Would you do that in real life to your boss? Husband? It is a non negotiable.

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Self love Sunday…getting control.

The day of the week to be still and reflect on your life, to plan and make changes (I love Self love Sunday).

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‘To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to ones family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control ones own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him.’ Buddha

 

As Im reflecting, Ive noticed that I’ve created a dependence on food to feel a sense of control, eating until a sense of satiety takes over (ridiculous amounts). Not only this but I’ve falling into the ‘I don’t care’ category, filling myself with anything toxic. As I think about it, it scares me, I have never lost my own motivation in this way. Sugar, chocolate, chips and Ice cream. Now I’ve always been prone to a ‘cheat’ meal or two a habit  I have desperately been trying to break the circle of dieting. I believe in balance, but it’s always been the one or two, this time it’s been over 2 weeks where I haven’t gone longer than a few days without reaching for a sugary treat.

‘This is the very perfection of a man, to find out his own imperfections.’ Saint Augustine

 

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Where has this come from? After researching and discovering the many causes of out of control eating/over eating and binge eating I realised I had created this as my ‘go to’. As my world is changing (I currently have the luxury of not having to set an alarm any day or be anywhere at anytime except for yoga class and a few seminars weekly). I had created a dependence on food in lieu of a sense of routine (and I am an OCD/addictive personality). In times of being unsure we become dependant on other areas in our life that we can control; partners, substances, exercise (this was my normal addiction), good and bad habits.

So how do we break these bad habits and dependencies that come on so quickly they occur without us even realising?

Make a plan. Today is a new day, I’m using my self-love Sunday to write a commitment letter to myself. Just as a reminder; healthy is happy. And a reminder that I care for my wellbeing.

I know I feel better in my body and mind when I make healthier choices (junk foods create junk moods, I have found this to be true). I am the only one in control of my life and I can choose how to live it.

‘A man sooner or later discovers that he is the master-gardener of his soul, the director of his life.’ James Allen

I also have to remind myself, it’s ok to make mistakes. For you see my whole life I have been involved in health and fitness, I live and breathe it, especially now as it’s my chosen career; the career I love. I will remind myself that it’s ok to slip up. Guilt is a bad thought that leads to bad emotions. Which only then lead to more of your bad habit (such a terrible cycle).

Let go of the guilt. The pressure to be perfect (all the time). Life is made to be lived; we live and we learn.

 

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‘The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.’ Albert Ellis

As I reflect, making my plan, I’m thinking about the triggers; a bad day, lack of motivation, and for me personally; the hope of something blossoming into a relationship that didn’t (rejection, something I deal with poorly). I have determined this has been, amongst others, the trigger to my low self-esteem, ‘I’m not good enough’ thoughts. Why, when this time of my life, (everything is amazing) this particular person doesn’t want to be involved? . These thoughts can lead to hurt, sadness and a negative downward spiral. But it’s ok to feel them sometimes, just know when it’s time to stop (today).

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Today, is my time, I’m choosing to not give my power, my self-love away to someone, away to the addictive chemicals in ‘bad’ food. Instead I’m going to write My Commitment letter and reflect on everything that is amazing in my life, because I am truly blessed. I’m starting a 28 day ‘clean’ program. Not a Diet. In 28 days it will be my 30th birthday and I’m hoping the release of my book; Live a life you love (fingers crossed). What better motivation, to be the very best version of myself.

What are you committed to? Where is your focus? What can you do today to make a change in your life?

‘As your faith is strengthened you will find that there is no longer the need to have a sense of control, that things will flow as they will, and that you will flow with them, to your great delight and benefit.’ Emmanuel Teney

I am the only one who can create my dream reality, and I have the faith, knowledge and belief that I will. Mistakes do not define me, they empower me.

Love and light, Charlie x.

I’m off to spend the day doing the absolute final (scary and exciting) read though of my Manuscript.

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